October 2013- Constantly hungry and counting down to maternity leave.

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Right off to finish the last thread

Gosh MoN that's very brave if you have never met her!

My MIL is just trying to be nice but she's really lacking in a sense of what's appropriate and what just rude and/or intrusive. The first time I met her she asked me how much I had in savings

She also wants to treat my DH like a little prince all the time (he's an only) and has made comments about not having the baby in our room when it's born because DH won't be able to sleep and that, if he's finding the birth a bit tough, I should let him go and sit outside. You can imagine how that went down

Good news MoN! You must be so relieved. I know it's all far from ideal but such good news considering the alternatives! don't want to sound boring or repeat what others gave said but I also know someone whose baby had a hole in the heart and needed an opp shortly after the birth and the little girl is now perfectly OK and full of energy. Sounds like it happens quite a lot and they know how to deal with it. Hope you can relax a bit today. xxx

Glad your feeling as positive as u can MoN xxxx

All these MIL tales make me chuckle I hate my real MIL dh has minimal contact with her he was brought up by his dads parents (so his nan and grandad) they can be a little full on sometimes but generally they help us out as much as they can they are often treating us to things and buying buggy for baby .... Not sure i could live with them though so I consider them as my in laws really x

I'm happy to hear positive stories Clapham. This thread has been a great source of support for me and made me feel like I wasn't so alone when I was in that waiting room waiting to see the cardiologist.

Oh my goodness what a day my DS (2yrs old) has just ran himself a bath and got in fully clothed and nappy still on. Only found out when DD came to ask if she could get in bath too.

Lesson here is quiet does not necessarily mean good things are happening!

Haha, no jelly, quite is not good!! I was at my friends the other day and we realised her.little girl was being very quiet and found her in the bathroom brushing her teeth with water from the toilet!! lovely!!
my mil is being very cool about my pg. my sil's mil is very full on so I think she's trying to avoid being like her but actually I feel like she doesn't really care, Haha, you can never have it just right!!

Well, we've been to see the houses and I don't think they'll be moving into one of them. I really don't think they've thought seriously enough about the social implications of moving 90 miles from your hobbies and friends. But anyway, a bit of breathing room at least!

I had to interrupt at one point - one of the houses is being sold because the wife is ill and the house is too big/difficult for them. MIL started asking what was sort of illness she had

She's for no sense of what's a rude and intrusive question!

Ah MIL's..... mine is quite a piece of work!

my dh is her eldest (of 7) and was almost like a second husband for her, running errands, dropping younger ones off, doing shopping etc

until i came along...... (I was his first gf)

We had been married for 10 days or so and she phoned and said "my washing machine's broken" (no Hi, how are you or anything)

I said "oh no, would you like me to do some washing for you?"
she said " No, I want Andrew to buy me a new washing machine"
I said "we can't afford it" ( a bit gobsmacked)
she said "well he would of done until he married you", and hung up!

fast forward a few years, and they were setting up a business with 2 of his brothers. Wanted him to buy into the partnership. By this point we had 3 dc, and we could see that what they were proposing wasn't going to make enough money to keep 3 families and the parents, so said thanks but no thanks......

Which of course was all my doing (not true)

Ds2 was 11 weeks...... we didn't speak again for about 5 years, until we happened to bump smack bang into her when ds3 was 6 months.

And in that time, she never once sent one of the children a birthday card or had any contact whatsoever..... all while living less than an hour away!

Reluctantly I instigated contact, as ds1 who was 10 by now had a lot of questions, and I never wanted him to blame me for the situation. I figured he was old enough to make his own mind up about the situation.

Now we have very sporadic contact, i.e we talk at family weddings,parties and funerals..... and FIL (who isn't quite as bad) only ever rings up if he wants something

it is sad as they are not old, and are young enough to enjoy the children, but then they have about 17 grandchildren anyway including mine, so no great loss I suppose

she has never helped with childcare or even had one of the dc for an afternoon or anything......... but tbh I have never asked her, though I think she would say no!

We have been married for 15 years and together for 18 now, so don't think things will change!

When it comes to my parents, they are still together, but neither of them want to be!

