September mums-to-be - the bumps get bigger and we all get more excited!

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Here we are ladies. A shiny new thread for us all. Let the chatting continue!

frog This woman is a menace! An absolute menace! Words need to be had surely. I have one at my work who announced in front of an entire class of 14 year olds that I was "fair waddling" and clearly "hadn't been doing the exercises". What I did was bitched about her to about 10 people in the knowledge it would get back to her. She stopped speaking to me. I was happy with that result and I don't really care how she felt about it. Is this a possible course of action? Alternatively could someone else (non-managerial) convey to her that her lack of sensitivity is utterly dickish and inappropriate?

Happy birthday runningbear! Hope you have a lovely evening and weekend. All chocolate, cake and other calories are negative amounts for the entire weekend. It's a well known fact!

I, the house-bound-cripple, am getting taken out for my tea. Himself has just come home from work and announced that we are going out. Sometimes I love that man so, so much!

Happy birthdays ladies! I'm v relieved to be home, am covered in bruises from all the procedures and on blood thinners until 2 m

2 Months post delivery.. Plus the super sexy support stockings but hey, at least that should sort it! And little bubba is still merrily kicking away, oblivious to it all! Happy weekends everyone

Kips! Glad you're ok (or as ok as you can be), and Kami too.

Was just thinking about FB group and it got me wondering if any of you ladies really uses the mumsnet local pages? I guess they are a fairly new thing but can never seem to find much activity on my local one...

Also, can anyone recommend which brand of reusable nappies to start with for a first timer? And what the heck i need to buy? i emailed the nappy lady who sent me a whole recommendation based on my requirements but tbh i didn't really understand a word of it (yes i must be dense) - what d i actually need for crying out loud? Everyone seems to say try a load out but frankly I want to just buy a set of stuff and be done with it or I fear I may lose heart in the whole thing. I just seem to read so much conflicting advice - even the reviews on mn! As I only really post on here I am a little scared to start a new Fred re nappies without sussing you lot out first, so help please! Btw there is a nappy lady near me but she is about to pop with her 2nd or 3rd so is not holding any meet-ups at the mo hence asking for virtual help! Thanks

Cheese straw - we did cloth exclusively with DD from 2 weeks til about 18m and have a few different types and all the kit. I mainly used the totsbots stretches with covers and disposable liners and bought tonnes but not sure they're going to do another baby.

Essentials are: nappy bucket (and net bags to go in), small wet bag for when out, wipes or some kind (I cut those big cheap microfibre dusters in half and hemmed the cut edge...), liners (preferably disposable) nappies.

Like you I like them all to be the same, but recommend just buying a few of something and seeing how you get on. If it were me I'd get 6 small stretches and 2 mother ease wraps and give it a go. The bigger stretches are 'birth to potty' but really big and bulky on a newborn.

As its middle of night and I ought to be asleep I haven't checked spreadsheet but I'm pretty sure you're nearby, so if you want to take a look at some let me know.

In other rudeness news, I got told the other day that I've "really ballooned" by a work colleague. Bloody charming!

I've been to a local meeting about a naming application today and the old lady sat by me asked when I was due, then if I was sure it was only one! I did dress to show off the bump today though as knew seating would be limited!

Planning application...

'I guess you've not seen many 7 month old bumps in your time' comes to mind as a good answer to these people. The rudeness and tactlessness absolutely shocks me! You don't see many people cruising around going 'oh gosh you're overweight' or 'oh goodness how bad is your halitosis' or 'should you be eating that as I can clearly see your poor heart is struggling', but somehow when it comes to our unborn children everybody feels its ok to weigh in!!! I'm having a grumpy day and I feel very cross on all your behalf.

Random question...Im planning on buying an Uppababy Vista and debating on colours. Looking at black or navy, but we don't know what we're having (and want to use for future babies) and wondering if navy is boyish??

I'd say only pink is girly, everything else is unisex!

And the interfering doesn't stop when the baby's born... I remember being told off by a lady at the bus stop while carrying DD in a sling, as she didn't have a hat on! She was toasty and warm cuddled up to me, much better than a hat!

Have had a day collecting lots of baby things from my sister including a misses basket and stand, cot, travel system, wardrobe, changing unit, lots of baby clothes and tons of other stuff - where we are going to put everuthing I don't know bust its brilliant we have it as I don't think we'll have much more to get!

Fozzie I've got the Vista & it's worth noting that some of the colours come with a black chassis & some silver...that may help make up ur mind. I really wanted a black chassis do ended up going with orange instead of red (which only comes with silver)

Fozzie I bought a blue travel system...back when I was team yellow, fully prepared to use it for a girl.....as it happens we are team blue now though

I like the navy vista best, and don't think it looks too boyish. I think navy is an easier colour to accessorise to too. Black with, say a purple blanket could look quite harsh, but navy and purple looks softer. God, I can't believe I actually wrote a sentence about colour matching blankets to prams!
I have bought the vista in wheat. Didn't see the navy when I was looking. Where are you getting it from?

