Due dec 2012 - the long slow bit

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Hi thought if do this and try and link before we ran out!!!

I did that last week Stacey made some good baby money on eBay with it :) bought my caboo with the proceeds, I've put it on quite a few times but look a bit silly without a baby in it.

Honey I had ds1 by cs on Wednesday morning and came home Friday morning. I got up after 24hrs as soon as cathiter (sp) was taken out but the lady opposite who had it at the same time ad me was still in bed when I left. I think a lot depends on your own attitude to wether you want to get on or lap up the sympathy.

honey a friend was utterly desperate to go home after her csection but it took 4 days until she was well enough to do so. There was no question of her wanting to lap up sympathy! So it's not just about attitude; I think there is a large element of luck of the draw as to how it goes for you.

Thanks both! I've heard stories about some hospitals getting you out 12 hours after a cs if all goes smoothly but I guess I'll just have to see how it all goes!

Have just hit sainsburys, panicked at the offers finishing today and essentially bought some of everything! Joined the big black sainsburys pants club and got some very cheap, dark pjs for me, sleep suits and vests for bump and a little cardigan. Sainsburys sleepsuit sizing seems quite small- their newborn is only up to 7lb so got mainly up to 1 month. Got some size 1 and some size 2 nappies. Did someone say that even of baby is on the big size the chances are he'll be in size 1 for a bit? Got some wipes, lansinoh for me, sudocrem and may have a kitchen sink in there somewhere too... Phew. Feel a bit more prepared now!

Oh gosh, I have still bought nothing. My husband gets back from his work trip in a week - we can then focus our minds on the shopping.

Second I have reread my post and it was a bit harsh, i didn't mean it to sound like it. I know some people have issues which are beyond their control and it isn't a competition to get out quickly either. My comment really related to ny experience of the other lady on my ward who clearly wasn't helping herself as she refused for them to help her get moving and they were having to tell her she was making matters worse by staying in bed for so long when there was no need for it. And she refused to listen and turned away from them. Extreme maybe. Sorry if I sounded off.

Pmgkt, no harm done - I know you were talking about your specific experiences. And it does sound like the other lady on your ward didn't help herself or take the advice about mobilising.

I also wonder whether she wasnt ready in her head for a csection and was struggling to get over the idea of having to have one. I can imagine that would make one not want to face the world for a bit.

Just marking my place on the new thread!

A friend is having a really tough time after having her DD and wanting her ex back who left in her pregnancy.

I'm so scared this is going to be me when my DD arrives! I know I will be full of emotion and I feel we are getting closer at the moment and I worry this will lead me to all sorts of heartache at not leaving hospital as a family all together etc :-( xx

Flumpy, you will be a family - he doesn't deserve to be part of it, he's already shown he's not good enough.

But he'll always be part of it because he'll be coming to see her/ collect her and I think I'll always wish it wasn't like that.

I don't know how we got where we were but where we are now makes me think perhaps we could be a family one day.

%23sadanddesperate!

Flumpy I would leave it a good year of getting used to being parents before you start thinking of anything else. Having a baby plays havoc with your emotions and you need to get yourself and dd happy being yourselves before you think about other things/people if you know you're happy with yourself then you'll know you don't just want to be with him because you're chasing some ideal if that makes sense? Obviously I don't know you that's just my two pence worth

Imo, a family is a group of people working together to benefit each other. the most usual is mum+dad+kid(s)+aunts/uncles/grandparents/good friends. But any of those can be booted out if they prove themselves unworthy!

If he thinks he's so great, he can go off and have his own little family with dc+whoever will put up with his twattishness. You need do no more than allow access for 1-2 hours a couple of times a week. Get a friend or relative to hand over baby at the door if you can't handle seeing him.

I think pidj is right. My XH is not my family, he doesn't parent the dcs enough to warrant being in my family. They do count him in their family though. Along with me, their step dad (DH), their dad fiancée and my parents.

And I agree that you need to be happy just you and your dd before even thinking of a relationship.

Being a single parent isn't all that bad. If I survived it anyone can :)

I think perhaps because he only left 3 months ago and we lived together with his DS fulltime an a dog as a family for 3 years and now I'm having his baby I feel like we will always be family.

I'm pretty content as I am, obviously I wish things had worked out differently but I accept that they haven't and I will always make the best of what I've been dealt. I just wonder how things will pan out being parents together. I guess it's just wait and see!

Eugh next steroid injection tonight at 9!!!!

Changing the subject altogether... I had my 4d scan today with dh, dd, ds, and grandparents a plenty! It was such a lovely experience - thoroughly recommended sadly I was coerced by said grandparents into finding out the sex, was team yellow, never knew with my two children either! However I am uber-excited to find we are team pink I cannot wait to get started clearing out the boy clothes and getting the girl stuff sorted out. Slightly superstitious about finding out the sex tho, I always said don't care as long as its healthy and now I feel a bit of a fraud!

Any pics mwah? Congrats on the little girl!

I hav no idea how to upload? Can I do it from my blackberry stored photos?

Congrats on the girl mwah

Aw congrats Mwah!

I too joined the sainsburies big black pant club earlier in the week (the shorts), except I'm already wearing mine cos they're so comfy and my arse is huge wishing id got more!

I agree with pidg flumpy. Allow your self time to adjust though, time is a great healer - but takes it's time.

Didn't get chance to scoop anything else from sainsburies sadly, but kind of glad as DH and I went to woods/gardens out in northumberland and walked in the drizzle. we've not had the chance to go anywhere for weeks due to building stuff etc. Apparently my grin looked slightly 'inane'.

They're the pants i went for too. Went a couple of sizes up so hopefully will be ok!

Hi everyone,

Just had to share - I've spent the last few hours in the bath just staring at my bump. My little bean just comes alive when I'm in the water, he kicks and thrashes about like hes having a party or something!

I'm hoping it means he likes being in the bath as I'd really like a water birth.

Anyone else have certain times when the LO springs into action?

C&C

11pm every night is when LO starts getting active. Very much hoping that isn't how he intends to play it when he comes out!

Congrats mwah.

That sounds lovely coffee. Have had a rather active LO this afternoon, but generally he/she is more of a night owl.

Had quite a productive afternoon sorting the baby clothes we'd stored from DS. Definitely don't need any more newborn especially as I don't seem make small babies! Agree with whoever said there's a big discrepancy in sizes - some of the stretchsuits only go up to 7.5 lb, and I remember the ones we took to hospital for DS were rather snug (DH had to bring in some 0-3 months for going home!)

LO could also wear a different snowsuit every day of the week - we got loads as presents last time (some still unworn) so quite handy having another winter baby.

All the talk of big knickers reminds me I really must sort out my bag. Hopefully if everything goes to plan, I won't actually need to take it to hospital but I know I need it ready as the last thing we'd want to be doing is scrambling around grabbing stuff it we do transfer in. Also granny pants are pretty much an essential wherever you give birth!!

Yes I got 2 sizes bigger and they're lovely, tad baggy but fine :)

Definately a party in the womb around 9/10 in the eve, lunch time and every morning around 5. He seems to like the car with music on, and certain poses at yoga but goes quiet when I swim. Not actually having baths due to having washed up in the bloody thing for months!

Id love a water birth but been wondering if OBEM has increased its popularity and if its harder to get one - in the doctor led bit I have to go to there's 2 pools, my friend had both her children in pools there but since her last 3 years ago there's a new midwife led unit with about 6 I think, just down stairs, however I've been told its usually very quiet as so many people get shifted upstairs in the end! So I worry I'm in competition a bit... maybe in my head people are popping left right and centre...