Due In DECEMBER 2006

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I would imagine I'll be the first to post here for a little while - I just found out today.

Look forward to hearing for you soon

Hi AQ,

Sorry to hear that you aren't feeling great at the moment. I am sure that how you feel now won't last forever, but try not to beat yourself up about it. Sometimes your brain is just having a hard time keeping up with everything and then there are the hormones as well.It is a scary business being pregnant and we are all bound to feel a bit down occasionally. I am certain that you are doing a good job at looking after your baby, but right now the baby is happily growing and you need to look after yourself. Don't panic over stress, or what you are eating - at the end of the day there are going to be a gazillion babies born that have mothers who are stressed or like choccy. I had fish and chips for tea tonight, which isn't great for bubs, but fish makes you brainy doesn't it?? I suffered with depression after losing a family member and it is hard and it does feel like it will last forever, but it doesn't, and after you will feel stronger.

Plus I don't think crying is anything out of the ordinary for a pg woman. I sobbed at big brother on Friday!! Had to pretend I was worried about work when dh questionned me...couldn't admit to crying cos Mikey and Nikki had a row over a beer!

And yes, I am desperate for that scan.

Thanks all, what quick replies! Feeling really desperate tonight and have ds for next 2 days with no-one to see as routine out of whack this week. I'm sure I'll think of something, at least he's a sunny little possum. Hi debbsy again, how did you get back on here, nice to hear from you & glad that you are feeling better. I'm 14 and a half weeks, thought it would have calmed down not got worse lately as I'd had a few happy weeks. If I thought it was only hormones, could cope, it's coz I suspect depression as I was very low b4 I got pregnant and had PND + another bout of depression after ds born. Ought to go do some yoga and plan nice day out with ds. Will speak to m/w on Wednesday about it all, hope I get someone sympathetic. Hugs to all the bumps out there (including my very small one that I can only feel if I lie down flat on a wooden floor!). Feeling lost, thanks for making me feel found again Lennied, hope scan goes well and not too fast!

spend some nice ac with your ds away from home swimming or something that you both enjoy take care xx

AC, sorry to hear about your sadness - I have been depressed in my life too and found that diet was such a factor - it is natural to reach for the crap, chocolate, chips etc but try to have a nice meal with lots of vegetables, especially brocolli, and lots of SEEDS! I know I probably sound a bit weird but don't underestimate how much food can make you feel better. \link{http://www.organicfood.co.uk/inspiration/13superfoods.html\Check this out but also include pumpkin seeds and brocolli which aren't on their list, and strawberries}

I am not trying to say what you are feeling aren't valid feelings, but sometimes they are just made worse by the rubbish we are putting into our bodies which can make us sluggish and blue.

Lecture over - and remember people do care even though when you are depressed you feel alone
xxxxxx

Olihan - I know what you mean. I had intended to savour every minute of it but I've been so busy with ds and dd plus the puppy and also we've been having building work that I've hardly given the pregnancy a thought. I'm hoping that when the building has finished and dd starts nursery in September I might have a couple of months to lie on the sofa stroking my bump.

Hi everyone. Had my scan yesterday. Got a wave and thankfully saw a beating heart. Now feel pg.(obvoiusly three months of no periods,sickness,exhaution and tender boobies isn't enough for me!) I have to admit i was relieved that my first trimester of eating really badly hasn't mucked up my bean.

I still feel ridiculosly tired.Not sleeping very well due to hayfever and wake the house up with my sneezing.

AQ-Thinking of you. I know all the books,websites suggest a stress free pgnancy where you sit there relaxing and eating well and napping on demand, but we don't all get that. From the stress point of view, my mum died when I was 14 weeks pg with DS and he's better than fine-a very sunny healthy little person. I've had depression in the past and I recognise your description of feeling numb. Glad you're going to see m/w. we're all here for you in M/N land.

Lennied, good luck with your scan today.

Hi everyone.

Spinamum - congratulations on your scan! It makes it so much more real, doesn't it. I'm still exhausted too. Thought I'd feel better by now (13 weeks). But I keep waking up at 4 in the morning to wee and never going back to sleep properly.

Hi Olihan - yes this is my first! Probably wouldn't have chosen boxing day as a birthday, but hey, I don't suppose it will appear bang on schedule anyway. :)

AQ - I really empathise with you. I felt terribly depressed the first few weeks and couldn't understand why. Shopping works for me :) or exercise. I hope you feel better soon, and try not to feel guilty about feeling low.

Hi all,
Aq: my heart goes out to you, I've had days when I've felt horrid and really hormonal. Like others here dh can just say something quite innocently and I will just snap sometimes. I'm 14+2 now and still get really weepy moments.

you say you are hearing the heartbeat tomorrow, that will really be lovely. I heard it at my scan last week and it felt like just the best sound in the world to me.

I also would not worry about stress and the baby. With my dd(now 2.5yrs) we had a terrible summer arguing over knocking down a horrid garage in our garden with the freeholder I was so stressed over it. But she is a really happy little girl. I also ate quite a bit of chocolate but then read about a Swedish study that said eating chocolate makes a happy baby

oh I have gone on a bit.

glad to hear that others are still tired. I feel so tired sometimes. Going to ask Dr tomorrow about my iron levels.

Hi all,

Had my scan today finally! Was pretty quick so didn't really get to see much, but bubs was facing forwards which the sonographer was annoyed about as it made her measurements difficult, but it meant we got a photo of his face and can make out his little fingers and a wave! It is kind of weird to look at the picture of what looks like a real baby, when you know it is only tiny. Was all a bit much to take in really and then had to rush back to work so only starting to appreciate it all now. Am dead on with my dates though, so definately due 26/12. I was secretly hoping I'd be further on, and have more chance of a pre-Christmas baby. But not complaining. Hope you are all well. Congratulations on your scan spinamum, and welcome to all those I haven't said welcome to yet. And I'm with you all on the tiredness thing. I'm still exhausted, all I want to do when I get home is sleep.

