November 2012 - babies arriving thick and fast

[StuntNun]

Previous ante-natal thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1589461-November-2012-lots-of-babies-that-cant-wait-for-November

Post-natal thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1579907-November-2012-babies-are-here-at-last

Sorry to hear you are having such a crap time shanelle. Perhaps it would help to tell your family and get it out in the open. There's so much on your shoulders right now maybe it would help to be able to offload to family? There's no need for you to feel embarrassed, he walked out on you.

Thanks fatima I will check out their FB page.

I had a mini meltdown tonight panicking about money and going back to work next summer. I know it's a long way off but it's difficult trying to pre-empt how flexible my employer will be with my hours and how it will all work if I need to find childcare. It's mindboggling just thinking about it all. Also even though I've had two recent pay rises I still won't be much better off going back to work part time than I would on benefits. It makes me so angry

Ooh hh snowfairy I'm at frimley too!

Good luck blonder not long for you now then!

BHs have become rather uncomfortable nowadays. Hoping its leading up to something soon, I'm too impatient I can't wait for her to be here now!

Oh and if I can't fit my hours around when DP and my mum can look after the baby then I would actually be better off on benefits. It is ludicrous.

Good luck Blonder I hope something starts happening soon or you get your CS in good time. Are you able to remain upright to let gravity lend a hand? Maybe walk around a bit? In my previous two labours everything stopped as soon as I lay down on the bed. This time they can damn well do their internals while I'm standing up!

I've just painted my nails. For the first time in 3 years. (Painstakingly typing this now!!) This would be because I am never off work long enough to be bothered doing it!

I now have purple nails to go with my purple dress tomorrow

I've never been that good at painting them though... surprised I actually had all the stuff needed, and the polish still worked!

My mums just offered to take my DD overnight tomorrow as DH is working on Sat. I'm so pleased as it means I can have a bit of a rest rather than have to entertain DD on my own til he comes home.

Very nice detective. I am jealous as I am allergic to nail varnish.

apple I have been havig money anxieties as well. I am trying to put them out of my head. Head firmly in the sand

I want to work but it just doesn't pay to

ever north fields ain't that far. About 20 min driv I'd say. Or less when no rush hour. N seeing as we will be ladies who lunch soon we can meet at quite times of day.
soph lol at it trips to quality foods. I avoid that place. Does my head in. But bought done lush mangos last month.

Will arrange a samosa and cha meet up soon in dec/jan time. Something to look forward to

det I haven't done my nails since I had my little man. that's AGES for me. Have fun at the wedding tomorrow.

I don't want to work, but I have to!

I think we always want what we can't have...

I have to go back full time after my 6 months mat leave :(

Can't afford not to. The hit would mean we'd lose the house.

I'd love to have a year off, and then go back 3 days a week.

Keep on dreamin' lady!!

( :( )

I forgot to mention a rather incident in Sainsbobs earlier when returning the walkers that I found elsewhere for even less! Was stood being served at the customer services bit, when I had a trolley pushed in to me, knocking me right forwards and banging the bump in to the jutty out bit of the desk. Some -horrible little brat girl about 6 had decided to have a strop and shoved the trolley, hitting me! Her mum didn't notice it had hit me, or caused me to hit the bump, but was telling the brat-- girl off. The girl was answering her mother back, saying in a mocking voice 'but that's what you told me to do mummy'. Mummy definitely did not tell her to do this - I clearly heard her tell her 'if you do that one more time you will be in trouble'. Little madam!

Bump has a bruise now :( Not painful thank goodness!

Tried bringing it up with DP and explaining I would basically be working for nothing when you factor in costs of petrol to and from work. His response was 'so you don't want to work?' and a face like this That was the end of the conversation. Nice to feel supported.

That's awful detective

Shanelle ((hugs)) it must be so hard, you know we are here any time to listen to you x

Thanks Shelley, the evenings are always tough as once the kids gone to bed I feel quite lonely. Also your mind does tend to go into overdrive at night without all the distractions. MN has been a real lifeline tbh

shanelle Have no words of wisdom but just wanted to say that I feel for you and will be thinking of you. It is such a vulnerable time without having to deal with all the crap you are going through. You are being incredibly strong and I really hope you are able to get some support from your family x

Sophia, GT, everso, shanelle, I'm not too far from south all (just googlemapped it) as I live in wimbledon. I'd be up for a meet up in the new year too!

I used to work at Frimley Park in my Uni hols as lived near there after moving down from Scotland as a child - small world!

rowing ur not to far. I work near Kingston. I'll try set a lunch date after Xmas for jan time. For now u need to concentrate on getting ur sprogs out

Ok keep meaning to do this. N should do before u all pop. My tips or rather general observations of the whole birth thing.

Knickers - I took in my pregnancy pants (large size MnS belly warmers) as I couldn't find cheap knickers I could throw away. N didn't fancy paper ones. All my knickers came back n didn't have to throw them away. So first time mums don't b scared of the crazy bleeding everyone goes on about.

