August 2013 Part 2: Looking forward to scans and the beginning of bumps!

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Here's a new thread for us summer mums-to-be.

A link to the first thread is here.

This first trimester will end eventually... it will, it will!!!

The Nipper is one of my favourites (well as a double, can push it with your little finger, fantastic!!) [ex pramaholic emote]

locketjuice Haha I know, my mums always been ok but cried her eyes out for 2 weeks both times and dad went nuts especially first time, I was still young to be fair and they just didn't expect it at all, OH is my only partner I've had so when I hot pregnant with ds1 we had only been together a few months so of course they was shocked and angry...not as bad with ds2. But I just don't know how they will take this news, I think my mum has a big idea already shes seen how dizzy I am and questioned why I wasn't having wine on Christmas day, so she's probably just waiting for me to say it

Same with me we got 'your too young' 'you are ruining your life'....What they meant was you are ruining my sons!
It pissed me off the first time as they said well what are you going to do..and really pushed me to try and get rid when I told them where to go I was banned from there house! Stupid I know! Anyone would think I was 15.. I feel it writing that haha!

But as I was at there house on Xmas..(they are over ds1 shock now obviously and adore him) I thought it was so obvious I was as I didn't drink and that's not me at all.. But apparently they thought I had the arse so my partner thought he would be brave and just tell them!

My partner kept making hints on Christmas day to them, and my uncle shouted she's eating pickled onions shes pregnant, although I was just eating them with the cheese board cause I like them Haha.

Think Il have to tell them after the scan, so better start getting brave

Feminist - sorry to hear your news, wishing you all the best for the future
Back at work today after couple of days off cos I felt yuck. Work think I had sickness bug! A few of the girls thought I looked a bit peaky today, if only they knew! Sickness not as bad but could sleep all day. Also feeling a bit of a bad mum, DS age 7 cutting up Christmas cards for fun - I just want to sleep! Left him to it with scissors and glue!!!!

7+3

We're thinking of telling family at the weekend. Am tempted to be evil - tell MIL and SIL separately, and ask them not to say anything - see who crumbles first! I know they'll be thrilled, as they had pretty much given up hope of DP providing any grandkids - he was 42 when DD was born. It's sad that some of you are worried about the reactions you'll get.

Part of me is wondering how the jump from one to two DC will be. DD will be just turned 2 when this one is born, I suppose I just worry that she will feel jealous, or pushed out. Obviously it's our job to make sure she doesn't, but it does worry me that I'll be spending a lot of time doing things for baby and not able to do what DD wants at times.

foofighter - bravado bras are fab, some of them are prettier than others but the really utilitarian, extremely functional looking ones are the best. So comfy for preg, so practical for feeding and good for big boobs!! I'm a DD at the minute but went up to E when pg with DS and F when milk came in, so feel your pain!!

mrspenny - I guess with your DD being 2 she'll still be kind of young enough to be a bit put out to begin with but accept the new status quo fairly quickly probably. My DS will be just about to turn 3 and I can't see him accepting the big change to his circumstances very easily!! Hopefully only one set of nappies to change tho lol

Because I've been so bloody sick we had to cave and tell our families very early on, ditto with some good friends and the people I work with. I've been basically housebound for a fortnight now, so it's pretty hard to cover that up - because of my mc in summer I would have much rather waited til after 12 weeks but wasn't to be!! Mum and MIL have both being very fab at helping me out looking after DS and dropping in groceries etc.

littlemiss I'm same I don't go anywere too exhausted and ill when mum comes up I tell her I've come down with cold (which is true too) but she knows thats not the whole truth, pretty sure of that, and my aunty keeps asking me if I'd like to go out, I say Ohhh no I can't I don't like going out I'm boring. Feel horrible not been honest, cause I'm such an honest person, but can't find the courage

hey everyone
so sorry feminist about your news, here's hoping your not far behind picking up the next thread x
well hosp appointment was pretty uneventful as just went through with thyroid consultant how I had been doing an how much he thinks he needs to see me. We did laugh when he lifted out my file with everything in from dc it's huge!! forgot how drama filled my pregnancy an birth was! anyway receptionistgave me booking in when I'll be 12weeks on 21st Jan. She said they could do a scan but I'm doubting it an think I'll end up with another appointment date. So I need some peace of mind so have booked a private scan on Sunday. My best friend has just had . miscarriage which has kind of now frightened me again.

10+3

Thanks for the nice comments, can't wait to start TTC again! X

Can I join? Due Aug 29 ish, I'm 40 and this will be my 3rd pregnancy, one 10yr old DD, and ectopic in 2008. I've already had 4 scans and finally saw a little heartbeat today They thought this one was ectopic too hence all the scans and bloods low HCG, but all turned out good.

So sorry feminist. Fingers crossed for when you ttc again. Xx

8+2 today. Still feeling sick as a dog and cramps a gogo. Meh. I think I've lost weight (was overweight before BFP). I think giving up wine and feeling sick have certainly contributed. If I can maintain weight I will be most happy!

I really feel for you ladies back at work. I've been in hols since Xmas and spent most of it asleep! I am not looking forward to going back on Monday!

