March 2013 IX: Cruising to Christmas with burgeoning bumps

[Sheldonella]

Thanks sarahs999 for the lovely new thread name :)

Old thread here

No 9, can you believe it

Thanks ladies for clarifying on Muslins. I don't know why I am so unsure. Any first time mums I would recommend lots of Muslins. I bought 3 of these packs from John Lewis:

www.johnlewis.com/230650111/Product.aspx

and they were brilliant esp in the early days as pink said I used to lay D'S head on them in Moses basket or cot and it meant if he was ill it didn't go over sheet. He still sleeps with one more for comfort now.

Thanks also for tip for towels. Must get a couple.

Ate my way through today, was starving all day so am thinking bubba is going through a growth spurt and I must have put on pounds today!

Great news for Kate Middleton though imagine being so scrutinised when pregnant.

Hope everyone has a lovely evening. Have to help DH pack for NYC. He's is not a packer!

Oc x

Oh my word - just woken from three-hour nap with a mouth full of blood and blood clots. Horrible, horrible. Gingivitis?? My teeth are normally in v.g. condition! Will make tea then catch up - DH just home.

Ah Stealth sorry to hear it!

Thanks for the muslin link october

I went on Amazon with the sole purpose of finding some ending up with a 4 pack of water wipes and 2 bright pink banada bibs! Someone take my debit card away from me now.

Sorry to hear abour DH stealth Gutting :( Chin up chuck.

mandasand a trip to the dentist maybe? I've really got to sort my dentist out. Its such a pain, i moved down from Birmingham a year ago now, and i still cba to sort it out. I hate the dentist.

Royal Variety time.

Sorry to hear that stealth how easy is it for him to get more work?

manda get thee to a dentist. Pregnancy messes with teeth

stealth sorry to hear that about your DH.

manda. I am really good about going to dentist and suddenly my teeth are falling apart. Get to dentist ASAP as it is best to get any work done before 3rd trimester. Also corsydyl mouth wash is super esp for bleeding gums. Get some ASAP but don't use at night as I find it makes me thirsty and that is a pain in the middle of the night!

stealth so sorry to hear that. Was it on the cards? Is he likely to find something else easily. Sending you big hugs.

manda am sure it's nothing but get booked in with dentist. You know I had my teeth problems last week and they fitted me in really quickly because I was pg! Its a normal pg symptom to have bleeding gums, maybe because of the twins you have a worse case? X

Stealth, sorry about your DH. Fingers crossed something else comes through for him.

Know what you mean about teeth issues in pregnancy. Tooth broke a few weeks ago, so just getting crown for it. Had another crown come out with post on Thursday and notice the bottom of another tooth chipped off. Not sure why so many issues now, but back to dentist tomorrow again!!!!

Good night all.

Stealth sorry to hear your news and fingers crossed he finds something super fast!

Blimey am so tired tonight, have got a snotty nose too which don't help- have crawled into bed already! Sorry cant catch up but head is banging so snooze time :)

OK ladies, some advice - just heard that our builders can't start work until 17th Dec. They will have 2 weeks off at Christmas and so the earliest the work will be done is two weeks before my due date. I'd hoped to have at least a month. Given due to family history I think the little one will be unlikely to go much past 37 weeks, should we stop the work? We can't prepare the nursery, but that's not so much of a problem, my main worry is a house full of builders and dust and no space as our rooms will be full of stuff out of the loft. Our house is really small. Is it realistic to think we would be able to get things like painting and decorating and furniture buying done with a newborn in the house? As this is our first I really don't know what is feasible.

manda I agree, you should go to the dentist pronto! Sounds horrid :(

Stealth sorry to hear about your DH, I hope he can get something soon. x

Manda - ow. I've been enjoying joys of bleeding gums too. As noted Cordysyl is great. But I really must get a dentist visit sorted, still haven't signed up with one locally which is poor show really.

Stealth - so sorry to hear about your partner, and just before christmas too, so shitty. Companies, sadly, always do this just before christmas. It really would be far kinder to do this in September or February, when there's less family stress and a job market. Sorry, you know all of this and no help to you at all. Basically I am saying I feel for you both and I hope he finds a new job soon.

