July 2013 - thread 7 - and we're still talking as we enter the 3rd trimester

[Persuasion]

We've managed to fill yet another thread, so here is a new one to keep chatting away on...

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Its about of a squeeze of some or all of your uterus Shelley - just like a contraction being practiced. I had loads early on but they have really died down now.

nope definitely not then. mind you i dont particularly remember actual contractions either .

in other news today, i really fancy going out for a curry (have been off curry for whole pg) and was almost late for school run as had a sudden urge to clean the washing machine - you know all through the inside, the drawer and everything. have bath toys and crocs in dishwasher as i type. DH is worried. i think if i wasnt only 32 weeks i may be too

Sounds like that nesting urge is hitting Shelley!

Shelley I cleaned inside my tumble dryer the other day- now that's a first
re BHs I wonder if your mw was just trying to persuade you to rest s bit more? I know I get a lot more pains and tightenings if I've been busy all day, esp if I haven't drunk enough. But the practicality of doing less when you have a toddler is another question altogether!!

Well after a horrendously busy week last week and weekend feeling pretty ropey due to tiredness I asked to finish early, so I now have just over 2 weeks to go at work. I feel very relieved as it's getting to feel like I have one too many balls to juggle with at the moment.
We've just discovered ds1 has been getting bullied at school after he came home yesterday covered in scratches and bruises on his hands and wrists
dh spoke to headmistress today and the teachers are now aware so hopefully there won't be any more. I think there have been a few incidents, when I asked ds1 why he hadn't told anyone he said that one of the boys had a real gun and was going to 'shoot him in the eye' if he told
I feel like a very bad mummy for not realising sooner
Anyway on phone and my toddler needing attention so have to go

Oh lord Thinking - big hugs to you and your DS1. Its horrible to think of your child being unhappy and unable to tell anyone - good on him for finally opening up though. I hope the school crack down hard on the bullying and life improves for your DS v v quickly.

Congrats on Mat Leave being that bit closer. After this week I have 3 weeks left at work (as am on holiday over half term week) - cant wait!

Thinking hurrah to earlier mat leave. Sounds like the right decision for you and glad you are relieved! Two weeks will fly by. So sorry to hear about your son being bullied. Hope the school sort it out really quickly. Don't feel bad for not picking up on it earlier though - sure you have a lot going on and with being pregnant and tired too nobody could blame you.

Oh no thinking your poor ds. Hopefully now the school knows something will be done about it. It's very difficult isn't it, as they don't always tell you exactly what's going on at school. Ds is in reception but regularly comes home hurt. Have mentioned it but just told it's boys being boys. I worry for him as he's always been kind and gentle and I don't want him hurt, or to go the other way and turn into a thug. Hope that it gets sorted soon.

Have not cleaned tumble dryer yet, will add that to my list. I changed all the beds today so it's been in constant use! I can't believe how close July is now

Shelley your ds sounds a bit like mine, he's p1 which is same as reception I think? He's a gentle soul and I've been putting it down to boys will be boys etc but the scratches were just a bit much as it suggested he'd been held and scratched by the pattern of them. Not nice but hoping the school will sort things out

Thanks for all the kind words guys

Sorry about your DS thinking, it's good he managed to tell you though, so you've been able to do something about it.

I can't believe we're all going on mat leave so soon! I have 4 weeks left, including this one, but I have a week of annual leave in the middle of that, so only really 2 1/2 working weeks, and I can't wait to stop, although I don't really want to bring it forward either.

In terms of birth plan, beyond getting chip out with both me and her (relatively) intact, I really think I just want to be left alone and will ask if I want pain relief etc. I'd like to try water, and want vitamin K and delayed cord clamping, skin to skin and breast feeding. But it's all ideal and if I feel I need an epidural etc then I'll ask for that too! So essentially whatever comes!

Has anyone heard from shiv about oliver recently? I've been wondering how he's getting on.

I've also started my (NHS) antenatal classes, the first one was quite fun, but a very mixed group in terms of knowledge etc.

My only other news is that we put the cot up in the spare room, we'll move it into our room closer to the time. It makes everything feel very real and I keep sneaking in to coo over it

Hi all, Just started packing my bag got most things in there now other than a few last minute bits like snacks ect...

Alot of people are commenting that my bump has dropped latley, i didnt notice tbh, bit worried that bump dropping means impending labour but I doubt it.

31+4

Hi, just catching up after our weeks holiday.

Sorry to hear about your DS Thinking It's really good you spotted it though and have been able to take action.

at Persuasion sneaking in to coo at the cot

Hai I think my bump has dropped too but I'm putting it down to a wriggling baby. No idea how though, there really can't be that much room left in there. Definitely with all those currently feeling very big and uncomfortable.

Dinky I hope you feel better about schools now you've made your decision.

Having a minor panic at the moment as DS's preschool think he's got chickenpox and my mum's not sure if I've had it. He's having his first ever improtu sleep over at grandparents tonight while we wait to see. Thinking I may have to cancel my scan on Thursday to see if my low lying placenta has moved as from what I can tell I may be infectious then but not know and feeling rotten that I can't be with my DS when he's unwell . spoke to the doctor early who basically said wait and see if I get it, but will call midwives tomorrow about scan. Would feel dreadful if I gave it to someone else.

