November 2012 - babies arriving thick and fast

[StuntNun]

Previous ante-natal thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1589461-November-2012-lots-of-babies-that-cant-wait-for-November

Post-natal thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1579907-November-2012-babies-are-here-at-last

Sophia maybe you should just organise for your own family this Christmas. It will be extra special with a new baby in the house and you don't want to face the same old stress. It's a shame your dad won't stand up to your step-mother and insist on seeing you, but it sounds like you have done your best to see them and they won't cooperate.

I have the opposite problem, can't get rid of my inlaws! Despite the fact that we will have a six week old baby in the house DH still wants to cook them roast turkey with all the trimmings I'm not sure he realises just how much work will be involved. Sorry but I'd rather have something simpler to prepare and enjoy spending time with my two boys and new baby. My eldest has ADHD and Christmas is just the best and most exciting day of the year for him because he gets constant stimulation.

My DH is going to Scotland first thing Thursday for a funeral and won't be back until Saturday evening so let's hope nothing exciting happens over the next few days. It looks like I'll have to go up into the loft myself as he still hasn't found the cot bedding, baby towels, bottles or baby toys. I can't believe we stored all those things for six years since DS2 was a baby and now he can't find them. I currently have half a playnest, not sure what to do with that but it's completely useless. I don't want to be bringing dusty bags down from the loft with a new baby in the house so it really needs to be done in the next 16 days before my EDD.

Sophie - have your own magical little first family Christmas for the newborn. I'm sure you won't be travelling to them even if you wanted to. Like Shelly says, accept that they're selfish shits, smile and carry on. They know where you are. Who knows, you might find Christmas more enjoyable minus the ego's!

DH here again. This is actually good fun! Haha! YW did give birth on the island and so gets to stay for a while. They give you plenty of time up here to get breastfeeding established. Gives me time to get the house clean and tidy up!

Heartiest congrats to all the wellies. Jonas is a lovely name and that is such a great weight. Hope YW is being spoilt rotten with all the individual attention.

Sorry about your gran Passme. Completely galling about your auntie sticking her oar in. You can't do the trip again though before the baby. Take a special trip afterwards but not now.

pass I would not be encouraging you to travel all that way at such a late stage in pregnancy. Your gran can wait for a visit from you and baby. Your aunt deserves a slap. Clearly it it more about her than you, so do not be upset by it. You are allowed to visit whoever you want, and not visit whoever you want too!

MRWellies thank you for updating us. Fab name, and I am sure she was an absolute star. So glad she had the birth she wanted, and hope you are soon all home together.

MM girl for you then

MrWellies you are a star! I think we are all delighted that your lovely wife got the island birth she so wanted. You and the cat can get the house organised for their return

You can see why it is addictive now MrYellowWellies

Yes... cleaning the house! I remember YW mentioning this! But remember to sleep as well! Get as much in as you can now. You will need it!

Congrats YW and DH. Lovely name and glad he arrived safely x

sophia I agree with VQ you need to stop allowing them to hurt you and perhaps don't even mention it this year unless they do. Have your own family Christmas maybe? I have been to my parents on Christmas Day every year since I left home. This year we have decided it will be just me, DP and the baby at home for our first Christmas as a family. I haven't told my parents yet but hopefully they will understand.

Pass I'm worrying venturing more than 20 minutes away in the car.

Tell them you will be visiting after the birth. It's ridiculous to put yourself through travelling so far now. It is hardly comfortable

Some people are very selfish...!

Aw thanks ladies. I felt dreadful even posting that as it isn't my granny's fault. Just to add another dimension. Said aunty actually lives with granny and when my parents mentioned that they wanted to come here for Christmas so granny would need someone else to hav Christmas with she said 'oh well, I imagine she has friends she can go to'.

There is no way my parents could leave her alone on Christmas and I wouldn't want them to but what an utterly mean attitude!

pass also remember we have snow on the way.

Thanks everyone. I feel much better with your consensus and having your ears.

Welcome mrwellies I assure you will be amused no end by the goings on here! Lucky old yw anywhere else they would be trying to prize you out, she should take as much of their hospitality as she likes.

My ears are open to your whine pass you can't be doing grand tours at this stage.

I'm very uncomfy tonight :( Every bit of me aches. I'm knackered, but am waiting up for an item I'm watching on eBay. Another baby blanket. Dear god... but it matches all the clothing I have!

Congrats YW and DH! how brave to come on here and post to us!

Thanks detective for the HB advise that's what my googling kind of led me to believe. Hopefully they just got confused and didn't realise I was pregnant. I will call my midwife first thing in the morning and get that confirmed!

I'm looking at baby photographers at the moment. Is anyone else having a shoot done when baby is newborn? I think it would be lovely to have some professional photos to put on the wall. Could also give them as Christmas presents to my parents and grandparents.

I was going to do my own Apple! I did some when DS was little, and put them on home made christmas cards from him to family!

If you have a good camera, have a go yourself?!

Congrats to Yellow and Mr W! Welcome to the world baby Jonas.

DP is at home tomorrow, I'm going to make one final ditch attempt at getting someone to listen to me and see if I can get any support, I'm not sure how to approach it, do I call and try and get an appointment with the consultant again, I'm not sure if I can do that and it would probably take a while to get a free appointment with her, I can try one of the other midwives in the local team but I'm not sure what they can/will do apart from refer to the consultant. Either that or try the GP but my surgery is famously crap and I'll end up with a 10 minute emergency appointment where I'll be told they can't do anything and to see the midwife plus a few of them don't see pregnant women in surgery there is only really nice one there.
Also do I say, I want an induction date or do I go and just explain the problem and see if its offered?
I need to do something after another day in floods of tears, it hurts more the further down little burrows, I'm very concerned about being in the position I was in last time where the pain gets so bad I don't realise when I do go into labour.

Bollocks. Blanket went too high for my liking!! £30... feck off! Next sold it for £20.

Grrr! Stayed up for nowt. Going to bed in a grump now!

tits I don't know what to suggest as I don't understand why your emotional wellbeing seems to be so far down their priorities. Can you push this angle with DH as support? You have been here before and know that there are risks of you not recognising labour.
Most important I feel is your mental state - how can they claim to monitor for PND and such like and yet ignore the obvious sign that this I wearing you down.

I would err on going in hard - no compromises

tits send izzy a pm and find out the name of her lovely consultant. Seriously though, with DHs support make it your mission for the day to get heard!!! Tears, snot, anger. Channel them all! Good luck honey. Would going to hospital be the better bet? There is bound to be a consultant around, and it does not have to be yours.

I was thinking hospital too Tits and I wouldn't leave until they give you a date!

Tits, i'll message you tomorrow. I'm falling asleep, so wouldn't be coherent enough right now.

I have advice. Here, somewhere!

Congrats to all the wellies lovely name for the little man

Good luck for tomorrow Tits

Night all

Congratulations wellies lovely name and glad you got the birth you wanted.

tits I would be demanding asking for an induction if I were you, rather than waiting for them to suggest it - you might be waiting a long time :(

detective I can honestly say I have never thought of matching blankets to clothes! Somedays DD is lucky if her top and trousers match!

Thanks, I'll get DP on board tomorrow, he is excellent at being firm and fair without getting aggressive and I am currently ace at sobbing and erm well that's it really, hopefully something can be achieved.