Thanks All! And Mustard I though exactly the same thing been looking at blankets to accessorise it with if we have a girl and concluded that a bright pink blanket would look lovely...what's happening to me

We're planning on getting it from John Lewis

Might be worth shopping around....we got ours for £570 at a baby show (baby planet). The week after John Lewis dropped their price to £599 so I assume they were price matching someone. Maybe ring a few local stockists to see if you can get a better deal....

Question for you- almost an AIBU because I really don't know if I should be pissed off or not.

My DP's friend had a big party in the middle of nowhere this weekend, which I'm currently at. For some reason it seemed a good idea when I agreed. As expected, everyone got completely and totally trashed. Falling over drunk. Then spent about 8 hours screeching along at a karaoke box. I smiled and nodded along etc, but I barely know these people and have very little in common with them. They also are nowhere near the 'having a baby' stage of life so they've been treating me more like I'm disabled than pregnanct- I appreciated the sentiment of putting me downstairs and near a loo, but they don't really get it. I don't expect them to.

Anyway, DP disappeared off with the party girl (she's gay, so no big twist coming!) and left me on my own for at least half an hour. I waited until just after 12 then decided to go to bed. He could barely stand up by this point of the night.

I went to bed, but as mentioned it's downstairs. And the karaoke is upstairs. So until nearly 3am I had to listen to them all shout, not sing, and bang their feet on the floor etc.

I'm not annoyed with them- they weren't being purposefully selfish, just they wouldn't have considered me and, even if they had, it would have totally changed their evening to have to all go off to bed quietly just because I wanted to.

My issue is with DP. He has carried on drinking through my pregnancy, which generally I'm ok with, but I really wish he'd laid off a bit seeing as I am here purely as his tagger on. So I don't know if I'm being unreasonable to expect him to look after my needs a bit more, especially as now he's still unconscious whilst they're all up and about, so again I'm left to either mix and make small talk with relative strangers, or hide in the bedroom and go on mumsnet...

God, that's an essay. Sorry.

don't know what to recommend juniper - are you doing any antenatal classes that might cover "how both of you might expect your priorities to change now..." or look for local "dads groups" to make him start thinking about it?

I have hurt myself this morning - shifting boxes into the dumping ground spare room before the PILs arrive for the day, I tripped over one box while carrying another, landed right on my knees, sslightly more the left than the right and it juddered up into my hip. I did some "ow ow ow!" shouting at myself for being so stupid, and then found myself suddenly being cuddled and patted by DS, which made me cry, it was so lovely. DH was second on the scene a moment later, but the boy was my best little paramedic. Knee still hurts and will probably seize up later, but baby is kicking away happily, I've no worries there.

Juniper- as someone who doesn't drink anyway I can certainly relate to your boredom and frustration at the party. I have found that I have had to accept being in that sort of situation from time to time in support of DP. We always talk about it in advance though and I let him know its likely I will be going to bed way before everyone and it would be great if he were able to make sure things didn't get ridiculously loud after midnight. Of course, this isn't always possible and its not pleasant when you're in it - however the 4am karaoke will stop, eventually.

I do find it harder the next day when I feel normal and everyone else is feeling sorry for themselves. I've very little sympathy for that - after all most of them (unless they are real alcoholics) have a choice in how much they drink.

Have you talked to your DP about how you feel when he drinks? I've found it best to focus on how im feeling rather than seem to accuse him of being inconsiderate etc. That may or may not be the case, but I find it more helpful to focus on my part of the deal.

Much sympathy and hope you get home safely.

Juniper I think there are some situations that are best avoided, I would have just told DH to go on his own...that way he can relax & enjoy and u don't have to suffer being the boring lonely one in the corner.

Next time tell him to go solo!

Juniper-that's a really tough one. I do think that generally it takes men a while for the 'Im going to be a parent' thing to kick in. It's completely understandable though as we feel every step of the pregnancy so it's far more real to us. Could it be that he's just trying to enjoy the last few crazy nights out until baby sick and sleepless nights take over?

Possible suggestion is to leave the really mad ones to him for a bit or maybe agree before you go as to a bed time or leaving time, so you don't end up in the same situation.

Juniper I know that talking about 'what to do next time' might not be much use now, because I'm guessing you already know! But right now I guess I'd be annoyed too. In fact, I know I would be. A gentle conversation when you get home about how you felt at the time might be a good idea, and just let him know that you probably won't be going with him on big nights out again.

Thanks for the responses. I survived the rest of today and am home and report writing. At least I wasn't hungover.