Lexi - I have no experience either, but if I was in your shoes I'd probably opt for 6 weeks after birth and going to stay with my parents for a couple of weeks whilst the worst was happening. That said, I am terrible at wanting everything done yesterday so if I could chance it I absolutely would. What an arse for you guys though. Grrrr.

I had a little (4 hour) nap. Head still pounding but not as bad. Seeing consultant wednesday so will ask for thoughts. I'm v snotty, so clearly is coldy. I also suspect there is a link up with back issues, as I woke this morning just feeling battered. Hmmmm, let us see what consultant suggests - there's a test for him.

It is dawning on me that I have LOTS of work for Dcemeber and no time at all to do it. The realisation that I can't do it all is not a nice one. Not sure what I can do about it really. Need to sort out a little time juggling, may take a week off post christmas adn make that - sit at home & catch up on paperwork week. Unfortunately that doesn't sort out my pre Christmas deadline work. A clone would be good right now.

Zoey - gosh, back to the grindstone again. Try and take it as easy as you can. I appreciate that sounds trite, but you can be in the office without going mad can't you..?

Morning All

Hope you all all slept well nad its not too cold where you are. I feel awake for the first time in weeks - I ditched my maternity pillow thing as poor DH was getting no sleep as it took up most of bed and used 2 decrative pillows to wedge me and feel so much better and had a much better sleep :)

The office wasnt overly stressful yesterday and wont be today - I have loads to do but with no boss etc its just a lot more relaxed and can plod along and do things in my own time so its not all bad :)

Hope your consultant can offer some support and help for you tomorrow Tramp
I would go ahead with the work Lexi as once baby comes there will not really ever be a 'good' time to have builders in with the sleepless newborn nights, then teething then they get mobile and start having hands that need to touch and you may be surprised and go term or even over

Hello Marchers!

Well, I've had no more bleeding gums episodes, I'm pleased to report, and have got my appointments with the dentist and the hygienist (both of which were due around now anyway) in the diary. Phew! In the meantime I'll get some of that Corsydol stuff - thanks for the recommendation!

Stealth so sorry to hear about DH's redundancy Hopefully there will be something v.g. not long around the corner.

Zoey will put 'buy xmas pud' in my diary!

Ethel you're right, getting my bags packed at Christmas would be reassuring!

How are you feeling about everything today, Lexi?

Can't believe how quickly this day is rushing along. I have to deliver a big and important piece of writing by end of day and I'm still listening to interviews I conducted in the summer to gather primary material. Bugger. And I know that I'll flake out about 4.30 and need my 4-hr 'nap'. Hmm.

Lexi I would start before xmas and then it is nearly finished even if your baby is early. In my experience the messiest work is at the start and then painting/decorating isn't the dusty work so better to be around with a baby. We had our side return in our last house with a 6 month ds1 and had 3 months of no kitchen and living in our bedroom with a microwave. It wasn't fun but totally manageable because he wasn't mobile (in fact he amazingly started crawling the day after the builders left). We just had 3 weeks of builders with no kitchen and again it wasn't fun but fine and that was with three children under 6. The dusty work was the worse because it gets everywhere and really hurts your eyes but then last week was painting and that was totally fine.
Newborns are great because they don't move and so easy to have around with builders. Furniture buying with a baby is fine because you can either order online or they are very portable to take shopping. I hope you manage to decide what to do soon because it sounds very stressful.

Manda hope the bleeding gums settle soon. It's very common in pregnancy, I had it with ds1 and it was horrid. Corsydol is fab. Good thing about dental work and being pregnant is that it's all free if you manage to find a good NHS dentist! Vivee I hope you get yours sorted out soon too.

Stealth so sorry to hear about your dh did he get a good redundancy package? It's happened to so many people I know recently. I hope he manages to find something else soon.

