March2013 New year, new trimester, old symptoms but the finishing post is in sight!

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And confuddled has passed it!

So will this one be our last before we move to post natal?

And who is next?

Thanks sarah & jojo for the thread title. :)

Tramp I think you trumped it there in a tidy wee nutshell, thank-you.

Zoey thank you for standing up for what lots of others seemed uncomfortable with.

It would be a shame to spoil the thread with a vein that was clearly unpalatable to the old hands, and must be bewildering to the new ones.

And scare-mongering Lauren, even if unintended has no place here, it was not the original ethos of the Marchers.

I think a line could be drawn under this now, and so if you like I am more than happy to discuss my current seeming addiction to Lidl's fake peanut M&Ms, is it wrong to be on bag 2 after 27 minutes (bags are on the large-ish side)?

chefette not wrong at all. In fact it's positively compulsory !

I'm sorry but no thank you.

It certainly wasn't meant at all to scare and has been taken out of hand completely, and people where being damn right rude and unnecessary.

I have played an active part in this forum, and i make one comment, which people took the wrong way and which isn't agreed with, and it turned into a witch hunt.

I don't need to be involved with a bunch like that and will be taking my leave.

I'm new and I am a bit bewildered, but only because it seems sometimes like there are rules I'm not privy to... If I read something that worried me, medical evidence or not, I might well come and talk about it here because it's a place where we're all expectant new mums with raging hormones and plenty of hopes and fears. I don't know if I'd automatically censor myself (obviously I'd never say anything offensive or be deliberately inconsiderate).

I guess I'm just saying that I thought in a way this was a club to voice fears and hopefully be reassured.

It is the internet after all, none of us know each other properly and things can easily be misconstrued. Why would Lauren want to deliberately scare anyone else here?

I just wanted to try and balance things a little, it's sad to allow ourselves to let fear get in the way of honesty - perhaps some of our Ob Gyn members can help assuage the issues raised just as they have for other worries?

For me, knowing or not knowing isn't the issue - I worry either way and almost every day I read something or hear something on the news that scares me, then I come here and speak to all of you and get some perspective which really helps.

My baby's been doing some really odd huge movements but I was worried about him not moving just as much so it doesn't make a lot of difference - we're all going to worry until these babies are grown up.

I suppose I could liken this a little to the many infertility forums I was part of where people banned pg announcements, so after someone got a positive test they were banished so as not to upset anyone. Other people's positive tests made me feel bad too but I always knew that was bound to happen and not reading it didn't make it not exist.

I hope this all makes a bit of sense, can't really remember my point now!

On a more light hearted note, my cleavage currently looks like I'm becoming a lizard! And my belly button (now I can finally see the bottom of it) is brown?! I absolutely hate the feeling of touching it, really makes me cringe

Was asking OH to get the newborn nappies with the hole for the belly button clip and he had no idea that humans aren't born with the same belly button we have after the cord drops off - i laughed at him A LOT!

Ouch!!!!!!!!
It seems that we really need to not get so involved shall I say as its clearly not helping and upsetting much to much!
People leaving cant be avoided I tend not to post much as we are all on different journeys and as this is my 4th child am not prone to needing the constant reassurance as you can't get that from here really! No one here can offer a 100% that all will be well, that's what GPs and MWs are for! but light hearted convo and helpful info like- hospital bag,what to eat, nappy type is ok!
I as many on here have experience losses and frankly I avoid sharing as its some what not nice to share unless on thus thread sharing it!
Please oh please let us not cause offence to each other as this thread really is not about that! And as long as I have been on MN this thread seems to touch some subjects that we all have strong opinions on!
I stay out of it, as its easier!

So pass around some chocolate biscuits and lets all have a cyber hug and move on!!!!! We have come so far and this journey will soon be over as our babies come!!!!!

Leni- Lol with your lizard like cleavage!!!!

I'm not sure I want to k ow what a lizard like cleavage looks like. I've visions of Something about Mary woman..

Anyone else finding that when they get up their joints click for a good 15 minutes? I'm starting to sound like a pair of stilletoes clattering across the floor.

goodness! i am one of the early birds from the first thread, but as this is my second DC, not able to spend so much time on here and so backed off. I pop in every now and then, and i was quite sad to see the latest series of posts.

