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September mums-to-be - the bumps get bigger and we all get more excited!

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HettySunshine · 28/05/2013 20:04

Here we are ladies. A shiny new thread for us all. Let the chatting continue!

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Joskar · 13/06/2013 22:15

Babies are actually quite big. I can't understand why even women who have children seem to find it so astonishing that a pregnant lady has a big tummy. I also can't understand why they think it's ok to comment on it. If someone had an obvious medical condition it would be considered really rude to make remarks about it.

I think we should compile a list of handy put downs for people who say shitty things in a meeting of all places. Sorry, CharlW1 I'm getting ticked off on your behalf!

Readytosettle · 13/06/2013 22:27

I think bumps are lovely, and tbh I don't really mind if people say I look big....it's kinda what u want right?!

Readytosettle · 13/06/2013 22:30

Having said that, one of my fellow guide leaders has taken to calling me 'tubster'....not so keen on the fatty implications! Especially seeing as I haven't actually announced it to the girls, so they prob do just think I'm getting fat from all the sweets I keep packing away....

kimjayne · 13/06/2013 22:37

a preggy friend of mibe has just found out shes 3cm dilated! she didnt even know she was in labour!

KamikazeeKid · 13/06/2013 23:56

Hey all!
kips I hope you are well - how did you realise suffering from dvt? Hope you getting good care.

I'm home now and shattered.....regarding work stress, I have a very busy job which piles pressure on which normally I thrive on but after this weeks wake up call I realise actually I'm feeling overwhelmed by workload. I'm going ro address with work when back but for now I'm signed off. Thing is I feel worse now I've stopped! Im sure work routines help me stay on track.

Im also thinking of reporting yhis bump as I'm being REALLY pounded and kicked. ...no wonder I bled.....

Right I'm off to catch up on more of the thread.

MrsMangoBiscuit · 14/06/2013 07:06

EmmaDee I was trying to think of who I knew growing up who's parents were "older" and it's actually just dawned on me for the first time, mine were! Shock Well I obviously wasn't embarassed about it as I didn't even notice. Blush

herewego2 your message didn't sound like that, dw. Did sound like a very stressful day though!

I've just done a count up and realised that I'm hoping to be able to do another 10 weeks at work. Starting to think that might be a bit over zealous. Confused

As for bump size, I have a big bump, I had a bigger bump with DD, and I keep getting the "OMG you're HUUUUUGE!" comments. Normally just smile and say, "tall babies give big bumps, so I should hope so" but sometimes (especially if they don't know me well enough to have commented!) I say, with a straight face, "I'm not pregnant, it's just fat. What can I say, I love cake!"

Kittenkatzen · 14/06/2013 07:39

Yy to all the tired teariness, and getting weepy at random thoughts! Not helped by DH thinking it's hilarious to say "uh oh here come the 3rd trimester hormones" every time! Hmm Glad your team is being so supportive and you're feeling better fozzie.

charl Shock at your manage, how people think stuff like that is ever ok to say is beyond me. And as for "tubster", I hope you're calling her something equally flattering in return!

On parents' age, I think it can be a massively regional thing - I work in central London and at 33 am pretty average....but at home in Sussex I'm a good 4/5 years older than most first time parents I would say.

Eeeknumber3 · 14/06/2013 07:56

I think slightly older is a more the norm these days for parents. I'll be 37 when this one is born and DH will be 42, although this will be the last defo! I am one of the average younger ones at school for DS1 and DD1, who are 7 and 5. Quite a few mums have got 6 or so years on me in DS's year...

weebarra · 14/06/2013 09:12

I'm 35 and this is DC3, was 30 when DS1 was born.
ION, it's our 9th wedding anniversary today but DH will spend it in a caravan in fort william - he's about to do the Caley Challenge which is 54 miles walking in 24 hours. It's supposed to be a real killer but he's trained hard for it.

kipsonline · 14/06/2013 09:16

Thanks all, still incarcerated... Def DVT in leg but doesn't look like it has travelled to lung, although I have had breathlessness etc. plan is to rescan today, then hoping to escape, with self-administered blood thinner injections and surgical stockings for rest of pregnancy and first few mths after. That is the theory, although everything seems to take so looooong in here for some reason, why is there no hurry to free up the bed??

Joskar · 14/06/2013 12:04

kips glad it's not worse but all of that sounds rotten. Hope you have a nice weekend with lots of cake/laughs/sunshine.

weebarra I'd love to do that. Amazing scenery. Hope he gets the weather and an absence of midgies!

kamikazee let go of the guilt. If you'd broken your leg and couldn't go in you wouldn't feel guilty. Stress is much more complicated than a broken leg so you need to let yourself be off work without beating yourself up about it. Routines are good but sometimes you just need some space to reflect. Take care.

jennimoo · 14/06/2013 13:22

I am so tired yet again today I can barely function! I got good nights sleep last night but still wiped out. Currently trying to persuade DD to nap so I can rest!

DD stood on the scales this morning and asked me to do the same... I've put on at least 2 stone now! Not worrying about it but think I'm a similar weight to when I went into labour last time... I am 29+4.

Mooster1709 · 14/06/2013 13:46

I'd forgotten to do any pelvic floor exercises for at least a fortnight until I read your post kim - so yes, and thank you for the reminder! I should note that I've been pretty lax throughout with them though. I'll be sorry, I'm sure. Although my physio (for SPD) said only about 30% of women end up with any problems, so the odds are still in our favour!

