August 2013 Part 2: Looking forward to scans and the beginning of bumps!

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Here's a new thread for us summer mums-to-be.

A link to the first thread is here.

This first trimester will end eventually... it will, it will!!!

Congratulations to your sister rugbugs

I was born in August and did really struggle in school, although my parents weren't very academic and took the view that it was only the schools job to teach so I got NO home help or encouragement, so it is something that has concerned me, but my DD is a January baby and has support at home and she still struggles a bit at school, there are so many other factors than just the childs birth date/month.
I'm hoping baby will get DH brains.

Rugbugs congrats to your sister - hope you get the chance for lots of newborn cuddles

I'll just be happy to have a baby safely here. I was born end of October and got moved up a year immediately, so was always the youngest, but still sailed through school/uni. DD is a September baby and really isolated at school as she is so ahead of her peers. She's even in a reading group by herself . Hopefully when she moves to juniors next year she will be moved up for some classes - they have done that with DS which has helped a lot. But I am rather academic, my house resembles a library and the three of us are most likely to be found curled up with books on the weekend.

I have heard that it is actually routine over here to see the obstetrician, so, although it will be hard to find time to get to the appointment, I'd rather have more contact than too little.

Scuba - hope you get on ok with the aspirin - sounds like you have great bp so seems a little weird!

Hope everyone is having a good day - I am trying to put off a very difficult phone call at work, but really need to deal with it. Sigh.

stopsitting I'm not sure about dd yet. Originally I was planning on finishing uni, and then homeschooling her. Now there is this baby to factor in, and she is currently being assessed for ASD and ADHD. With having this baby born just as the school year starts, I imagine I'll still send her in to school for at least the first term and then decide.

rugbugs I know friends that have aimed for summer babies because they would save money on the full time day nursery hours, not just the free 2 hours a day or whatever it is. If your child is going to school at 4 I stead of nearly 5, that could be quite a considerable saving if they are normally in nursery 8-6 ish. Congrats on your new niece/nephew.

Scuba my consultant dithered about aspirin for me with just the one risk factor (pre-eclampsia in previous preg) it was definitely two risk factors and it was prescribed. I didn't get it in the end because my bp was 110/65 but the threat is there!

I didn't think of it that way Dave can I blame pg brain yet? I did go to put hand wash on my toothbrush this morning

Hello! I haven't disappeared completely, just been working and trying to will time to go faster!!

Had my booking and all was uneventful, well with the exception of me forgetting to do a wee in the sample pot - ooops! Baby brain already!
Will check my own blood results at work on Saturday. Oh and date was changed AGAIN!! Put back 2 days as they miscalculated last time!!! I give up until scan!

We haven't really discussed names, we couldn't agree last time and DD didn't have a name for 3 days! Think we will just wait and find out what we're having first and then try and decide.

Re: school. DSS is a January baby and started school last year at 4.5. At the time I felt he was ready but in hindsight I don't actually think he was, more from a social/emotional point of view rather than an academic one.
DD will be 5.4 when she starts but I don't have any concerns about her whatsoever, she is already quite advanced for her age (1.9).
I myself started school aged 4.5 too and did reasonably well (in my opinion) so I think a lot of just depends on the individual as a person rather than their age.

Nausea seems to be disappearing now so fingers crossed it stays away, sense of smell is still in overdrive though. I hate the smell of my shampoo, deodrant and washing powder - pretty much the same as last time! Can't wear perfume either and the smell of DP is just about enough to send me over the edge! Poor man.

9ish+something!

hiya everyone

interesting to hear the discussion about August babies at school. I'm an August baby and never had problems at school (but then I demanded to go to nursery or school full time when older db started school!)
DH is an early Sept bday and he is the one who struggled at school. it totally depends on the child, not a lot we can do about it now!

ok so random silly thought I've been having. I've read you shouldn't cover the umbilical stump and leave it open to air until it falls off. How the heck does that work? or did I read a load of nonsense?!

11+0

Leave it open to the air just means not inside the nappy :) it can still be under a vest/t-shirt/baby grow :)

that makes sense jolly it's one of those things you read and go, makes sense, then actually think about it!