I laboured in a hospital gown. And it was fine. I did have a top I took in for this purpose. But they asked me to change for my epidural n I couldn't be bothered to change bk.

The only useful things I packed were my iPad , pillow n FOOD. Oh n anti bacterial wipes. N actually even iPad I could have lived without as could have used phone to entertain myself. Will pack less next time -didn't the guy who did my epidural bet me a tenner I'd b back when I said I wasn't going through this again-

Drink lots of water before/ during n after labour, they threatened to keep me in longer as they thought I was getting dehydrated! So I drank loads n filled my catheter bag 4 times in the same of 17 hours. Which is alot of wee! N I was great full for not having to get up ever two mins!

The first poo isn't bad, as I knew I was being induced for week before , I made sure I ate shredded wheat everyday so I wasn't bunged up. I don't know if this helped. Also I held a pad to my stitches when I went for a number 2 as I've read on mn that it helps.

Take all the drugs they offer u! Lol not during birth but after. I declined pain relief after as I felt fine. And then soon realised i felt fine because I'd been given pain killers after birth n effects were wearing off.

My birth generally didn't go to plan. Didn't get to use my maternity swimwear in birth pool lol. However I didn't spend long on my birth plan ( which I never got round to printing anyway) so maybe that's a factor here aswell however all I was focused on was getting my baby out safely. Don't b disappointed as all that matters is ur little one getting out n giving him/her a cuddle is the best thing ever!

I'm sure there is loads I will think I should have added later. But for now that's my thoughts.

Can u tell I'm in bed, my fraggle is asleep but I'm wide awake.

Ladies, ladies, there is always too much to catch up on because I'm in a completely different time zone so apologies to anyone who's news I have missed!

shanelle I am so sorry for everything you are going through, the timing completely sucks. You already are an amazing mum, and you will be amazing with this one too. It is entirely up to you whether you want ex-h at the birth so don't worry about that. Surely you need to tell your DPs at some point before the baby comes - they will just want to support you, you have nothing to be ashamed of.

Hope vq is enjoying her snuggles - or getting some sleep! :)

Glad you are in hospital and being looked after tits and hope things start to progress or you get your CS soon blonder

Totally minor gripe, but I feel like a whale, my feet are swollen to high heaven, and my pelvis is really sore - I'd quite like another weekend, but after that baby can come whenever he/she feels like it, I am as ready as I think I can ever be!

Kissyfur I had some jumpsuits that had yellowed, I soaked them in Nappysan for a few days. Some came out nice others didn?t really. Not sure whay they go yellow?!

shelly someone gave herself a sweep??! Yikes.

shannelle only let him be at the birth if he is going to be supportive of you! The only people in the room should be on your side wanting the very best for you. Support is very important for labour and you need it in spades. Just coz he is the father does not give him the right to just bowl in and watch the labour and birth. Please try and reach out in RL!!! Have you told your midwife? She might be able to suggest something supportive for you.

blonder all the best lovely.

Hi Apple, it's hard not to think about these things now, they're so important. Fingers crossed your boss will be sympathetic re: hours to allow you to organise baby care between your DP and Mum. I'm sure your DP does understand what your worries but chaps can be very rubbish when caught on the hop. Try again when you are sitting down together and ask him what his thoughts will be re: child care next year, he will probably have had a chance to process his thoughts by then and will hopefully be more understanding.

Hi girls,

Not been able to really catch up last few days as gotten admitted Weds night and in still in hospital with some sort of infection... Although they don't know what it is an infection of! Blood tests show high white cell count and elevated CRP levels?!? Anyone have a clue!!? But my urine clear every time the test that!
As I'm 39+1 anyway I asked them to induce (have severe SPD as it is) but they don't seem keen as they say I will end up in a very long labour...
Grrrrr!
Been going through posts on my phone which is difficult at the best of times!
Anymore babies yet?
Any twinges from anyone?

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Where r u all hiding? Normally I can't keep up, n now I've post more in 12 hour then I have all week lol

I can't sleep! hate not being able to sleep. I just end up thinking to much, which is awful when u have no distractions.

HV is coming at 10, I know I'll fall asleep half hour before he gets here. Yes a HE. A bit nervous about what he will ask. N getting emotional infront of him as I seem to do with everyone who asks me how I am ATM.

natanother Fingers crossed they figure it out for you. Do you have any other LO's or is this your first?

GT dont worry about being emotional, it's normal! He should be trained to be kind in that situation!

I am so tired. I seem to be tired all the time now. I went and had lunch with DH, he works near the shoping mall so we met there and DD had a run around in the play area. I managed to buy some sheets and pillow cases, very exciting! We just need to buy a new mattress now, so that my mum has something to sleep on when she gets here! I had pillows delivered today.

First baby for me :)

I can hear other ladies with their babies in other rooms! Want mine here for a squeeze.

Just rest when you can, must be difficult with other little ones to keep entertained! I find it hard when my step daughter is with us alternate weekends. Trying to have fun / keep her entertained and be heavily pregnant is hard work :)

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