November 2012 - the thread where Detective's baby arrives

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Previous ante-natal thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1608323-November-2012-please-form-an-orderly-queue

Post-natal thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1611078-November-2012-the-birthplosion-thanks-Peaky

Stats list: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1485512-November-2012-Stats-List

Same here. I used to dive nearly every weekend before having dd. I miss being out on the sea like crazy. And I have the same problem with dh - he just doesn't see or mind the mess somehow... He is chipping in at the moment but just to humour me as opposed to because he thinks it needs doing.

Gosh you could be my twin! I started learning to dive over winter last year but had to give up when I became pregnant. This is the first summer since I was a child that I've not sailed and I miss it like mad. Dp is a professional skipper so is out on the water every day .

I think it must be a man thing. I think it's only just dauning on him that we don't have washing fairies and you actually have to put plates in the dishwasher for them to be cleaned (not leave them at your backside!) The garage is the only part of the house I leave to him, it's his space, and the state he leaves it in freaks me out no end! (He is decent enough to leave me a little path to the washing machine at the back of it though...

Ha! Our garage is the same - except we have a second freezer in ours rather than a washing machine... And no path to it...

Hopefully you'll get out on the water again soon now.

Can I just say that the best thing to bring on labour is to just be 100% relaxed, I was so stressed and wound up from around 36 weeks and I knew that unless I could relax my baby would not come. I tried curry, sex, walking despite the spd, ball, hot baths, etc etc and nothing worked. The night I went in to labour I was lounging on the sofa eating chocolate orange, having a foot rub and watching masterchef.

Will put my story up soon, am doing we'll at the mo, got 7 hours sleep last night and lots of breaks today, he is an angel and is just fab at feeding which results in good sleep. After DD never letting me put her down literally I am feeling so lucky to have a baby that actually sleeps in his Moses basket and for good amounts of time! DD loves him too and is so gentle with him, which is a relief.

I really hope the rest of you get to meet your babies soon! I know exactly how frustrating it is!

Our utility room is at the back of the garage, otherwise I would never go into it! He has a separate dishwasher in there for 'man things' as well - I completely flipped out one day when I came home to find engine parts in the kitchen . Would love a second freezer. Unfortunately he used the last tiny bit of space in there for a beer fridge ....

Thanks for the advice swiss - I always struggle to relax, I get so anxy and wound up about stupid things. I might try some yoga tonight, see if that chills me out a bit. My instructor has emailed me some stuff to try for my back as well so will give that a bash . Glad all is going well with you, he sounds like a wee star! Glad your dd adores him too.

Brill advice swiss . I felt more relaxed and happier than I had done in weeks the day that DS3 came. The boys had slept through and I had a great nights sleep. The sweep did help tho

Brill advice swiss . I felt more relaxed and happier than I had done in weeks the day that DS3 came. The boys had slept through and I had a great nights sleep. The sweep did help tho

yeah I need to relax a bit more. I relax when doing the hypnobirthing stuff but a lot of other stuff is stressing me out. DD has been super moany for a few weeks and is worse when it's both me and DH at home. It really stresses DH out becuase she does channel a lot of the clingy moany behaviour at him and in turn it stresses me out and we have pretty misreble family days together! We are trying the ignore tatic a tthe moment which is working but it's stressful doing the ignoring part so probably not very good for me.
agh

I met my friend's 4 day old baby today, she is very cute, I had a wee cuddle but weirdly it didn't do anything for me.. it didn't make me feel all warm and want my baby... I must be a bit apprehensive!

Have had a pretty relaxing day really so fingers crossed for tonight. Really can't face another week of doing school etc by myself.
My poor little ds2 puked on me twice tonight. He was pretty unsettled last night so hoping it's out of his system.
Anyone have any promising niggles to report?

Nope, I've had braxton hicks all day again and feel a but rubbish but that is all .

I've been getting period type aches tonight, but they're not strong enough for me to think that anything is getting going. Having a sweep tomorrow at 40+7 so fingers crossed that'll kick start some movement.

It's so quiet over here now...

Nothing here either. Keep hoping my waters will go and kick things off that way! And finished the final episode of the West Wing tonight - we've been watching solidly for about four months, every evening virtually. I now feel I can go into labour!! However, DH and I were talking about what will happen if I go into labour if he's not here or in the middle of the night - neither of which are ideal because of having to find someone to care for DD. His parents are 1.5 hours away (2 once they've got themselves together). A good friend has offered to come round and look after DD/kip on the sofa until they arrive but it's a lot to ask. My family are down south so no help there. I suppose I've been counting on it happening at a weekend or something! We'll see!

