July 2013 - thread 5 - baby kicks and scan pics, we're halfway there!

[dinkystinky]

New thread to natter on. Will go find the due date thread to link on in a tick...

I remember saying to anyone who would listen when ds was born (june 2011) that I wouldnt be heavily pregnant again during summer. Obviously listened to myself...

Photo I'm in the same boat: 18+4 and still no movement. Everyone I've spoken to has been very reassuring so I'm trying (and failing!) not to freak out!

Flying - sending you guys our thoughts & hugs. You sound amazingly strong to be able to tell us about it so clearly. Hope you're gettinglotsof support & love x

Photographer - i didn't feel anything until about 23 weeks with DD, i think the books are a bit optimistic if it's your first - like due dates, i think they should give you a big old 'window', instead of an 'average' number of weeks! You'll know it when you feel it :)

Butterfly & China - welcome :0)

All ok here. 17+6. Haven't checked the board for a while, but have loved catching up on everyone's news tonight.
We finally orded the Oyster Max after it came in to our local nursery shop & both me & DH loved it. We didn't think we wanted a tandem buggy, but thereyou go! Does anyone know what the waiting list is on these? i want to get DD in it right away so I can get used to it :)

Very funny - DS1 was born April 2006 just as the heatwave started. He spent his first few months in just vests and nappies, bless him. Mind you that was the last baking summer I can remember. We definitely used the cardis hats etc for ds2 in summer 2009!

The Baby Show was the one in London, was pretty huge and disappointed I didn't come across the huge adult bouncer! But got a mothercare playmat for £20 which was a £25 discount. Also bought a pushchair and a cot which was not planned but too good a deal to miss! I think the show is on in Birmingham too in May.

DH saw the giant bouncer and said a woman was struggling to get out of it! Haha!

mightbe and photo apol's can't remember but is this your first baby? If so please don't worry about not feeling baby move. Most women don't feel their first baby until sometime after 20weeks. Unless of course they are mistaking a little wind for movement or are just competitive about how soon they felt it!!! [Grin] Also if you have an anterior placenta you'll feel much later too.

mightbe and photo if it's any consolation I'm still not convinced that what I'm feeling isn't just gas and my own heartbeat! Can't wait to know for sure that it's baby...

19+5

I dont think I felt my ds (first baby) till after 20 weeks, and I didnt have an anterior placenta. And remember everyone asking me daily if I had felt movement yet and getting really stressed about it! This time I have (probably imagined) felt movements very early on. Maybe its like bumpsize (mine is enormous) everyone is different.

Thanks orange, esme and guavas. It's my second. Felt my first from 15 weeks and by this stage could see the kicks distorting my tummy from the outside (she was a veryactive baby!!). I do have an anterior placenta with this one so hoping that accounts for the difference, but it doesn't help that I was already a bit concerned by how little (ie not at all) this bean was moving at each of the three scans we've had so far. Only 8 days til scan day...

I think it was princess I think most co sleeper cots have lots of height positions to match it up with your own mattress. The one we bought from infantastic certainly does. With dd1 when we just used a basic cot and took a side off, it had 3 height positions and luckily the middle one was right for us.

photographer and mightbe do you think you're feeling flutters but not recognising them. I sometimes get mine confused with hunger and don't know whether to feel happy or eat. I usually go for eating
Speaking of which my bump is now appearing accompanied by some disconcerting surrounding wobble. I would like to look like I'm storing a neat little melon under my clothes but it looks more like a rubber ring. [shock I heard that if you carry weight more around than up front its a sign its a girl. Is that just a myth?

Cheek - i have always carried up front ( put it down to short body) and have 2 boys. More to do with body shape than sex of child ime.

Haven't had a chance to read everything yet but just wanted to telling Flying I'm thinking of you and sending you many hugs

cheek I do hope it's missed flutters as really I feel like there hasn't been anything.

Last night was my first night of leg pain. I was up and down all night. No cramps but between the sore legs and weird dreams I was up all night.

Aww that post makes me sound so moany. I'm sofa napping to make up for my bad night sleep. Hopefully the lack of movement will be put to rest next Monday at my scan. Have a great Sunday everyone.

I don't think you sound moany, photographer. Anyway, it's good to vent our frustrations on here a bit to avoid being moany IRL.

Is anyone else unable to relax about their pregnancy despite nothing to suggest that there's anything wrong? I seem to have a constant feeling of vague unease and I'm starting to get anxious about what will happen at the scan next week. I was worried before the dating scan too. I'm a natural pessimist, but I'd really like to be able to just relax and enjoy this pregnancy. I think the fact that it took so long to get pregnant doesn't help either.

egg I totally understand your feelings about not being able to relax. I've been waiting nearly 4 years for this baby and despite all the trauma we've had i feel I'm pushing my luck with wanting dc2 as we have many friends unable to have dc1. I still check the heartbeat everyday with my Doppler despite feeling beanie moving and am just expecting there to be complications at some point. Dh tries very hard to reassure me, even looking up stats on the Internet, sometimes it helps a bit.

I am also a bit nervous, despite no reason to be. Relaxed a little after anomaly scan went well. It took me a year to get pregnant with ds. Not uncommon I know, but I kind of expected it to take a bit of time second time. So when I got pregnant first month of trying it has taken a while to believe it. With ds I worried a bit less the further along I got. Of course then I had him and started worrying full on again!

egg I'm so uneasy too, TTC for three years and this was my first ever pregnancy so even though I am not as terrified as my 12 week scan I can't help to still be so nervous.

To be honest I think its normal to be apprehensive in pregnancy - whether its your first or fourteenth - as each pregnancy is different but you still keep comparing it to what the books say, your friends (real and invisible via mn) say and previous experiences.

Photographer - hope you got some rest today and your legs are OK.

Yep, very apprehensive here too! I'm sure I'll get some relief from that if the scan is good (about an hour's worth )

Glad to hear I'm not the only one! (although, obviously I'd be happier if none of us were apprehensive at all)
I think working in a hospital doesn't help. You get a bit of a warped view of what life is like, because you see sick people all the time and forget about all of the healthy people out in the real world. I think it's easy to lose sight of what a small proportion of the population are ever really unwell.

Thank you dinky and everyone else. I know need to just take things at it comes but like many things in a first pregnancy I don't know how I'm meant to feel or how to reassure myself. I know the hormones don't help but I hate to say it but find abit of comfort to know I am not alone.