October 2013: Growing bumps and the second trrimester glowing begins!

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Welcome to thread six of the October bus. how long will this one last us?!

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Hello to all the newbies on here. Ds was baptised yesterday and was such a good boy until it came to his special bit and he screamed and shouted through all the prayers! He was good when the vicar put the water on him though so that was something and then he grabbed her rather large nose . At least he has spirit!! I managed to squeeze myself into my dress with the help of some control pants and we had a fab day.
Can't remember who said but I want to do the sling thing too rather than double buggy as I love my stokke too much to give it up and the only double I like is the bugaboo donkey but I don't like it nearly as much as the stokke. We shall see.
Hope everyone feeling ok and all is well with the growing beans.

No strong feelings here re feeding. What"s good for mum is good for baby. I'm going to give BF a serious go but if family history is anything to go by I will have to top up at the very least as our 'factories' are not very large or productive.

Welcome all new people! I like to think we are inclusive and non-judgmental here!

I like it here already :D

It was me about the sling, but there are so many out there my brain is fried! I have a friend who recommended a standard woven one for newborn phase.

I'm going to have to visit a sling library as I have NO idea what I will like. I want it to be suitable for dh, who is a giant hulk of a man

I'm not very well this morning, either stress induced or that god awful bug that's been doing the rounds. It's the worst timing ever!

Hello all, and welcome to everyone who's new! This really is a busy thread but agree that it is lovely to be able to come and express worries without being judged
Back into reality here after our holiday away, it was lovely but today I am handing in my final ever essay into uni. very exciting.

Have found it really interesting reading all of your posts re: feeding. I bf DS until he was 9 months but found it so difficult to start with. Like others I expected it to just be an easy natural thing, my mum bf all 5 of us and it was what was "normal" in our family. I felt like such a failure that I was struggling so much and felt guilty for having to hand express to feed DS for the first few days. We're very lucky here and there is a lot of support which I took full advantage of. Just think its awful that people are made to feel guilty no matter how they choose to feed baby, or how difficult they find it. Its the last thing you need when you've just given birth and have crazy hormones rushing round your body.

shootingstars I love your comment about your DS having spirit Think will be using that to describe my very cheeky DS.

15+2 here and definitely have a bump now and after being away and being fed up am back to pre pregnancy weight. Have a research scan on Weds and really hoping to find out the sex of the baby. Fingers crossed bean is cooperative...

Morning all - hope everyone is getting to enjoy a bit of sunshine this morning!

16 weeks today - got on the scales and have put on about 5 pounds in the last two weeks . Was being very good and keeping an eye on it as put on 10lbs by 10 weeks last time , but the Haribo have taken over. Only healthy snacks for me this week!

Welcome notyomamma. I have heard sling libraries mentioned a few times - what the hell are they and how do I find one?

I will be BF hopefully. With DS had decided that I would give BF a go, but not stress about it and FF if it wasn't working out. Then stupid staff on post natal ward kept trying to get me to 'top him up' and told me he would be jaundiced if I didn't (it was Xmas eve, they wanted a quiet night, and they were vile) which just made me bloody minded to BF at all costs. It was a real struggle for the first 6-8 weeks. I think you hear about what can go wrong with BF and where to go for assistance - what you don't hear if even if everything is fine - enough milk, good latch, good weight gain, no mastitis - then it can still be a bloody slog, feeding for hours on end, baby waking frequently etc. I thought I was doing something wrong, but actually just had unrealistic expectations of what it would be like.

Hello everyone,

Can I join please?
I'm new to mumsnet, and new to pregnancy! I'm due 1st October and feeling anxious. This is an ivf baby so have only just announced our news due to being (overly!) cautious.

Now starting to let ourselves get excited! Been looking into pushchairs......so much choice! Thinking of the Bugaboo Chameleon?? Anyone have it?

Im open minded to breastfeeding or not, some of my friends have and some haven't. My plan is to take it as it comes and see what happens!

Been reading previous posts, lots of helpful info already so thank you all!

Hi everyone, marking my place :-) congratulations charliepow and welcome onboard!

Just wanted to day I gave in to my rapidly disappearing waistline and bought maternity jeans from h&m. I don't have a bump yet really, more of a general bulge but wow are they comfy! So, if you haven't already tried some, go do it, they're pretty flattering too which is a plus!