I was planning on working up until my due date - at least this is what I've told work I'm doing. Sounded like such a sensible plan at the time, but fear I'll live to regret it.

I'm 32 (this is DC1), which seems pretty average among my friends/colleagues - certainly everyone I know is within 2/3 years for their first. Having said this, I work in an area where it would be impossible to start to think about having kids until at least 30, so maybe this skews things a bit?

Went for my whooping cough jab this morning, and a blood test, which all together managed to somehow take over an hour. AND the receptionist was rude to me - I had waited very patiently in the queue to speak to her, got to the front, and went up. The she (really narkily) said "there is a queue, you know", as if I'd just barrelled in, kicked the legs/canes out from under the waiting 80-year-olds and marched straight up to the counter. I was particularly outraged because I'd just let someone who was running late go in front of me.

The worst thing is that rather than being outraged, I nearly cried (though I suppose that would have been the best reaction really, no-one wants to have to deal with a weeping preggo). Did someone say 'third trimester hormones'?

EmmaDee · 14/06/2013 14:23

Hi all, glad to have the age discussion. My DH is really paranoid that he's gonna be the old dad at 39, but I wouldnt think so. Most of our friends are around our age group and their are only starting to think about kiddliwinks, to be honest we're some of the first!

mooster what is the craic with doctor's receptionists, they must have to go to training to be grumpy!!! Most of the time mine think they are qualified doctors/nurses and try to ask you a load of questions about your illness etc before they'll make you an appointment with the actual quack doctor!! At least now I'm pregnant they dont do that, they're just generally moody!!

KamikazeeKid · 14/06/2013 16:00

joskar I think I need you in real life to give me a good talking to ;-)

Fellow bleeders. ...did you ever get stringy mucus which was bloody? I've been excreting mostly old blood as expected but had stringy stuff today brown mostly but the tiniest bit of red too. Even non bleeders. ..u get stringy mucus? Its that pre or post ovulation stuff not fertile but stretchable?? Tmi sorry I should have put in a warning first on that paragraph

Baby still wriggling thankfully.

I feel so unrelaxed now since bleed happened just worried what may happen.

frogchops · 14/06/2013 16:04

Fat cow (I can't even be arsed to cross it out anymore) has just announced that I'm waddling when I walk. Someone restrain me!! I'm not sure what her excuse is.

EmmaDee · 14/06/2013 16:09

Frog I think its time to take action, some sort of sarcy comment relating to her non-preganant wideness/waddling!!! I dont know how you've managed not too, I'd loose the plot, or be crying on my own in the toilets!!!

jennimoo · 14/06/2013 16:43

Kamikazee - all kinds of grim stuff in the knicker department here, stringy mucusy etc and all normal I'm pretty sure. Wait til the mucus plug starts coming away ;)

RunningBear78 · 14/06/2013 16:58

frog definately some retort about you having an excuse, what is hers! get cross, make a scene, she'll be the embarrased one when everyone else finds out what she's been saying to you!

need a grumble ... its my birthday, i've been working all day (and munching the worlds biggest box of maltesers), feeling a bit rubbish about this one, thought dp might come home early for a fun evening, but he's still at work and i haven't heard from him Sad and i feel very fat and sick for eating so many maltesers. i thought they were supposed to make you feel like a ballet dancer. i might complain to trading standards Hmm

JammyTummy · 14/06/2013 17:05

Happy Birthday running bear! Don't worry, everybody knows that whatever you eat/ get given on your birthday has no calories! Says me who is currently eating my birthday cake with a fork out of the tin! Hope you have a nice evening!

KamikazeeKid · 14/06/2013 17:39

Haha jennimoo I remember that from last time luckily not that thick otherwise id be in a panic.

I kept a diary last time and for some reason took the time to write a graphic description of it???!

jennimoo · 14/06/2013 17:45

I wish I had kept a diary last time as would be nice to compare. Not the plugs particularly ;)

I don't remember feeling this knackered last time around at this stage but didn't have a toddler...

frogchops · 14/06/2013 17:50

Trouble is, fat cow has been at my place a looooong time and she is good friend with the boss and is amongst the oldest. (All of which should not matter, I know) and others who also know I hate her have agreed that its just not worth the hassle of having management fob me off because they will inevitably side with her. She would make my life a living hell if I complained about her. I can't be arsed to be honest, but yes there has been some lone crying in the toilets!Blush

frogchops · 14/06/2013 17:53

ION DP has secured a new job today, which means I obv had to buy greggs cakes, chocolate, and posh crisps. It also means there is a liiiittle takeaway planned for tea. All purely celebratory u understand Wink
Safe in the knowledge tht I won't ever steal fat cows flab crown!

CharlW1 · 14/06/2013 17:53

Kami same here too (without the blood) glad it's not just me (and thank goodness for panty liners!).

I know we go on about how much we eat but seriously whenever I go to the antenal clinic the receptionists are constantly eating their way through a giant tub of biscuits. They also insist on finishing their own conversations with each other before they even contemplate acknowledging you and then are just ultra grumpy.

Happy Birthday runningbear will be eating some cake on your behalf later any excuse

frog seriously how you have not said anything I don't know!

I am just about to meet OH in the pub for my occasional treat of half a larger shandy Smile