Anyone from the early days still pop in i.e. tiddleypompom etc? how is it all going? 5 weeks today for me! PM me if you prefer and we could set up a mini late Feb/march group for the closing straits! No debates or tension, just support and congratulations when our babes make an appearance xx

Hey bbface still plenty of the first link timers on here although I think like you we are not as regular as posting - this is a very fast moving thread! I think that only highlights the amount people enjoy using the thread to air worries, moan about oh's and discuss our future arrivals! I know there have been a few statements made that have caused offence (going back to the mrsrigby days for me!) but I suppose that's what happens when you get such a large number of women - with lots of hormones together in one place!!!! I for one can't wait to see people start posting about safe arrivals, weights and names! Lets stay supportive of one another! X

Agree with idea that we should try make this a supportive celebratory thread as we move towards the end although always nice to share worries as and when they arise and compare advice. I know that I have contributed my fair share of gloom over the last few months because of my experiences (and am so thankful for all the kind support you have given me) but now I am feeling so hopeful given that we have made it to this point and are so close to meeting our LOs!

Wow. What the hell has happened here? I have to admit I didn't read Lauren's original post. Started to but then saw it as a sad tale of someone else's loss that I didn't want to concern myself with at this stage of my pregnancy. I'm sure we all know people, or have been the person to experience loss. Discuss your own situation, fine, but I don't want to know about some random internet post about a textbook pregnancy that went wrong. Sorry if that makes me a but I'll not engage in such discussions. Um, draw a line under it?

So Leni, bellybuttons! Mine's just flat, but it's been a bit sore from time to time, I think when baby's leaning on it. I'm a bit obsessed with it, it's just so soft.... Also awesome to see that your bump has 'performed' very cool.

BBFace I think we're due date buddies! I can't believe it, just over a month to go. Shitting myself so excited!

I am relatively new to this thread posted a few times on older threads but struggled to keep up I would be sad to see older posters leave to start a new thread over this especially as many people like me may have lurked until having the confidence or time to post. It seems very unwelcoming to newbies.

I am sorry if what I shared upset people it really wasn't my intention perhaps any concerns like this should be left for the pregnancy board rather than here.

leni lol at you OH comment on belly button mine is still relatively normal but it didn't pop out last time either and still got 8 weeks to go so a lot more padding to come.

I haven't been too bad with chocolate not tried the peanut m&m equivalents though can polish off sponge cake or jammy dodgers in seconds normally I don't have a sweet tooth at all!

Right, skipping a few posts here.

Lauren, I'm an "angel mum" of over 7 years, as such I have met many other mothers who've lost babies and done my own research into things. I'm also a Doula. I'd like to reassure you and everyone else here that from my experience increased movements are NOT an indicator of a baby being in distress. I've had a baby in distress whilst I've been in hospital strapped to monitors, I've seen other babies in distress whilst strapped to monitors and movements do NOT increase. They give you a plipper (technical term that, you understand being a Brummie ) whilst you're on the monitor that you press each time you feel baby move and it makes a mark next to your contractions and baby's heart rate. When baby is upset movement goes down. They used to ignore my baby's heart rate going up because every time it did I was pressing the plipper like mad because he was racing around. The times I didn't press it and heart rate went up were far more of a concern.

This has got to be one of the bunkemest bunkems I've ever seen.

One of my pet hates, as I'm sure this group has noticed, is the whole dos and don'ts of pregnancy because I know that when a woman loses her baby she analyses everything she did, the sneaky bad food she had, over doing it that day. In reality none of those things will do it, our babies aren't as fragile as we think. Trust me, I've seen some rather bizarre and random reasons why someone lost their baby because it was the best reason someone could come up with. We go from telling women "be careful, your pregnancy is in your hands" to telling them that it wasn't their fault and nothing they could do" unfortunately women are built to look at why it was their fault and we're just setting them up to wonder what they did wrong when they're told that.

By the way, stillbirth is not SIDS of an unborn baby! They're two different things, not sure why SIDS was brought up. Stillbirth has far more chance of an explanation, it's rarely "one of those things" than SIDS does.

Kind of glad I spent the past twelve hours asleep and missed all the kerfluffle...