All Ok here. My au pair has the flu so I have the joy of taking all three boys swimming this afternoon. The two older ones have a swimming lesson and I normally leave ds3 at home but he will have to come and the easiest thing (to prevent him jumping in the pool with his clothes on) is for me to take him swimming whilst they have their lesson. Not sure I am feeling brave enough for a swimsuit... feel like a whale! Doesn't help that the gym the pool is at is full of very chic French ladies in bikinis who look amazing

Hope everyone else is Ok

Tramp hope you feel better soon and it is 'just' a cold, nothing more sinister. Like you I am a "get things done" person and zoey I share your worry that from now on in, there is never a 'good time' for work! Glad to hear zoey also that you aren't under too much stress in the office - long may it continue.

Ended up having a bit of a meltdown last night about the builders stuff/nan/DH's business, then this morning woke up at 5am to more (sorry if TMI!) 'leakage' that was definitely not urine. Spoke to MW at 9 who sent me straight to the unit for triage. Good news, though a bit is that it isn't amniotic fluid and also isn't wee - so must just be another joyous symptom of third trimester! They did say given family history (my mum had me at 35 weeks, suddenly, and my brother at 36 having been in and out of hospital from 28 weeks with him) if it happens again I should do exactly the same and get it checked again. All strapped up to monitors and Beanette is doing well, midwifes could not have been nicer as I felt like a massive fraud! But given what they said, would advise anyone else to get checked out in the same situation.

re: builders: with non-pregnant-nesty-head on, have been trying to be logical. Agreed with DH today that if the builder thinks it is realistic to have either finished the work by 2 weeks to D-Day, or to be at a stage where it is structurally all done and we have 1 or two tradesmen in doing internals (ie plastering) we will go for it. If he can't be sure of the details of schedule (bearing in mind he keeps letting us down!) or if he thinks we will still have sawing/hammering/roof off or several people tramping through the house that close to due date, we'll postpone till Spring and I will take refuge at my folks place. It's too far for me to do that now as they live 3.5 hours away. We hope to get the structural stuff all done, then if me and DH finish the decorating and internals over the first few months of baby's life, we can do that. Will see what he says.

Sorry for epic me post! manda good luck with the deadline!

Manda - good luck with the deadline, hopefully all done by the time you read this.

Lexi - go for it, there will never be a better time now! Glad you got monitored and things are ok.

Things are going well here, flumping away in there currently, lots of internal and bladder shots today, but anything is good! i have pork scratching and appletiser cravings, anyone else got weird ones?

Scared the hell out of myself yesterday when a large cupboard full of glass fell off the wall, OH and told me it was fine when we put it up and I always worried. Yesterday one of the raw plugs snapped and it just crashed. Fortunately it missed most of me, I just have a black hand where the door clipped me, quite sore but livable with. OH is very very upset about it all. Had lots of bottles of beer for rellies Xmas presents and a bottle of mulled wine on the floor underneath.. carnage. Cupboard contained all my beautiful glasses. He has been amazing and wouldn't let me do a thing. We are going to hire a rug doctor later and try and improve the carpet situation. We have cream carpets in our 1 year old home. Gah.

Still worrying about things, current worries are pre-term labour and pre-eclampsia, which it turns out my mother didn't have... I am not sure I trust her memory! She was admitted to hospital for about 4-5 weeks before the birth of my sister 14 years ago, sent from GP straight there due to high BP, she now tells me it was actually because she had a low-lying placenta and sister was transverse... that doesn't sound like a reason to keep someone in? She did have a 90minute labour with me, so apparently they worried about that? I'm very dubious about it all. She ended up having a c-section, but they made her sign to say she wanted it, all very odd. Also find it very scary that a lady on a March thread had her baby already on another forum, her baby is tiny and beautiful, but long long road ahead for them.

Evening Ladies

~Quick catch up read~

pink i love swimming! I think we look better than any of the very chic French ladies. We are growing life (Y) So i bet you'd look amazing, and they'd be jealous!

manda Glad your teeth are better. Thanks for keeping in my mind to find a dentist and get registered!

sundae I hope your carpet comes up nice! Shame about your glasses :( I'm so glad we have laminate. Might be better if i have a sicky baby. Which knowing my luck and my lovely new sofa, i will. Wow, a lady has already given birth! Bet that poor little mite has a long fight ahead. Hope all goes well for them. Makes me worry about things. A few members of my family, including myself was all premature, by 3/4 weeks and that scares me enough! I've got no cravings as of yet.

