Sept 2013?

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Hello - bit early, but I definitely had two positives this morning, wanted to check on drinking vodka this evening or not. I make due date 4th Sep 2013.
I had to terminate a pregnancy in late Sep at 13ish weeks because of incompatible with life diagnosis, so hope that doesn't happen again (I have a 25% chance but hopefully I'll fall in the 75% this time).

Congrats to all BTW. X

Oh cracks, I'm massively guilty about work. I had been intending to go for an internal move to get promotion (have started a thread but nobody's answered, sniff sniff) and now I realise that me moving would utterly scupper my team and my close colleague in particular. I've applied for something but I don't think I can take it if I get it. It would just muck others around too much as well as being not quite as ideal financially as it seems.

I told work early as I am the third person in our team pregnant recently! Felt they ought to know for recruiting. I just explained that I was telling them early for this reason, and that I would appreciate it if it was kept quiet. It's nice them knowing actually as I've felt so shit. Should be at a meeting tonight but was able to not go as she knows I am feeling awful.

Perhaps I'll speak to my line manager. He knew we were TTC as I told him I was worried about next year. Little did I know that I was infact pregnant when I spoke to him! Thanks batfattocks.

I think he'll know the best thing to do as he told me to not even worry about work. His one piece of advice was to keep quiet until 12wks as his wife had mmc when first pregnant. I just don't want to put him in an awkward position. Might leave it the weekend and after doc apt.

Why should this amazing time be thwarted by blinking work? lexyma, I've told one colleague as wanted a friend at work and she said that come sept, all this worry will mean nothing. Would your promotion make a big diff money wise? Have you spoken to a trusted colleague for their advice? They will know the dynamics of your team and what it will be like for you. No matter what position you leave them in, they'll be fine, but it's what it could be like for you when you return. Tricky one.

Cacks as you are a teacher and recruitment is really year based, maybe a chat with the head now is a good thing. Just tell her to keep it quite and I'm sure she will. It is important to maintain a good relationship if you intend to return.

I work in a very male dominated profession so it's very rare anyone ever go on maternity. There are also a lot of contractors in the field. So I'm not feeling guilty about it at all!

Sneaking a look round the door......

My lovely new app (because I haven't had a drs appt yet) says I'm due sept 22.....

Frog, me old mucker! Fancy seeing you here!

I'm telling office manager today because I have to nor tables, chairs, boxes etc round on a pretty much daily basis, so will tell her, but tell her she needs to keep it quiet.

Morning sickness and sitting backwards on a train is not the way forward, and to top it off, my sick bag is in my other bag

Cacks I'm a teacher, too.
You've chosen the "best" time of year to go off! I mean from their point of view and from yours.
They have a a couple of terms to find someone to replace you. Often people have an interview in the summer, and resign by the May half-term deadline. That means the school are then only able to recruit from people without teaching posts already. This is really awkward for them
Also, as my brilliant HoD said the first time I went off on mat leave (!), you do at least get some warning with mat leave. You don't get this, for example, if someone is sick long-term (not that there's anything "wrong" with this. Am just making the comparison).
Also, from your point of view, you'll be on holiday for the last few weeks of your pregnancy, but don't need to start mat leave til 1st Sep.

I felt (and still feel) tremendously guilty for going on leave and leaving my dept/ pupils. But what is the alternative? Either you don't work, or you don't have children. I've tried to be pragmatic about it. It won't be forever. And hopefully they appreciate having me when I am there??...

Another teacher here. I only just took over a dept which has been badly mismanaged for years, and am still sorting it out. I do feel guilty (a bit) but no job will ever be as important to me as making the right decision for my family.

Having said that, did everything I could to get pg with a Sept edd. Best time to go off, for you, them and the kids. Just neatly skip an academic year. Last pg I went off in March: worked out ok but not ideal. My mat cover only got a couple of months work, the kids were disrupted mid assessment, and I lost all my holiday. This way I will be on hol all of aug, and most of may, and then mat leave will kick in sept (due 6th). Couldn't be neater!

Teaching is one of those professions where there is so much guilt for taking time off though, isn't it? I'm currently home sick with a chest infection, and its OFSTED inspection week I am right to be at home but my goodness, the guilt!

Ps I told work last week. Am on anticoagulants and anti sickness medication so they needed to know in case anything happened. They were fine and my hod was lovely :)

Hello another teacher/tutor type here!

So glad I've found this thread... I'm due 25th Sept and was hoping to plan for September birth but didn't imagine that would actually work or indeed i would get pregnant first time we tried. All a bit of a whirl wind and a tad scary but overall I am happy happy happy!

