Due August 2013 - Part 5 - The Final Stretch - We're nearly there duebies!!

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Welcome to the thread in which we will meet our babies - woooooooooop!!

Previous thread - www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1709005-August-2013-Part-4-Half-way-there-already?msgid=39205443

Good call on deciding to get nappies that will actually fit Remembering! What strange advice to be given......

DCs are off on a sleepover tonight, so I have no squabbles or arguing to cope with for the first time in AGES. It is a good practise run for any further admissions/labour as the friend who they are staying with is my number one childcare plan. It is also a fantastic break for me - it has been so, so hard since stbxh left and the lodgers moved in. I also broke ties with my toxic mother around 3 weeks ago (trying to use my new found strength to set my whole life on a better course) and she used to have the DCs a fair bit to help me out.

Less than 3 hours til I am seeing my consultant for check up and scan. (Well, probably more like 3 and a bit hours given the usual delays, but less than 3 hours til my appointment time) Nervous and excited....

31 weeks today

waves hope today goes ok and baby is growing well. Perfect that you got a good rest last night as well. Hopefully your DC will think of it all as a big adventure when baby decides to make an appearance and not mind staying with your friend.

29+2

Good luck waves xxx

I am thoroughly exhausted after London and ended up in agony after little miss decided to curl up very low and caught a nerve that sent my stomach muscles mental. Couldn't breath let alone move. She has done this a couple of times lately...Mw said not to worry but Christ alive it hurts!

All was well - and lovely to see my little man on the scan today. He is small still, and I have not put on any weight at all, so next scan is in 3 weeks. I need to find high calorie foods that don't make me sick... He is holding onto the 9th/10th centile line so basically any calories I am retaining are pretty much going to him.

I'm looking forward to some peace and quiet this evening - hopefully I will have a good sleep and a lie in tomorrow in the absence of the DCs.

Hope the pain has eased off a bit now BabyH

Ijustworemytrenchcoat- when ds1 turned from breech to head down at 37 weeks it felt like when you go over a big dip in a car then some weird crampy type pains in the top of my legs went on for about an hour was so strange but I think that was maybe because I was 37 weeks and he was obviously a full size baby ready to make an exit!

I did the nappy lady thing and (no tumble either) they recomended bamboo ones - which take ages to dry! ?? disregarded that!

Been to MW for 28wk check - BP has shot up, no other indications but they are coming out to the house tomorrow to redo their obs... which means I need to clean up, which is counter-productive to taking it easy plus side, measuring spot on 29w. Baby's HR was 130, was 150 a month ago, she didn't seem bothered.

waves - have you tried Complan type drinks? Enjoy your peaceful night tonight

Hi waves, glad all was ok with baby! Sounds daft but have you tried blending a dinner to have as almost fluid? Or things like Heinz big soups?

Pain vanished at about 430am when she did the most humongous kick and nearly sent me thru the ceiling butothrr than being tender and uncomfy have had a much better day today...other than dsc's being little sh1ts about food

Can the hospital not prescribe you some caligen? (Check spelling)
It's 500 cals in a shot measure.
We use it for elderly stroke patients who struggle with swallowing and their swallow fatigues quickly.
Even if you managed 10mls you would have 100 cals

Need to post before I lose my tempe and I know it'd a step parenting thing but honestly some of the ppl on there are just plain scaryr...bloody dsd has again wet the bed but has managed to soak the mattress at my grandmas house. She does this a lot, she is 7 ffs...this is not normal. Dp is fuming, I am in tears cos I am so cross. I can't even look at her I am so disgusted. We have been here before and been here since sat this time so not like she doesn't know where the bathroom is (like opposite the sodding bedroom). I am demanding she goes in nappies cos I am sick of this.

Please someone tell me what to do..

BabyH are you sure she's doing it deliberately? I used to be scared of getting out of bed when staying somewhere unfamiliar (which included my grandparents house). I would stay in bed crying until my Mum heard me and came to see what was up.

BabyH - lots and lots of children are not dry at night by age 7 - it is FAR from abnormal. My two are both in pyjama pants more often than not, partly I am attributing this to the fact that they have been quite upset by recent upheavals. To be honest, if it was "not normal" then every supermarket would not stock pyjama pants in the age size 7 - 14 would they?

You being disgusted with her will NOT help - she is probably really upset and embarrassed - I know that my two feel like that. In fact, they went off for a sleepover last night and I sent them each with a pair (they are 7 and 9), and told the mum, who said her 9 year old boy has exactly the same issue.

I suggest the best thing you do is speak to your DP, and maybe he could liaise with her mum about whether pyjama pants might help? You being cross and disgusted with her will not help at all, so maybe do some research on it (the ERIC website is very helpful) and the grown ups can look at ways of managing this.

There are frequent posts on this in the child development section here I think - but i really don't think it is a step parenting issue. And it really is a lot more normal than you may think. Hope that you manage to talk this through with DP - and please, please try not to show your anger and disgust in front of your DSD - she is probably mortified, whether or not she shows it.

Oh and in terms of me getting calories in, I am prescribed fortisip, which is bloody AWFUL, but I have watered it down and made icecubes, so spend my days attempting to get through the equivalent of 3 bottles of that..... It's hard work, and obviously with still vomiting a lot, just not quite enough

Ruck - yes its deliberate. She says she knows she needs to go but she gets too wrapped up in what she is doing and holds it til its too late.

Waves - dp is trying to deal but his ex refuses to admit there is a problem. She does it when we are out despite asking her constantly if she needs to go. Her mum insists it is only when she is with us but her trousers that come from mums that we have never seen are bleached where she clearly has done it.

