March 2013 VII: Our little pumpkins are getting fatter

[Sheldonella]

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Stealth - I had an amnio 2 weeks ago, it's fine and over quickly and the results can come back as quickly as 48 hours which also helps. My Little girl also had short femur but is fine. I would say that you don't want to be lifting anything heavy so you need help with children and get plenty of rest and drink plenty of water. I'll be thinking of you.

I had my 20 week scan today, all good, she still has short legs but doing fine!

Oh my gosh you guys were up late last night!! Thank you for all the excellent advice (as ever!) I think I will ask bf not to tell me her name- however i think she knows if she tells me (and it is the same name) that I am a pushover softie and will let her use the name.

eig so pleased to hear that your 20 week scan went well. I have short legs. No one else in my family does. DM is shorter than me but always laughs when I borrow her car as I've had to move the seat right forward so I can reach the peddles!

Place marking. Thinking of you today Stealth

Great news on your scan Gummi [hsmile[

Hi, I posted waaaayyy back in he early days, but had to drop out as just could not keep up and I hated not acknowledging people when they were going through difficult stuff or awful nausea. Lovely to spend time catch up on everything during Ds' nap yesterday. I hope you are all well and happy. Silly question, but I really need to buy some new maternity bras, at 23 weeks I know my boobs are going to grow quite digicam toy before and after I give birth.... Do I buy big? Or do I buy for current size and then buy more when I do get bigger? Thanks in advance

Just wanted to say hi really, I am expecting a girl. Delighted! dH did not believe me when I said I was straight down the line, and thought I preferred a girl, but actually I have realised I was straight down the line and would have been very happy with a boy, i think my ds with a brother would have been a delight. Having said that, a girl is a blessing.

So, the real reason I post is actually to say that I really rate manda's thoughtful response to MrsRigby. If I am brutally honest, half the reason I stopped posting was that I struggled with MrsR language, the way she spoke of her 'bastard' children (2 and 4!!) her husband, seemingly devoid of any positive traits at all, her 'bitch' of a neighbour, her awful house and her generally sh*t life in which everyone is trying to bring you down.

MrsR, I have a strong feeling you do not have many, if any, friends in life. I do feel desperately sorry for you as you are clearly very alone. But please please, focus on the fact you have two healthy boys and, so far, a healthy pregnancy. You will soon be the mother of three children, that is three people totally dependant on you and to whom you essentially represent their world. That world needn't be so relentlessly negative and, if I am frank, nasty, as has been conveyed in your posts in this thread and across others.

Oh and tea, thanks so much for pointer re IO sale! Sad that it is so pricey, because when I have ever bought anything from there, it has always been hands down the best most flattering item.

Not tea! I meant tramp

stealth Best of luck today

Mrs Rigby. Sounds like your DH is giving you an unacceptably hard time. I think pregnancy hormones can make everything unsurmountable as well. Is there anyone you can talk to in RL about what is going on? Friends generally see more than we think. counselling might be a good idea too. You are not stuck with him because of money/children but I think when children are involved you have to give marriage the very best shot. Feck the ils - let him visit him with your boys and you have some time at home.

Hi to everyone else. Seems like there is lots of movement and flutters and nesting.

I am getting used to the idea of being a mum of 2 boys. Though how we will pick a name I will never know! We knew DS was a boy at 20 weeks and he still wasn't named going into hospital. I got my name though and I absolutely love it. DH loved Hugo and it has grown on me now but it is so so so so popular.

Great for IO code. I have a wedding in December so I am going to order this:

www.isabellaoliver.com/maternity-clothes/eu/100/maternity-dresses/DR140.html

Can't decide between grey or black. I wear so much black but then would be less dressy for anything in last few months. Mmm! Anyone know about sizing? I am usually a 10/12.

Happy Halloween to all. DS is superman. Too cute at 13 months!

OC x

bbface keep buying bras. It's pregnancy which makes you sag !

Octcar - I'd buy black just cause it's easier to glam up. But then again I always buy black!

Bb - get thee to John Lewis or M&S and get fitted and then buy 3 or 4 bras that can last you for next few weeks. Seriously it's just sonmuch more comfy when you do and better for back, posture and keeping boobs where they should be.

So more baby gender news - congrats one & all.

I should've got up 30 mins ago but I'm soo tired. Need to work on falling asleep earlier

theTramp. That's what I think black would be easier to glam up. Was even thinking I may go for a hat! Ðecidions decisions for a rainy Wed!

