August 2013 Part 2: Looking forward to scans and the beginning of bumps!

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Here's a new thread for us summer mums-to-be.

A link to the first thread is here.

This first trimester will end eventually... it will, it will!!!

We borrowed/were given a lot of baby things for our first but am older and wiser this time around so I'd rather buy things that will be useful.

Top of my list is a gliding crib for our bedroom and the baby bjorn bouncer - I learnt the hard way how much a pita a bouncer with a fixed cover is.

Ruck My younger Sister is due on Sunday, she's not known for her patience so I bet this waiting is driving her crazy!

rugbugs - yeah, same here - we did buy oand borrow some fab stuff for DS which I have kept but couple of things i would like to get for this time round, new car seat and maybe a co-sleeper cot tho those are a little pricy so have to wait and see what finances are like..

Brave ladies watching OBEM. I flinch even hearing the screaming at the start, brings it all back lol

scuba I'm exactly the same about challenging gender roles (woo look at the life of excitement I lead!) and DS was dressed in pink, wore tights (so practical) etc

mrspennyapple we found out the first time too as we were convinced it was a girl and needed time to get our heads round is he was a boy but this time I'm not fussed (although leaning slightly towards wanting a girl) so surprise time it is.

Bad parent alert: I'm feeling so knackered I'm starting to wibble about whether this is a good idea or not. I know people have 4 under 4 etc so a 3.5 year old and newborn should be a walk in the park (and I work with under 5's!) but I can't see how I'm going to cope. Having 1 DC means you can tag team it but 2 will mean a 1:1 ratio. Eep.

lis is all updated! And in order, MrsPennyapple you're you again (I read your name in Stewie's voice too)...great surprise scan!

Ruck, I know some people ask the sonographer to write the sex down (in a sealed envelope) incase they change their mind!
Hope SIL has baby soon!

9+5

weeweewee - feeling your pain!! I think it's cos i'm so sick with this pg and i'm signed off work, and i really can't look after DS on my own at the min (28 months) and when you're feeling this sick and rubbish it's almost impossible to imagine feeling normal again and then you imagine feeling this sick and wrecked and having a 3 year old and a new born i'm sure we'll figure it all out as we go!

weeweewee think its a normal feeling, I certainly think oh dear lord at times, this one will be my 3rd, and it is hard with my 2 ds's cause there like non stop all day never sit down and both not good sleepers, but were women we can do it :) when I had ds2 I thought wow this is so much easier than I thought, its when they grow older all the fun begins Haha. Don't worry

Growing quite impatient now regarding dating scan, 10+1 and will be impossible to sort someone out to look after kids at last minute, my mums off work for next 2wks so could have asked her, but only problem is I still havnt told her, I darent :(

Glad that I'm not the only one, although sorry that you're felling the same IYSWIM.

beckie Have you got a mother who is on the unsympathetic side of the spectrum or is it that you'd prefer to wait til 12 weeks before telling anyone?

Hi ladies, my journey ends here- another scan after horrendous pain and clots last night showed no bean
On the more positive side, was a complete miscarriage and so no need for further prodding- and everything looks fine in there so will be cracking on as soon as I feel up to it.
Wishing you all lots of luck for your pregnancies, enjoy xx

So sorry to hear that Feminist, you take care of yourself.

So sorry to hear that Feminist, 'glad' it's properly over for you & you don't have to endure further tests & probing.
Good luck for when you feel up to ttc again & hope to hear a positive update from you soon. xx

Weeweewee, I feel the same. No matter how many people say 'ooh, get your sleep now, when newborn gets here...' nothing prepares you for the sheer hell that is life with an under 3 month old.
How we'll all deal with not falling asleep standing up & a small person saying 'wassat?' & prodding toast into your/babies face I don't know. I assume coffee is the answer.

Not feeling to good this morning, I've been so tired and went to bed last night at 9:30, thankfully I managed to sleep and my dh who's on his days off got up and took our dd to school, dd kept coming in to tell me things about jack frost visiting and flippin moshi monsters, got mad and shouted at her because I'm just so so tired and now feel really guilty.
Got up at 9 when the phone rang and had a nice long bath, hadn't had anything to eat till 11:30 so was feeling really sick and sluggish.

