Due in October 2012 Part 7 - towards the finish line, going for Gold!

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On your marks...
Get set...

GO!

Oh and angelico I will ask the doc tomorrow re lack of weight gain. Have also had thrush so maybe related to the dreaded GD.

crazy dont worry about offloading on here, as I said a couple of days back I have done more than enough moaning on here than all of us put together! What a frightening experience for you and DS at the pool today, I hope he is ok now? It just goes to prove that no one is perfect, and it really does take a split second for something to happen. Don't beat yourself up about it. I wouldnt dream of taking DS swimming right now, and Im only 30 weeks! And god, my DS doesn't go more than a couple of hours without hurting himself in some way, thats just part and parcel of having a boy I'm afraid. He will often hurt himself doing something, spend 10 minuites crying in my arms, then get down and do the same thing all over again! They never learn. Sending you anyway.

Squid congratulations on reaching full term!! You may have the first baby on the thread then? Sorry I can't remember everyones EDD :) I've just realised that my growth scan is in 7 days. If that is OK, I see the consultant in 14 days, and I should be given a date for my ELCS then.....eek! I will be 33 weeks so Im guessing I too have about 3 WEEKS LEFT. OMGGGGGGGGGGG!!!

Was it you who was asking about how we all came to be pregnant? Both of mine have been planned. The first time I came off the pill in the January. I had one period, and we went on a 2 week holiday to Florida in Febuary. We came home, and my period was due at the end of March. I had a "show" the day it was due, then nothing for a week. I finally dared do a test and it was positive!

We actually decided when DS was about 2 that we weren't going to have any more but then (as is often the case) loads of friends were having babies. We spent the majority of last year in a kind of shall we/shan't we, and by December I'd had enough. I said to DH "Look, if we are going to do this, lets just do it" (sorry for the pun haha). I came off the pill at the beginning of December and had a couple of irregular periods. Then a job came up for me, covering the team leader at my childcare setting whilst SHE went on maternity leave. Having only just qualified we thought this was a fantastic oppourtunity, and agreed that if I got the job we would stop trying for a while as the timing was all wrong. Of course the day before I started the job, I felt off so did a test and I was bloody pregnant lol. As it happened this was the best thing that could of happened anyway, I HATED the job, got no support from management whatsoever, and in no way shape or form will I be going back!!

And here we are, almost at the finishing line so to speak. Its been the longest pregnancy EVER, but you girls have been amazing. I've learnt so much from all of you, and am so grateful for all the support. Please can we all carry on after the babies arrive and compare notes/fears etc as they grow?

So, 3 weeks. Oh, almost forgot, its also 3 weeks until our completion date on our purchase (28TH SEPTEMBER YAY),DS first FULL day at school is the 26th September, and if we are right, baby will be born sometime that week too. Crazy. Wish me luck!!

Sorry for he epic post, however, will make some bedtime reading for some of you I should think! Night!

30, DC2, 31+2

oh and crazy I must have cross-posted with you. What a scary moment. Poor you.

Just a quick pop in to update on the bravado silk bra. Mine arrived today, just opened there. Sexyyyyyyyy . Hmm.
I am 34dd. Think is too small. Cups fit ok but in back on last hooks. Tho unlikely back and ribs will change much now? Think will emai tmrw, check returns time frame and try next size. I ordered medium, think worth trying large.
34dd obviously not that large but support much better than I assumed, surprisingly good shape. Weird removable pads in front.

Comfort?? BLISS..... Cannot believe hav to put other one on again tmrw while wait in another size.

Opening cups v good. DH had another set of giggles at the pop out b

Oh for dear sake, sign I am tired.,...
DH had another set of giggles at pop out boobs..... The man is bloody 43.........!

So all in all v v highly impressed, just think I might be between sizes, like most things in life!!!

Off to switch of with some natal hypno, niiiice.

Oh and regarding relaxing jaw for poos, is also v v important to try not to clench jaw during labour for same reason. Relaxed jaw = relaxed everywhere down below. Life according to my yoga teacher again! Makes us yawn lots in class to relax jaw!!

Night peeps!! Xx

www.NursingBra-Shop.co.uk/

Is where I ordered bra from, if anyone interested!

huffle oh dear - I ordered the same bra in a large - I am also 34DD - I have sent it back to exchange for a medium!! may regret that then, dithered over it for ages

Will catch up with rest in the morning, just back from pregnancy yoga after my instructor was off for a month, really good to do it again but totally scary I am the furthest along now...

nighty night

Just a quick
Op on about the poo. I am doing ok in that dept now. Eating about 3 bowls of high fibre cereal a day. Gone through a family size box of mini wheats and half a box ov oatmeal crisp in a week.