I have told her enough is enough, we have tried being nice and supportive and she

Sorry on phone.

She does it all the more. I have.told her its pull ups at night now and she has flipped. I haven't said much, just stayed out the way as I don't want to lose my temper or say something in anger.

I am at my wits end. Due to issues with his ex there is a limit to what dp can/will do. But I am at breaking point with it all.

If it was anything other than lazy I could understand, but she openly admits that she just doesn't go to the loo even though she knows she needs to.

She pooped her knickers yesterday cos she was too wrapped up in ds

I think the main problem then is the communication issue with your DSD's mum. I'd really recommend going to see the GP about it with her, as it MAY be that she is not getting strong enough signals about needing to go (you saying she gets so wrapped up in things etc) - it is something hard to communicate at age 7. I genuinely think that there is a lot more going on than "laziness" - wetting or soiling yourself is horrible, so I would think there is more going on that laziness.

If it is emotional, then you getting angry WILL make things worse, and given what you have said about the problems between DP and DSD's mum, then maybe it is an emotional reaction to this?

If you are at breaking point, rather than lose it with your DSD, then I suggest a massive step back - let DP deal with EVERYTHING to do with this. I can imagine it is really hard for you - it is hard for me at times, and I am mum to mine, must be so much harder to manage something like this in the role of step mum. I had challenging behavioural issues with my exDSS's and it is harder, especially as there are more grown ups involved in the relationship, which opens the door to greater conflict in ways of dealing with things.

Sending you hugs, and hope that you find a way to work together to help your DSD x

Thanks waves. I just dunno what to do. I.have left it all to dp. But its not the first time we have had issues with the kids health and ex refusing to do anything.

I am keeping my mouth shut and staying out the way. His kid his problem today!

She knows she needs to go. She has openly told dp today that she just doesn't want to stop what she is doing.

My DD wet until she was about 10yo.

She was referred to the bedwetting clinic and given nasal spray and had bed alarms etc and would just sleep through them She just stopped eventually in her own time. Bedwetting can be hereditary, caused by a fault somewhere along the piping, and also kicked off by feeling stressed.
In DDs case her father wet the bed and still does probably he certainly did when I was married to him! so was probably just hereditary, nothing else was found to be the problem anyway. Things are sooo much easier these days with night time pj pant things, there weren't these things around years ago when DD would have needed them.

Yes it's completely normal and not at all rare, it's just people don't tend to talk about it much for fear of embarrassing the child.

So get DP to take her to the GP for a check over and if nothing found a referral to clinic. Just cause the mum doesn't appear to want to do anything doesn't mean he should let it slide, he is her parent too and has an equal responsibility to get it sorted.

And I know how stressing and annoying it can get, to be having to do yet another load of washing etc... but really really try to just not react at all. She's only 7 which is still quite small to be dealing with someone being horrid to you for something that might well be totally out of her control.

MW at 1.30pm today, hope all is ok [worry]

Thanks waves. I just dunno what to do. I.have left it all to dp. But its not the first time we have had issues with the kids health and ex refusing to do anything.

I am keeping my mouth shut and staying out the way. His kid his problem today!

She knows she needs to go. She has openly told dp today that she just doesn't want to stop what she is doing.

hope all is ok with your appt foof and your BP is ok

I had my 31wk appt this morning and I am now measuring 35.5 so have to go for another blimmin GTT. Good news is MW thinks it's fluid so assuming it isn't GD (I'm sure it isn't) then we get an extra scan .
HB was strong and she's head down, ready to go so all good apart from HUGE belly issue!

Afternoon All,

BabyHMummy Agree with the others, whether she is doing it on purpose or not, getting angry with her will only make it worse. However I would say there is a difference between "doing it on purpose" and "being aware of when it is happening" if you see what I mean? I'm not a step parent so no experience there, can only imagine how frustrating it can be at times! Especially if your/DPs relationship with the mother is strained.

Hips are still annoying me at night, having lots of broken sleep .

Any one else suffering at work? I work full time in an office, and am struggling. By 10:30 am my left side gets really painful. Its like a stretching muscular pain. I do get it at home if I sit in the same position for too long. I'm really wishing I didn't still have 4 weeks left to work after this one.

My pram is ordered/paid for and will be arriving in 3 weeks! I cannot wait to play with it!

30+3

remembering fingers crossed it is just fluid. Do you know how long you've got to wait for an appointment?

Trixie I've been office bound pretty much since the day I told work. I struggle sat at my desk and everyone knows I go on random walks around the office throughout the day to stretch off. 6 weeks left here though.

Just realised I've got 2.5 weeks until the Race for Life - I'm seriously beginning to wonder what I got myself in for. Surely I can walk 5km without too much bother?!

Ruck they can't fit in with my commute etc til 17th June I'm not too worried though... I walk the dog 3 times a week for about 2.5 miles and it's very hilly (takes me 1.5 hours mind you). The first time I did it was painful but it's much easier now and I'm finding my hips and groin are better on days I walk. Good luck x

BP was fine, urine was fine, mentioned the strange pain/discomfort under right boob and though to my back I had at the weekend and off and on since, she says as no other signs that it could just be due to coughing, but if I get it again to ring ward and ask them to take BP as I am getting it, also to ring asap for any vision probs or severe headaches.

PFE's the excess fluid can be a sign of GD though can't it? not just big babies?

Excess fluid can be caused by Type I/II diabetes not GD - there's no history of DM in my family. The fluid can also indicate a range of defects in the bub but most times it just means there's a lot of fluid...
Wondering if I should push for an earlier appt for a scan now as the GTT is 3 weeks away...