BFP wishes CAME true!! The Graduates Club

[LittleMissSnowShine]

Ladies of the bfp wishes thread who've had their wishes granted ... Join me!! We've had a rocky road ttc, now lets enjoy the highs and lows of our much wanted pregnancies together First came the bfps...and then what comes next????

Hi!
Think I'm 9+5 today, but finally got a scan appointment for 30th Jan, when by my reckoning I'll be 12+1 so we'll see how right I am (fingers crossed that all will be well at the scan of course).

littlemiss I'm still being really sick too, I hate it and dread eating because sicking up straight after a meal is the worst (tmi, sorry). Having to take regular naps and find it really hard when dh is at work and I have dd on my own. I feel really bad moaning about it because I do know how lucky I am to be pregnant. Especially hit home after weechops' news, I really hope she's back here very soon. So trying to count my blessings and hopefully the sickness will subside for both of us soon.

Good to see you here!

Hi sunshine thanks!
Feel a bit of a fraud here though as I am pretending its not real!

And congrats to sunshine and littlemiss for getting so far - fx for all of you on here x

Morning! Hope everyone had a lovely weekend.

I'm starting to feel slightly of all the puking going on around here - still no nausea here, just a bit of light headedness if I don't eat regularly. Still only 5+4 though....the days are seriously dragging!

kitten it may still come! Have you got any appointments booked yet?

I've got my first appointment with the midwife on Thursday morning when I'll be 6+0. Anyone know what she'll do/how long it'll take? Will she take blodd this time?

sunshine - I'm right with you, keep reminding myself that despite of the sickness and being stuck at home all the time, I am still very glad to be pg and try to be extra grateful, esp because of all the ladies we know who want to be pg so very badly.

kitten - My pukeathon only began about 3 weeks ago or so, def after 7 weeks. So be patient!! FX you manage to get through without it tho, always v of ladies who are just feeling a bit tired for first tri. I'd love to be one of them!! That's an early appt with midwife, so she might just take details from you to get you onto the system so you can get booked at a hospital / birthing centre and so you can get an appt for a scan. I'd be surprised if she took blood at 6 weeks but she might, and she will probably do blood pressure / weight / some family medical history etc. Good luck!!!

I know what you mean kitten about the days dragging! It feels like weeks that I've had to wait only to get to ...(drumroll)... 4+4 !!!

And sorry kitty for being naughty about POAS I am a bad fatas (feel I should change my name really but can't be arsed!)

Actually can't be arsed with most things at the moment! Am so lazy and a bit tired and my bobs are a bit hurty too (yay!)

Oops! Boobs not bobs!!

That's ok fatas I can hardly talk having got through 9 just glad the test went up, afternoon wee never a good idea!
The first bit is so hard but each appointment is a milestone, good luck kitten, I doubt she will take bloods at 6 wks too mine were done at 12wk scan both times but I guess it depends on area, anyone broken the news to a few and what were their reactions??

Yes, it def does drag during first tri - I can only hope that once booking scan has gone ahead and sickness clears up that the weeks will go in quicker!

kitty - Because I've been so bokey and GP has signed me off work, I've had to tell a few people, obviously my mum & dad and in-laws and our siblings cos they have all been helping us out looking after DS while i've been off my feet, my boss and another friend in work and other friends I would have usually met up with over xmas holidays that I had to cancel on. Didn't really want to tell anyone early, esp cos of mmc last time but hard to avoid if you're laid up!! But I was glad people knew when I had mc anyway because it was easier not having people asking me when we were going to have another baby and understanding why I wasn't in the best form in Aug/Sep. So there's def a few pros to letting the news out to family/good friends before 12 weeks...

I ended up telling a friend whose wedding is abroad in August as I worried she might think I was being rude not organising flights (said I would earlier!) and I told my bezzie too of course and I've told another close friend who is good at keeping secrets and was pg when I last was (but hers didn't end in mc!) - they are all people who I would tell if I had a mc again - I made them promise not to get excited as I just feel a bit negative and deflated about the whole thing!

Scared about telling my mum as she would be so excited I couldn't bear it and this weekend we are away with friends - last time we saw them we drank loads and there's no way they would believe any antibiotic excuses so they will know too by Saturday!! Really don't want to tell anyone else! Feel like a total fraud anyway - I actually feel stupid tellig them! As if its a foregone conclusion (horrid brain!)

