May 2013 - celebrating our entry into the 3rd trimester and an early arrival!

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10 Any news on you and Seb.We haven't heard from you in a while hope all is going well.

Maybe I wouldn't worry at all about scans.I personally have never really had more than the two standard.However,a couple of friends have needed loads one of my friends needing one a week and all has been fine.I don't think they would do them of any risk.I guess the reasons for the scans would usually outweigh the risk(if any) of a scan IYSWIM.

I forgot to mention we went to look at our wedding reception venue yesterday which has been refurbed.We absolutely loved it.The venue was lovely before but we are both so pleased now.Its hard as MIL keeps throwing wedding questions at me and of course I'm excited but the baby is my only thought at the moment.

In other news I walked out of my job on Thursday.Its s long boring story but I had a huge argument with the owners older sister at the salon.Basically she spoke to me like rubbish and I stuck up for myself.DP doesn't want me to go back but I'm not sure.

What's sex? I have gone completely off it! Doesn't help that my pelvis is causing me so much pain though! Poor DH, but he'll just have to wait!

The docs and consultants are having a meeting about MIL tomorrow, so we are hoping to get more news after that, then at least we will know what we are facing and dealing with. Yes, we are really close to IL's and to my family too - we all live close to each other, and see/speak to each other loads.

I'm not worrying about the extra scans - as they aren't aware of any side effects even though US scans have been widely used for many years now, and the reassurance is far more worth it for me.

Crikey beaut, have the owners/their sister called you to apologise at all? Well done for sticking up for yourself. At least it won't affect your MA now! Glad you love your wedding reception venue - when are you getting married?

Has anyone else's brain just turned to absolute mush? I can't remember even the most basic simple things atm - I'm just rubbish! Has been pretty bad throughout the pg, but it has stepped up (or down!!) a gear this last week or so!!!

Only 4 weeks left at work - feels like an age, but hopefully it will go quickly!

29+6 today - looking foward to being over 30 weeks tomorrow, getting lots of lovely movements, love just sitting watching my bump move around in the evenings!!!

Elly I definitely have pregnancy brain.I forgot that I asked about sex on here.But am glad I'm not the only one not having any.

No the sister hasn't apologised to me. The owner hasn't either but has asked me to go in to talk. To be honest I love the job I do but the business hasn't taken off as well as I had hoped and Ive actually earnt my lowest wage ever over this last year. Which is bad considering ive worked full time since 16.I only took 3 months maternity leave with my first. I think I may have to look into something else after I've had baby.Im thinking of either some training in another area or going mobile. It all depends on childcare as its very expensive where I live as childcare is limited so I need to find something where I'm earning a half decent wage after childcare costs are taken off.

Elly Can't begin to imagine how you feel. I too am really close to ILs. I get on better with MIL than my mum. I hope you hear some positive news at appt.

I was worried about scans maybe, but I've been worried about everything with this pg (2 mc and 2 dc with SN, one very severe disability too), but any evidence I've found that suggests that any harm is caused is when the scans are longer than 10/15 minutes so I wouldn't worry about quick medical scans. I found that out after staying up all night terrifiedly scouring through journals after we mentioned to dp's paediatrician uncle that we were thinking of getting a 4d scan and he said he was against them and asked us why we would take unnecessary risks. I think me staying up all night panicking would have caused more harm than a scan though!

Hello ladies

Elly fingers and toes crossed for MIL

roast small world

beaut Hope the job situation all works out for you

Hello to any newbies (sorry, losing track)

Re: scans - must admit it hadn't crossed my mind to worry. From my perspective, such as huge number of women have antenatal scans, and scans have been used routinely for so many years now, that I would think if they routinely caused problems a researcher somewhere would have shown a strong causative link by now (and it would have been all over the Daily Mail...!).

Had a lovely weekend. My 'surrogate mum' (lovely colleague) dropped some baby bits round, and DP picked up a fab, bargain high chair that he bought from eBay (weaning seems eons away but DP was very insisent that it was a great buy so we should get it now!). Seller threw in a baby bath and baby gym too - bonus! Also went for coffee with some local mums-to-be - great to meet some new people in the same boat

Discovered that hoovering/dusting the car can be added to the list of 'things it's difficult to do with a bump' (esp. as car is a 3-door - cue much crawling around with hoover in small spaces). At least I can advertise it now and hopefully have a nice little windfall for May...