Can't remember if you're in Scotland, ruck, but I think not. We get a book called Ready Steady Baby which I read obsessively last time. It is really good. The website which has all the same info as the book is: www.readysteadybaby.org.uk/

NT results finally came back ok but I don't know the ratios as they don't give them out. Grrrrr

Bled again yesterday afternoon and now spotting. Just like last 3 times. I decided to just stay in bed all day - did it the first time round and it stopped for 3 weeks. Last two times I didn't and it seems to happen all the time now
Still no explanation. Just hoping Froggy is OK. We are calling the baby Froggy. Our DD was Atilla the Shrimp and later Shrimpette. Atilla for making me sick and shrimp after a 6-7 week picture in a book showing a tail like structure

I'm in Belfast and our school year over here works different - kids born in July and Aug are the oldest in the year, and kids born in May/June are the youngest. So my DS is an Aug birthday and he starts nursery at 4 and primary school at 5, and this DC will be the same.

blonde - shrimpette and froggy are both v cool fetus names! hope bleeding stops for you, hopefully rest will do the trick

scuba- yes that does seem a little odd that even though your blood pressure is fine they are still giving you aspirin but i guess they know what they're doing?!

rugbugs - ooh congrats to your sis and enjoy some baby cuddles!!

Started new anti nausea meds yesterday. Not exactly a miracle cure but so far after 24 hours they do seem to be working a bit better than the cyclazine. Really making me very drowsy tho...zzzz... Scan and booking appt at hospital tomorrow. Excited...but also nervous I know you have your scan tomorrow too Christelle, so good luck!

In regards to baby names my DH was choosing names before we even conceived. We've agreed that my DH can pick the names.

Those of you finding out the sex of your baby, will you tell friends and family?
I just wondered because we want to find out but we don't want to tell anyone else, does anyone else feel the same or am I just being mean.

I feel exactly the same Lexi I'm tempted to find out so we know if we need to be keeping all of DDs clothes but wouldn't tell a soul that we knew.
I'm feeling very protective about being pregnant though, I don't like how your body almost becomes public property.

Lexi / Rugbugs - We didn't find out the sex last time round, but for practical reasons (i.e. keeping or giving away clothes etc) I would quite like to know this time. But if we do decide to find out, no I'm def not telling anyone else. I'd probably just say that like the last time we had decided not to find out - I think as long as they don't know that you know, it'll probably feel less mean and they'll probably not try as hard to get you to let it slip!

Hi stopsitting I was amazed to have lost a week to be honest!

My second NT attempt is next Friday. If they can't get it then I'm not bothered - just means I'm not supposed to have it done!

Re schooling, I work in education. Children are all so different that I think it makes little odds how old they are when they begin. Lots of nurture is what's important, from school and home.

rugbugs/little miss I'm so pleased you've both said that, I did wonder if I was a bit odd. I agree about your body becoming public property I'm dreading the constant needs for updates, I love that it's just me and my DH that know and we want to hold off telling people as long as we think we can but also have to contend with the fact that all our family believe that we don't want more children and I'm fairly sure that they'll all assume it's a accidental pregnancy, My MIL in particular is a bit of a gossip and has told me and my DD seperatly that I shouldn't have another baby, she's previously told me that relatives babies were accidents when the parents have said otherwise and I just dread what she'll say, so want to keep it to ourselves for as long as possible but without announcing so late that it loooks like we've only just found out.

Did that make sense.

I'd love to have a family who'd just be happy for us and supportive.

Lexi, we're going to find out the sex, but we're going to tell friends & family that they couldn't be 100% either way so didn't tell us.
Like SnowShine, we're finding out purely for practical reasons, although it will be interesting to give birth knowing what's coming out!

congrats to your sister rug!

blonde, jeeping my fingers crossed that froggy is just being awkward & the bleeding stops (finally, with no more until your first post baby period!) soon.

Ruck, most newborn size disposables have a U shape cut where the umbilical stump will be free to breathe, failing that you just fold them down before strapping up!