I'm finding girls' names easy too - but boys' ones aren't coming so thick and fast?

Em aw, hope you don't lose your girl-name! Perhaps you should come to an agreement beforehand what happens if you've, for example, settled on Gertrude. I.e. the child born first gets the name?! I do that with car seats too! I'm five three or so and DH is at least a head and shoulders taller.

Welcome back bbface and congrats on your girl! I have to say I admire your honesty re your reason for leaving the thread, and I'm sorry we lost you for a while. I too struggle with this. Especially people calling their children 'bastards' or the like but I find it almost impossible to comment directly on it. I don't know why - it's pathetic of me. Once in a supermarket a mother was trailing the alcohol aisle called her approx five-year-old boy every horrible swear-name in the book. The look on his face melted my heart, I knew precisely how he was feeling, yet I couldn't bring myself to do anything but give him a look that said 'life does get better, chuck'. It was years and years ago but I still think about it and I really hate how I stuck my head in the sand rather than voicing my thoughts and feelings.

On bras, I got measured at Mothercare by a very nice lady who even helped me get them off and on (felt like royalty!) My M&S had 1 choice of bra and knicks (crap!) so I preferred going somewhere where I could try on loads.

Really nice frock OC. Could you wear it post-birth, to eak it out a bit? A hat too, what fun! Sigh, I wish I had plans for winter beyond hibernating on the sofa in my fluffy knee socks

manda I bought two bras from mothercare, but I have to say I wasn't impressed with their measuring!!! My boobs were clearly swollen and my bra was clearly tight but would only measure me with my bra on?!? Is that the norm now? Then she announced my size which unsurprisingly was the size I was wearing already! I had to try lots of bras on in different sizes tether than knowing what kind of size to start from!!!
Have been up since 6am being booted by my little fella! Very nice if not a little rude of him! He clearly doesn't realise I'm a student and shouldn't be up before 12!! ;)

Girls are definitely easier. We had a long list of unused girls names - Lara, India aka Indy, Kitty, Coco, Anabel and Ali is our favourite.

For DS, DH loved max but he has a nephew Max and again it is super popular so don't think we will be using it. He also likes Scott, Felix and I can't remember the rest. I got to pick DS name - John - and the number of people that comment on it as you don't really hear it despite people picking traditional names! so he says that it is his go..... God help me!

Perhaps we should all list out names and we might find something we like amongst them?

Need to get measured on bra too as I am much bigger than the last time.

Am hoping to wear dress to death. My nieces christening in December with a cardi over it should work, Christmas nights out and new years eve along with wedding. Read on here that there is a really good second hand market on ebay too. My Sil has a gorgeous little sequins hat piece that could look lovely for wedding. Shoes and vintage fur and I would be sorted. What's the bets it'll arrive and I will hate it!

Anyone started looking at double buggys? Or has thoughts on them? Can't decided if side by side is madness and some people think phil and teds is only way to go. So hard to decide what to do.

Octobercarrot lovely dress. I won a Tiffany Rose one on eBay last week which is really lovely too & was a bargain £50. It will be perfect for all Christmas events & weddings. It's this one indigo dress you have similar girls name taste to me. Coco has been mentioned & we both love Kitty. Just a shame my ds3 is Kit!!!! I love Dora but DH said no. We also like Betsy, Violet, Iris & Ottilie. So we have some options, just need to work out which one works best [hsmile]

I am going to get a Baby Jogger City Mini Double this time. I have previously had a Phil & Teds which I hated with a passion & then a nipper 360 double which I loved but the single hood didn't work well with a toddler & baby. I have the single version of the baby jogger & it's fab. The lady in our local baby shop says that the double is the one most people who have tried a lot of doubles goes with & loves the most.

I also have an issue with people calling children bastards. Makes me really sad but I am pathetic and bite my tongue. Welcome back bbface congrats on your girl. We are having a girl this time after 3 boys so still shocked here! Have you chosen a girls name?

Em I wouldn't say what the name is either. You are in the best position being due first & like you say she might have a boy! How set are you on the name?

Lanny love the idea of a social scan!

Good luck today Stealth make sure you rest lots afterwards. MrsR how is your baby? You said that it has its tummy contents on the outside. I hope all is ok.

Oct - go with the hat!!! Weddings are most def hat attire occasions and why not?