Right, half an hour before my pointless training session on some software that the company will abandon very soon and that I won't even be here to use after April any way...

Well great, now I feel like some sort of sex fiend! :o I did read that the uterine contractions were normal but nothing on whether it's actually uncomfortable for the baby...honestly I picture her in there with a face, like, "really, you two?"

My "maternity leave" is going to be pretty casual. I used to work at the school as a SN aide but gave it up when we decided to try for #2...it was already getting to be a bit much juggling preschool schedules for DS, calling in when he was sick, etc. So now I manage a teeny tiny cinema, which is nice as it's all evening work so we don't need childcare.

Basically I'm just going to work until I can't (or until my water breaks in the lobby of the cinema, eek!) and then go back whenever I feel ready. So we'll see how that goes.

Sorry to hear about your job Beautician. Good for you for standing up for yourself!

Oh, 27+4. Where has the time gone?! On the other hand we still have a few feet of snow so I feel like spring is never coming.

'Things it's difficult to do with a bump' - running to school in the morning with DS as you're late because you spent so long trying to find a jumper that fits!

mrsmooms I'll let you know how we get on with the nappies, I've gone for fitted ones that need a waterproof wrap over the top.

wirra could you have some underlying anxiety about not having as much time for the cat once the baby arrives?

beaut good for you standing up for yourself, though people should really know better than to cross a pregnant woman! Hope you resolve something soon.

I'm not at all worried about scans tbh, there is usually a medical need which would outweigh any poosible risks like elly said. Plus there's far worse things we could do when we're pregnant, I don't smoke, avoid vitamin A, never have more than the very occasional glass of wine, and quite frankly I have more important things to worry about.

Anyone with an iPhone if you add the new Mothercare app you get £10 off a £50 spend.Plus they have a mid season sale on

Gawd I am feeling so stuffed after the smallest amount of food. Just had a hot chocolate and an apple and feel horrendous! Struggle to eat my dinner in the evenings as feel so uncomfortable afterwards. I am sooooo massive compared to last time. I need to stop putting on so much weight.

Anyone else struggling with eating? Do you have light meals in the evening?

Ng Im struggling to eat but still do(completely over indulge). Then I regret it as heartburn kicks in.

I am starting to put on a lot of weight now. Not just my bump that has gained but my thighs and calves are looking chubby

I find I'm eating about a 3rd of my meals and then sneaking the rest onto my husband's plate. Today I've only had a croissant and small microwave dinner at lunchtime. The indigestion is killing me. Not sure I'll be eating anything else today :(

I'm not eating as much, I haven't all the way through though, I'm struggling to eat as there's nothing I want. I haven't had any cravings at all, just food aversions. And I've still only put on 2lbs , not sure how as my bump is massive. Will mention it when I see GP on Weds, plus I have a scan in a couple of weeks. They didnt mention baby's size at 20 week scan or at my 3d one so I guess if baby was small they'd have said something. I should add that my pre-preg BMI was 34 so I don't need to gain loads anyway, I think between 9-20 lbs is recommended in total, and its the last few weeks we normally put on the most.

beaut did you ever mention your eating disorder to your MW? Hope you've been coping ok with it :). Thanks for the advice on the app.

I sorted through DDs first clothes today, I think we have plenty of newborn and 0-3 clothes but I need prem clothes as I got rid of some in my post-birth few weeks of definitely not wanting any more children. We're going shopping on Sunday (without the kids, bliss, I may even be able to stop for coffee in John Lewis!) so will hopefully get some then. DH is on holiday next week, he's planning on hopefully starting to fit the kitchen if the builders have finished, I may have to nag him to get on with the nursery though!

