Due August 2013

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We had our BFPs in November.

Welcome aboard ladies.

Let's do this Journey together.

Hi beckie DC 3 for me too - I have DS 8 and DD 7, but first DC for me and DH together...

woose what a horrible situation for you. Can you not somehow get an appt with the doctor for a referral to the EPU? I am now really scared about my appointment, and the fact that I really have to tell the GP about my mood and symptoms. DH is coming along, I think mainly to make sure I am actually honest about how things are. Trouble is, he is blaming everything on my coming off my ADs, when really, I think the problem is that his DSSs are being so unpleasant and making me feel like I have to hide in my room whenever they are with us (all weekend and 2 nights mid week). It's probably a combination of both, but I am gutted - I wanted this to be a really happy, exciting time, after my previous pgs were fairly crap due to exH drinking/abuse.

Apparently though, antenatal depression is pretty common - it gets hidden though as people are afraid to admit that they aren't feeling the pg glow or whatever it is called. So, trying to get myself along by reminding myself that plenty of other people feel like this, and that I am going to do the right thing by openly speaking to my GP about it. Hopefully I can get things better, and then start to enjoy this time. Really hope you manage to get some help soon woose

waves Thank you for being lovely I have managed to get an appointment at the doc for later today eventually, but I really had to work at that!

I definitely think you are doing the right thing being honest with your GP, it will be better to get things out in the open and tell someone how you are feeling, someone who is outside the family, they can help you look at things objectively. It sounds as if you are having a really tough time with your DSS at the moment, that must be hard what with everything else added to it. I am not surprised you are feeling low. I am also worried about the appointment as i think they will say I need to switch ADs to one that you can take in pg. I was on AD with my first DC but managed to wean myself off, I was fine. However, things were different. I was desperate for a baby then and I was so happy about it.
I know my DH does not want a baby, he even said it is the worst thing that could happen. We are hardly speaking at the moment and have been arguing all weekend.

I think you are right that depression in pg is more common than we think it is just not spoken about too much. I don't feel happy about being pg really, I feel scared, shocked, in denial and I am dreading having another mc. I am sure like you say there are many others out there that can relate to these feelings.

Kepp us updated about how it goes later xxx

Hey all.
Please can I join you?
BFP yesterday morning.
Not sure due date however because cycles have been a bit over the place.
Probably somewhere between 4th and 10th Aug.
Doctors appointment today as taking DS (3 and a half) who might have an ear infection.

littlemiss sounds like we're on very similar dates with mc and then this pg.

Fingers crossed for you this time!

This thread's getting huge already!

Rang the dr's this morning for an appt (thinking end of week) and they gave me one for 9am this morning! so seen the dr and we had a chat, she asked me to book in with mw (3rd Jan) so hopefully i'll make it to the appointment this time!!

Woose hope things go ok for you at your appt this afternoon and both you and waves feel better about things soon.

V x

Hello everyone! You dropped off my threads!

Welcome and congrats to all the newly upduffed members - totally appreciating the caution of those who recently had a mc - I'm in the same boat as you, having lost first pg at 5+2 in October.

But, am now 6+1 today so thinking positive as best I can. Will try and collate a big due date list at lunchtime if I get a few moments free...

Have also called midwives (we have direct access here too) and they said they'd send me an appointment through the post in the next 1-2 weeks so not much hope of a booking-in appt before Christmas for me.

Was hoping I might be able to get that one ticked off and make it all feel more real. Anyone else considering an early private scan? One here costs £80 - I don't really have that money knocking around just before Christmas, but am really tempted...

bear they're about 100 here. i too am very tempted for christmas time.though though may ask gp first if there's any chance of an early scan on nhs. i was on clomid so one in ten chance of multiples in theory.
if not i am unlikely to get nhs scan before i am back from hols in early feb which seems like ages.

Hi again, and thanks for the good wishes vix

I have just got back from seeing my GP, she was more concerned about my state of mind than the pg, although really pleased that I am focussing on what is best for the little bean in terms of my coping strategies and things. As such, she has referred me to the psychiatric team which isn't really what I wanted, but as she said, they are best placed to assess what is the safest way forwards, especially in terms of medication. DH came along and said he was so proud of me for being completely open with her.

Anyway, as a result I am back there on Wendesday morning for blood tests and the proper pg appt when she will do my blood pressure and things like that and refer me to the midwives etc. Was very reassured that the antibiotics she prescribed the day before I found out are completely safe. Phew.

I wish we could have an early scan, but none available here, so we are going to have to wait a little while - I am expecting it will be mid January which seems like a lifetime to wait, especially as that is going to be the only accurate way of dating where I am at - possibly due 28 July based on a standard cycle, but I have a hunch it is going to be a week or 2 after that.

Best wishes for your appointment woose have some to cheer you up for now. So sorry that you and DH are having a hard time and that things start to get better for you

Ok doctor today she gave me a due date of the 29thAugust, every calculator i have looked at says 31st july.

Please help me out, my last period started on the 24th october.

Going by a 28 day cycle which they use i get 31st july.

Adding 9 months and 7 days i get, the 31st july.

On the bloody NHS calculator i get the 31st of july.

I do not trust her because she counted on her hands.

Will one of you lovely ladies work it out for me?

Lola I think it sounds like 31 July is your due date, and I am sure that the midwives will put that right. I am terrible for counting on my hands but then my work doesn't involve much in the way of numbers! Usually the doctor would have a little chart thing to look at...could just be a bad day.

Hello Ladies,

Welcome to all new ladies.

Waves and Woose, I work in mental health and my experience has been that people who suffer from depression are prescribed sertraline as this is considered safe for the baby. Breastfeeding mothers are also prescribed the same. I would advise you to speak to a psychiatrist.

