August 2013 Part 3 - Adventures in the second trimester!

[FoofFighter]

Last fred here: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1654660-August-2013-Part-2-Looking-forward-to-scans-and-the-beginning-of-bumps

Stats fred here: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1655004-Due-August-2013-Stats-Thread

Welcome one and all to the wondrous second trimester where we shall bloom and glow

Beckie - so he wants a booty call / emotional crutch without having to do any of the domestic / responsibility stuff??!! think you're right, once they move out it usually signals the beginning of the end.. sorry how crap for you, hope he realises you're not willing to compromise and gets his act together!

muddy its basically like that already lol. Doesn't do nothing at all.

Well scan went well and I'm having another boy lol so I'm well and truly outnumbered :)

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Aw Beckie congratulations! So happy for you!

Ahh congratulations Beckie - team blue for you then! x

How fab Beckie :) some lovely news to lift your spirits. have you gone and bought something now then??

Congratulations on the boy news beckie :)
Sorry to hear about your OH. My dd's father was like that. I didn't have the strength to kick him out until dd was approaching one and I'd done all the hard slog with a newborn myself anyway. It's taken me several years and meeting my current partner to realise that he was more than selfish/lazy but physically and emotionally abusive. Strangely I found the contrast of how my ex treated me when pregnant and how supportive my boyfriend now is a bit of a head fuck. Despite this being an unplanned pg, I couldn't fault him at all. He cooks/cleans/shops more than me, takes my dd to school when I'm sick, stays sober with me, insists on coming to all appointments, reads about labour/parenting etc in the past I would have thought these were rare qualities, now I think they should be expected and its not that special but i do appreciate it. I wouldn't agree to your partner having his own little single party flat. Some space might be good but it sounds a bit having your cake and eating it too. Sounds like you'd be far better off without him :(. Good luck with it all, glad you have the support of his family.

Any baby flavour news from Abi yet?

I'm having a...
BOY!!!!
So i now have one of each :) we went to asda after and bought two very cute blue sleepsuits :) yay :)

Xxxx

Ahh how lovely Abi :) now you can start thinking of names :)

Hello ladies, just dropping in if I may? Due 24/8 dc1. Have seen the stats thread, do I copy the most recent post & just add myself on? Sorry - i-idiot, technology not really my thing!

So exciting that some of the baby flavours are already known! I still have no idea if I will find out or not at the 20 week scan, which is not far away, on 14 March....

beckie hope you are coping ok with oh. I'm in a horrible position and have been trying to move things along but it's hard due to being so poorly too. New deadline is for STBexH to move out no later than end of March. I have a lawyer involved now, and have also let the midwife know. It's hard as he blows so hot and cold, being lovely for a brief period then back to being a total arse wipe..... Right now I am in bed with very high ketones again after vomiting all day and he is doing nothing to stop his sons from fighting screaming and shouting. It is awful as I need to rest. My DS was fab and made a proper lunch for him and his sister (he is only 8) and DD then did all the dishes after. So, at least my DCs are being kind!

I think I'll be back to hospital tomorrow, as I said non stop vomiting again and my ketones are scarily high so looks like I'll be back in for my IVs.

Anyone be interested in a private/closed Facebook group where we can share pics and stuff as time goes on?

Welcome cakebaby, how are you keeping? :)

Waves :( not good. he sounds like he needs a hefty kick in the bollocks if you don't mind my saying so

Sounds good to me Foof

Welcome Cakebaby

Woo! Congratulations Abi

Still haven't felt any movement. I know I'm probably worrying over nothing and it is my first, but I just can't help it. Had to stop myself buying a Doppler as I think I'll just panic more. Ahh and this is just the beginning of the worrying!

Waves sorry to hear he's being an arse. Hope you can avoid the hospital but if not sending hugs!

stacey do you know where your placenta is? I was told I have an anterior (front) placenta at my 12 week scan so I might not feel movement much/for a long time/less etc. I did feel lots of flutters early on, now I can go das without feelin anything :( lots of people aren't told, might be worth checking your scan notes and seeing if you have one too? Or if this is your first baby it could be a while before you feel anything anyway.

foof I'd much prefer a private board or facebook grou, the openness of mumsnet freaks me out a bit!

Dave it wasn't mentioned and I can't see anything mentioned in my notes. I'm hoping Peanut is just hiding /:

Hi all, keeping spookily well, thank you! Nervous 1st timer at 39, will be 40 at edd. No bump, just podge & bloat as far as I can tell, wriggly baby at 12+5 scan though, so it's not cake! Sound like some of you are going through the mill, so tea & choccy hobnobs all round.

foofi think it's a nice idea.
Congratulations on th boys to Abi and Beckie

waves sorry thins are still shit at home, but you are really doing great.

Stacey, I only feel mine every couple of days or so. Sometimes it'lll be right at the front and very active. Almost a week went by without feeling it, it's due to it tucking itself away at the back, the day I had my 12 wk scan i hadn't felt it a while and could clearly see why at scan as was upside down and back to front and everything hidden away with it's limbs pointing towards my spine.
please don't worry unduly.

Cakebaby, yay another "oldie" ;) this is my third (but feels like first again the gap is going to be almost 19y between my last and this one!!) and will also be 40 by edd :)

Shall I go ahead and create a group then? I'll have to make it visible but closed at first till everyone is in, then can make it secret otherwise it won't allow me to make one without you all being on my friends list. If any of you wants in then PM me for the link.

I lied it won't let me without adding people on my friends list grrr, maybe we can each add one person onto our lists, get them in the group then delete off our lists if we feel we don't want to be quite that open just yet??

That's what I'm hoping Foof someone will have to tell me how to PM cause I must be missing it lol.

I'll sort it tomorrow, am too full of Chinese just now

Hi gang, great news to those finding our flavours :)

Fb group sounds good. Not sure how best to set it up, the settings etc confuse me at the best of times. I don't mind adding people as friends and deleting afterwards, if that's the only way we can do it.

Waves sorry you're still feeling so rough. It sounds like your DCs are being lovely though. Hope all goes well if you do go back to hospital, and they can get you feeling a bit better.

Beckie sounds like you're having a tough time too, I hope you are taking good care of yourself.

16+4.

www.telegraph.co.uk/science/science-news/3340540/Diet-before-pregnancy-can-affect-babys-sex-new-research-suggests.html this is an interesting link on baby's sex :)

Sounds like lots of folk are having crap times recently. I have decided that creme eggs are the solution to all my problems! Surely pregnancy allows us to have extra chocolate?

Foof defo up for group on facebook so can show off my new scan piccies. Still cant believe its a boy lol. My hunches were right for me at least. I have beckie on my friends list foof. So i can add her in or vise versa. Beckie i have sent you two of the pics from my scan on facebook.

Xxx