January 2014 - Thread 3 (Danger: Due to the influence of pregnancy hormones I could either burst into tears or kill you in the next 5 minutes.... You have been warned!

[LittlePeaPod]

Thread three... Rock and Roll......

I went a bit crazy with buying stuff for 1 and 2...gunna try and not buy all the useless crap this time...easier said than done :)

I bought some really pointless things with DD. I think the worst buys were various breastfeeding covers. Couldn't get o grips with one style so moved on to the next. £s later just a normal scarf, pashmina or swaddling muslin was definitely the best option.

Baby baths are often discussed as a waste of space/money - we used a sling thing in the normal bath which was cheaper more compact and perfect for DD.

Best buys were a set of swaddling cloths (as above also for bfing purposes), DD loved her Lamaze baby gym and wiled away many happy times and her sleep sacks from the gro store were well used.

Will try and think of others...

definitely not bothering with a baby bath this time,i think we used the last one about 4 times.Not bothering with changing mat either,apart from a fold away one for the baby bag.
I used swaddling cloths for bfing too,very handy.
don't think I'll bother with a monitor either,rarely used the last one and our bedrooms close enough for when baby goes into different room.
There are definitely a lot of gimmicky things on the market that are not really needed.

Hi everyone

Ive been reading since the 1st january thread but darent post for fear of jinxing things, but feeling a bit more confident nw (previous ivf cycles with the ex were fraught with dissapointment and 2x early m/c)

No idea when im due as wasnt noting my cycles (or ttc)
Have had an awful journey with lying GP's and ignorant midwife so far, but have been referred for an EP scan on monday morning, hope to see something positive and get a hint at how far along i am- deffo 6+ at least

My heart goes out to all those who have sadly left the thread already, and to those stressed out with worry and anxiety- ive never got past 6w6d yet- hope you can all get some reassurance asap

so feeling the crankiness lots of you have- im nightshifts with backache, nausea, tiredness, hunger, heartburn, drunken teens kicking off and what i hope is just a seagull walking on the buildings roof- theres no way im gonna go look!

Hope you have a lovely sunny sunday

Good luck for your scans (toby?) and anyone else

curly x

Yonione - its a beautiful name, but I think you already know that

I agree with not being sucked into buying loads this time around.

Also learnt the hard way with dd1 that its not worth buying masses of newborn things incase you have a big baby - much better stocking up on size 0-3 baby grows and not buying masses of newborn size nappies.

And I won't be bothering with a baby bath either - or a top and tail bowl!

Morning ladies,

Toby good luck today. Please let's us know how the scan goes. How exciting...

congratulations and welcome to all the new ladies with gorgeous BFPs.

As for me. Today I am mostly in the kill you camp. Not been on for a day or so as my tiredness and aversion to all food has got even worse. Even gone off coleslaw.. DF is really worried and thinks I should see GP as had very little to eat the last few days (losing weight) and the lack of food not helping with exhaustion.

Sorry still struggling to keep up with news.. Hoping (FX all ok) that I start feeling better soon when placenta starts taking over from york and hormone levels stabilise. So I hope veryone is having a lovel weekend and m thoughts with everyone feeling crappy.

To top it off had PIL over yesterday and as much as I love my MIL she is a real pain in the arse sometimes.. EG yesterday banging on about what I should do in terms of ML leave. She's old school and was a SAHM so thinks all women should give up their careers to become SAHMs. Bearing in mind the reason I am having our first at 37 is because I have always been a career girl this went down like a tone of bricks. Told her straight that I am going back full time as soon as reasonably possible. No chance am I staying out of the business for more than 3 months... sick of people trying to make me feel guilty about my career... Very about this point today...... Becoming a mother doesn't make me any less ambitious.. Really sorry for the rant..... But I don't judge SAHPs so wish others would p off with their stupid thoughts about career women.

Littlepea welcome to my world! Luckily mum and MIL very supportive of my career as also worked but you do get some real crap from people who don't get it, not least on Internet forums sad to say - and it does cut both ways. Some of the comments directed at SAHPs is equally as Live and let live!

Hope scan goes well today Toby.

Welcome curly - hope the rest of your shift went okay.

I'd forgotten top and tail bowls coco. That is one thing I didn't succumb to!

'Comments is'? 'Comments are'! Now I am losing my grasp of English as well as my breakfast, figure, very dignity.

Yoni if it helps any I am losing my grasp of patience and tolerance to stupid things.. . It's a shame people don't just accept others choices and be happy for them. It would be a very boring world if we all did and wanted the same thing.....

Right off to try and force feed myself but chances of success are probably 1000/1.

Really impressed with how organised some f the ladies on here are. Haven't even started looking at anything. Not even browsed on the net...

Thinking of u today Toby. Got everything firmly crossed for u!

What's patience and tolerance?! I lost all that when I got my bfp last Tues I'm getting seriously wound up by even the smallest things, bloody hormones, I'll have no tongue left soon

Also been feeling a touch blue, so to anyone feeling the same.

I'm trying not to think too far ahead, want to get to 12wk scan before making any plans. This is dc2, and dc1 is 2.4, so hoping we won't need to buy much (am I deluded?!) As I've kept most things.

Hope you're all having lovely Sunday mornings. Good luck today Toby and welcome to any newbies (and congrats!)

