June 2013 - thread 5

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Morning all, I am definitely having the same problems do not worry! Between sicky burps and being trumpet trousers my Dh must think I've been possessed! Managed to fool him into thinking I was a lady for the last few years, the truth has definitely come out now!

It has felt like baby has been having a little spring clean of her 'house' this morning, she hasn't stopped moving, I think she's dusted and the left and hoovered the right, then tried to knock out a few of my ribs to make more room! I love waking up to her!

Is anyone thinking of trying raspberry leaf tea? I bumped into a lady buying some to bring on her labour yesterday so read about it on line and it says to start drinking from 32 weeks. Just wondering if it something I should think about about or whether it's best to leave my body pick its own course for the first pregnancy?

Sending sympathy hugs to everyone feeling unwell, there is a nasty cold going around so keep warm. Xx

I've had that feeling too, City...think Baby B keeps building an extension! He was rummaging loads today.

And I've given up any pretence of being a lady :-/

Not sure about raspberry leaf. Would need to read up on it. Wouldn't want to bring anything on early!

I remember my sister drinking a lot of raspberry tea. She wasnt convinced it worked esp since all 3 of hers were overdue.

I've not tried raspberry leaf tea but I heard it tones your uterus so the contractions when they turn up are more efficient. And that it tastes nicer iced than hot.

Sooo...does anyone else feel like they have internal bruising from the amount of kicking going on?

I'm also utterly exhausted as I'm being kicked almost all night. :-/

Midwife tomorrow. Need to know how to get her to agree I should finish work now. My sister said tears would help. I can cry without effort these days, so I can manage that. Feeling very stressed again today.

And new symptom today: heartburn. Suppose it's the logical next step after sicky burps though!

mrsbri I think tears are always a good back up plan! And I don't think you'll get much of a problem I would imagine she'll support you. anxiety/stress with long commutes and everything else I would thunk she'd agree your being very sensible.

I've my MW tomorrow as well - I now have the classic symptoms of SPD and suffering. Each time I try to move I get searing pain through my pelvis, I am following all the advice I was given by physio about legs together at all times, carefully moving in and out of the car, working very hard at encouraging toddler to climb rather than need to be lifted. Only thing that helps is a warm bath! I'm also under siege from Braxton Hicks!

I drank gallons of rasberry leaf tea when pg 1st time, I don't know if it made any difference at all, I did have a very fast labour but it didn't make her come earlier! I was very very overdue and fed up and just kept swigging the tea.

Also I saw people mention BIG pants, but I cannot find them in our M&S, been on the website to find big black knickers and everything seems to have 'support' which I suspect I would find uncomfy?

There was a discussion last week about expressing and BFing, we quite literally went to hell and back but got there in the end with DC#1 who was in a coma for a week as a baby and tube fed to begin with. Looking back had I given up I would probably have fallen into the pit of PND which I was already hovering on the edge of, but I may have bonded sooner with her. However continuing was hard hard work, and it was gut bloody determination which got us through. Long term it worked out best for DD as she has multiple digestive issues and when she was very sick in hospital just before her 1st birthday breastmilk was the only thing which kept her off an IV drip. These are the best resources which I used in case people want to read any more or have something to flick back too, I would say however that they mostly agree supply is established at around 6 weeks, major expressing or replacing feeds before then IMHO might cause a few issues if you want to feed longer term, esp around growth spurts, and also be careful of mastitis - very very horrid (had it) - and also tis all very well getting bottles to mix feed but you may well find your baby has other ideas

Book: The Food of Love
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Support Line: Breastfeeding Support Network - godsend

DontmindifiDo YY with bells on to suddenly realising how little I can do - started to set myself a job a day towards baby bump which if I complete it then its a bloody miracle. Thats on top of work, toddler, house renovation and general drudgery. Oh and SPD

sorry girls - DH is out and I guess I got into the essay mindset!

Mrs Bri, do you need to get the midwife to sign you off sick? If she doesn't (and I think she most likely will when you explain how you are feeling) then I would just start your mat leave sooner than you planned. It's not worth making yourself ill over work , certainly not when you have yourself and baby to think about. Xxx

I don't want to be signed off as I can't afford to only get SSP...I work for a tight company!

