June 2013 thread 2 - Are your jeans feeling snug yet?

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New thread for June 2013 :)

Good news re the recent scans.

Sunny, they had a nightmare getting blood from me too (I donate regularly, and they have always had a nightmare getting it out). I've just found out that there's a problem with my platelets, so I have to have monthly blood tests!

Glad for all the good scans and Congratulations Collector. What a wonderful shock!!

Have taken tomorrow off work as can't concentrate with having my scan on Friday. Good luck for the scans tomorrow. Such exciting (and worrying) times!!

Congratulations collector! wow! (i've always secretly thought twins would be great.) Also to everyone else who's had successful scans the last few days. It's all getting real!

Good luck with your results suzy and good luck spiderlight - hope you're both managing not to worry too much xx

Hello, been silent for ages, had a rough few weeks waiting for slapped cheek test results as it is rife in my school atm, anyway all clear now. Phew.

Now I have found something else to worry about.

I would love a daughter, so much so I am worried how I will bond with Pip if they are a boy. I am determind to stay team yellow. Not sure why but there it is, yet I am terrified that I will be dissapointed with babies sex. There is a family history of post natal depression and I dont want anything to tip me over the edge.

Am I being rediculous?

Collector - twins, wow! At least your DSD is older so you should be able to drive normal cars and fit all 3 car seats in... (sure that's not the first thing you thought of!)

MummyTeach - I can sort of see where you're coming from, I dont mind if I have a boy or girl next, but I do worry I won't bond as well as I have with DS, I love him so much it feels like it's not possible to feel just the same for anything else. There's also a history of PN depression in our family and often after the second DC, not the first - so it feels like this could happen this time round.

Also as a mum of a boy already, there does seem to be an expectation that I'll have a girl next to 'balance' the family (amazingly, I've never heard a mum of girls being told "I bet you hope it's a boy next"). I can't help but think there will be a disappointment from others in the family if I have a second boy. That said, I think DH would love it and I do like the idea of being a mum of two boys.

Interestingly, I think if I have a girl next I'd be more likely to go for a third, but I'd worry if I have 2 boys, if I go for a 3rd people will think (and some say) that I'm trying for a girl so I'd stop at 2 rather than have a second DS feel unwanted or 'wrong'.

Dontmind I know exactly where you're coming from with this comment: "I love him so much it feels like it's not possible to feel just the same for anything else". I feel exactly the same about my DD, and was worrying about exactly this earlier on today, that I wouldn't bond as well with a second chid simply because I love the first so much. Can anyone who already has more than one chid reassure us that this feeling is normal at this point but it all falls into place later?

It's completely normal! And IME you do bond just as well with number 2 as the first :) For me, the bond took longer to establish - there wasn't the immediate gush of love, but I think that was more to do with not seeing him till he was over 24 hours old, and him being in an incubator with loads of wires etc all hooked up - it felt like he belonged to the nurses rather than me (or us), because they knew what they were doing. And also because I did meet his brothers who were stillborn before I met DS so I had all that swimming round my head at the time.

It's tiring, especially if you need to make 1 on 1 time with the older one during baby nap times, as it does cut into your time to rest, but it doesn't last forever and is all worth it :o

I had a moment as well recently when I wondered what the hell we were doing to DD as she was curled up in my arms and needed us so much.

Wow. Twins. collector have you recovered from the shock yet?

I had my scan today, edd is 10th June. Baby astoundingly babylike and wriggly and like his or her older sister distinctly unimpressed by being poked. Watching him or her sucking their thumb, kicking and rolling around was a beautiful moment

I had a moment as well recently when I wondered what the hell we were doing to DD as she was curled up in my arms and needed us so much.

Wow. Twins. collector have you recovered from the shock yet?

I had my scan today, edd is 10th June. Baby astoundingly babylike and wriggly and like his or her older sister distinctly unimpressed by being poked. Watching him or her sucking their thumb, kicking and rolling around was a beautiful moment

I think we were lucky cos we had a trainee sonographer so we got to sit and look at baby far longer than other people. I'd diligently drank the 1 litre before hand though and was massively grateful whenshe told me to go pee before she did the measurements cos with all the poking i was coming damn close to wetting myself!

In a word, no! Am lying in bed unable to sleep trying to get my head round it and failing.

Friends reactions have been hilarious - they nearly all think we're joking and calling them Danny and Arnie...

So nice to read of others scans going well

Congratulations on more brilliant scan news sunny and redwelly so lovely to hear things are going well.

Just to say to everyone who's on their second I remember the exact same feeling after my ds i couldn't imagine loving a girl and even at all loving a second child like the first. Needless to say when my lovely daughter arrived I bonded with her instantly and has the same rush of love as the first time. I liken it to when you think you'll really can't imagine not feeling the kicking and then when they arrive you never think of it. Strange analogy but I think it's not because you can't or won't feel the same it's just not something you've experienced and so can't imagine IYSWIM.