I also am more frequent during the week when I have a schedule. I get up 20 minutes early, have a big bowl of cerial, then just go sit and wait...

Oh I also heard that putying your feet up on a low stool, so your knees are above your waist is supposed to help too. I just linda... Go up on my tipoy toes??,

Re bras.... I just bought a B cup!!!!! Omg exciting!
Also, if your cup feels right, but the band is tol small look in the sewing section of your store and look for a bra extender. Basicalky a 2 in section with more hooks and eyes.

less than 30 days of wofk left now. Yay!

Bollocks, I am now a 38!!!DD (used to be 34, fecking high bump ) and have ordered the medium, sounds like it will definitely be too tight around the band. I have bra extenders though and reckon the band size will be the one thing guaranteed to go down after the birth, surely? Or even as soon as baby drops which (big hint to baby) it is welcome to do any time, 36 weeks on Friday and sick of it lying in an awkward place where the movements feel like I'm being stretched from the inside. Yesterday, I got such a punch to the bladder it made me yelp.

Beeble, I have also heard that about feet and knees up, I rest mine on our bathroom bin! It's more similar to the squatting position which is a very natural position for relaxing things down there (hence why it's such a good one for labour), and the reason why old style French toilets are actually better for doing poos!

Smorgs, did you get through the rest of your cycling trip without punching the rude man?

Cherry, dying to hear how your pelvis measuring went!

Will do my conceiving story later, ought to have left for work 15 mins ago. Oopsy.

Morning all.

Have added an up-to-date bump photo to my profile. Must admit I'm feeling quite small compared to other people at my NCT class, but it's still big enough to get in the way of everything. Tried cutting my toenails last night...that was interesting!

Only 18days of work left, although if I take out annual leave and half days it drops down to 10...that's the number I'm going to stick with! Can't wait to get out of there but at same time I'm freaking about getting closer to due date!

Hope you all have a good day

32, 32+3,#1

Bodysilk bras - I'm a 34DD and wear the medium. Find the band stretches as I get bigger, so have 2 brand new ones in boxes waiting for my stomach to disappear (it will disappear this time, right? ).

Re getting pregnant, squid, very unexciting stories here! First time, went on exotic holiday, came back and off antimalarials & pill, moved house, got pregnant two months later! This time, had unprotected sex ONCE, thought - are we mad, are we ready? - and hey presto. Obviously this baby was meant to be....!!!

Had another hideous night last night. After swimming with DS I was in so much pain from SPD I just couldn't sleep. (also kept having flashbacks of his terrified face underwater) So tired And just tidied out all the kitchen cupboards....lluckily have physio this afternoon. She'll probably give me a proper good bollocking. Wish DH would be more helpful and sympathetic.

Beeble hooray for the work countdown!

CWest what is it about getting pg when it's inconvenient?! And what is it about boys and being accident prone....DS is so funny, if he bangs something slightly he makes a massive palava of it until I've kissed it better, then he runs off happily. Very cute.

londonlivvy huge congrats on exchanging on your flat! Fab news.

And huge respect to Angelico and Fjord - you are both doing amazingly with your GD. angelico were you enormously chuffed to have a thread of the day??

Right, off to clean the bathroom. Come on, pelvis....

Hola!

So pleased with self. Took day off today after rota blunder and hav only woken at 9am!!! Longest lie in in months!!!! Obviously much needed. No comment on how awake I was during night as I seem to hav a cold........

So I am off and in

and I plan to do more cleaning!! Well I hav a wee bit of work to do, need to call to 3 nursing homes..... But still.

On bra issue. In some of my wakeful hrs I was considering. As I so tall my ribs not moved much so unlikely to go down much. But cups will surely enlarge when milk comes in? And need wee bit of room for pads. Due to fabric if too big on cups will lose shape....... Hmmm. Still think I will order size L and compare. Thinking it will be too loose tho. Prob end up with both.
Hope to get time for proper read of past few days.
Love to all, cannot believe will be babies in next few weeks..............

Huffle and Squid I'm a 38/38DD and got the medium. Although I'm on the last hooks, my ribs have expanded so much I'm assuming they'll gradually get smaller after birth! There's no digging in on my back or sides so I'm happy with the medium. I have now bought 2 more of them so I have 3 as I'm currently refusing to take it off. The removable things in the front are a bit odd but will be good for leakage I reckon.