Welcome charliepow and congratulations!
I've got the chameleon and love it so much, so does my dd. would highly recommend it. I'm going to buy a new set of material this time around and it'll be like having a whole new buggy

Those mentioning about getting the tongue tie checked before leaving hospital, I couldn't agree more. My dd had tongue tie but it wasn't picked up until she was 2 weeks which is a long time when struggling to bf and in agony!
Then we had to prove that it was affecting feeding before the NHS would do the procedure to cut it. (It's not as horrific as it sounds as it really is just a little bit of tissue). It was done when she was 5 weeks and we did go on to bf for a year.
I do bf support through my work and I think if bf is the way you choose to feed then having as much non judgemental support as possible in the beginning is really important. I couldn't have done it without the local bf groups and clinics and even my friends with slightly older babies who had gone through it themselves.
It was hard work esp at the beginning but a few weeks in when everything settled down it was so lovely and very easy when travelling and out and about. This time I'm going to look into a sling that baby can feed in as with a 3 year old there won't be as much sitting around on the couch!

pinkbuttons that's exciting about your scan on Wed! Hope you get to find out if it's a boy or girl!

Morning all

Another new thread, wow! Im in work so got some catching up to do so apologies if I've missed some news. Oh now hayle, thats rubbish. Hope you feel better soon.

umlauf I have a bugaboo camelion. I do really like it, although I find prams that are in 2 pieces a bit of a faff so tend to keep it mainly for walks (I have a dog so we go on a lot of these) and use my silver cross buggy for shopping trips. I'm planning to get the baby jogger double but will prob keep my bugaboo for a bit as ds likes it to sleep in and I will also use a sling when the new baby is young. Why is everything so expensive?!

moN lots of baby/pregnancy brain here! I left my bag in a restuarant the other week and luckily it was still there when I went back. Then on Sat I did my tesco shopping and left my bag hanging from the back of the trolley! Didn't notice until I had got home and put all the shopping away. Thankfully it had been handed in! Stress! Then I went to get some tights for my mum yesterday in House of Fraser and totally forgot, even though I was in the shop. Argghhh! I'm not fit to be let out these days!

Yay to the first boy! I can't wait to find out the sex. As we already have a boy, I would love a girl but because they will be so close together in age, I think another boy would be better for ds (and easier as I have so much boy stuff). Either way, I just want to know!

I have a wedding to go to on Sat. I find it really hard to get nice maternity dresses as so many are below the knee which look really frumpy on me. I have a dress from Top shop that I'm going to have to wear but it's not very dressy. WIll just have to glam it up with accessories and a fascinator. Will be a long day as dh is best man and I know nobody other than the bride and groom. And obviously with no drink it wont be much fun. Thinking I might sneak off to the hotel room for a sleep at some stage!!!!

Sending everyone sickness free vibes and good luck to today's scanees

I'm fine thanks Natalie. I've had another talk with Dp and now he's saying he thinks he could cope with a Downs baby but not a daughter with Turner's as he would find it hard knowing that his daughter couldn't have children of his own.
I am struggling to understand this one. In my mind Turners would be easier than Downs as Turner's children are intellectually the same as everyone else so don't have the same learning difficulties that would require a lot of attention.
I've tried explaining that if we had a healthy girl she still may not be able to have children or indeed want them.
There are so many options for Infertile women these days too. Maybe it's just that male thing of wanting someone to carry on the family line. I'll need to work on him some more.

I'm glad I'm not alone with the baby brain. I think I've got a double dose simply because I've got so much on my mind. Feeling a bit better now that Dp is coming round to the idea of carrying on with the pregnancy even if we do get bad news after the amnio.

MoN I am glad DP is now talking about things, hopefully he will see the bigger picture soon.

My bump has appeared overnight, so sitting at work roasting hot but wearing a strategically placed scarf. Too tired and nauseous to be dealing with questions today.

Welcome to all the newbies x

Morning all. Still shattered, and have been getting some really bad stomach cramps (which I am almost positive are constipation related) and a bit more spotting today. I have text the midwife so hopefully she'll be able to ease my mind a bit. Seeing her on Wednesday afternoon so am really hopeful she'll use the doppler and I will get to hear that everything is ok in there! If she cannot find the heartbeat/has a reason not to use the doppler, then I will be paying for a private scan asap as I hate this feeling of not knowing.

MoN my baby brain seems to be focused on forgetting words. I can be in the middle of a conversation and my mind goes blank on what the word I am trying to think of is... I am please that you and DP have managed to have a chat and he is coming around to the idea of carrying on with the pregnancy. When is your amnio again?