So, belly buttons! Mine is still clearly someone else's belly button. Possibly an alien's. It's not popped out, but if I push either side of it it pops out, and the man runs away shrieking about how bizarre and revolting it is. I'm betting it's not going to pop out, but will continue getting flatter. Anyone else placing belly button bets?

Hi all,

We hope you're all well and keeping warm.

Many thanks for the reports about this thread. We've had a look, and wanted to point you towards the information that we have on the site about monitoring your babies movements during the last trimester, we hope you find this information useful.

Congratulations on your pregnancies.

Best wishes,

MNHQ

bb I'm one of the earlier members of the marchers and still pop in from time to time but I'm not a regular poster. Hope that you are doing well. How long until your DD?

I personally would prefer to stick to the handy tips, quick questions and the like that this forum seems to deal with so well (i've had so many positive tips from y'all over the months) and continue to consult the medical professionals assigned to my case on anything that concerns me. After all this is a support forum, not an 'ask a medic' site. The fact is there are topics that are too large for such a thread and I for one am not qualified to comment on some of the topics that are unleashed whether by accident or because someone wants to share something better suited to the consultation room. Thus I post infrequently.

However bellybuttons is a topic I can seriously get down with! Tramp stop reading now!

At 34 weeks mine is not only hugely popped out but I have the Linea Nigra running through it.. I foolishly had a small tattoo when I was a young un and it is somewhat distended. I love it!

peanut m&ms and copycat products are also a favourite- yummy yummy.... Oh and confuddled the 'banned' list is something I take with a very large pinch of salt ( see what I did there?). My post birth treat list is ever growing... Champagne, a long island iced tea heavy on the tequila, cheese so French and runny that it walks to meet my cheese knife and has been banned in the USA, oysters... Better take out a mortgage.

As I reach the home stretch I am really struggling to sleep for more than a few hours at a time but, boy! I can sleep on and off all day; like a cat. Thank goodness for maternity leave. Anyone got any lovely plans for theirs?

Tramp the lizard part is just scaly! Possibly my poor overstretched skin... Sorry, yuck.

I still can't believe my OH didn't realise the cord has to drop off after birth - he's so squeamish about it now, hehe!

Anyone's due date later than the 26th?

Oh and Dame, luckily all my tattoos were deliberately placed not on my tummy purely for baby growing the rest of me is pretty covered though

After baby is born the bf police will warn you off a large number of foods too! Or your baby will decide it doesn't like the taste of something you have been craving the last 9 months or that it will get bad wind if you eat xyz! My ds1 got terrible wind if I ate wheat!!!! It's a minefield out there!!! I remember after having ds1 my dh turned up with a huge chunk of Roquefort only to be told by someone. I couldn't have it! I was gutted.......

Ohhh never been on a thread where MNHQ had posted on!
So does that mean we got reported!!!!
I feel like a naughty school girl! Although I never took part in the convo!
My choc fix at the moment is minstrels and peanut butter and choc spread on warm bagels!!!!!! OMG!!!!!!

count that does sound gorgeous!

My current craving is for hot cross buns. Cold. Straight out of the packet! Suppose they might be healthier that way as they aren't smothered in an inch of melted butter!

dame I'm giggling at your cheese dream. Right up my street that one! My first meal on getting out of hospital will be a rare steak!

Last day at work today!! Everyone bought in cakes which I was very touched by. Unfortunately I had just stuffed myself with a bacon buttie and a snickers and couldn't manage much (felt very guilty) but they let me take them home so I now have a very happy 2 year old too!

count I literally drooled when I read that... Have you tried with a cinnamon bagel if is that just a step too far? I will be doing so in.....erm... 20 minutes when DH makes it back with the ingredients!

em2010 I missed my own leaving do last week. Everyone had a fab time though and I hopefully will be offered a cake when I go back.

Oh gawd. Belly button phobia plus belly buttons dropping off. Fingernail phobia plus needing to trim by bite or scissor babies nails... I'm going to have to gulp down my urge to throw up. For everyone else it'll be nappy contents - for me nails and buttons. (Shudders).

I'll be honest I've not missed any of the squishy cheeses, I really thought I would. Everything else I don't eat anyway. But a good glass of red - now I'm going to sound like an alcoholic here but - I cannot wait! (Although obviously I must).

To be honest tramp I've been naughty and tried the odd glass of red wine but since pregnancy it just tastes like battery acid. Sigh.