Ohhh double buggies - yes, we're all over that with twins on the way. Think we'll go for the Out n About Nipper as EVERYONE recommends it! Apparently many twin parents start with something else but end up buying this, so will prob go for it from the start. (Well, not quite from the start. On MN Local a lady up the road offered me a free, secondhand Silver Cross bassinet (sp?) pram for the v. early days - another recommendation from twin mums.) But it may be a different story with kids of different ages ...

Oooh and my old uni mate with five-year-old twins offered us their ace car seats! Brilliant! This solves the dilemma of what to buy / how much to spend for the car we don't actually own

JoJo that's crap! Both the ill-fitting bra and the being booted by baby v. early, hehe! So, Mothercare not for everyone, but I think I was just impressed by service and range.

Right, for once I have a reasonable amount of energy, despite epic journey of yesterday. Must be getting over this cold finally! Off to conquer (or at least have a conversation with) my to do list?

Manada and bbface I totally agree with this and in real life I have to admit I am ALOT more outspoken I am just trying to be mellow in this pregnancy after alot of stress in the last one with DHs mother! I once saw a lady in Asda slap her child around the face and call her a vulgar word that as an adult I wouldnt even repeat needless to say I lost my rag and went straight over and told what a disgrace she was and how dare she treat any child like that ( I thought if you treat your child like that in public what the hell happens at home) I actually sat back in car park and cried for this child and in the end followed the lady home and called social services - my mother fosters children who have been at the highest level of neglect and abuse and I also trained for a year to provide respite for them so couldnt stand by!

I need to order a dress for christmas season for work doa nd a couple of other things - luckly are different circles of people so can re use the same but not sure what I want, apart from something that fits, lol!

Woo hoo its halloween and my little brother (12) and DS1 have promised to share sweets with me and baby and mum is making me a homemade Irish stew so we are all at hers for dinner then trick or treating - cant wait :) sad I know

Stealth sooo sorry I meant to say good luck and will thinking of you all day x

See, it's girls names we struggle with! Boys, no problem... I'd like a girl this time, to be honest, but a boy would be wonderful, too. I have visions for calling them "my boys", "my sons" and things like that... [hsmile] Detailed scan at 12pm... have the morning off work and will go in this afternoon. Joys.

of not for.

Stabbing pain in right side today. Not sure if it's Socs lying somewhere uncomfy, stitch or trapped wind but it's bloody painful. And no seat on train didn't help either. Am hobbling at speed of an 80 year old Japanese lady.

Hey! It's been a very long time since I posted- for much the same reasons as bb in fact I share many of the same opinions as you regarding mrsrigby I've always been surprised that people offer her so much advice! I wanted to quickly show my face to wish stealth lots of luck today! I think we were scan buddy's. I really hope that everything works out ok and will definitely be thinking of you x x

My updates are that I am expecting another boy! Yey! This could not make me happier - I love my boys! (hubs and ds) the more the merrier!! On half term this week so been having major sort outs! I have 6 bags ready for charity and 7 bags ready for the skip! It's amazing how good a sort out can make you feel - woooo hooo to more energy!

Hopefully speak again s

Hey! It's been a very long time since I posted- for much the same reasons as bb in fact I share many of the same opinions as you regarding mrsrigby I've always been surprised that people offer her so much advice! I wanted to quickly show my face to wish stealth lots of luck today! I think we were scan buddy's. I really hope that everything works out ok and will definitely be thinking of you x x

My updates are that I am expecting another boy! Yey! This could not make me happier - I love my boys! (hubs and ds) the more the merrier!! On half term this week so been having major sort outs! I have 6 bags ready for charity and 7 bags ready for the skip! It's amazing how good a sort out can make you feel - woooo hooo to more energy!

Hopefully speak again s

Morning you lovely lot :) I managed do injure myself knitting last night! I was up until 1030 determined to finish the neck band on my cardigan and I was all hunched over. My back hurts now! Cardigan is looking very cute though.
Stealth Thinking of you and hoping the next few days bring good news. Sounds like the odds are on your side x
possom Have a fab scan, can't wait to see piccies :)
bbface Welcome back and congrats on your little girl.
tramp Thanks for pointing me at the coat, will have a proper look at that today.
pink What did you hate about the Phil & Teds? We were thinking of that one but would be very interested to hear the disadvantages before we commit.
Ooh more name talk - lovely. I think we have decided now but DH has sworn me to secrecy! Maybe I will reveal the middle names though
Hi to everyone else, must keep this short as must do some work!

Welcome back kirsty and congrats on the boy!