Ah fatas don't feel like that there's no resin this pregnancy will be anything other then wonderful with a lovely babs at the end!!
Could you say you are on a detox diet? I think that's pretty believable in January especially if you go on about how badly you over indulged at Xmas, you can even say you want to get your body ready to "try" if anyone pulls you up?
It's good you've told bezzies for support anyway

fatas - I know, it's so hard to keep it a secret, it's extra difficult if you're puking like something out of the Exorcist and you can't leave the house so I've always had to tell people by about 8 weeks which is not ideal and not what I would have chosen to do either. But in another way it's nice to have people's support and although, as kittykats said, there's no reason to think things won't work out. even if they don't (like what happened to me last time) I was glad friends and family knew so they understood what we were going through. No point in trying to doing things on your own! (My motto now that I am incapable of lifting a finger or doing much except watching box sets and puking lol)

just confessed to friend that I am seeing this weekend and she confessed that she has just had a mc - very sad she was about 6 weeks - so we are going to be giving her lots of tlc this weekend - I hope we can do something nice and the snow doesn't interfere (not that I don't love a bit of snow!)

fatas - It's hard being pg when a friend has just had a mc, I have been on both ends of that, with DS a good friend of mine's daughter was still born just a couple of months before DS was born and it was a really tough time for our friendship tbh. But when I had mc last summer, a few friends of mine were pg at the time and went on to have their babies before I got pg again and then I understood how tough it was to be on the other end of things. I do think it's better to be open though, so your friend knows you are expecting and you know she's just lost a baby and you can both just be more aware of how you're both feeling. Have a lovely weekend :)

Thanks littlemiss - I agree. My friends who were pg when I was but had mmc must have felt awkward, but you really know who your friends are when you come through it! Two of them (didn't know for more than about 2 yrs) have totally ignored me since their babies have been born! Even though I made huge efforts to be 'normal' in my depression about it all - the others have been just the same and I love them for it!

Must have been awful for you and your friend. Still birth is every pg woman's worst nightmare isn't it? And as a friend there are no words you can say to make them feel better, which you are desperate to do...

When I say just the same I mean just their normal selves! (Didn't make sense when I read it back )

Hey! Where is everyone?!

Hi fatas I am here! Don't worry, you didn't kill the thread!

I bet your friends that ignored you just didn't know how to handle the situation, so took the easy (but awful) route of just ignoring you. A good friend of mine had a stillborn baby this time last year and so many people just stayed away from her because they didn't know what to say. She found that harder than if sometimes people say the wrong thing, or even just admitted they don't know what to say.

I am now 34 weeks and considering getting a hospital bag together. But tha just feels too real so perhaps I will delay it for a couple of more weeks.

I am sat in bed with the ipad while DH looks after ds1 and ds2 and has just promised to bring me up some toast! Maybe being heavily pregnany isn't all bad.

We watched Utopia last night. Anyone else watch this? I am not a squeamish person but found it REALLY grim! Good story though.

ted - woo hoo hospital bag time - how exciting :) :) Havent seen Utopia yet but watched that Zero Dark Thirty movie last night - not the cheeriest either lol

fatas - still here!! Between the snow and hyperemesis i have nothing fun to update on today really but did make it out for an hour with dh and ds to see friends who have a 2 yeard old DS like us but who also had twin boys a few weeks ago so nice to get some tiny baby cuddles!!

Hi ted - I haven't watched utopia either: is it a tv series?

Well am feeling a bit worried again as waited 8 days since last did a cb digi and it still says 2-3 weeks - I know that doesn't necessarily mean anything but what with hardly any symptoms (bar a stupid anxious brain) of course I am totally panicking! I think I should stop doing the tests but I can't now! It's a matter of principle! If I can get 3+ then obv I would stop but if it sticks at 2-3 then I guess I feel like I have some kind of chance to prevent the awful shock I got when I saw the scan with no heartbeat last year (after a normal scan with hb) - so it's all just a silly protective thing really. Am I crazy???

Will wait and test on weds I think...

Hi ted how exciting!!! Keep us updated on any twinges, you'll be our first graduate baby! Do you know the sex already?

fatas I know it's easier said than done but please try not to worry. If you need to test again try and wait another week. Come here to talk if you need too. It's a really scary time, especially given what you went through last year. You're definitely not crazy! This might sound harsh, and I don't mean it to, but however the pregnancy is going to work out, you can't really change it, all you can try to do is look after yourself physically and emotionally. I understand you wanting to protect yourself

I know sunshine you are totally right - when I'm more sensible I say that to myself, but I really think its this unreasonable need to prevent a big shock at scan that I want to avoid - even though either way it would be awful to have a bad scan again no matter what!

Grrrr!

Anyway, that is so exciting ted and I would also like to be nosy about the baby's sex! Have you got sons or daughters already??