AQ - I think it is a really good idea to talk things over with your midwife, and debbsy's suggestion of a day out with ds sounds like a good idea too. I can't remember how old you said he is but my local pool does a toddler swimming social for the mums and kids, might be something similar near you.

why its good to eat chocolate in pregnancy

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That's 3 of us with boxing day babies!! My ds was due xmas day and didn't arrive until new year's eve so I'm not too worried about this one messing up christmas.

Hi all
Test results were due today but phoned them and wont be ready for another couple of days, major let down.
This is no 2 for me due 18th Dec, have ds aged 3.5yrs.
Felling really fed up and sorry for myself, will catch up soon, hopefully with good news.
x

Hi All, maybe it's just a pregnancy 'nesting type thing' but I am seriously needing to sort out my home.

I went onto flylady.net (check it out) where she helps you step-by-step to become more organised and de-clutter.

Today the first day, I have to shine my sink. Well, it's the sparkliest sink you have ever seen. I have even dried it out with a kitchen towel, so it looks perfect!!

Can't wait to get to sorting the bills out!

It makes me smile whenever I go into the kitchen now....it's really funny!

Gosh,i'm so jealous that you have energy to shine your sink. i'm usually quite sink proud (i too use kitchen roll to get that sparkle!)but my house has gone to ruin in the last three months.I did have a small burst of energy(well enough to care) and did some tidying up last week. Then my DH had all his mates around for a bbq for footy on Thursday and the furniture still hasn't been returned to it's original place. I left my home on Thursday and came back to some "studenty" gaff with wall to wall beer and bangers. Dh is great doing housework(most of time) but I'm the obsessive who has a home for EVERYTHING...... and a lovely shiney sink usually. nuff of my hubby bashing!

lennied, i found my scan with DS a bit of a blur too. All my friends said they got waves,etc and I thought they were all delusional(sp?) until yesterday. For my 20wk scan, my lovely DS climbed into a corner of my uterus and used his legs to pin himself in place while the sonographer tried to poke him out to take measurements. You'd never guess he was every camera shy now.

...ever camera shy.

spinamum and lennied so glad your scans were ok xx

Thanks DandB! Me too!

so take it you found out what you were having?

no, but i'm planning to ask at 20wks. All I know is that there's only one and i'm still due on Xmas day, despite my huge bump. Dh was expecting twins or a Nov due date!

That reminds me. Has anyone got twins(or more) in their bump? I don't remember anyone saying, but I have got PregHead so apologies if anyone has said.

Ooh, will have to check out declutter site. Don't know how I'll cope with obsessive tidy nature once I have 2 children. Y'all can tell I'm feeling better . thanks so much for all the kind messages, i felt such a whinger yesterday but needed to reach out. A friend sent me several lovely texts as well which helped as did yoga 1st thing today (it is the bees knees when you're stressed). Ashamed to admit never taken ds swimming as I don't like going . He goes with mum a few times a month, know I should go but can't face it. P'haps when I have proper bump and look preggers not hugely fat. So we went for lovely long walk in nearby wood & spotted some cows, read a couple of books. Remembered why I wanted another child! And I do.
do think diet is a problem, I admit, addicted to sugar although I try to eat decent choc most of the time (G&B organic, mmmm). Problem with being preg. is you're hungry more often (even worse when b/feeding) so hard to always have healthy stuff when you're desperate and so is ds! I am not a natural provider in that way. Have been trying harder this week & I think it helps.
Lennied, I felt exactly same way about scan - whoosh, where did that go? I'm going to keep her talking for 20wk scan or get mum to do it. Can't wait to find out sex & start choosing a name, had ds all sorted by 22 weeks!
All those due on christmas/boxing day, commiserations but you know only 15% go into labour on due date anyway! I went 2 wks over with ds...Going to bed early as like the rest of you, am totally exhausted!

so glad your feeling better ac have a hug((((hug))) in fact have 2 ((((hug))))

So glad to hear you're feeling better AQ, things can get crap at times, and sometimes we all need to step back fom the chaos around us to see that things aren't really that bad.

Had my 1st midwife appt this afternoon, only 20 minutes, despite being 16 weeks & never having met her b4. Obviously we didn't get done everything she needed to do so she's coming round to the house on monday. Was a bit of a disapointment as i felt it was so rushed & didn't really get the chance to ask any questions as she was so busy. dp came with me, he was pretty miffed with it all & like me disapointed that it wasn't a little longer & we were so rushed. However on the plus side we did get to listen to the heart beat which sounded SO strong for such a little thing & i could feel ickle bubs moving away from it when she pushed the thing on my stomach. feeling him/her quite regularly, particularly on an evening when sat all quiet - very bizarre but brings a smile to my face each time!

hope everyone's well.

AC glad you're feeling better.

I found my m/w scan a disappointment too and I had an hour and a half's worth. It wasn't even the 2nd baby thing. I'm not sure I get on with my m/w as well as I did with my last one. M/w1 was a bit straight to the point at times but I grew to like that. New M/w seemed a bit "trying too hard", but she did have a student with her so I'm hoping it was professional showing off. My poor DH was there too and I think he felt totally left out.(He did have something to do with my situation and he's a very supportive dad, so it's a bit gutting when he gets shoved out.)I hope I get to like my M/W a bit more. After all if I need another stretch and sweep I want it done by someone I can stand!

..my M/w appointment not scan. Gawd, I'm getting bad.