Re. August born; DH is a Aug baby & did fine at school/university whereas I'm an autumn born & a complete (academical) dimwit

Lexi - Yes that makes sense to me. Sorry your mil isn't more supportive, we are v lucky with our families. I know my mum is v excited tho she is also a bit worried about me having had mmc last year and having had 3 hyperemesis pregnancies in a row etc. but I think if scan goes well tomorrow she will just be in the throes of granny excitement - she's already started browsing dresses for me online cos I have a good friend's wedding to go to in April and I'll need a maternity dress lol

Gary - I know, it will be interesting! I wonder will the rest of the pg be different, knowing for sure that it's a boy or a girl rather than just having a gut feeling... Hmm... we shall soon see!

Ditto Lexi DPs Mum is more than just a bit of a gossip she told both his Sisters about the pregnancy, did it not occur to her that DP might have wanted to break the news? She cornered DP alone and asked if it was planned, when he said yes she told him he was stupid. She wouldn't know at all if I had my way but my family guessed and outright asked me the minute I turned down wine and DP wanted to be fair.

Good luck to LittleMiss and Christelle for your scans tomorrow

Rug - aw congrats on your sisters baby
I've been really busy at work. I'm getting trained on a different job, something that only gets done 1 week of the month. I'm kinda dreading telling them my news cos they'll need to train someone else, oopsy!
I hadn't even entered my head about school! I'm still waiting on my scan date lol! I'm in Scotland though so intake cut off is different.

9+3

Ooh I don't know if I could keep it to myself I I knew. I found out with DD, but really want to try a surprise this time. I imagine finding out at the birth is really exciting? I'm already grumpy about the lack of decent unisex newborn clothing though. I suppose many more people find out than don't these days. I am a tiny bit nervous incase I feel slightly disappointed if I don't get my preferred sex though... I know that's frowned upon!

Rug congrats on your sister's baby, that's lovely news, I hope she is feeling ok.

Littlemiss and christelle good luck with your scans tomorrow.

We didn't find out the gender with DS as we wanted a surprise and there was only us to worry about. We did find out the gender with DD, and found it much easier to make sense of the new arrival for DS when we could talk to him about his new sister coming, rather than a new baby. We shall find out the gender this time round as well, for the same reason. DS may need 20 weeks to adjust if he finds out he is having another sister!

My trousers are starting to feel really tight today. I have a proper muffin top going on. I think I am going to be in my maternity clothes by Monday just for comfort. But I'm only 13 weeks - how big am I going to be by 40 weeks?!

Also been to get my flu jab today (finally) and apart from a sore arm it all seems to have gone OK.

Baby brain has also properly kicked in, I can now only do one job at once. Today, I put the rubbish in the fridge, the (thankfully unopened) yoghurt from DS' packed lunch in the washing machine, and DS' socks in the bin. No more multi-tasking for me!!

littlemiss I'm pleased you have a supportive family. I can't even speak to my own mum without her partner listening in on any conversation we have.

rugbugs When I was pregnant with DD we told our parents straight away and asked them to keep it to themselves until 12 weeks, when we then went to tell DH's sisters, adult nieces and nephews you could just tell by the tone of there voice that they all already knew and were trying to sound surprised, like you we wanted to be able to tell our good news. My parents have split since I had DD and it didn't seem fair to tell my dad and then his partner know before MIL so we thought just tell no one and enjoy our little teabag to ourselves for as long as we can.

Is anyone having there flu jabs before 12 weeks?

stopsitting I love your baby brain story.

lexi I get my flu jab tomorrow at 11+1, I wad told to get it ASAP after 8 weeks. also see my gp to try and find a different drug I can go on for other medical problems as the only one that has ever worked isn't safe in pregnancy. not holding out any hope.

jolly I am in Scotland and have ready steady baby, I'm just trying to hold off reading it until after my scan.

hope everyone is doing ok tonight

I got my flu jab at about 6 weeks. Fine. Thanks for scan wishes, good luck little miss hope we both see healthy beans tomorrow x