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August 2013 Part 2: Looking forward to scans and the beginning of bumps!

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chocolatesolveseverything · 08/01/2013 21:48

Here's a new thread for us summer mums-to-be.

A link to the first thread is here.

This first trimester will end eventually... it will, it will!!! Grin

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chocolatesolveseverything · 16/01/2013 11:15

So sorry, bzzbee.

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LittleMissSnowShine · 16/01/2013 11:24

bzzbee - so so sorry :( Exactly same thing happened to us in July last year, everything was going so well and then about 9 weeks I had a light bleed but since my scan was booked for a week later I didn't bother going to EPU like you did today. Scan showed no heartbeat and it really is so upsetting and such a sense of loss. Thinking about you today - fwiw I had erpc done because I had a mc years ago and I was very stressed about going through the pain and bleeding, potentially at home alone with DS, and I found the erpc great, took a lot of the stress of waiting away, really didn't hurt afterwards and I got pg again a few months later. Agree with foof, pregnancy loss board here is a great place to get support :( and Thanks

OxfordToLondoner · 16/01/2013 11:59

Thinking of you bzzbee....if it is bad news (and i really hope it isn't) I can also thoroughly recommend calling the Miscarriage Association. They have counsellors who've been through it themselves and are rather marvellous...perfect for a good old scream and cry down the phone.

blondecat · 16/01/2013 12:25

Bzzbee I am so sorry. Please take care of yourself.

I checked out of this thread in late December. I had a bleed and I was sure I lost the baby. A scan three days later showed it going strong, followed by 3 nervous Christmas weeks, a travel ban and no fun allowed - no skiing, no sledging, no ...

Then got the all clear on the 7th followed four days later by another bleed in the night. Again my heart stopped, rushed to the doctor and again the baby is fine.

Today I am spotting and trying to chill out about it but can't. After to MCs every twinge sends me running to the loo. I am 10 +5 and have the scan booked for Monday.

The thing which gets me is that we had to leave London for Switzerland and while my doctor here is fantastic I think his kit is dated. I am fairly certain the ultrasound doesn't show heartrate, can't measure blood flow etc. So how can he give me accurate odds for trisomies? I wish I could go to the Fetal Medicine Centre for my tests next week but he told me not to fly. Hmm

I will add myself to the stats but meanwhile - anyone have happy spotting stories to tell?

Yvonney · 16/01/2013 12:30

bzzbee - so sorry to hear your news, thinking of you, take care Thanks xxx

LittleMissSnowShine · 16/01/2013 12:32

blonde - I spotted loads at the beginning of this pg for at least a week on and off, and after having had spotting followed by mmc last year I was also sure I was in for the same thing this time round. Esp because although I didn't have cramping and the spotting wasn't particularly heavy, I didn't have cramping or heavy bleeding the time it ended in mc either, and both times the bleeding was very red in colour. Anyway, it's settled down now and like you I am around the 10+4 mark. I'm on a thread with other ladies who are pg following mcs and quite a few of them experienced bleeding during their pgs this time round, one is still having spotting and she's 6 months along. Unfortunately I think it is more common to spot during pg after you've had a mc but fortunately, it is often not something to worry about. Good luck!

blondecat · 16/01/2013 12:55

Littlemiss

Thank you Smile
I tried to find this thread but can't. Is it under miscarriage or in antenatal clubs?

Christelle2207 · 16/01/2013 13:18

so sorry bee xx

GaryBuseysTeeth · 16/01/2013 13:23

bzzbee, I am so sorry to hear your news.
Echo what everyone here said, the pregnancy loss board on here is fantastic & full of lovely ladies happy to talk you through everything.
Hope the next few days & months are as peaceful as can be for you, sending lots of love. xxx

LexiLoganberryBump · 16/01/2013 13:35

Really sorry bzzbee

LittleMissSnowShine · 16/01/2013 13:49

blonde - it could be time to start a new one because the one that I am on quite a few ladies are almost ready to have their babies and a few others are 5 and 6 months along. So maybe we should start a brand new shiny one for hand holding thru pg after mc?

thekatsatonthematt · 16/01/2013 14:00

So sad to see our numbers dwindling all the time. Wine Thanks and good wishes to all.

Very jealous of those of you with such clear scan pictures already. None of DS's look like much of anything, even the ones much further down the line. He just wriggled about all the time, so his pictures are all blurry Smile

blonde I kind of have a good bleeding story. Bit of a good news/bad news one anyway. With DS I bled loads between what I thought were weeks 7&11. My scan date when it came through would have been too late for the nuchal testing so I rang up and got a cancellation.

This turned out to be a bit of a mixed blessing as it turned out I was only 8+3 (ironically too early for the nuchal testing) and the scan took ages (there was a trainee initially, the the supervisor took over without saying anything to me/DH). I was panicking, but DH was oblivious as he was sat at the end of the bed and he'd seen a wriggly little bean with a good strong heartbeat!