I want to start my annual leave now, with my SMP to follow in 4 weeks' time. But work would prefer me to stay on and wouldn't agree to it last week, annoyingly. They want me to hand over, but it isn't like there's anything I do that other people can't do. Or should be able to if they had paid attention when I've previously tried to tell them how!

Be good for them to work out how much I do and how overworked I've been for weeks on end.

Red, I hear you re SPD. I finally got a physio appt last week and she recommended supportive pants/cycling shorts/Spanx type things to keep everything together around the pelvis. I don't fancy my chances of getting into my cycling shorts at the moment, but pants with some support do feel good. I also saw a craniosacral therapist last week, and am feeling much better ( though being off work on hols all of last week may also have played a part in that!).
Thanks for the BF/expressing info.

That's so helpful about bf redwelly. Thanks for the links. Can I ask if anyone's got a bit more advice about SPD? I haven't been suffering as such but finding things harder now and would like to follow any recommended postures/tips like the knees together one!

Fingers crossed for you MrsBri

Pregnant plus cycling shorts?! I don't think I could rock that look!!

I hope you both find some relief soon. It sounds awful...makes my bump ache when walking even a short distance seem minor.

Oh, weirdly work said I could hand over from home...not sure how that works!

Thank you for your support. xx

Ah, I understand. Sorry work are being so arsey.
I thought they just had to accept what you choose in terms of when you want to stop. Good luck tomorrow

Forget, with SPD you should not try to push yourself through the pain. You should adapt your movements where possible; ie sit down to put on trousers etc so you don't have the pain of standing on one leg. Also, swivel to the side when getting out of a car so your legs stay close together. In bed, put a cushion between your thighs for support and when getting out of bed push yourself upright with your arms, keep your legs parallel and swing them onto the floor together from a seated posture.

Same tips I had from physio and I have been doing them religiously - but even walking is triggering pain and also combined with BH its causing a few issues. I am sure overdoing it last week travelling didn't help, but I do have a very active toddler, and with the best will in the world DH can only do so much. I have 8 weeks to go till baby is here and will now finish a week earlier than originally planned.

MrsBri can your work do that? I thought with maternity they had to let you pick your own terms as long as it's not more than 11 weeks in advance? Might have the wrong end of the stick though...

I'm not sure, to be honest...for financial purposes it would make more sense to carry on.

For my mental health I'm not sure.

I may see what the midwife says and what work can offer me.

Maybe negotiate carrying on from home for just a couple more weeks, then finish slightly earlier.

I don't know what to do for the best.

Thanks sunbeam and redwelly - really helpful :)

I think all you can do it play it by ear, if you can afford to finish earlier then do but if now then make whatever modifications ypu can to work as long as you are able.

If your MW is kept up to date with how you are feeling then she will be able to help I am sure as and when you need to stop. My commute is 45min a day aleach way so nothing compared to yours and yet I am eternally glad I only have two four day week until I finish with the rest three day weeks.

Trust your body and your instincts.

If I can reschedule a meeting with the training principal I'm meant to be having on Friday and won't be ready for, I could probably carry on a bit longer...I'll see about doing that and just working from home.

It's just so wearing when they pile me with work, but hopefully that can change.

Morning all

Hope you manage to get sorted MrsBri and find a solution you're happy with.

My cough finally seems to be on the way out and I slept well for the first night in about a fortnight last night .

Been away for the weekend visiting friends and picking up baby stuff from all over the country, so starting to feel a little more organised, although the house is now in chaos! Loads of washing to do, but it's mainly cute little girly baby clothes!

Week off this week, mainly just with DS1 so hopefully I will get some rest!

Hope everyone feeling better today.

We've got our first ante natal classes today. Its the NHS ones today but i'm also signed up to the NCT ones in a few weeks - cant be too prepared. Has anyone else started theirs yet?

We're off to Barra tomorrow until Sunday which is really exciting with a cottage just 20 mins walk from the beach with white white sands. Lovely!

Happy Monday everyone!
Sunny I am half way through my nct ones. We are doing it over 8 evenings. Doing the 1 day nhs one in may too. As nct finishes in April we thought the nhs one would be good refresher, and they might mention more specific points about the actual hospital.
I've got a busy few weeks coming up that I'm dreading. I'm exhausted at the thought of it! I'm 30 weeks this week, can't believe it!!