May 2013 Third Thread.

[SecretCervix]

Sorry for the not very imaginative title. Noticed old thread was full and couldn't find a new one.

Well I remembered some of what 10 said so my baby brain isn't too bad then! (I just took too long to write it!)

Thanks girls that's interesting, mine has had a waterproof cover over then a sheet ontop of that, will have a good think about what's best to do as dd is in a cot bed and if I move her into a bed I will have to buy a new matress for that, just don't really fancie having to buy two new ones!! The other is a definate as it hasn't got one, I think dd was a silent night lambs wool or something that was the most expensive you could buy, the shop gave it us for free because we bought everything from them but I think it was £190 seems alot to waste but don't want to put baby at risk equally, might be cheeper to get another cot maybe

10, the weeing thing does pass as will the sickness etc I won't mention it comes back later... Don't know why it's so bad in the first tri but I went back to sleeping through last time, the only thing I can suggest it literally trying to nap when you can and early nights, fx you feel better soon

kittykat I'll be having to get a new cot and mattress most likely as DS will only be 16/17mo and still in his cot when this one comes and Moses baskets only seem to last a few weeks before I get fed up with them!

10 I had SPD start with DC2 at about 36 weeks and just had the painful turning over in bed and getting up. Then with DC3 it started at 20 weeks. I wasn't as bad as some women get it; needing crutches and painkillers etc but it was shit. I dreaded going to bed, getting up, moving from sitting down, just moving really. It started with more of an ache deep in my hip joint and round toward the pubic bone. And my hips made clicking and grinding noises. Then the pain just got worse and worse.

Saying that though my hips have always clicked when moving from certain positions. Since last pregnancy the clicks are more frequent though and louder. Have to say I am a bit worried about SPD this time.

Post birth wasn't fun for a while either last time. I think it's partly due to being on my side to have DS and someone held my leg up and probably too much. Partly because my hips hurt so much during labour. And then partly because I was in stirrups for stitching which I shouldn't have been really. But after DS popping out a bit too quickly and weighing what he did they were very carefully checking me over. It all settled eventually though. The physio did something to try and align my hips up a bit after birth which helped and then after that it was just time they needed.

It's probably more likely the ligaments doing their thing on you right now 10 but I'd keep a close eye on it and get yourself referred to physio if needs be. If you are starting with SPD it's a long haul from now until 40 weeks. Just keep your legs together a lot when getting out of bed, in and out of cars and things like that. Pretend there's paparazzi waiting to take a pic of your pants at every given opportunity

I know this has turned into a long post but i wanted to say this too: don't feel like you're being self pitying. Even if you were (and you're most definitely not as I'd be getting tearful at all that work and travelling too) this is the place where you are allowed to be!

Hope your exam goes well

For those suffering from hip and pelvic pain, have you tried using a maternity pillow? My husband bought me one and having my leg propped up while I sleep has been a godsend. The pelvic discomfort has disappeared.

13+2

10 I'm with you on the hormones. Have been feeling relatively perky but yesterday wanted to kill everyone. I was soooo grumpy.

When calls get put through to our individual lines from switchboard, there's a slight delay before the caller can hear you. So you end up saying 'Hello?' a lot. THAT really annoyed me yesterday. And the guy who sits opposite me I've now decided is such a total pillock that I can't even engage with him any more. If he bangs on any more about his sodding 'heavy cold' I'll smack him.

AND he just said he was going off for a coffee round and was like, 'I suppose you'll want one of your weird namby camomile tea things,' and looked around at everyone else to get a laugh. He obv doesn't know I'm pregnant but it's SO ANNOYING.

I also got into my car and ripped my skirt all the way up the back in the process - which is making me feel fat and frumpy .

AND I woke up to a pulsating white head on the end of my nose. I'm 33.

I think, judging by above rant, I may still be in a rather grumpy mood today.....(coughs)

Oh, and 12 weeks today!

Got my second scan (first dated me too early) on Friday afternoon and I'm impatiently waiting to see bub again....

[hgrin]

10 it's really weird, isn't it? Hormones are the pits. I've found I'm getting really large, red and hard spots around my neck, which is very strange.

It's just so depressing looking in the mirror in the morning and thinking, 'Great. I look like a big fat greasy knobend.' My hair doesn't behave properly anymore either. And I'm like a werewolf from the waist down. I suppose it is hallowe'en.

Gah!

Picked up a 'baby on board' badge at the tube station today, although not quite sure when I'll feel brave enough to use it. Perfecting my angry stare.

Hello can I join you all?
Have been lurking and just had my scan that shows our surprise dc3
I am 12 weeks 6 days and finally don't feel as sick or tired

Hi all - glad we are onto the hip/leg/back pain and fidgits ... Ive slept in the spare room for the past 3 nights as my legs are so jumpy ... just frustrating we lent the TV in that room to a friend (2 years ago)!!! Always said we would need it back when I got preggers again - however waiting until nucal next week to tell them so I am suffering with no late night TV whilst going to sleep at the mo :-( ....

Told the partner at work I work most closely wtih today so hugs all around ... she is over the moon for me as knows we have been trying for a while ... will tell everyone else post nucal next week but decided if the results are not good (can't even start to think that), then I would need her to know. Such a relief to tell someone and now feel justified using the contemplation quiet room for a little relax time post lunch! (BLISS!) ...