I love my dad and see him loads, and he is always round to help if I need it. I have always had a much more difficult relationship with my mum. She is less than pleased that I am having another dc. In fact she has not mentioned the fact to me once in conversation. And if I bring it up she changes the subject! And last time dd1 saw her she gave her a lecture about not ending up like me!!!!

sorry for the mammoth post

Oh dear cazboldy your mil certainly sounds hardwork. Mine is actually lovely and well meaning but sometimes really really gets on my nerves! They moved here not long after we did to be closer to dh and his sister so we see them quite a lot now which is fine and she's great with ds but sometimes is just like a weekend on our own.
My parents on the other hand are 1.5 he's away and although they love ds dearly they really don't make a huge effort to come and see us. Christmas this year is supposed to be us going to them but I'm going to say they can come to us as this baby will still be quite small and I can't face it as Christmas at my parents can be quite full on! We have plenty of space here so they can stay if they want to, don't want to upset mum but just think we'll have a better time if we're at home.
DH is really annoying me tonight. He wants to make one of the cellar rooms into a boys room. One of the rooms is already a gym and one is for junk and the other he wants converted and made habitable. He doesn't seem to understand that although I think that would be nice and the dc's could use it as a playroom we don't have the money!!! So many other things on the list of jobs to do before we go spending thousands on cellar conversions. Honestly not sure what planet he lives on sometimes.

I was making cookies earlier and realised dd was being very quiet. I went in to the lounge and she had covered herself in green sharpie pen as well as drawing on the sofa!
It's faded a little in the bath but the Sofia's not looking food. Anyone have any magic tips? I've tried vodka and alcohol hand wash so far.

You're not meant to drink the vodka char1eston.
"The Sofia's not looking food".

Char1eston is it a fabric sofa or a leather sofa? If its leather, I've heard that hairspray can work. Try doing a search on here.

Cazboldy

Duly noted for when this baby is older - quiet is not good!

char1eston I have heard that hairspray works on fabric and leather couches... Spray hairspray onto the stain or onto a cloth (I would probably try the cloth first) and then blot the stain. Good luck!

I am starting to feel very fortunate with my MiL. She can be a little full on, but I know it's only through love! I can definitely see a big difference between my IL's (who already have a grandchild) and my parents who are going to be grandparents for the first time. I am sure they will both love our child just as much, but my parents seem more visibly/audibly excited about it all!

Ooh! Just seen that John Lewis have got the Maxi-Cosi Pebble in the Confetti colourway for £108.76 - that's a bit of a bargain.

Mind you, you lot all seem to be much more organised than us and have all this sorted already.

No time to catch up but someone please tell me they have a cure for a cough? My chest so is crackly its driving me mad and I'm finding myself non stop coughing trying to clear it...?

Oops MoN - busted! I have just had a bit of a catch up (been absent for a week or so) and just seen what you've been though. Hope you're bearing up and that things are on the up for you. You've certainly had your fair share of ups and downs this pg.

Sofa is a fabric one. Will try hairspray tomorrow as I'm in bed now. Tbh - I think it's a bit of a lost cause but we'll see. Can't be angry about it as it's my fault for leaving the pen lying around. I wonder how long it will take to come out of dd too! I told her it's going to be there forever (naughty mummy!)

This pregnancy is certainly enough to put me off ever doing it again. I'm surprised at how well Dp is coping as he's more of a worrier than me and really lets things get on top of him.

I decided when we moved into this house 2 years ago that I would never have fabric sofas or carpets again. Wipe clean all the way in this house.

Cazboldy - no words, just

I think my mum will be more attentive to the baby when the baby's out. She isn't doing anything wrong as such, it's just me being over-sensitive and hormonal and mopey and whiney!

comtesse, we haven't bought anything big yet, we're waiting until the last couple of months to get the most out of any warranties. Risky strategy perhaps!

char1 some professional carpet/upholster type cleaning person might be able to sort the sofa or try hiring a rug doctor? Especially if in a really noticeable place

Also how are all the anterior placenta ladies getting on with feeling movements now? Is every feeling something xxx?

char1 PLEASE don't use hairspray if its a fabric one!!! My fault in my post, but it only works on leather sofas!!!!!

Hi everyone. Glad to hear its not 22Q Mon. And although it must be incredibly difficult what you're going through (I can't begin to imagine myself) at least you are able to prepare as best you can for her arrival. She sounds like a little fighter though
In other news, had first person touch my bump yesterday (other than DH). Didn't like it one bit!
I've got an anterior placenta natalie. Feeling kicks every day and gradually increasing in intensity. Was at a show yesterday afternoon with loud music and baby either hated it or loved it. Lots of movement!

I'm getting strong movements with my anterior placenta now. This baby is definitely more active than DS was!

comtesse I heard hairspray would work on fabric... Never tried it myself though so please don't listen to me char1! Anything you try I would recommend doing on a hidden part of the sofa first anyway to check how the fabric reacts.

I was looking forward to a nice lie in this morning, but I was woken up at 8 by some crazy strong kicks from baby!! think he was practising his Sunday league football skills!!

roofio in a few months you will look back at that comment and realise 8 is a long lie! Sorry

Our long lie was 5.45 yesterday and 6.50 today.