Graduated Elderberries (thread 2)

[Cavort]

Oops, seems we ran out of room without noticing!

Oh no! That's terrible news about Merkin
Interesting to hear that about breast stroke though as swimming is my only form of exercise at the moment and I've got pgp. I had this idea that swimming would be better for me than doing absolutely nothing but breast stroke is the only one I can really do (I'm really not very good swimmer) so I wonder if I'm actually making it worse? Will ask the midwife on Thursday.

Oh, that's a bugger for Merkin Although I had a whole day of AF style bleeding and a few hours of brown spotting a few days later before I got my BFP, so the fat lady might not have sung if her temperature is still up. Fingers crossed for her.

Poor Merkin :(

I also went thru an early mc/cp which was awful, but caught properly very next cycle (or, if the scan dates are to be believed, within about a week of the mc).

Fingers crossed for her.

Poor Merkin, fx it works for her the same way it did for me and Brave.

On another note, apparently it's International Happiness Day.

So, thought I'd share this with my fellow elderberries. I think it could apply to any of us by the looks of it?!

Oddly I dreamt about you all last night. hazle you had a figure like Jennifer Ennis and I was incredibly jealous. cavort you told me off as I kept using your other defunct MN name by mistake, and every time someone correctly called you cavort you did a cartwheel. To be honest, you were slightly nuts Anyway, we all went on a picnic, twas nice. Oddly, I didn't notice any of you being pregnant and I think we were all drinking wine....

haha I'll try to post a photo later, so all of you who picture me as some kind of Miss Fitness will get the idea out of your heads. In your next dream, I'll appear as a walrus.

Not at all Hazle... unless you have a serious tusk problem

Btw I hadn't realised that you also had a cp before. Sorry to hear that. My experience was awful, hence my utter reluctance to test even when I was 17-18 dpo! Still, I like to see it as Baby Bear was given an extra comfy home, hence why they got all snuggly

Apparently, it's incredibly common -not that that makes anyone feel any better.

Yes, had it at about 6 weeks last september and got pregnant immediately after. Luckily didn't find it too traumatic, as it was so early and I knew what the chances were - they estimate that up to 75% of pregnancies will end up in cp or mc. Most people only know about the cp because we're so eager to test as soon as possible, otherwise would think AF is a bit late.

It is all waay too common. I had a mmc that was discovered at 12 weeks before too. It was horrible, but I do think that in a strange way it makes the annoyances of pregnancy easier to cope with. Or maybe I just tell myself that to cheer myself up!
I think when you count up how many of us have been through it you realise how bloody common it is. I still think frequently of quod - we got pg in the same cycle and had the same LMP date, so were due on the same date. We had our 12 week scans on the same date too - Christmas eve - but hers showed she'd had a mmc. I honestly think of her every few days, really hope she's coping OK, and that all works out for her next time, should she choose to try again.

God poor quod - and you Janey I can imagine a mmc being one of the worst types. Mine was just before 6 weeks and spontaneous, but was devastated nonetheless (which surprised me). I had only just got over it (ie started coping with it) when I found out I was pregnant again.

So this is a cheery thread for international happiness day... Yeah, it was pretty bad emotionally and physically at that stage, but with time it becomes easier. And now I'm pregnant again I feel finally 'over' it, as you say. Really do hope quod's doing ok - the first few months after were a bit of an emotional blur.

Brave - I'm not sure you were in my dream, but cavort brought a cuddly soft toy bear with her to the picnic - do you think that was you?!

Lol - that was me

I am bear what likes to be cuddled! Tho I'm not as evil as the pink bear in Toy Story 3 who declares 'I'm a hugger' but is really actually very mean.

Least I hope that's not me...

Janey, I often think about Quod too and wonder how she's doing. Sorry to all of you who have had a MC/CP, I know that so far I have been incredibly lucky, I do have a weird sense of something a little like 'survivors guilt' about it though, as though it has been too easy and I don't deserve it. Silly but true!

Ha, don't be silly purple! Thankfully, despite the risks being high, it's still more likely for you to have a healthy pregnancy than a MC, so it's not obligatory. And we're all lucky ones having got to where we've got to now... I'm sure all the undergrads would agree.

Oh and brave the bear was brown, so I don't think that's you

Hi, I just got my first BFP on Sunday after 15 months ttc (woop!) It's really early days and I'm addicted to POAS at the moment to check it's still positive, but hopefully I can get comfy here and stick around

Welcome Alexandra! We're always glad to have a new graduate, have some ice cream, we're all quite fond of ice cream this week and I'm willing to share

And Janey, I know it's silly but I got so much 'good natured' shit from people about getting pregnant quickly which I can see is annoying but is hardly my fault because NONE of us know how long it's going to take until we try that I think it gave me a bit of a guilt complex. It took me until about 16 weeks to start to get over it and even now I have the odd panic about it all!

Welcome Alexandra!

Hi Alexandra

I'm going to 'fess up here. I know Alexandra from real life! She's one of my very best chums in the whole world, and just got her well deserved BFP after 15 long months of trying. I recommended the elderberry thread to her, as they're lovely gals, and as soon as she did she immediately got her long overdue BFP. So here she is (and hope you don't mind me sharing Alex!)

Unluckily for her I've been sharing all the gory details of my pg so far with her, so I'll continue to be just as gross honest with you all here!

And alex - step away from the sticks...! And don't mention babydust or you'll be booted off before you know it

Cross post!

purple - fuck them. No-one knows how easy or hard it will be, how long it will take, how easy or hard their pregnancy will be. But it's not some kind of reverse competition and I for one am delighted for anyone who falls pg - whether it's taken them a month or a year. So don't feel guilty

Urgh babydust, cringe

Hi purple and hazle Thanks for the ice cream, like this thread already!

I just had another pregnancy bonding moment here. Meeting at work, never seen those people before (all men), first we discussed the business and then we discussed my pregnancy. Nice in a way but..a bit odd, wouldn't you think? A belly certainly makes you public property.

Ha, hilarious hazle. Was it officially added onto the agenda as an item of discussion?!

My boss made reference yesterday to taking me off a project (to be fair, will be ongoing for a year so I won't be the best person to do it!) and said he'd imagine I was losing interest in work already. Nice. Kind of true - but surely he shouldn't say that!?

Thanks Janey I know that in the RATIONAL part of my mind but my hormones sometimes have other ideas!

It is funny isn't it Hazle, I go to a few parent and toddler type groups as part of my work and I find now there's a lot more of them chatting about my pregnancy and offering me advice than me chatting to them and offering them advice...and I'm supposed to be there as a professional!

Speaking of work, yesterday my boss (who obviously has no idea yet) was talking about a show we'll be working on towards the end of the year and how we'll be "run off our feet" around the event for five days - I was thinking I won't be running very fast with my big bump haha! Am trying to subtly convince her we might need some part time help for the show!