March 2013 VIII: feeling kicks, comparing knits and halfway there

[theTramp]

Old thread www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1588951-March-2013-VII-Our-little-pumpkins-are-getting-fatter?msgid=35174657#thread

Here y'are ladies, shiny new thread

Am here!

Yeah to half way there! Feeling not to bad and getting fatter! I am back to my pre pregancy weight now yeah! Less whining from doctors, also coz my BMi score got lw I get to have a growth scan at 28 weeks so another peek! Although husband did say I was getting wider .... I reminded him that comments like this could be very dangerous to his health! I had a boy last time and was all bump. Wondering if it's true that with a girl I will grow more all over? Don't really care as long as baby ok afterwards! Do you think a curly werly is ok for breakfast!!

Ps have no idea how to join fb group and have lots of family and wrk on there so always careful what I post! Is the group secret?

Hello! Have a good Sunday everyone!

Im off shopping for baby stuff with mum will post pics of any cute purchases on fb when I get home.

Wowy, ANOTHRE new thread. We do get through them don't we?!

Thanks for all the packing sympathies. We can and will get it done. It's more buying all the stuff we need for the house that's bothering me. We've been in funrished or part furnished rented places so far so have some bits of furniure, thankfuyl now including our own bed, but will have lots to get. We will need washing machine, drier, dish washer, firdge, freezer, we have no sofa (only living room furniture is my lovely ercol rocking chair), no wardrobes, only two chests of draws which are both pretty knackered, need a bed for DS and curtains for all windowsthat's just 'essentials'. There will no doubt be other stuff we 'want' but that will just have to wait I guess. I really want some decent toy storage - DS has two large wicker baskets at present and other stuff just stacked up but as he's getting older he really needs shelves for games and jogsaws and his books an somewhere to put the boxes of toys like duplo and train set that don't fit in te baskets. Ooo, and I'd like a nice side board either in the halll or playroom/music room. How do we choose curtains before we actually move in, and what do we do until we get some???!!! There shouldn't be much decorating needed at least, it was all quite nice and fairly neutral so at least if we do want to decorate anywhere, we won't feel it needs doing immediately to rid us of any horrors. Would be nice to decorate DS room though now we'll have the chance - think it was just plain white so perhaps temporary easy route would be curtains adn bedding to brighten up and some wall stickers.

Well, didn't manage an unbroken night's leep but did do much better without DS being here and have had a dozy lie in too. Off to hunt down some breakfast, fell much less sick getting up at 9am than I do getting up at 6am!

Lovely new thread! Yay for half way to meeting babies :)

eig glad you're feeling ok. Fb group is very secret, you need to be fb friends with anyone in it and they can add you. pm me if you're still online when this posts and I can.

Like New thread title tramp

John bishop was very funny last night although dh wasn't sure when we discovered we were right in the middle 3 rows from the front but I reassured him thankfully John Bishop doesn't pick on membees of audience. Although I do panic when he was telling pg wife jokes as I was right infront of him!

Dh has woke with horrible cold so I am off to play nurse and I shall catch up with end of last thread later.

Morning all!

John Bishop sounds fun! I'm debating booking a weekend away in Dublin to see Micky Flanagan next October- Turkish will be 8 months and would be the first time away all night...I'm oscillating between 'yeah that's fine' and utterly ridiculous!

Just marking my spot whilst trying to massage my cramping calf... Ow ow ouchie!

Turkish - do it!!!!

Gummi - hurrah for good night of comedy

Flowery - my top tip, don't buy curtains til you've lived there for a bit cause they're pricey ole things and it's awful if you get wrong thing. Can you try borrowing friends/families old curtains? Doesn't matter how hideous - just til you've had time to shop about a bit and know what you want. Also, if helps, I lived in unfurnished rental for years & windows were proper Georgian long drops (7ft). Worked out curtains would cost me hundreds & hundreds £s. So I bought panels - as sold in Cargo, Habitat etc. Not lined but long, lovely colours and therefore cheap in comparison. So something like that can also work quite well.

Re Electrical appliances, the interweb is your friend! I did all my physical shopping in John Lewis, worked out what model fridge/freezer, washing machine etc we wanted then online searched for cheapest. You can save slot of cash that way. But keep an eye on delivery details. Buggers who delivered our fabulous but gigantic fridge/freezer refused to carry it to top floor. Turned out to be a 3 man, 2 hour, right said Fred type job that one. Weirdly washing machine I bought from Boots - so I got lots of bonus loyalty points.

Hope above helps, I know what a nightmare it can be. And we also moved just before Christmas and had that - what do we get now, what do we wait to see if it goes in sales? Thing. Furniture wise we're still buying. We got table, chairs, sideboard from my parents. Bought a few extra chairs off eBay and then just bought the right things that we needed as and when we found them. Long process!