D or should that be R day for me today have to phone the screening midwife at lunch time and if they don't have them by then I need to phone again after work. The alternative was them calling me but I didn't think that would make for a relaxing day! Fortunately dp works at the same company as me so we can phone together. Thanks for all your kind thoughts, just want the waiting to be over now.

Xx

I like the fact that others seem to have insomnia like me. In 8 weeks i've slept through the night maybe three or four times. Otherwise i'm generally up and about wandering between 1 and 4am.

Geniuses keep pointing out its my body preparing me for sleepless nights. Well no s* sherlock! But surely in this day and age there must be something i can do to stop me going crazy at 3am??

I don't have insomnia as such. I just don't sleep well generally. Poor DH has to put up with me tossing and turning from about 2am onwards. I only sleep on and off after that point. Almost used to it now!

Have to say I broke the other night and took a Nytol. I sleep 1030 till 230 and then very little after that. I'm a lawyer and I cannot go to Court so completely exhausted, so I took it the night I needed sleep so badly. I did so much research into the effect of it beforehand - seems that there have been no ill effects in animals, but not enough studies in women to be conclusive. I know anti histamines are normally bad news, but it did say that occasional, non habitual use should be ok, and looks like in the states the Drs give you a card with approved meds, and Tylenol PM - which is the same thing - is on the OK list!

Maybe I'm just kidding myself... I would never do anything to hurt the Bean, but occasionally I think me breaking won't do her any favours. Bad mummy!!!

I did have insomnia in my first pg but much later on. TO be fair I am so damn exhausted that it takes me about 45min of reading mn or a book and then I am zonked. DH is on leave this week to work on our dilapidated house and I made him look after DD two nights in a row, I still don't feel human!

DD has her Christmas party tomorrow at nursery, she always always gets sick after the parties there, sometimes for up to a week, a combo of kids going in who aren't 100% so as not to miss the party and her possibly eating things she shouldn't (dairy & soya intolerant). Nursery staff understand why I don't want her to go but at the same time accept they apparently can't watch what the children put in their mouths. I really don't know what to do.

Damn phone.

As for the insomnia I cut out all caffeine after midday, and have had to again, and I have a banana after my dinner which increases the potassium and can reduce the restless legs and cramps which are part and parcel of later pregnancy.

How much water are we all drinking? I am sure that I feel nauseous when I don;t drink enough.

Good luck suzy I hope you get good news

Congratulations to everyone on your scans :)

Mine is tomorrow morning, and then I can hopefully tell my work, because pretending I don't have an enormous belly - even if it is mostly wind - is starting to become ridiculous. I had a medical today and the nurse told me to get in touch as soon as I want some time off, and reminded me that I cannot be fired while pregnant. How nice! A spa break!

Also up in the night whereas before I would sleep through anything, now I get up & potter around in the small hours.

I'm going to try drinking more water redwellybluewelly, because honestly the nausea seems to be getting worse recently not better. Very cross, I was told that by twelve weeks I'd be bursting with health and glowing, instead I'm all boaky and my face and neck and chest is breaking out like there's no tomorrow.

Good news on the scans and exciting on the twins! I half hoped we were having twins as I'm quite keen not to go through this whole palaver again.

Insomnia sounds very familiar and I'm sure it contributes to the headaches which just won't bloody leave me alone.

Seeing the midwife tomorrow so will ask her about them, and the terrible itching.

Got my long-haul flight to the southern hemisphere on Sunday, am usually a brilliant traveller as I do it so often but really am dreading it this time around, particularly the horrid compression stockings I'll apparently need to wear.....!

Just had my 12 week scan and it went well. It took the baby ages to cooperate. We had a good laugh at it just wanting to face the screen and dance about. I appear to have very active babies as it was almost identical to ds's scan last time.

I'm waking numerous times during the night, but I'm used to it from waking up for ds. I find eating supper before bed helps otherwise I wake in the early hours feeling sick and hungry.

hi all. Just to say it was good news, we are all clear for the three main trisonomies we decided not to go for the full screening as we'd have to pay for it and the consultant said there are a number of downsides so we don't know whether it's a girl or boy, just that it's a healthy baby! xx

Great news on scans - I've just had my scan too and baby was clapping its hands, having a good old jump around - looked at one point like he\she had hiccups!

Suzy - great news!

Fantastic news, Suzy. You can relax and enjoy it now! :-) xx

Suzy brilliant news!

forgetmeknots our baby was also doing loop de loops and clapping although the thumb sucking bit was the cutest