The complication was there was another sac measuring 6+1 with no heartbeat. If I hadn't gone in for that scan I would never have known that we'd "lost" a twin, it was a very surreal experience. The lost twin just sort of got reabsorbed. I never had any more bleeding, and by the next scan there was no sign or it.

I was so relieved that I was still pregnant that I still dont feel as though we lost anything. Which is lucky because with the exception of the MW's in the delivery suite EVERY SINGLE heathcare professional who saw my notes after that said "ooh twins, congratulations!" and I had to correct them every time. Angry

Oh, and we were told that the loss of one twin could reduce the accuracy of the nuchal testing se we didn't bother with it in the end anyway

Anyway, bleeding not always a sign of impending doom, and often there is no explanation. That said, If you're worried contact your EPU.

beckie90 · 16/01/2013 15:06

So sorry bzzbee :( thinking of you xx

bzzbee · 16/01/2013 15:09

Thanks for all your good wishes and helpful advice, you are all so kind.
DP spent the day with me and we decided to book me in for surgery on Fri, if in the meantime nature kicks in then so be it, I'll still be checked to make sure everything is ok.
We tried to get into about 5 different churches to light a candle, but all were locked (SE London). It felt a little like "no room at the inn". We're not at all religious but we felt a need to do something.
Foof thank you for your post, pls could you paste a link to the preg loss board?
Wishing you all the best
Xxx

RainboxFX · 16/01/2013 15:46

bzzbee so so sorry, my heart goes out to you x

MrsPennyapple · 16/01/2013 16:11

So sorry Bzzbee

wavesandsmiles · 16/01/2013 16:15

So sorry bzzbee. Thinking of you and your DP

Chuckaluck · 16/01/2013 18:00

So sorry bzzbee Thanks

LittleMissSnowShine · 16/01/2013 18:05

Aw bzzbee, sorry you couldnt get to a church but light a candle at home anyway - i cried my eyes out and said goodbye to baby before surgery and i found that that really helped afterwards. Thinking of you and heres a link to pg loss board:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/miscarriage

Briarrosy · 16/01/2013 18:10

So sorry to hear that Bzzbee, take care of yourself, big hugs.

I've got my scan tomorrow and am terrified - last time I went for a scan it was horrendous news and I had to terminate so I'm really dreading tomorrow Sad

Can I have a few 'good lucks' - I'm superstitious that way!

ScubaSarah · 16/01/2013 18:31

So So sorry to hear your news Bzzbee Best of luck for the future and I hope you have lots of MN and RL support Thanks

Briarrosy very best of luck from tomorrow - I'll be thinking of you !!

FoofFighter · 16/01/2013 18:52

Thank you for doing the link Littlemiss x

bzzbee, the hospital should have a chapel, I don't know if there are candles there, but I echo the above, light one in your home to 2tide you over" till you can get to a church. What happens next for you, have they said? xx

briarrosy, very best of luck for you, we are all rooting for you xx

It's very sad to be losing a few people at this stage, although I have to say I don't think we've lost too many actually, the Nov12 thread I was on was horrific stats wise Sad ** anyone? Thanks

I had my mw appt today, bloods done, inc a new diabetes test called ummm, I forgot, it's letters and numbers anyway, will get my notes out later. Was a different MW today, she was speaking about private scans and said there was a link to dyslexia if you have too many scans???! I have never seen this referred to?! Going to google later but think she is talking out of her arse personally! Especially as she convinced me to stay on red pathway as the only differences are I get a consultant doing my scans, plus will get an extra one at 34 weeks - which she seemed to think was great although obviously this was after she said what she said above extra scans so I was a bit Confused
Am booked in for a flu jab on Friday, they are stingy aren't they...

Yvonney · 16/01/2013 19:39

Briarrosy - good luck for your scan, I'm sure this time it will be very different xxx Smile Wink

BrieMonster · 16/01/2013 19:43

Oh bzzbee so gutted for you. I really hoped that was going to go differently for you. Such a hard sad time. I wish you all the best. I don't know if they told you the same: that people start to feel 'normal' again after about 5 weeks? I thought it was a stupid unhelpful statement at the time but it turned out to be true for me. Do some nice things to get you through, anything goes I say!

Good like briarrosy! I'm sure after all the anticipation you'll be able to relax and enjoy the show your baby will perform.

Had mine today so my dreaded excitement/excited dread is now passed. She put me a day ahead of what I thought so 12+1.. Maybe I'll add myself to the stats at last and start contributing a bit more now!? I actually get another scan next week as despite our best jiggling they couldn't get a good angle for the nuchal measurement. I'll take whatever's going!

Hope everyone is doing fine, sad news and morning sickness notwithstanding. Hi james did I read your scan is tomorrow? Yay!!

BrieMonster · 16/01/2013 19:44

Luck obviously.. I wish you good luck briarrrosy.