October 2013: scans and starting to show!

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Will this one take us through to the end of the first trimester? Will the sickness ever end? Will we be able to judge genders from those first scan pictures? These and many other mysteries to be solved in... THREAD 4

I should point out that I had it really quite bad this time... To the extent that I had ulcers form down there (which were just horrendously painful, especially when weeing). Applying the cream every time I went to the loo cleared it up within a week.

Sorry if TMI, but I thought best to be honest!

Thanks roxvox I've made a docs appt for tonight now so hopefully they should get it sorted. One of my friends told me that drinking probiotic drinks helps too because it gets lots of good bacteria in your system (I got mine after a course of antibiotics which wiped all te good bacteria out, sigh).

Blimey. Away for a few days and there's another thread with 13 pages. Sorry, haven't read through all the posts yet so I apologise for not replying to everyone.
Off work with a migraine today :( been sick 3 times and paracetamol really isn't cutting the mustard.

Do not use tampons in pregnancy. Pretty important! However you could def use the tool thing (what the hells it called? Haha) to insert natural yogurt... Also, washing knickers and towels at 60 and ironing the crotch as it lives through washing and you can keep reinfecting.

Been to the drs this morning too - drs are busy with us oct ladies- I've been diagnosed with SPD :'( Last time I got to 20+ weeks and was not signed off work until 25 weeks! So very early onset this time.

The dr was very thorough asking how am I generally, am I sick etc I said yes, she recomended the age old ginger but also interestingly almonds and almond milk, something to do with the bits and good fats they contain help reduce MS. Anything is worth a try!

Good luck with scans today, MotherShips!

Tarlia, did they recommend anything for the SPD? I just called Physio as shoved a box to side with my foot and that old familiar pain is back. Was in crutches at 25 weeks last time and really hoped to avoid it this time round. Hoping she calls back soon

Thanks, Tarlia, I thought there was something about tampons in pregnancy. Good idea to use the pessary inserter thingy to get yogurt up there though!

Thanks also for the tip re: milk and almonds. I'm drinking more milk than usual, but not sure if it's helping my MS.

Someone on the thread mentioned the ITV documentary about homebirthing... it's on tonight for anyone who is interested home delivery

I'd love a home birth, but I'm too scared in case something goes wrong. It kind of scares me on One Born when they move them so fast if something bad happens. It'd take 20 mins to get to the nearest hospital for me.

I really hate hospitals though, they make me so anxious, so I doubt a birth experience in one would be very relaxed for me. I also don't like the idea of waiting around on a ward for hours before getting a birthing room.

I'm currently in bed struggling quite a lot with my bad back, it's getting quite uncomfortable now and I other than lying down every other position seems to make it worse!!

It's such a personal choice, isn't it. So many different factors to weight up. I know the place of birth study found slightly worse outcomes for homebirths with first time mums, but it does vary massively. In my area the stats are good, partly because they are keen on homebirth so midwives tend to have much more experience with it.

Personally, if possible I want to be at home for all of it, but if I have to transfer the hospital is only 2 miles away, so it feels OK. I also have quite a few friends who have had HBs, and there's a local HB support group too.

Are there any midwife led units near you, Smitten? That might be a good option if you don't like hospitals? Although the only pain control/interventions available are the same as homebirths I believe.

I'm hoping for a home birth this time, I panicked last time on the journey into hospital and forgot all my natal hypnotherapy, breathing etc that I'd been doing at home so fingers crossed for me this time! Still managed on just gas and air, will hire a birth pool for this labour if all goes to plan.

Do you have any book/CD recommendations for natal hypnotherapy, Rockchick? Is it different to hypnobirthing?

I'm thinking of maybe The Rosie maternity unit in Cambridge other than that there's the Lister in Stevenage that I'm currently under, but I haven't heard great things about that despite it just undergoing some massive regeneration.

I'm going to look into it more as I go on, but i think I might try for The Rosie as I know quite a few people who have given birth there and have said they were amazing.