Sparkeleigh I succomed at the weekend and started wearing my jeans undone with a bump band over the top... Ah so much relief!

My morning (evening) sickness and tiredness seem to have vanished. Don't know whether this is the so called bloom (spent the weekend decorating and tidying in preparation for putting the house on the market) or whether to be worried that I don't feel pregnant any more.
Sorry to those of you still feeling really bad. I'm just a little anxious....

morning all!! welcome carliepow so pleased that your ivf has worked out for you.you must be aol happy and so terrified!!
re:bf I have 32dd s before pregnancy so hoping they don't go too big by the end!! my sister had teeny tiny boobs (I'm a nice sis aren't are!?) but exclusively bf both of hers for 6 months which I find interesting.
I was asked at booking in app if I was planning to bf and agreed for a bf support worker to contact me before the birth to meet up. the support for it around here sounds great. there's also a bf support group at the children's centre by my house!

Amnio on the 30th roxvox I can't say I'm looking forward to it.

roofio my boobs are tiny and I'm a 32E. I'd been weatin a 38B for years til I had a proper fitting at Bravissimo.

mon I am the same! I was wearing a 38d and it turned out i was a 38f lol I am a g atm!!

Hi everyone,
sorry for not posting for a while, I've been crazy busy.

Welcome to the newbies and sorry for those who are still feeling crappy

Got my date for 20 weeks, 24th May, can't wait! We've decided not to find out the sex but can't wait to hear from all of you who find out Will be interesting to see what a mix of sexes we've got and whether any of the old wives tales are right!!
I've also, finally got round to uploading my 1st scan photo, so you should be able to see my lazy baby, laying face down, bum in the air and wiggling his or her hands.
I'm hoping to breastfeed but will supplement with formula, especially at night, as my family seem to produce very hungry babies!!
I've got a proper little bump now (I'm 14w5d) and managed to get a couple of lovely maternity bit in H&M and Asda yesterday for my holiday.

I'm looking into doing an NCT antenatal course. Its £179 and wondering if anyone can recommend them because I really want to do it but keep thinking about how many nappies £179 will buy lol

MON......I hope everything goes well for you at your amnio. I had one at 18 weeks with my 2nd pregnancy and my ds is now a very healthy 12 year old. Waiting for the first 48 hours to pass was awful......I was sure that every twinge was me losing the baby. Once I got past the "dangerous" first 48 hours, I was able to relax a bit more. I can still remember the phone call very clearly when I got the all clear......I cried.

Boob size really doesn't seem to be a factor in breast feeding........I am only a 34b and successfully breast fed my 3 babies and there was loads of milk. Expressing was quick and easy because of the amount of milk I had.

My 16 week check with the midwife is on may 8th when I'll be 18 weeks exactly. My 20 week scan will be on may 23rd when I'll be 20+1.

When my sister had her first and was having trouble breastfeeding a midwife actually laughed and said to her "No wonder you can't feed your baby with those tiny little things". I think in her shoes I may have slapped her and blamed my hormones.

Agreed, boob size is nothing to do with breastfeeding!! I and my mum have ickle boobs (32A) - i bf DD until she was 2 and my mum bf 4 children until 2 (obviously, exclusively for only 6 months). It does need to be properly taught though (which it's not) and it is all about proper "technique" (latching, recognising that in early weeks you need to be feeding VERY often, ie waking baby up, to establish milk supply etc). It is actually very very rare for a woman to be biologically incapable of exclusively breastfeeding (otherwise the human race would have died out long ago), but because NHS do such a cack handed job at helping people, lots don't manage who would with the right support. The NHS are doubly crap as they tend to REALLY pile the pressure and guilt on (after I had DD, one woman on the post natal ward was heading home and choosing not to breastfeed, and I overheard two midwives having a sit down chat with her saying (I quote) "that's fine but you need to understand that you are not choosing the best thing for your baby - you are deliberately choosing a more harmful path.."!!!!). Which is why people end up feeling so guilty about not managing. I love NHS for emergency maternal care, but this is a huge failure!!! And women end up feeling shit over it!

Sorry, rant over!!!

I still can't get over how the midwives were with the poor woman I overheard... She had just given birth!!

Oh, and 16 week check with the midwife this afternoon,
.... Nervous as ever! I'm actually 16.3 now.... And have a huge bump! To be expected with twins I hope!