Update on me & my Isabelle-Bump. Today we've done basically nout! Treated ourselves for a chip butty at lunch and about to have fish and jacket spuds for tea. Just a relaxing day, ready for the usual crap at the job center tomorrow. Woop woop.

Hope everyone else leads a more active life than me! And all are ok :)

Something i forgot to say, and would like your views on.

Picked up a leaflet for the Whooping Cough Jab today. With it being on the news about poor babies dying i thought i'd look into it. I've come across mixed reviews when looking online, the main issue is it being a combined Jab, so its not just for whooping cough.

So the basics: You can have it after week 28 of pregnancy, best time is before 32 weeks. If you've had it before you was pregnant for any reason, you may have to have it again because the baby may not get your immunisation of it.

Thoughts?

It's the same jab they give 8 week old babies with v few reported side affects. 19 whooping cough deaths this year from

sundae that sounds so scary, glad you weren't hurt. After experience today I'd say discuss your Mum's history with your midwife & they will tell you if it is the kind of thing that may run in families. It's possible they may have kept her in with your sister as I think they were generally more likely to keep people in for longer than they are now.
Very scary that someone else has had their baby, really hope all is OK - brings home the reality a bit!
Lauren I don't know much about the medical issues, but the MW tells me the jab is very,very low risk for adults & after 28 weeks immunity passes to the baby. I'm booked in for mine in two weeks time.

Off topic - does anyone know if you can take any decongestants in pregnancy? Am very snotty & chesty. Using olbas oil like a trooper :)

Glad other people are questioning this whooping cough jab as my midwife told me it takes 4 weeks to properly work and provide immunity for baby and then added they won't do it before 28 weeks and she can't see me managing another 4 weeks after 28 so she didn't really see any point me having it- helpful!!!!! Decided am going to discuss it with consultant when I see him on Thursday and have added it to my list of questions I need answered as feel abit lost at mo with no idea of plans ie am I def c section again if so will he put in notes it's GA or can I try normal delivery with guild lines written on what my back/ pelvis can be put through, I know it's early but it's playing on my mind and am 26 weeks tomorrow and DS1 came at 28
Glad you ok sundae and sorry to hear of all your broken things and messed up rug- however u and baby are ok which is main thing :)

I think I may give birth to a furr ball as the amount of heart burn I have is beyond stupid now- I have never had it this bad!!!!
DS had me in stitches earlier as he was told off and pulled a little lip and come for a cuddle and to say sorry, was cuddling me and layed on me and bump gave him a massive kick - he looked so confused and said 'ouch mummy, say sorry' I then had to rub his belly for 10 mins while he milked the fact he thought mummy had just jabbed him in the ribs for no reason, lol! He is only 22 months so even though will point to belly and say baby he has no clue what it really means so just thought I was super mean

Thanks for kind thoughts all - dh being a star and has already got a meeting re a possible similar position. Got decent package so we have a few months before we need to worry but with the building work going on and baby on the way it's hard not to! I was made redundant in 2001 and it led to me getting a better job that am still in so we know it can work out. Plus the baby worries over the last fee months put it all in perspective. As long ax we our happy little boys and each other we will be just fine!!

Yuck to bleeding gums. Not really had that so can't give any advice. I guess msnda you get everything twice as bad because of twins.

Am in awe if you ladies who have managed building works and no kitchen and young children. Scared me so much we have moved out!

Can't remember all the other news but is it pink (?) we seem to have spookily similar things with 4 boys and same towels!!! I promise I am not a weirdo stalker!!!

Lexi all the packets say no to decongestants but my consultant told me all the ingredients are safe no one has just tested them combined on a pregnant lady for obvious reasons and taking them when needed is perfectly fine and any risk would be before 12 weeks! He pointed out try and get by with 1 rather than to and only when really bad so not all day everyday but he even did me some on prescription when I said I would have to lie in chemist to get them as they wouldn't sell me them- so it's personal preference! I tend to be happy with anything my consultant says and even though I have MASSIVE trust issues with hospitals and doctors etc because of what happened- I trust him and his judgement 100% as DS1 wouldn't be alive today if it wasn't for him