March 2013 VI: cooking, crocheting and chit-chat

[theTramp]

Old thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1558560-March-2013-Mk-V-Lumpy-bumpy-witty-knitters-patiently-await-the-bloom?msgid=34370452#34370452

And on with the conversation

Thanks Tramp! With the rain & house chaos to return to it is back to earth with a bump
JoJo thanks for the update, rest & heal fast!
sundae hope you are in less pain spin, you poor thing
BLP hope you are OK & not too hurt or shaken - take it easy!

Ouch sundae look after yourself in pregnancy then as the extra weight won't help

No-one seems to care :( My ortho consultant discharged me, but I was in the process of being rereferred due to a flair up when I caught, my GP therefore binned my referral (other GP had done it to the wrong hospital so was all delayed and then GP said no point seeing anyone as was pregnant) Midwife nodded and smiled and put me as low risk and not seeing anyone.

Might have to stamp your feet ( or at least bang in the table!) to get some attention. I'm working with someone who is pregnant after a hip replacement and the MW is v cautious about their labour. It might not be a problem but you don't want the first time anyone realises is during labour!

Sundae I would seriously get yourself a referal back to your ortho consultant, see another GP if needs be or ring them yourself. I'm not saying it to be alarmist (honestly I'm not), but just for your own peace of mind you need to be sure you're going into birth fully prepared. Considering all the strain your pelvis and pelvic floor go under during pregnancy, they really should at least have had a chat with you if nothing else.

Sundae - what everyone else has said. It sounds horribly painful and that must be wearing on a day to day basis. Stemp your feet until someone does as requested.

It's ok. The Easter Bunny is bringing my baby in a basket full of choccy eggs. My mummy might even hide in it her house as part of the easter egg hunt (which we still do every year!) so no pelvis issues, unless I trip over hubby or little sister trying to grab a creme egg :)

Hi all, finally caught up!

Glad you are ok Jojo and really thinking of those of you who have medical issues to deal with.

Great news on positive gender scans! Think we will find out if we can, but dong really have a preference.
Was going to write more, but really tired. Good night! Zzzzzzzzzzzz

Thank you, sundaesundae. Sounds like you've been through a lot, it probably is going to come up in pregnancy either because it will cause PGP or pregnancy will just aggravate it. Hope you don't get it too badly, you really do need to get seen by someone who knows what they're talking about, maybe a joint obs/rhuemie team. Ask your GP to refer you for a second opinion, I had to get my medication sorted first time.

TribbleTuckandDismount, a VB is best if possible because they're cutting through the muscles that support the pelvis to get the baby out so it can make it harder to get better, an epidural isn't good because a. it's going in where there may be issues and b. you're not in control of your movements. It's part of the reason I pushed for a VBAC last time and will have one this time too.

Is it bad that I'm starting to feel less lonely with all the PGP going on in this group? Not that I'd wish it on anyone

Good luck and (((()))) today confuddled

Re PGP etc I used to be on a long term sufferers thread on here and there was quite a few people :(

Morning all, bit more alert now, so will write a bit more!

On the work issue, I work 3 days a week and really like the balance. DH earns more than me, although has only really significantly overtaken me since we had DD. we both work in professional level jobs, but he works in private consultancy and I'm in local government. The only problem we sometimes have is the practicality of us living in York, but both of us working about 35 miles away in the (opposite direction from each other!) we chose to only run one car, so whoever has the car, normally me on my working days) has a long commute on the days they are driving and is also restricted on working hours because of nursery opening and closing times. So on a typical day, we all are up at 6am, (DD maybe 630) leave the house at 7am, drive into city and drop DH off at railway station at 715, drive back out o to DD's nursery which opens at 730, leave nursery at 740 and get on road up to my work and arrive there about 8.20-830 depending in how many tractors/wagons etc I get stuck behind! Then do it all in reverse, leaving my office at 5pm and generally picking DH up from station at 620 ish, but sometimes he works over and makes his own way back. I used to car share pre-DD, but found getting to nursery on time a but stressful and if I needed to leave early etc, was a bit inflexible.

DH has said that at a push, we could afford for me to give up work once DC2 arrives, but, I do like my home work balance, do like being 'me' at work and having a sense of myself, do like being able to have interaction with adults that isn't purely about kids... I hate commuting, but that's the only downside of it and to my mind, I like the lifestyle that me working brings. We are not living the high life by any means, but we can afford most things we want (although no designer clothes/mulberry handbags etc) and still have a good social life and wide group of friends pre znd post DC.

Sorry if that's a bit rambly, but was trying to get everything down!!!

Just on nappies, we use disposables, although DD is potty trained in the day time, so we just use them for bed times now.

Wee pots: I have to keep mine and dispose at home, so it must vary between areas in York!!!

Bookmarking

Morning. So glad it's Friday, could sleep for a week now. Still counting the days to my gender scan, roll on Sunday. My sickness seems to have returned a bit, I have been feeling sick for the past few days :( I was hoping I had seen the last of it but at least it is only mild.
JoJo glad to hear all went well, when do you get to go home?
Ethel It sounds like you have a good balance. Is your DD's nursery near work or home? This is one thing I am trying to figure out as there is a great nursery in my village and also a nice looking montessori nursery across from my office. I'm not sure what the best one to go for would be.
BLP What a scare that must have been. The lady that helped sounds lovely.
sundae That sounds very frustrating, I hope you can get some help. Different departments of the NHS never seem very joined up to me.