Also wanted to say that there are specialist psychiatrist service for expectant mothers. These will offer you all treatment methods available and it does not always have to be anti depressants.

Maternal mental health probs are quite common and with the right support one can really do well. At least have all the info you need as a back up.

Thanks for the welcome ladies! Sorry to hear that some of us have bits and bobs to worry about already. Fx that the professionals give everyone the help and support they need.

I'm feeling proper ropey today. Really nauseous and swimmy headed. Boobs are killing too! All good things though I hope. I have back ache too but I seem to remember that early on with DS. Sometimes I feel a bit womby though which concerns me. Anyone else a bit too aware of their womb?!

Anyway, that's enough of me banging on. I'm off to try and resist the advent calendar choc!

Welcome Nightwish!

So which one of you is Kate Middleton?? [hgrin]

Lola, your Dr is so out on the dates, if you were due 29th Aug you'd probably wouldn't have a positive pee stick yet!!
Sounds like the 31st to me.

Well done on being open with GP waves, I always freeze up!

((woose)), I hope things improve at home for you.

Private early scan is anything between £200 (Harley St) & £50 here (backwaters of Kent)...so I'm going for the tightfisted option!

Mrsd, if I prod about (gently) I think I can feel my womb, it's like a really large hard nut atm.
Blaming my post DS stomach muscles!

I feel like I'm going to throw up at anypoint which is GREAT!!

Hi everyone,

Congrats on all your BFPs! I got mine on 23rd nov but only just found this thread! Glad to have found you all :)

I've prob done about 12 HPT, so another compulsive POASer! I'm saving a CBD for weds when I should be 6 weeks.

This is my first pg so very new to all this. Any other first timers out there?
Also had some bleeding yesterday so feeling v nervous now. Only a bit first thing in the morning but it was bright red blood so quite worried. Nothing since though so fingers x! I rang the EPU but they said they couldn't offer me a scan until 6 weeks so to get back in touch after that if still worried. Any other experiences like this? I guess I kind of know it could go either way.

Xxx

It's me! I'm Kate Middleton! lol no but I do sympathise with the hyperemesis, it seriously killed me with DS and in my last pg too and I was feeling decidedly queasy in work at only 4 weeks, so looking forward to it kicking in again. Went to chip shop at lunchtime today to do some early carb loading - if last two pgs are anything to go by I'll be skeletal again. For a while. And then fat!

Pingu - Sorry about the bleeding, all I can suggest is leaning on the EPU or if you have any more just go straight to casualty. There's not a whole lot they can do but if you're more than 5 weeks gone an early internal scan will be able to show a heartbeat at that point. I had bleeding at 9 weeks and they really more or less refused to see me because my booking scan was at 10.5 weeks. Unfortunately in that instance it was not good news for me, but it has taught me to not be afraid about being pushy if you are concerned, it's better to know what's going on. Fx for you x

woose - I moved house when I was 9 weeks pg, suffering from hyperemesis and with a toddler in tow at the end of July. You have my full sympathies, all you want is to be snoozing quietly in a nice warm clean house when you're in first tri! (And last tri lol)

Hello. I've been lurking here for a few days and decided to be brave and join. Terrified due to mc in July so not getting carried away just yet.
Think I'm due 4th August.
Had first doc app today and she referred me to EPU which caused me to panic a bit more!
Had the scan this afternoon and all looks well for 5 weeks. Seen the sack and pole and cried when I saw the black blob . I will now go back in 10 days for another scan.
Is one of you secretly kate? Come clean now

bel welcome and great news you had a scan! wish my hospital was that organised.

Hello and welcome Pingu and BLol , LittleMiss and Mrsd77 and everyone else

Cue I'm Spartacus-style Middleton claims

Have had another awkward phone conversation with my dad... 'so how's things with you... any news to report?' me: 'no, nothing really... we have our Christmas tree up...'

Keep worrying I'm going to accidentally slip and tell someone too soon!

Hi there everyone. Thanks for all your advice.

waves it sounds as if your appointment went well. It seems like they are getting the ball rolling in terms of mw app and with sorting things with your medication.

My appointment was similar to yours actually. The doc was much more concerned with my state of mind. He said that it was better to stay on the AD I was a bit confused though because the doc before said citalopram was not good to be on but this doc said it was fine. He also said it would be difficult for me to switch medication now. He has also lined me up with some counselling and will try to contact the mw for an earlier app and scan, see we will see what happens next.

I have been having a lot of pains in my left side, down quite low, what could this be? Is it bad news do you think? Does anyone else have these pains?

Stats add yourself in date order below.

Sugarkane DC4 28th July

Glad to hear your appt went well woose and hope that it has made you feel better. I got proper panicked by aches in my womb before, but I am pretty sure it is something to do with ligaments, and the uterus stretching or some such thing! Trying to chill out a bit this evening, and feeling reassured that I feel sick and my boobs hurt - surely that has to be a good thing

Brave I keep worrying about the slipping up and spilling the beans as well. Hard work, but determined to say nothing til the first scan in out of the way. Right, will add myself to the stats now - although due date is a guess until I have a scan!

Stats add yourself in date order below.

Sugarkane DC4 28th July
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)

Sugarkane DC4 28th July
Woose DC3 31 July
Wavesandsmiles DC3 4th August (maybe?)

I think my cramps may have been wind! Well I hope so anyway. Only time will tell.

waves I am sure the sickness is a really good sign.

I am having a chill out eve too. I have done nowt! Just watched X factor and Strictly and done some knitting

So we are all pg at the same time as Kate!! How exciting!