Have only told OH's dad and you lot now oh and my cat lol. I'm not good at keeping secrets so this will be a challenge. I took 3 tests, couldnt believe my eyes so got the "pregnant" "not pregnant" one for reassurance!

Im 4 weeks yesterday nit sure what to do now apart from go to docs. Belle I know what you mean about feeling guilty... Look fwd to chatting with you all x

Hello, been sent here by frog from the Jan TTC bus....due 24th Sept & it's the first time I'm pg! Off to the doc's tomoro after a bit of a scare from the travel nurse on Weds....she was not impressed that I'm off to Bali in a few weeks ( apparently it's tantamount to fetal abuse). Anyway, hubby and I have decided that if it can't handle long-haul then it's going to struggle with us as parents! So am off to see if the doc can find a compromise on the 'cancel your holiday' approach. Fx he's a bit more reasonable!

Morning ladies. I got my letter from the midwives last night informing me of my appointed booking in day. It seems they'll take a blood sample for testing at the booking in appointment. I was also told to go to the surgery to get a booking in pack. Took a detour on my way to work this morning to the surgery to pick the pack up. You know what? They've run out!! It does seem sept is going to be a very busy month in maternity units.

Morning all

Congrats and welcome to the new ladies.

5+4 today and morning sickness has started feeling very sorry for myself at work luckily I'm on my own so just sitting quietly is helping so is eating loads but trying to avoid that.

I know what some of you mean about worrying because of work, I work in a small practice of 9 employees in 30 years of being open nobody has had maternity leave! Not going to tell them until after 12 weeks if possible.

Thanks a lot for your advice Saphireday

The 'done thing' in my office would be to tell your line manager one to one in a meeting room. Then a bit more flexible as to how/when you can choose to spread the news a bit more widely.

I have thought about sending her an email first, then talking face to face, say later that day. I have picked up a theme from people who have posted similar threads in conception that this approach was appreciated so it's not a bolt from the blue, and it will allow her to have her initial reaction privately, whatever this may be.

Although I was in a different team at the time, I shudder to think of how I flashed around my scan pictures with DD a few years ago. Thankfully I now know better.

What do you think of my email then face to face plan? Would love to hear your thoughts

Hi jemima, congrats! I see a lot of 4 + ... what does it mean?

Sorry u not feeling so good, it is your first? Me too. Feeling a bit tearful but actually happy really weird!! Im trying to hold out 12 weeks too. Im self employed so got a few days to get over shock at the mo.

TripleRock, i have no experience of this but sounds a good idea. But perhaps title it privat and confidential so noone else reads it over shoulder? Hope that helps.

Triple, sound like a good idea. It's different for me because my manager will fx be quite happy for me and the nature of my job means our workplace is very accommodating of these situations. I've work with 46 women and maternity is common here! So somehow I have no worries about telling her. (Maybe I'm being naive here, ) I also need to tell her ASAP as she will likely need to arrange things as not to compromise health and safety. Will let you know how it goes!

swaye, the 4+ etc is how they date pregnancy. It's weeks + day. Say 40+3 means you are 40 weeks and 3 days. A lot of people here are on 4-5 weeks atm.

swaye don't worry about not knowing all of these. A lot of us here are not first timers .

I'm really worried. Am due to fly to prague on Sunday. I'll be 5 weeks and I'm really worried about early mc. I know the flight is only 2 hours but I'm so stressing about it.

Hi all- welcome to new faces!

I've got my Dr app booked for next week now (the only dates we could all make). She knows I was ttc so told me that if I got a positive test I should book an appointment in with her. She's really nice so I'm looking forwards to it all. What should I expect at the appointment?

I am also fsking tired. Last night I slept through 10pm until 8am (woke up a few times inbetween but working at home today so no commute!) and the night before I slept from 8:40pm until 6:30am! Schweet! I'm not that tired during the day until about 2pm where I just schlomp and get a bit shakey and pathetic feeling! I've never experienced the post-lunch schlomp before! I'm trying to get a bit more iron in my diet, so upping the spinnach!

frog don't worry. I flew to Japan last time in my first trimester. Can't remember the exact weeks, but I came back on week 14 for my first scan. I got myself some flight socks because pregnant women has higher risk for DVT. That's it.

Frog I work with lots of women too. The difficulty is that my line manager has had a terrible struggle with her fertility and her mc after her last round of ivf was less than 6 months ago. I already have DD, the whole situation is completely unfair.

I have learned from mn that fertility issues are a lot more common than I thought. And when you work with lots of women, the chances are that there are those amongst them that are potentially in the same boat.