I havent been able to keep up with u ladies. Not sure whats wrong with me but just havent felt like posting. Got a lot running thru my mind at the mo plus feeling completely shite by 6pm means am pretty useless atm. Am sure will snap out of it...

pod no, cant believe u have gone off coleslaw now! Hmmm...its so hard isnt it! If u keep losing weight and hardly eating anything then perhaps a chat with your GP would be a good idea? My food world is shrinking rapidly but am still able to force things down - went off nature valley bars yesterday. Meant to be going for a pub lunch with friends on tuesday, but have looked at the menu of where they have chosen and am already cringing as no idea what I am gonna have and even then I know I will only manage a small amount! I was thinking it was better meeting in public in case I felt like vomming rather than going to their house to see their new bubba, but am beginning to dread it now! Was hoping there would be normal choices like jacket potatoes, but its all main meals with fancy accompaniments which fill me with horror right now!

Never let anyone make u feel bad for the choices u make! Everyone is different! I will hopefully be taking the full year off and if it were financially viable I would take more, because thats what I want to do. All my friends have gone back to work after having their kids because they wanted to. I would be happy as a sahm for a few years, but unless we win the lottery that aint gonna happen! As u say, everyone is different and it would be very boring it we were all the same!!!

Welcome newbies

toby - thinking of you today.

Thank you for lovely kind messages - they really helped me get things in to perspective. I did some googling last night mad and found out that a 4mm crown to rump length is equivalent to being 6+4. I think I am around that on reflection as the clearblue tests never used to change for me til the Thursday.

Humpty - congrats on the driving! Toot toot!

pea - ignore MIL! Easier said than done, I know!

Re things to buy - second a play gym. DS adores his. I would recommend trying to get one with sides (ideally plastic ones covered in fabric) as then the baby can't role or wiggle their way out. From 10 weeks DS could shuffle places on his back

Off to catch up but second the feelings of being totally irritated 98% of the time!

Sultabajo. Yes an you believe it. Splattering loads on coleslaw on everything was the only thing helping me eat. The last enjoyable thing I had was coleslaw on cheese on toast. The thought now makes me gag. . So feel for you on Tuesday.. That sounds like my idea of a total nightmare... What about pulling the tummy bug ploy? Then try and just have a bit of soup from the starter menu? Or am I pulling at straws because I can't even bear the thought of soup at the moment.. Ha ha what have you got left on your menu! Are you still on with the cheese toasties? On the MIL front I normally ignore her when she starts but my tolerance levels are so low at the moment that when she talks, I find myself thinking "shut up, shut up, shut up before it tell you what I am thinking"

Slinky not sure what's worse. Feeling really sad/blue or feeling extreme anger/rage. I seem to flick from one to the other....

Gobbo glad you are feeling better. Plus another really positive nought. Remember a heart beat at 6 weeks equals a 78% chance pregnancy will go full term and at my 6+4 scan chickpea was 6.6mm so it works out right that 6+4 would be about 4/5mm. From what I have read, havin a heart beat is the most important thing and the early the heart beat the better...

Sorry that should be about 6 the 4/5mm should be right... Well from what sonogapher said anyway...

pea - thank you. That's made me feel a lot better. The scan lady was very nice and kept saying she had seen nothing to worry about.

I think I'm just a bit hyper as it took her ages to find the baby as it was tucked away down in a corner so my nerves were a bit jangled to start with

Second worrying g about what to eat when out. We're going for lunch with some friends tomorrow and feel quite sick at the thought of it.

I've found that salt and vinegar discos help with the sickness as do raspberries and toasted plain bagels with boursin. Not very healthy bar the raspberries

Gobbo. It took the sonograher some time to find chickpea too. Chickpea was playing hid and go seek... But I know what you mean. I was shaking as thought all had gone wrong again....

Been in and out of the kitch sine 8am and still haven't eaten anything...

Kitchen since 8am...

I hate predictive text.... Grrrrr

gobbo may give salt and vinegar discos a go. Been having raspberries but they are giving me heartburn!! Grrrr!

pod I hate soup at the best of times and the one on the menu is full of cumin and chilli which makes me wanna heave right now! Am hoping they will have specials for more of an option, but judging by their menu, the specials will probably be something random like rabbit or oysters!!!

sultanajo. Ohhhh. Then we are back at the tummy bug excuse.... . Read the Oyster comment and started gagging....

sultana - I find the discos really good. They are very sour and salty and vinegary and that really seems to help.

Morning all. Sorry to those that can't face eating at the moment :( toby, I've got everything crossed for you.

Just back from the EPU, everything is fine and measuring exactly right for 7+1. Feeling a bit odd, because I couldn't actually see what the sonographer was talking about at all, just blobs, but she seemed happy with it and said there was a heart beat.

Still not much in the way of symptoms here - apparently most of my pain is due to wind/my IBS and the only other thing is horrible reflux, all my bloating has gone down and I feel exactly the same as I do when I'm not pg. I guess I should be pleased, but it is still a niggling worry.

Booktart. Congratulations. Sorry I didn't realise you had a scan today.. Great to hear about the heart beat.

Cheers pod, had to go to EPU as had lots of pain on my left side last Sunday that was so bad I couldn't lay on that side or move much at all. Wind, apparently. Oh the shame...

Have you managed anything to eat yet? Could you manage a biscuit or something?