Is it me or have you guys slowed down on the chatting???
I have put a thread in the 'premature birth' section that I occasionally update if anyone is interested. Can't really post in the antenatal thread any more can I??
Thanks for the support x

shiv - we have slowed down a bit. I think it's the third trimester catching up on us! Of course you can keep posting here - we're always thinking about you & Oliver, but we'll find your other thread and catch up on FB too.

link to shiv's thread

Hi Shiv - nice to see you on and glad you're getting support on the premature birth board - but you are one of us (just because Oliver cant read a calendar yet to understand when July is doesnt exclude you ) so please, please do feel free to pop on here and post. You know (or at least I hope you know) we're all behind you and Oliver and Mr Shiv and cheering you all on.

Re slowing down with the posting - it happened on my Feb 09 board too as people hit the third trimester - but then picked up with a vengeance as people started maternity leave and starting popping left right and centre.

MarieKL - poor DS! Bet both you and he are missing each other. Is there a test that can be done to test for your immunity? Hopefuly the midwives will advise today. Hope he recovers v v soon x

Shelley, Thinking - your DS1s sound v similar to my DS1 - he's a bright, funny, sociable little boy who will chat to anyone and play with anyone but very young for his age (other kids like scary movies, he still gets scared at bits in PG films etc) and he had an issue in reception with Year 2 kids being mean at play time - I told his teacher and they sorted it out super quick so hopefully your schools will do so too. One of the reasons we've plumped for the smaller private school is DS2 who is a much more sensitive sort than his brother - equally sociable and outgoing but takes things very much to heart (he cried this morning because DH and I went to work, even though he knows we'll be home tonight) - and I suspect a smaller village school environment will be much better for him.

Hello all,

Having a cheeky peak at the board at work ? am definitely losing motivation now! Am 30+6 weeks now and don?t finish work until another SIX WEEKS! It feels like an absolute eternity, and although I?d like more time off when BabyKanny arrives, I might need to re-think my finish date. I can feel my energy levels decreasing, the thought of an afternoon nap is becoming more compelling!

I?m feeling woefully underprepared at the moment. No birth plan, no hospital bag, no nappies, no cotton wool or muslin squares! I haven?t really felt the nesting instinct kick in yet either, which is starting to worry me a little. I have, however, bought some lovely lights for the nursery, and have my eye on a beautiful old rocking chair that will look perfect in baby?s room.

I have started my antenatal classes though, which has been fairly informative. Lots of other lovely mums and although they all seem to live a little further away from me.

Great to hear an update supershiv, thoughts are still with you and little Oliver. And thinking, that must be awful for you, how sad. It breaks my heart when I think of how cruel little kids can be.

Has anyone thought about the whooping cough vaccination? I haven?t been offered it yet but wondered whether others have had it recently? Have heard of baby?s movement being sluggish after the jab and I?m just a bit confused as to whether to go for it or not.

Right, had better get on with some work! My ability to procrastinate never fails to amaze me.

30+6

I had mine at 30 weeks Mummykanny - arranged at my gp shared care appt - baby was its usual active self. Glad you are enjoying your antenatal classes. Don't worry re practical shopping - the shops will be open nearer d day too.

Thanks dinky, I have an appointment on Tuesday so I will raise it then.

Eek I know it's silly getting all worked up, just feel as if it's all speeding up and whilst I started off well, I'm now really behind! Also panicking that leaving work at 37 weeks is waaaay too late! I have another scan in a few weeks so hopefully they'll be able to give me an idea of whether baby will be arriving earlier.

Hey ladies

thinking that makes me mad. Maybe you can go to a local gym, find the beefiest man possible, preferably with a pet rottweiler and get him to accompany you to the school gates. Then tell your ds to tell that bully that 'uncle scarface' will be picking him up from now on

MummyKanny - statistically, as a first timer with a straightforward pregnancy, finishing work at 37 weeks should be fine if you feel up to it - if not start your leave abit earlier. Sometimes babies come earlier - if they do , then you just start your maternity leave when they arrive - work will survive and cope somehow. I finished work at 38 weeks and DS1 didnt arrive till 42 weeks - I was just v tired towards the end of work but more than caught up on my sleep by the time DS1 was evicted. I worked till 37 weeks I'm working till 37 weeks this time round too.

mummykanny im working till 40 weeks with the expectation sprog will be late. We can keep each other going

Shiv you are one of us! This is the due in July board, not the arrived in July board and I echo whoever it was who said it's Oliver who can't read a calendar!

Yep, Shiv I third that one! Oliver can't read the calendar! Still have no decision on my ELCS, they say they won't make a decision on this until 36 weeks....here's hoping I don't actually give birth early again, as I still have no Birth Plan either....

Oh shiv you are definitely one of us! We wouldn't give you up for anyone else
cheek working until 40 weeks? You'll need lots of this when LO is here haha! I admire you for doing it though!
Just curious, has anyone else had any sharp shooting pains quite low in their bump (belly button and below) I had one earlier, the sort that makes you stretch and curl up at the same time, nothing before/after though, and no bleeding at all so I figured its probably nothing, oh and lots of movements still, just wondering if its common? If not ill mention it to gp or midwife next week

Have you spoken with PALS BadMissM? Given Dd's early birth and your health issues, not to mention the gestational diabetes, I'm amazed they are taking such a laissez faire attitude!