I think my edd is Aug 23rd. Can someone pls add me to the chart? I have booking in on Tuesday next week. Depending on the dates I might look for a private scan. Does anyone have any recommendations in central London?

Beckie. Good luck with telling your parents. Xx

Welcome feet :) so glad you saw the little heartbeat. Xx

feminist good luck with TTC, hope your ok :( xx

boosiehs thankyou :) xx

Stopped feeling sick about 5 days ago but totally exhausted and absolutely starving! Have eaten so much today I should be ashamed (but I'm not!)

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Sotry to hear your news Feminist, good luck for next time.

And beckie, I'm sure telling your folks won't be fun, but you're probably worrying about it lots at the moment so at least it'll be over and done with.

i had a bowl of porridge before bed last night and actually managed to get to sleep (been feeling too sick to sleep). Thank you mumsnet for this tip. I feel almost human again today!

8+0

Sorry to hear your news feminist and good luck for TTC in the future :)

As for baby brain....jolly I read your post as your DD was having her nostrils removed!!!? WTF? Although maybe that's not baby brain at all and just stupidity!

Had MW appt yesterday for first part (?) of booking in, just got my notes and loads of leaflets etc, I go back again on 21st for 2nd part of it, i.e. taking bloods and going over notes. Then scan should be on 12th February so only really 4 weeks to wait til then - seems much more bearable now! They have dated me a week ahead based on LMP and a 28 day cycle despite me telling them I was a definite 32 day but hey ho just means I get my scan sooner and if it's wrong they'll take me in for a second one the following week.

Oh yeah so now I'm 7+6 according to MW but 7+0 by my dates!

Thankyou. Glad to be part of the gang. Been TTC since the last ectopic. It's been a long road but we got there

feministintraining so sorry to hear your news .

MrsWajs How strange that they'd ignore you! The doctors (and midwives from last pregnancy - haven't seen any for this one yet) always wanted to know how long my cycles were and listened to what answer I gave them.

Did your GP refer you to ante natal care? I haven't heard anything from the midwife yet, and at the dating I was told to give the information to the GP so he could pass it onto the midwife but the first appointment available is on the 22nd, when I'll be 10+4!

beckie I told my parents on New Year's eve and they went completely silent. My mum still isn't really talking to me properly (although I've maintaining my distance as well which is more than a little bit tricky as we work together) and her response was just so cold. I was expecting it, and I know that once more people know and get excited for her, she'll become excited too but it's still bloody hurtful when the person who's supposed to be unconditionally on your side just isn't. I hope you have a better reaction - hugs to you for being in a horrible position.

So I got my scan date through Il be 13+2, will I still beable to have nucal screening? Xxx

Beckie - No idea about nuchal screening, sorry. Good luck telling your mum, sorry that you have that stress at a time when you need extra support

weewee - Sorry about your mum too :(

MrsWajs - I habe pcos and my cycles can be all over the place, and I know that and it's on my medical notes but with DS they still insisted on going by dates so my original EDD was 3rd Aug which I knew just couldn't be right. EDD eventually changed to 28th Aug. It's frustrating when you know your cycles better than that but I think blanket NHS policy is to just go by dates until dating scan tells them otherwise. But it means going in for your dating scan sometimes and being weeks behind where you 'should' be and having to come back in again!!

Welcome feet! Congratulations on getting here after so long waiting.

beckie, anything up to 14wks is fine for the nuchal screening.
Good luck for when you tell your parents.

Wee, hope things improve with your mum soon.

MrsWajs, even though I had my private scan (so pretty sure of the date), dr ignored it & made up her own due date.

Boosiehs, added you to the list!
No recommendation for scans in London, I travelled out to West Malling (near Maidstone) for my scan.

James, I have the Maclaren Techno XT, it's fantastic. I would buy it again.
Downsides are; if you/OH are tall (DH is 6'2), even extended the handles are too short.
Basket is really only big enough for a 4 pint milk & loaf of bread.
Really fiddly to get the headsupport out/change position of the shoulder straps (haven't washed the liner yet because I don't think I could get it back in).

9+6

I've had it changed anyway as oldest was off nursery and can't be taking them both lol, its now on the 29th so should be around 12+6. Thankyou

Morning all, well nausea hasn't hit yet, this is a first, hopefully now the pregnancy is progressing ( 9+3) it's easing off, my boobs aren't quite as tender too although this could be more to do with the soft maternity bra!

Maclaren XLR have higher handles I think plus you get the option of the soft carrycot too.

beckie/others with horrid parents - I find sometimes with people telling them news you know they aren't going to be too thrilled with comes better if you go in all excited and bouncy and happy, rather than feeling embarassaed and ashamed almost?
No problems here re parents - I don't have any and his are very pleased - telling my granny might be a bit sticky, when I was referred for IVF at 35 she was all oh you are past it, too old and when had the mmc last year she was very much all oh nature knows what it's doing, you are old etc etc.

I'll not be telling her till 20weeks.

Welcome feet btw, a few of us here have experience of secondary infertility, it sucks, very glad you are here :)

private scan tomorrow afternoon, starting to get anxious. Going to whack a post in pregnancy board about concerns I have