I've had really lovely long sleep. Must get up now, tackle the day. :)

Hello everyone, it's been ages since I've posted, but I've been lurking again...

We've sold our flat and bought a house in a lovely town just outside of Edinburgh, everyone looks at me like I'm mad moving when I'll be 5.5 months pregnant so it's really comforting hearing other people are doing it too!

Flowery my top tip for curtains is Ikea, if you can face it... They do really, really long drops - our current place has 10 ft ceilings and I still had to hem them! They're cheap, not all of them look it, and they do good thick ones that really keep out the light. We got matching curtains/counterpane/cushions for around £50 and they made our bedroom look like something out of a magazine - v helpful when we wanted to sell!

Re vans/packing - despite what I'm about to say in my next paragraph, it is fine, we did it ourselves when we moved from our last rented place to here, and if you get enough helpers you will survive. What's different this time is that we have lots and lots of stuff and furniture. Curse/blessing of the wedding list...

Was it tramp who suggested paying movers to pack too? Thank you very, very much - showed post to DH and we decided to use money I'd been mentally putting aside for a late pregnancy mini break (how spoilt does that make me and?) to pay the movers to pack for us. I'm instantly a lot less stressed about the move. I'm still quite tired, and if we pay people to pack, I'll be able to concentrate energy on getting unpacked quickly - I know myself, and that I won't be able to live with boxes for long.

Zoey and Flowery I mentioned your DHs and bum comments to my DH. All he would say is that my bum looks amazing and always does... He's good, he's very good. sending mental thanks to his absolute witch of an ex gf who taught him diplomacy the hard way

manda decoration sounds lovely!

Congrats all on successful scans - mine's on Friday - nervous. Will stay on team yellow whatever - went to an NCT sale yesterday and was maddened at all the pink/blue 0-3 month stuff, but that's just me. stealth thinking of you as you wait to hear more.

Also finally caved and bought maternity jeans yesterday. Two hair bands and a bump band left me thinking I was going to show everyone my knickers at work on Friday!

Right, going to try to post more often, rather than me me me essays once a month. Now going to get up for a bacon sarnie though!

Hi all, just place marking. Currently getting myself very het up and upset about scan on Tuesday. I don't know why, but I am now at the point where I am trying not to think about the future, the baby or anything as I am so sure something is wrong. I am actually going mad.

Sorry for rant, I don't know what is wrong with me, but the more worried I get the more sure I am something is wrong.

Morning everyone.

sundae I just wanted to send you a and a haven't you had bad experiences in the past? Your feelings are not irrational but you really should try to keep positive. I miscarried twins in march and found out at the 12 week scan and so scans are not something I look forward to either last time hubs had to drag me out of the car I was refusing to get out of I have not planned a nursery or started buying things just in case ... However I am now starting to believe that happy, calm mammas and bumps make happy calm babies (at least this is definitely the case with my last pregnancy And my gorgeous son) I really want to start enjoying pregnancy instead of being scared by it - or be new bra size!!!!

I'm sure Tuesday will give you the assurance that you need - I will look out for your post! Are you finding out or are you in team yellow?! X

Sundae - as someone who has just been there, and from comments of other ladies on this thread, I'd say it is perfectly normal and don't be too hard on yourself. I only admitted the day before scan that I was a bit worried that I was going to see an empty space and no Socs. The basis for this worry was - er - zilch. I think worrying is quite normal.

I was saying to friend - if this is what I am like after an 8 week between scan gap how on earth will I be able to cope with waiting til 34 weeks for next one. She just laughed and said - well put it this way. Once you start feeling proper sharp kicks and seeing feet adn elbows indent your belly, the need for a scan for reassurance disappears somewhat.

I felt everso silly. :)

Look after yourself sundae. I read lots of medical bits & bobs about how baby has developed. So all about finger prints forming, how hearing develops and so on. Which I found incredibly reassuring for some reason. Not sure if it will help you, but it can be a nice distration.

Tea - HELLO! so pleased you are a-ok. I did indeed recommend using movers. Really pleased you are doing so too. I def found it took a whole heap of stress off of my shoulders. I wasn't preggers at the time, but I was knee deep in the most unpleasant working environment that I have ever been in and personal life stress on top of all that was more than I was willing to deal with. They were fantastic too. It takes me days to pack books, cd's etc. They took under an hour. And i had thousands of them. It was awe inspiring really. Just hows to go as they say. :) Good luck with move, sounds like new house is fabulous.

I've finally caught up on FB group and my personal emails etc. Now, what cake to bake? Scribble down ingredients, pop to Sainsburys, bake away and sort out those nigglesome work bits that I didn't have time to do friday because I was busy having a "Mummy to be" day.

I thought MrM was producing the strangest snores.. has to be him as no cat. Then I spotted a tail popping out from behind his head. Silly puss is snoozing behind the cushion that MrM has conked out on. :)

We will be finding out.