I've got obem on now, dh doesn't like so I watch it when he's not around generally, he's really quesey about blood and stuff and gets annoyed when the women say they can't do it anymore. He did managed to watch dd being born though and thought it amazing.

Dh will be taking his paternity leave, very doubtful that he'll be able to attend many antenatal appointments, he has a odd shift pattern so will have to try to fit things around his work where possible but he'll take annual leave for scans if needs be.

Sorry to hear that feminist

Take care of yourself.

So sorry to hear your sad news Feminist, i hope you feel better soon.

I've finally added myself to the stats list, still very anxious (9+5 today). I (thankfully) haven't had the painful previous mc experiences that many of you have had, but I had been undergoing fertility investigations after 3 years of ttc with no BFP ever. So this strawberry (apparently at 9 weeks that is the size, according to something i read) is a very precious and unexpected surprise! I just wish we could all relax and enjoy but hopefully when the first scans start to happen we'll be able to breathe a bit.

I feel a lot better this week (not so nauseous) and it's been a huge pleasure being able to eat and enjoy food. I had lost half a stone over Christmas due to the constant nausea. So far this week I've had 2 Indian curries and one (gorgeous) Thai curry, and that isn't the half of it. Is anyone else craving really spicy/flavoursome food? Mmmm i could totally eat another one now.

Has anyone on the thread has gest diabetes previously (prob too early for any first time mums to get diagnosed)? I did with DD, so preparing mentally that I am highly likely to have it again. Though it was the healthiest I've ever been (low GI diet essentially) so I'm not overly concerned. And I was lucky to have a totally natural birth despite all the evidence to the contrary, so it's not all doom and gloom if anyone finds themselves in the same boat. Better eat those curries whilst I still can though!

Sorry feminist :( Take care of yourself..

bzzbee - I haven't had gest diabetes but a friend of mine had it with her first and she's just had twins but no gest diabetes in second pg so hopefully you'll escape this time round. I am having insane sugar cravings that go hand in hand with nausea, want to eat red licorice and haribo all the time, fizzy drinks, stuff i wouldn't usually touch and this never happened with DS so i'm a bit concerned about my blood sugar levels this time round. Did you have anything like this before?

So sorry feminist

weeweewee she's really supportive and adores her grandkids, but with my age 22 and expecting my 3rd, I just think mum and dad will be a little upset, so I'm just a little scared of telling them and the further along I get the more I get more scared. I've told my parents within days of finding out with both ds's and I know they were upset then. Of course it all changes though after the shock and once there here, there so proud of my boys and are always here for me just still so scared :/

beckie I am 21 and this is my second DC.
I was really worried about telling my parents and although they were obviously worried but they were excellent.
The support you get from them is worth the stress of telling them. Good luck.

Everything fine here.
Still feeling tired and unable to sleep well but hoping that will get better soon.
Looking forward to scan on 22nd.

10+4 today.

And best of luck feminist for the future.

Hi just coming onto new thread, hello everyone and so sorry feminist. Hope to see you (and your brilliant name) on another of these threads soon.
I'm due 25th August ( sorry on phone so skills not up to adding to list). Finally had proper dr appt last night - last dr refused to refer me as I had just moved house (even tho only 10 mins up the road), who knows when scan will be! Had to face the terror of being weighed but the dr was very kind - measured in kilos which I don't use & when I asked him what it was in stones he said I didn't need to know!

Sorry to hear your news Feminist, do take care.

I've added myself to the list finally. At 9 +4 it feels a bit more real and my overinflated boobs definitely feel more real, I had to give in and get a new bra to retain a bit of dignity when i start teaching again next week
Booking in tomorrow and scan on 28 Jan which just feels like ages away. I'm unnaturally paranoid that something will go wrong so trying not to get too excited until then!