However, my best friend had a homebirth and said it was fine and nice to be at home and in control.

I hate being given drugs for anything, so I'm not so worried about having to tough it out. I just can't bear anything that makes me feel not with it, I don't even drink because of it, it makes me very anxious (control freak). I'll probably be mocking myself about this when the pain hits - ha ha!

I'm the same, Smitten--hate feeling out of control (think birth might be a lesson in that!) and I think I'll be far more comfortable at home. You could always discuss it with a midwife, see what their view is? Also, tons of good books etc to help. I've ordered Birth Skills: Proven pain-management techniques for your labour and birth by Juju Sundin after I saw it recommended on here.

Just had a look at the Rosie birth centre, Smitten--looks really nice, and it's next to the maternity unit if you needed to be transferred?

I'll check that book out. I think I'm going to sign up for hypnobirthing too, although I'll probably be like rockchick and forget it all in a panic!

Hi, this is only the 2nd time I've been on here! But my 12 weeks scan is also on Tues 26th! :)

Not told anyone at work yet, so my excuse for leaving is my DD's Y10 GCSE options meeting..!

Hope it goes ok, I'm quite anxious to know that all is well- sounds odd but I don't feel as physically/emotionally drained as I expected to, if that makes sense??

Anyway, not long now; seem to have been pregnant for ever, cos we've known from day one...! Can't come soon enough.

Hope everyone is ok x

I wouldn't be allowed a home birth due to high bmi so I'm classed as high risk despite having a complication free delivery last time but tbh I'm not bothered although I feel I would have liked to try a water birth maybe but that also isn't an option for me :-(

Are you not allowed a water birth if you have a high BMI Natalie?

Apparently not smitten as its a risk to staff if there are complications and they need too lift you out xxx

Whaaaaaat? That's ridiculous!!

It may vary per NHS trust so don't automatically rule it out (that's assuming u have bmi) excuse me if I'm getting it wrong lol. But yeh basically my only option is on a bed lol nice to have choices about how u give birth isn't it - not

Jellycurls just the usual, keep legs glued together, pillow between legs when resting, no standing on one leg, not lifting etc Then physio and pregnancy water exercise classes. Eeekkk and no pushing boxes with one leg oooouch, poor thing.

Flyer I'm sorry you are suffering :( Do you usually have back problems? Is it on your pubic bone too?

It's specifically Almond milk not cows milk, something to do with what's in the nut again.

Oh and the thought of a homebirth fills me with fear, so much so I'm considering a elective CS this time. My labour from gel (no drip) to baby was 3 hours, I was in hospital, but they didn't believe it was active labour until my body began pushing of its own accord haha. No pain relief only oxygen 'for the baby'.
Funny how we are all so different - even before my labour I couldnt imagine even considering a homebirth.

Oh dear tarlia have you been signed off already? I think SPD is coming my way although will talk to the doc properly next wee. I have a problematic back at the best of times and its already hurting like he'll in the evenings.

flyer so sorry to hear yours has confined you to the bed where abouts does it hurt? Pillow between legs liketarlia says helps me but we only have 2 pillows so DH has been pillow less and I've been nicking his!

It's less than 24 hours until I see my baby!!!!

I'm happy to have them readying the epidural whilst we park the car, so no home birth here I don't think! Haha

My lovely MW friend came over to take some blood this arvo (after organising an early scan and listening to my meltdown earlier) and she brought her Doppler with her. She did warn me that it was very very early (10+5) to be hearing anything, but she'd have a go to try and put my mind at ease between now and Tuesdays scan. Well, we heard a little something going like the clappers for 2 seconds then lost it again but the machine could pick it up doing 132-154 beats per minute then we could hear it moving about (like a sloshing noise). So although it wasn't particularly clear, she did say that everything seems ok and hopefully the early scan (it's not that early at 11+3) will confirm it. Phew!!