Re. getting upduffed. Very boring story. Went off pill in November. Got confused as I have an irregular cycle (anything from 30-45 days). Had lots of sex, but didn't really think about it. Got period on 5th Jan. Surprised myself that I was actually quite disappointed- thought I was less bothered than that. Next month, knew when my period was due and instead of my usual 5 days of sore boobs and pms, I had it for 10 days. Did a test on 20th Feb- very clear positive! Very very happy and surprised. Feel very lucky that it happened so easily for us.

Urrrgggghhh, morning ladies

Just a quick message to whinge - awful sleep last night, don't know how you long-term hip painers are managing at all - total kudos to you. Changed sides a thousand times or so which hurts bump. Woke up exhausted when I wanted to be all bright-eyed to finish edits this morning so I can send frigging book away and wash my hands of it (until proofs come in and have to read it letter by letter with a new baby and 3 hours sleep behind me but pretending that isn't going to happen). Still feels like work till I get finished.

Lots of ketones this morning so probably not enough carbs last night even though BS was perfect. Bollocks. Might just have been dehydrated. More later.

BTW Huffle great website link - thanks! PMSL at some of the Hot Milk bra 'names' :o

Gah, to work!!!

Ha ha angelicojust checked them out!!!!! Hee Hee!

Kyyria... Just took a peek at your bump pics lovely ;) also notice that you and I had the same wedding dress! What color was your trim? I had mine in claret red... Gorgeous!
-- sorry, side tracked...

Re: knocked up story.

Married last july. Said we wanted to do one big trip before trying. Had a quick, local honeymoon post wedding, and planned a december/january trip to sustralia. Dh's sis lives there. Went off the pill for that trip secretly hoping for a honeymoon baby and packed a test in myl suitcase well it didn.t work. good thing because did lots if scuba diving and amusement park rides. But did find out that POAStests are much much cheaper in aus. Stocked up and came home. Next month BAM! And about 6 poas tests later I finally believed the results. Lol. I thought I may have issues, because of some fertility issues in my mom.s side but we totally lucked iut and gere we are, less than 7 weeks until EDD.

Hello all -

DH away and mother here making sure DS will not be abandoned if 'That which will not be named' should come to pass while DH is away. DH back tomorrow night!
Did not go to bed on Monday during the day (big mistake) - felt well and made a big stock of food for the freezer. Anyway DS was at childminder 'til evening. I am like a car running a flat tyre and anyway all my air ran out. I had to go to bed in the evening, with a sick bowl (Sorry if TMI). I texted a teenager here on the estate and she was available to take DS out to play for an hour. My mother would not be able for a lively 2yr old. They were outside playing while I was upstairs in bed with a sick bowl. I am sick and tired of feeling sick and tired.
Crazy I last took DS swimming about a fortnight ago but would not dare now.

Anyway I saw the ObG yeterday - he repeated several times, 'you are fine, I am not worried about you, I expect you to have a normal v delivery'. I quoted mumsnet to him - Pregnancy might not be an illness but if you had the these symptoms and you weren't pregnant, you would think there was something very serious wrong with you. He just laughed.
I actually said the same thing to the MW the other day and her answer was 'well if you think about it this baby is living like a parasite off you...' I forget the rest. Anyway, I had been thinking of bean like a parasite (not in a mean way but biologically) so it was funny to hear her use the same word.

Huffle in terms of bra size I always find the strap size goes up during pregnancy. It is due to pressure coming up from below, the ribs seem to stretch out. I expect my bra strap size to come down post pregnancy. I would think the medium would do and at a push use to expanders. Thanks for the website link.

I was also thinking about people packing their hospital bags. Thanks for the Tena advice I must check them out. Always will not do as they stick to (dried) blood - sorry to gross people out. I did not use as many pads as people are saying. I used one pack and half a second (V delivery).
In terms of toiletries, I was advised that babies have a very sensitive sense of smell and they identify with mother's smell. I was advised to just use aqueous cream (I still have the lovely Clarins shower gels and body lotions that people gave me as gifts, which I will use in the future - when I go back to having date nights.....) You know when someone goes by with this big waft of perfume/aftershave, how gross it is. I imagine that is what perfume smells like to babies.

35 +5 today - due this day next month - thank goodness to be on the countdown. Well done anyone still working.

Oh I am useless..... Will continue cleaning in a while......