Seven No I never mentioned it.Ive never said about it really to anyone in rl so its hard.If I'm honest Ive lapsed a bit and have been bingeing and purging a little.Im still gaining weight though Im trying to be good so that I can get my weight to stabilise and then go on a good diet afterwards( I will be joining weight watchers).Im looking forward to losing weight sensibly and also the social side of the class.Plus will be a nice walk in all that sun we are going to get come May.

Thanks for asking

Evening everyone. Hope you don't mind me butting in.

I'm 28 +3 and suddenly feel and look very pregnant! Saw my midwife today who told me I am measuring large for my dates.

'What does that mean?' I asked.

'Well you don't look like you're carrying excess water', she replied, 'so it's probably just a big baby.'

wince

I'm still working and aiming at not going on maternity leave til the end of April although 10 hour shifts on my feet are becoming more and more difficult so trying to be open minded about it!

As for the sex thing, my DP won't. At all. Not since we found out I was pg. Despite several conversations about there being more than one way to skin a cat, he just won't budge. And my libido is just as rampant as it ever was so it's more than a little frustrating!

Anyway, hoping to find time to pop in here every now and then and keep up with all the gossip. Looking forward to getting to know you.

:-)

Hi C4te! :)

cheerful I had looked up the achiness after sex too - I'm a bit but I just can't get enough of shagging at the moment! It's been like that almost since my bfp....DH thinks it's Christmas but I keep telling him he may as well make the most of it as I didn't feel like it for ages after DS was born!
I even have loads of sex dreams, so have been waking DH up early and all sorts. My doc says the more endorphins the baby gets, the better

Hi C4ate and welcome back westie and catching :)

Beaut let us know how you get on with your job - sounds like she was vile to you and has some apologising to do!

I wish I didn't have as much of an appetite!! I could eat all day if I let myself, especially chocolate. Weight is definitely going on now, I've put on 1st 4lb and I reckon there's lots more to come!

30+4...

Yay! Glad to hear from a fellow sex fiend, berri.

Totally crappy day so far. Had a dreadful night, was up every hour for loo then at 3am I woke with horrendous back ache down my left side. Have been suffering with it quite a lot but not as severe as this. Was crying in pain at the end of the bed, scared of waking DD or DH. Stayed awake for two hours and eventually went to sleep only to have to get up at 7am for breakfast.

So tried to get a bath while DD had morning nap except she decided today she didn't want to sleep and spent an hour standing screaming in her cot. So I got out of my lovely bath, stressed out and still in pan. My DD of course is fine and now playing happily. I am still in agony.

I have a consultant appt next Tuesday and going to have to ask him for advice. I cannot bear this for another 10 weeks.

It doesn't help that we are completely in our own here, my parents are in the US and are due to stay with us at the end of April and DH's parents don't come over until mid May. Sometimes I wish I lived round the corner from them, this is one of those times....

In other news though I got results of full GTT and all was fine.....

Sorry to hear about your back ng, could you see a physio or osteopath? I've been sitting on one of those large Pilates balls which has helped my sore hips a lot. It be hard being so alone. Do you have good friends there? Would anyone take your DD for a few hours?

I'm still really ill with my terrible cough/wheeze/cold. I've been up since 4am having away and am feeling v sorry for myself. I haven't managed to get to work yet but must make an effort for a 2pm meeting. Groan. I feel terrible.

Hi Art I can't get to see anyone because I don't have anyone to leave my DD with. I had back ache first time round but of course things were so much easier then and I used to go and see an osteo every week. I have a couple of friends near by but they have young babies so I couldnt leave my crazy DD with them.

We were so silly thinking we could cope overseas on our own. I just want to go home!

Sorry to hear about your cold, seems we are all going through it in different ways...

Could you afford some childcare? Maybe just a few hours a day. Or do you have space for a live-inau pair (v cheap!)? Ivey childcare would make you feel so much freer and happier. When I had DC2 I actually continued to send DC1 to her nanny share 3 days a week and it saved my sanity.

I am waitng for the French childcare system to confirm my DD can attend a government run creche. I applied in November last year and am still waiting for them to confirm. It is absolutely ridiculous but my DD can't attend until she is given a registered number from the French childcare dept. and the creche won't take her until then.

Bonkers country!