Been having braxton hicks off and on since last night too. All the pain still in my back though hopeful but not convinced it's the start of anything.. DP pissed off I'm not letting him have any 'medicinal' whiskey for his throat infection though!

We have the same situation georgee, my folks are 1.5 hours away, PIL are down south. We're having a home birth so that we can leave dd in bed if it happens at night. We'll ring my parents and hope that we don't need to transfer into hospital before they arrive.

we are in a similar situation re child care too. We are banking on friends as both sets of family are 1.5 - 2.5 hours away. Our predicament is if it happens in the morning and our friends are at work.. afternoon and evening are fine, night time ok... hear that baby?

Ok, I'm having contractions! They're pretty erratic at the moment. Between 8 and 3 mins apart and lasting about 30-40 seconds. Am in the bath and its helping. Also a bit scared!

Exciting stuff missl ! Good luck!! I v v jealous.

I'm awake having been very sick. Had an hours sleep max. Hate this . BHs now stopped altogether. Back hurts so much I can't even move in bed. Gosh I've turned into such a moaner!

mmhave you had anything or your back? You needs to be getting some sleepies my lovely at this point. Have you got a hypnobirthing cd you ued ltdn to to bet one extra relaxtion?

Xx

Not yet sophia although i have a mw appointment on tuesday so think i will discuss it with her then. I was so anti drugs but now i just need sleep. No hypnobirthing cd. Tried doing some yoga breathing exercises but i cant stop feeling sick. Luckily i don't need to do anything or see anyone tomorrow/today (whichever way you look at it) so hopefully can get some sleep during the day. At least i'm well used to sleepless nights now!

we had a similar situation with regards to a babysitter, and to be honest it wasnt until i relaxed about that situation that labour came! I realised my mum would arrive soon and that seemed to help me relax.

mm1 you sound like you need some sort of pain relief, you will need your energy and mental energy for labour.

Very exciting MissL!

MM sleepless nights are not going to do you any good - I can understand you want to avoid meds but imagine just a few nights of sleep and how much more prepared for labour you would be.

Wee P is lying in her carrycot looking round about her while shaking from violent hiccups. They don't seem to bother her but it would be good if she would have a wee nap.

Hi people sorry ive been awol - had severe vomiting bug from saturday morning till sunday - couldnt keep water or anything down! I usually have a stomach of steel, never had it thst bad before - now very dehydrated but tentatively eating toast and rehydrating before commencing carb loading - its my due date today!!!! I need energy!!

I thjnk ive missed a few births - congratulations to everyone, will do a thread catch up, hope everyone else ok?

Bit sad i couldnt do all the curry/pineapple/hiking/funky chicken dancing/shagging this weekend - whilst i was puking all day sat we had carpets fitters in hamnering away, its since been much nicer on the knees whilst head in bucket / pelvic tilting! It was so painful contracting both ends and bh's in the mix i did actually think at one point it was the start of labour (after jokes about baby coming when carpets did dh looked very fraught indeed!) bump is now very bruised and calpol is my friend.

In two minds about sweep tomorrow - want to feel a bit better before i trigger anything but then again a sweep will prob only work if i am ready?!

Sorry to read about your back mm - is it preg related or pre existing stuff? Theres some stuff on the spinning babies website to help with the pressure there which i finally did on sat night and its really helped (my back was in agony from it all) but might be a bit much for you - the hanging over the bed thing.

The other thing that helps me when my lower bsck tenses up is gentle pigeon pose to stretch out glutes, slowly going deeper each time. Ive found that great as theres space for bump!

missmummy do you have an iphone? there is a hypno birthing app you can download (for £6.99 I think... ) might help you sleep. You do need sleep and the be able to relax.
I also second the spinning babies thing. It could well be how the baby is laying that is putting a lot of pressure on your back as well as your stomach mucles no longer holding your back together and the sheer weight of the bay (nice combo!) .
I had terrible back pain and PSD with DD. I couldn't walk or negotiate stairs just like you. My lower back felt like it was piviting and collapsing. It really was awful so I totally symathise. I went to an osteopath which was a god send, basically they treated me once a week at the end and for 5-6 days I was more mobile and in less pain then I'd be desperate for the treatment again. I recommend Soma ostepathy in Edinburgh if you fancy trying it. They are brilliant and get so many recommendations.
I know you are against pain medication but if you are able to take paracetomol regularly for a few days it will build up and help you relax a bit which is important just now.
I wish you the best of luck. I really know how you feel, it's rubbish!

missl exciting... I hope your quietness means you are on your way!