November 2012 - the thread where Detective's baby arrives

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Previous ante-natal thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1608323-November-2012-please-form-an-orderly-queue

Post-natal thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1611078-November-2012-the-birthplosion-thanks-Peaky

Stats list: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1485512-November-2012-Stats-List

Good advice YW. Before I gave birth I thought I would like the nice thin pads. Eh, no! Superdrug ones are good and I keep my witch hazel in the fridge. Feels brill!

My muscles have separated completely. I thought they were going during pg, but the MW confirmed it post-natally. She implied the muscles were practically on either side of my tummy! :( However, having been doing the gentle exercises she suggested, I feel like they're already pulling closed. According to the leaflet, 1/3 of women get very separated muscles - 4 fingers width apart compared to the normal 2 - and it takes about 6-12wks to close.

Keep doing the exercises - I did mine whilst we were in hospital for the ten days after Jonas was born and my tummy muscles are now only 1cm apart. My pelvic floor is a lot better too. though not back to pre pregnancy abilities to not piss myself at something funny just yet

Pass I was the same - thinking 'woo I'll go for the discreet maternity pads' nah in reality you need the ones the size of a small mattress - those are the bad boys that make sitting down comfortable possible!!!!

Witch hazel - will give that a go! Was going to try lavender but DP couldn't get any today. Thank you! He got me Arnica tablets, fingers crossed that helps!

Definitely recommend big big thick pads - always have done! I have 3 on :)

Ice pack was amazing, it has really really helped! I've had one on twice today, they don't last long, but the relief was straight away, and the swollen tight feeling was eased within about 30 minutes of the first one! Put another one on after about 6 hours when the feeling started to come back!

I had an epis (as well as the section!) first time around, but I never even felt a twinge from it! This time not so lucky! (Although an epis and a section wound is not in the slightest bit lucky! I've never known that happen to anyone else!!)

Tomorrow, I am to have a shower and wash my hair. Fuck me! How can one small thing take so much time up!

Hello mummytobe. Mine is very tender too. Been gently rubbing oil in which seems to help a bit.

Detective make sure you get witch hazel bp from the 1st aid section - not the essential oil. Apologies for 1 handed typing - wee man is cluster feeding...

MM towards the end of my pregnancy I couldn't feel kicks that DH could feel with his hand in my tummy. If you can see evidence of movement that should be sufficient reassurance.

What a story Detective but at least you got there in the end and he's here safely and best of all no section this time.

thanks bryzoan glad im not the only one, my midwife was so unhelpful when i asked her about it, made me feel like im just being stupid and its all in my head! ive tried rubbing oil on but unfortunately doesnt seem to help much, i found a warm bath helps but then as soon as i get out its back again :(

Sod's law dictates that as it would be very inconvenient to have a baby tonight it is going to happen. I felt very sick earlier and have started with some mild contractions. Going to take paracetamol and try and ignore it all and hope it waits until morning!

Yes yes to what YW said about stitches. I made the midwife take my remaining 2 out at my 10 day check a and the relief was immediate. I'd asked at the 5 day check but she said it was too soon. They were so sore but it felt like the stitches were too tight rather than an infection or something.

I think my stitches are soluble - I've never had stitches taken out, whether after my appendix was removed, or after either DC.

congratulations fatima - lovely news.

mm - sorry to have worried you. in my case it became very clear something was different because i had always felt such big dramatic movements. lots of feet and knees and pointy bits. always call triage if you're worried.

thanks vq, we're both doing very well. baby has lost just 3 percent of his weight and i got my stitches out today. mastering typing with left hand.

So today is the last day that I could have my home birth. I know it is silly and that in the scheme of things it really doesn't matter - but I'm still so disappointed. I really thought I'd get there. Every day now I'll lose a little bit more control over how this birth happens. All I want is for the little man to have the best start he can - I really hope this is the best way to achieve that.

This is the second time dh has bought a new hosepipe to fill a pool that has gone unused (well, strictly speaking, the last hosepipe is in the garden now, but still). And my excuse of buying nice biscuits 'for the midwives' is running dry... Still, at least I won't have to try and keep the house quite so tidy!

I'm sorry about that bryzoan - fingers crossed for a last minute appearance today! Tuck into some of those nice biscuits in the meantime.

Hope jenbird has managed to cross her legs sufficiently to ensure the baby wasn't born last night!

Thanks for the tips about stitches everyone, will bear in mind! I did buy some witch hazel weeks ago. Now if I could only remember what I did with it ...

Due date here today. No sign whatsoever!

Aw Bryzoan I hope things kick off for you ASAP.it's so frustrating isn't it?!

I did manage to cross my legs thanks georgee although I was up pretty much most of the night. Not so much in pain just very uncomfortable with a lot of pressure in my bum and back. Glad it has waited though. Have woken up with a sore throat which I could do without. Happy due date to you though.

Anyone else got any signs???

My stitches were soluble chunky but one or two were done too tight - hence the request to take them out! Instant relief...

Ain't nothing going on but the rent here. I managed to sleep in until 10am though as my wonderful husband got up with our daughter.

I echo what Georgee said, bryzoan.

Fingers crossed bryzoan things kick off really really quickly!

I woke up a few times in the middle of the night with a rock solid bump but all the pain is still in my back. Got a mild period pain type cramp but no other signs. Please can this be the start?! (probably over analyzing again...) I'm desperate to go out walking, or will even just settle for bouncing on my ball, but my back is so sore it's taking me 20 mins to walk the 10steps from my bed to the bathroom .

Thanks katkit - I've had days with no movement at all and mws have said that is normal for me because of the position of my placenta and the strength my muscles were. It was just weird I could see and hear movement but not actually feel anything, iykwim? Glad all is okay with you and your gorgeous little boy xx

Thanks all. Got desperate and woke up poor dh at 5 to do his duty! But despite that, a shed load of pineapple juice, a clary sage bath, and a 3 hr walk, I'm getting nothing but the usual niggles. Might get dh to take me out on some bumpy ground in the landrover this afternoon...

Hope things are kicking off for you Missmummy - sorry your back
Is giving you such a horrible time - so frustrating.

Happy due date Georgee.

Bryzoan I've been threatened with a skelp down the river in one of the RIBs if I go too far over now we've got shot of our landrover. I imagine it would have a similar effect!

I have a huge amount of respect for anyone who had spd/back pain/etc and other kids to look after. I can barely look after myself while dp is at work. Loading the dishwasher yesterday was an epic feat - I don't think I can physically empty it again today!

Missmummy that sounds like it would be fun if your back wasn't so rubbish. Stop even trying to do anything with the dishwasher already.

I've really missed being out on the boats this year. I'm certain it would do a lot more damage than good right now though!! I just hate being so useless. My house has never been so untidy (although by his standards it's 'not too bad' - bloody men!) At least when he realised he had nothing to take for lunch today and no clean work tops he now understands how much I actually do around the house!