November 2013 - Thread 3 - The Loo Huggers and Crisp Lickers!

[MummaPanda]

Thread 3 already? We talk too much!!

Hi all, bit nervous today. Am 8+4 today which is the point I started miscarrying last time. Feel very nauseous and have to keep lying down (being a bit pathetic? Moi?!) just want to get through this week and see if I can start to feel abit more positive.

Am very jealous of those reaching 10 weeks - congrats!!!

Hispanish very normal to feel worried but all the signs you have are very positive. Are you able to get some rest and lie-down time today?

Morning everyone - welcome to the newbies.

I'm 9weeks today and not feeling so great! Maybe it was that waste egg I had for breakfast yesterday lol.

I'm also not needing to pee so much but didn't realise why so thanks Suffolk! Hope your sickness keeps going away

Easter egg not waste egg lol

Everyone has angry days so don't worry about that!

suffolk I am starting to be able to feel my hard little uterus emerging too! Exciting!!!

And totally with you on the MLU, no way I'm being strapped down this time either! I want to be splishy splashying around in a lovely birthing pool.
plus dh wants the comfier chairs

suffolk I'd put money on it being the ventouse...I think you are talking perfect sense and that a lot of the time (based on my experiences and talking to other women/midwives (my sister is a mw), the decision to place under consultant care is often a knee jerk one and not based on evidence. Current research (sorry,know I being a bit yawney harping on about research) suggests decisions to place as 'high risk' should be personalised and not made following a check-list, so they should really talk to you before they make a decision.

Bmi readings can be a load of cack and I'd never go solely by those no matter what anybody says!

I got weighed by the hospital last week and told I was 3kgs heavier than I thought. Err would that be the fact I had clothes, boots and a coat on plus I'd had 3 meals?! I argued with her that I'd been monitoring my weight for several months so I knew what I weighed but she was so bloody nasty that I burst into tears. I know I'm sensitive about weight but that wasn't the way to approach a hormonal woman!

I'm hoping for a water birth too!

hes literally just msged me with a cheery 'hiya' ! wat a flaming cheek! he made it so obvs he was blatantly ignoring me... now that my sister asks me wats up suddenly he acts like everythings all gravy!!? i dont bloody think so ! hes got serious grovelling to do. im so bloody angry
sorry for spoiling our fred with my rants i just needed to vent.

im starting to feel a tiny bump cropping up out over my pelvis too i feel so sick and headachey this morning im sure insomnia didnt help x

Honey - men seriously are from another planet lol

cor dont i no it

Question for those who've had babies before. My friend has just had her daughter a few weeks ago - horrendous birth etc. they're home about 10 days and I've been round once to take her a present. I didn't stay as she looked knackered.

I know she's got her hands full with a new baby but how often do I keep contact with her? I message her a few times a week to ask how she is and if I can do anything but she rarely replies so I don't know whether to stop or not? I know she's way too busy but I don't want to drop contact and make her feel I don't care. Seriously over thinking this but we've had a rocky relationship in the past so just trying to do the right thing

She's dealing wit a lot FAIRY visitors, new baby, DH off work etc Once he goes back she may need friends again. I'd drop a nice meal she can shove in the oven and a card telling her you don't want to pester and you're there when she needs you. Those first few weeks are an emotional roller coaster.

Doesn't help that her husband is a total twat (he hates me lol) and I know she's doing everything herself. He goes back to work shortly so I'll see how things are then.

There's a fine line between being supportive and being either overbearing or aloof so just keen to try and get it right.

suffolk that sounds exactly like my labour with dd! My waters broke first, so I had constant baby monitoring, blood pressure checked like every hour, antibiotics for high risk infection, pitocin when contractions slowed down, she turned back to back when waters broke too. 39hrs!! No way I'm having a birth like that again.

Also BMI is not an accurate way to assess if someone is a healthy weight, it doesn't take into account muscle mass or boob size its strictly height vs weight.

Thank you Harverina. what are you studying at uni? My dating scan is booked for Tuesday 23 April, but I need to change it...as I have uni and as its my last semester I can't really miss too much :/ I'm doing a BSc in Ecology & Conservation.

As for maternity wear, I have already bought jeans but they fall down on me from H&m I got a 16 instead of 14. But nothing normal fits and I've already had to buy new bras!!! Kind of worried as I showed early with number three but nothing like this!

Suffolk - I'm CLC this time because DS was forceps delivery. I really wanted to be in the MLU this time too :(

Fairy - I found the first few weeks so hard last time after a horrid birth. To be honest I didn't talk to many of my friends because I was worried about not thinking what I should be thinking and not wanting them to think I was a bad mum. Sounds silly now as I write it but I worried if people watched me feed/change/hold DS that I wasn't doing it right. Just give her some time and keep on texting, she'll pick up a bit in a few weeks

fairy if she had a horrendous birth she may be feeling exhausted and also very physically uncomfortable. I also agree with louby that I was worried I wasn't doing things right. and also our house was a state and I was in too much pain to sort it and DH just seemed oblivious [grr] and in addition we had the in laws around loads and they would just talk and talk and talk and never think to help out so we were shattered! keep texting and ask every now and then (but not too often!) and I am sure she will let you know when she is ready.

suffolk and louby it's very strange you are CLC if ventouse is the reason. DD is born with episiotomy and ventouse but midwife at checking in even suggests a home birth for me! My antenatal care will be midwife led. But my nearest hospital doesn't have a MLU. Though I'm tempted to drive slightly further to the one that has it. I'm 30 min from either anyway. I don't want home birth as I'm scared the baby will be stuck again. But my midwife said it should come out easily this time, implying I am all loosen down there now!

spanish I'm feeling very nervous too. I'm 10+1 today but i haven't had a scan or heard a heart beat.

OneLittle - that's interesting, I'm going to mention that to the midwife then and see what she says because I'd love to be in the MLU again. My labour was fine up until that point. It seems different areas have their own cut off points, I noticed that for MLU the bmi cut off is 30 where I live but 35 where my friend lives.