Morning

Thats rubbish sundae I have had 2 femeral osteotomies (legs cut in half and rebuilt with pins and plates) and thats why DS2 was c section - I will say when they know about probelsm alot of doctors panic and dont know what to do/ suggest and dont want to touch you which can be a pain. But my consultant has booked an appointment with him and my ortho consultant to discuss birth etc and get a clear plan in action - esp now with the hypermobililty. I would push your end and make them sort it and get the ball rolling :)

sheldonella it's near where we live but on my route to work. We debated going for a nursery close to my work, but decided in the end that if for any reason I couldnt get to pick DD up, DH would then be about 70 miles away! So home seemed the best option as central for both of us. Plus, if we have time off, say in the run up to Chrysler, we can bob her in for half a day to give us chance to get stuff done or go for lunch and to cinema. At out nursery we pay the same amount e wry month whether we are on holiday, or she is sick, or whatever else, so everynow and again we take advantage to have some child free, non-work time!

chrysler?! i mean Christmas!!!

Chrysler :)
That makes sense, I guess I might change jobs too then I'd probably have to find another nursery. My concern is that the local nursery closes at 6 so it would be a problem if I got stuck in traffic.

Thank godness its Friday - have woke up with a splitting headache and feel awful and felt really bad on DH as poor bloke hasnt been allowed near me since stitch and wont be till next year and feel really awful turning him away all th time as that cant be nice for anyone but dont want to forget myself and get caught up as its not worth the risk to baby or my insides so find myself pretending to be asleep at night etc

Oh dear (()) poor both of you

can you "do" some other "stuff"? TMI probs, but a bit of healthy imagination and some other bits of you also might be fun? There would be some threads on MN that may give you some avenues?

Sorry about the fall lovely about flowers (sorry can't remember who had bike incident!) jojo you're back, soopa glad ok, rest up now.

Gotta go, it's my weekly ante natal relaxation class, first visit woohoo!

sheldon I was hoping to be dc today but I don't think that's going to happen.
I tried to walk for a shower and did quite well but then after a minute or two became very light headed and nauseous. I had to be wheeled back to bed and the colour just drained from me! Still have catheter in too as the MW isn't happy that I'll be able to take myself regularly to the loo without help.
My dressing has been removed, I have a scar from my navel to my bikini line - very neat but long!!
Also have been taken off drips and morphine so I only have one cannula in now :)
I've also met a woman on the ward who is 9 weeks pg lives in Kemnay so we're going to swap numbers that way I know another mum to be in the area!!
I'm managing to mostly manage on paracetamol which surprises me as I'm a real wimp when it comes to pain.
The docs came round this am and confirmed that although I still have both ovaries, I only have one Fallopian tube. So have lost the function of the right side completely. Still have the left though :)
Not sure I have much more to tell I keep checking in but tend to sleep a lot at the mo so aren't posting as often as I'd like :(

Good to hear from you JoJo and sounds like you are in the best place. Take it easy and hopefully you will be out soon.
Well I just bought an emergency maternity dress. Put on my underbump jeans this morning and was in agony at my desk, it was awful. I went to gap and bought a lovely green drapey jersey dress and some footless tights - much better.
Just heard a colleague has miscarried and I burst into tears :(

Just wanted to quickly post & say lovely to hear from you JoJo. I'm glad it all went well & that you have two ovaries I hope you get discharged soon but hospital is probably the best place to make sure you do nothing but rest!

Really glad you are ok Jojo, been thinking of you! X

Glad you and baby are ok Jojo been waiting for news, get plaenty of rest and check in when you feel up to it :)

Having one of those I want to cry days - people keep asking what I am having as they knew I had scan yesterday and when I say boy they look all sad eyed and reply with ' ow you must be disappointed' and 'will you try again'. Its driving me nuts - yes a girl would of been nice but of course I am not disappointed I am having a beautiful baby that is growing inside me and I cant wait for him to be born! We always said we would have 3 and this is baby number 3 so no I wont be trying again whatever the gender of my baby its was meant we were meant to have and will be the final piece of our family - its really starting to annoy me that people think we only had another to get a girl and would keep going to get one - all I have ever wanted is a baby I get to 36 weeks with and doent need special care so stays with me - SOrry rant over!

Afternoon All, not long until the weekend for those of you at work! jojo glad to hear you're recovering and have made a friend! I lost the use of one of my Fallopian tubes years ago after my cyst and still got pregnant very quickly twice so hopefully shouldn't cause you any long term problems.

Apologies in advance for the whinge- I will try and keep it brief but I am feeling so tired and pathetic, it's really getting me down! I can't do anything without getting wiped out. The house is a bombsite, ds isn't getting the attention I'd like to give him, I hate feeling so useless! All I want to do is sleep. Trying to do some ironing this afternoon and after half an hour came over all dizzy and had to stop. Supposed to be seeing friends tonight but I don't know how I'm going to find the energy.... Ok sorry for me, me, me! It helps just to be able to share!