Interesting chat re mattresses - gosh I hadnt even thought about that and just assumed DC2 would use the crib and cot mattress that DD1 did - but sounds like we will be off doing a little more shopping then I thought!

Finally made our decision about hospitals and decided on Kingston this time (St Georges last time) ... anyone else off to Kingston? ... just need to tell the doc on Fri when I go for my check in visit ...also is anyone else going to be consultant led this time (presume I will be due to age (I am VERY old at 41 eek) and the fact I had pre-eclampsia last time .. if so do you know what it means? .. do you only see consultants or do you also have your normal modwife appointments? thanks

That is midwife not modwife - although they sound like they would be quite fun!

I jus sneezed and moved off this page. Thankfully my message was still here

Moving on...

MooLL I'm consultant led at the moment (due to previous large baby). I have no idea what it entails either so also hoping someone answers you!

My first consultant appointment is in a couple of weeks though so I'll know soon enough I suppose. But I've also got my next community midwife appointment the week after that. Which I assumed you wouldn't have if consultant led? It's confusing me already

We waited until post scan. First time of doing that though. It is nice having someone be really happy for you isn't it? And when it comes to work the relief of having people know helps loads. I'm lucky this time that I've still been on maternity leave through the crappy first trimester. A couple of my friends already know I'm pregnant but the rest of work will start to find out in 12 days. My mat leave is almost over . At least I'll only be there until April . I have a feeling I won't be getting hugs from anyone!

Hello and welcome to jimble make sure you add yourself into the stats thread :)

hey mooll and terror just to say I was consultant led for DS1 because my sis has lupus. I had extra appts at the hospital with the consultant who would ask me questions about how i was doing (like MW appts) and have a wee listen in (yay); later on in the pg they would do fundal measurements too, (just like the MW) and I had about three extra scans at 28, 32 and 36 weeks! was lovely! I also had my normal MW appts. No extra ones though... I have been told my next MW appt is at 16 weeks which is standard around here.

hths

no consultant led care this time and with your second baby you have even less MW appts so will probably feel really ignored! [hgrin]

beaver am really grumpy too, particularly with DH by the time he settles down to watch tv with a big bowl of crunchy cereal at 9pm I am starting to feel sleepy and tetchy and tend to shout at him about his loud eating and stomp upstairs. poor DH.

11+3

I'm having a good day. Excellent scan yesterday and had a driving lesson today. I will be independent by the time this baby arrives !!!!!!

I'm feeling a bit sad today. A couple of people have made some sarky comments that I've been trying to ignore but they're in my head today and I can't get them out.

My husband and I have been together for a long time now. We decided to try for a baby a few years ago but nothing happened. I was offered a referral to a fertility consultant but turned it down as it didn't feel right. Then I got older and chances of conceiving got less and less and we stopped actively trying and accepted our fate. Then I passed 40 and knew it was game over. Except it wasn't over and here I am posting on an ante-natal forum :o

So comments from some friends and relatives like 'you must be mad', 'rather you than me', 'what do you want to do that for at your age' etc are really hurtful. We're over the moon, so is my 19 year old daughter and all our parents. Why can't others either be happy for us or keep their traps shut? :(

Flamin honestly some people!!!! As said in earlier post I am 41 (42 in Nov) and do not in any way feel like an 'older mum' ...age is all in the head and your body obviously has told you that ... so they should really just keep their thoughts to themselves! All my friends are having children and are my age ... I know there are tons of positives to having them young but I do think there are also alot of positives to waiting (wheher intential or not). Be happy and ignore those who talk ... x

ah flamin that is sad. here we are happy for you! congrats!

not the same but my friends have been very tentative and not actually talked to me about being pg as i mc'ed a couple of times this year... the igorning my baby stuff makes me sad, like everyone assumes this baby is buggered too :( no congrats just 'ah'... and silence. harrumph!

Don't listen to them flaming, I was pregnant with my son at 18, had him at 19 and all I got were comments about my age. I know people who have waited until having dc and still got comments about their age, albeit just the opposite of what I got. People will make comments to bring others down when they see them happy, it makes them feel better about themselves. Just ignore and think about how jealous they must be of your happiness to go out of their way to try and take it away from you.

to horrible people making ridiculous comments - people don't seem to think before they speak once you are pg!

Re being consultant led - I am, and will get all normal community MW appts, plus extra appts & scans at the hospital.

Still knackered & starting to get pain in my pelvic region - suffered from PGP from about 30 weeks last time, so hoping that it isn't starting again but earlier. Am using it as an excuse to rest lots!!

13+1

Yes don't listen to them flaming silly sods, procrastinating is absolutely right, people seem to make insensitive comments regardless of your age/relationship status/career, you just can't win, don't let them spoil your happy news!

Welcome jimbles I always find it heartening to hear people are getting past this tiredness and intractable nausea which I seem to have had for as long as I can remember now! Also getting those mahoosive spots on my chest and back and pimples all over my face which is very attractive [hhmm]

10+5

We're getting there cuppa! 10 + 5!!! Omg! I have the worst spots too x

Pizza face here to!!!