I have had a previous miscarriage and a termination at 10 weeks on medical advice.

I know two people that have had bad news at 20 weeks, I used to be a radiographer and spent my life seeing only poorly babies. I did some ultrasound and the only scans you remember are the bad ones.

I have always been a fairly calm person, but this has really got to me. I have days where I am better, but then i go off and google and get myself very upset.

I want to start enjoying it, I feel like everyone else just goes to their 12 week scan, has good news and is fine, I can't understand why that isn't me. Hubby doesn't understand at all.

Thanks guys, Tramp, the kicks do help, I want more of them!!

I have odd sharp feelings sometimes, sometimes I think bump is pressing on a nerve or running finger nails along the inside of my womb. That worries me, but they aren't cramp and aren't painful as such.

Hi all, thanks for new thread x

Its funny if you look at the other months, NONE post as much as we do, and that's with a FB group page too!!!!

Hope everyone is having lovely weekends

sundae poor luv, just stay calm, and take a wee but if time out to relax for you, the worry won't do you or toots any good, easy for me to say? Well I am the worlds biggest control freak, being pregnant is the ultimate giving in and surrender for me, and is so hard knowing you can do very little, so I really feel for you x one day at a time for just now?

Tea hilarity at you potentially losing your breeks, oh dear!!!!!!! Hope you got some nice comfy ones in the end?

Flowery if you are going for new appliances, I would recommend appliancesonline and appliances direct, good comparison of features tools, and the prices we got from AO wiped the floor from everyone else, delivery arrangements good, and quick too. Other than that, I've had good fridge freezer and a superb washing machine from John Lewis own brand. When furnishing my dads place I got everything secondhand, took us a few weeks to collate what we needed but for a total fraction of stuff new. It'll be so ace once you are in your new place!!

Can't wait to get back home to mine, every time I see the state it's in (and the invoices!!!!) I want to cry!

Just made a huge vat of lentil and carrot broth, cats curled up and yummy smell of washing drying. DP working, I'm secretly looking for baby stuff on eBay.....!!! Going to have to shift soon to go do the recycling, and then high tail it over to the cottage to try and catch the painter decorator who hasn't finished in time for the joiner coming tomorrow to see what the new plan is .

On a cute note, DP managed to catch the bump doing a McFLump in my tum last night with his hand over it, it was way cute

Have fun all x

We do seem to have much more posters than my previous AN thread.about twice as much!

Dh has just had an email from one of his bosses saying no more work for a while so now needs to find about 16hpw ASAP. Knew it was coming & he has been looking but not much out there.,

Sundae it is a totally normal feeling- I was the same: very teary and anxious. Now I feel so much more reassured and with little Turkish wiggling all the time.

I had my appt with a psyc specialist for eating disorders last week. Very difficult, but my DP came with me to hold my hand and support me which helped. I also think it was good for him to hear the whole history from the beginning as he is so understanding but it makes understanding the issues much easier to hear it chronologically, if that makes sense.

It looks like I'll have fortnightly-monthly sessions up to the birth and then afterwards. My DP is worried about post natal depression, and how I'll react when faced with my post baby figure. I'm planning on breast feeding and they will write me a food plan to follow, which I will follow religiously! I just need someone to take the decisions out of my hands and if I have a plan to follow I'll be so much better.

Sorry- that was probably over sharing, but it really helps to write it all down! I went to a wedding last night and got so upset seeing my 'shape' in the dress I was wearing, I think I'm just a little fragile today.

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Turkish - its not silly at all. But it is great that you know what is happening and you're seeking help now before it becomes a real problem again. Also very brave of you. Plus, I bet you looked super fab in that dress and all the other women were wishing they'd looked that good when preggers.. seriously, bet ya.

Sundae - STAY AWAY FROM GOOGLE! It is not your friend. Always easy to find information to reinforce the negative rather than the positive and the interweb is chock full of idiots posting rubbishness. Stick to NHS. Buy a really good how your baby is developing book. Anything, but no more Googling. Or we'll all get very cross with you and take away your chocolate cake priviliges... :) Seriously my dear, try and focus on the good stuff if you can. Baby is growing, your boobs are getting bigger, you're eating healthily - whatever the good stuff is for you. And we'll all be here waiting to listen to whatever you need to think through aloud (albeit only through written word) and hold your hand as much as we can.

Right - I have decided to tackle an "ultimate" chocolate fudge cake. I'm going to include fresh cream with the chocolate gnache layers though.. because what doesn't taste better with a bit of fresh cream added in?

Toodles

Sundae I agree with tramp- google is dangerous! What kind of things help you to relax? You need to de-stress as much as you can and try and focus on positive thoughts. Anything to make yourself feel better!

myjob- what are you knitting now? I would love to know how to knit- my nanny showed me as a child, but I have no chance of remembering now!