nicnic79 DC2 26th july
Sugarkane DC4 28th July (big guess) 1st scan 5th Jan
BraveLilBear DC1 28th July
chocolatesolveseverything DC1 28th July (ish)
Silver15 DC3 29th July
Woose DC3 31 July
thehomesecretary DC2 31st July
huffpuff75 DC2 31st July
Zippyrainbowbrite DC1 31st July
EggyM DC1 1st August
Chuckaluck DC1 3rd August ish!
ditsy79 DC1 3rd August
stopsittingonyoursister DC3 4th August
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)
Nightwish DC2 4th August (Probably)
beckie90 DC3 7th August (I think)
ruthietoothie 8th August
wonderwomanislost DC2 August 11th (ish)
MrsPennyApples DC2 August 11th (unconfirmed)
parttimer79 August 11th (unconfirmed)
RainboxFX DC2 13th August (unconfirmed)
Littlemisssnowshine DC2 13th August(ish)
FoofFighter DC3 13/08/13
Mayanbob DC1 14th August
RuckAndRoll 15th August (ish)
WeeWeeWeeAllTheWayHome DC2 16th August
IJustWoreMyTrenchcoat DC1 16th August (my best guess)
Jamesandthegiantbanana DC3 16th august (unconfirmed)
LoveBeingAMrs 24th August
LoveYouForeverMyBaby DC2 August
ScubaSarah DC1 4th August (ish)
CarriePie DC1 11th August (ish)
Locketjuice 5th August..we think
Noodles80 25th August (Unconfirmed)
Sendmum DC3 2nd August

nightwish for over a month both times my dad didn't speak to me totally ignored me whenever he saw me I just dont think I'm strong enough to face that at the mo, I know its really different this time I'm older now, was 20 when I had ds2. 22 now got my own home n been with there dad for 6 years, but still can't shake the nervous feelings :( x

Beckie, my parents were fine about it but my partners went NUTS last time like you would have thought we were admitting to being crazy killers or something!

This time they just said FUCKING kids! Not that I would say we can really be classed as 'kids' anymore :s

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!
[sound of a maternity bra being put on]

www.nctshop.co.uk/Emma-Jane-Next-Generation-Nursing-Sleep-Bra/productinfo/2578/

Highly recommend it! Not sure it's enough support for me while out and about as am large of norkage (F cup) but it's certainly fine for me for sleep and around the house.

Right going for a read back now, couldn't wait to share my joy!

Feminist so sorry to hear that, poor you. Best of luck for trying again. x

Stopsitting, yes I was on the may 2010 thread, you've got a good memory! Did you have a different name then? I don't remember yours now. My dd is a great big proper child now, high time for another little one to snuggle!

Weeweewee, you're not the only one having the "omg what have I done?" wibble. I'm on my third and I feel so sick and tired I'm just doing the basics for the first two right now and feeling sorry for myself/them. They're nagging that they want friends round, they want to go swimming, they want me to pick them up, they're boooooored - I'm so knackered, I just find myself saying" "that's nice, go and play now"

I know someone up thread described the first three months of having a newborn as hellish, I had a different experience really. I found the end of pregnancy hellish as I couldn't sleep, I was massive, knackered, overdue and had heartburn, terrible spd and a bladder the size of a walnut, but afterwards it was great. Don't get me wrong I was sleep deprived, sore and achy but I don't remember it being awful.(Bearing in mind my baby didn't have colic or anything) Don't dread it, remember that you get used to be woken up several times a night and they're all worth it. I'm sure as soon as they come along they'll just slot into the family and we'll wonder why we ever thought "oh shit, what have we done?"

I haven't really looked at any baby stuff other than deciding which pushchair I want. Think I might go for a maclaren techno xt as they come with excellent reviews.

oh feminist I'm so sorry to hear what's happened :( be gentle with yourselves, I can really recommend posting on the pregnancy loss board, the people over there basically held my hand throughout and kept me sane, they are totally luffly. Wishing you lots of good luck for your next bus xxx

For those worrying about the jump from 1 to 2 DC, please don't worry, the jump from 0-1 is far far harder and more of a shock to the system believe me! you will cope just fine :) remember you won't be bloated and uncomfortable, puking/nausea/pneumatic tits etc

I feel like this could be my first as the age gap is so huge between this one and my last baby - they've left home now!! (although it is OH's first child)

james I have a pathological hatred of maclarens!

mrspennyapple congratulations on your scan :)

had my booking on today, back next weds for bloods and pee and BP. In my area they test NOW for diabetes too, anyone else?

Feminist, I'm so sorry to hear your news. Wishing you a swift recovery and hope to hear some good news soon x

On buggies I've decided on the Out'n'About Nipper 360 but we won't buy much til 20 weeks I think...
Currently arguing with DH about what to get new and what to get off eBay - thoughts?