Conception stories. Mine not just so easy!

We married 2 yrs yesterday. (yes, I kno I was at work for 11 hrs......) and one of the reasons we married was to hav baby...
Sorry that sounds so old fashioned but living in a rural town with a small business one has to feckin go with tradition! Oh and because I wanted a wedding!!!!!

Started trying after a few months. Assumed all would be easy. Ahem, nope. Started a v trying routine of peeing on ovulation sticks, watching out for mucus changes etc. Think this did a lot to harm iur sex life tbh, can take the sparkle away.... (but fully intend to get it back!) About a year and many tearful periods later went to see GP to discuss fertility checks. He v kindly referred me straight away but said stop thinking so much, often voicing fears to GP can set things changing psychologically and you never know... DH birthday was 4th Feb, we went in to town, went to cinema, went for boozy dinner and got train home. Period due that day. Next day no period, got out the test. DH said please don't do it and annoy yourself, let's just enjoy the weekend. Peed and positive!!!!!!!! We were shocked in to silence for about an hour!! 3 tests and lots of tears later we were convinced!!!

Actually when I went to tearfully see GP I was already pregnant!
Miraculously got the fertility apt about 2 wks later (fair play to you NHS) but did not need.

We cannot wait to meet this long awaited bubba and although I know we did not hav a hard time compared to so many, it was just such a massive relief that we 'work'.

Lots of tears here, off to catch myself on!!

Huffle and Angelico - also pmsl at the hot milk names! Sound more like mills and boon titles!

Angelico and fjord - big sympathies on the gd. That is so much to manage with everything else, really hope it gets better for you (lol at river dance- is there a Norwegian equivalent involving clogs maybe?!)

Huffle - you've sold me on bravado but I'm also in the 'what size' camp. Normally im 36C but most comfy bra now is a Triumph 36D. Got measured at M&S when in UK recently and they recommended 38C but tbh it's too small. I'm also in the long waisted camp so assuming will go back to 36 after birth but stay at D or DD? Good tip on the jaw clenching too, I grind my teeth so tend to clench when stressed. Is it wrong to be using poos to practise labour techniques like not clenching and 'breathing it out'!? Def going to search out some pampers disposable matts too.

Crazypaving - that sounds like a really scary pool moment I'm not surprised you're reliving it in your sleep. But don't beat yourself up about it. My sister - best mummy I know - had a similar experience once. I have no experience in these things but I know that the old 'get straight back on the horse' saying is often true so if you think ds has lost a bit of confidence is it worth taking him swimming again soon?
My sympathies on the crap sleep too, I was awake for hours last night.

Londonlivvy - yay on exchanging on your flat! Finally! And well done on getting unpacked already, you're a machine. Can you come and do mine? Thanks for the swimming tip. How was the doc's?

Kyyria - 10 more days. What a relief for you. Nice bump pic!

Yomping - I had a similar experience at aqua aerobics a few months back. The pool was in the middle of the gym surrounded by glass and in front of the running machines. I did not go back! I survived the Fatty comments on hol yes, but did take to calling him Le Petit as he is a short arse, which was childish but satisfying!

Beeble - 3 bowls of high fibre a day?! I need to focus more on getting the fibre in I think. Thanks for the bra extender tip, never seen those. Sympathy on the SPD and heartburn - my hip and back pain is getting worse but not sure if it's SPD or if they recognise that in France. Angelico's tip about sleeping on the sofa worked for me the other night though - made sure my hip was in the join of the seat cushions so it could sag down a bit.

Cwest - roll on completion date! Sounds like it will be a hectic week though. Can you get friends to help you move and unpack?

Bella - that is not really on what your boss said, have you said anything to him? Hope the baby shower is good, very jealous no one has organised one for me.

Elpis - are you feeling any better since taking the iron/ rust juice?

Squid - nice bump!

Wantanorange - good luck with moving!

Phew, that's all for now. Onwards with unpacking...

Cross posted
lisbethsopposite that's rubbish you're still feeling sick, is it MS still? Hope it improves, is it worth getting something from the gp if it's still that bad?
huffle that's one of the loveliest conception stories I've heard!

Sitting in maternity hospital waiting to be seen after not feeling any movements since yesterday afternoon. How can all the other women here be so CALM? Wish me luck. 36 weeks today, I hope.

Here is my 'knocked-up' story. It is connected to DS's story - I will try to be brief.

My DS was conceived via IVF on the third attempt with donor eggs after several failed cycles with my own eggs (memory has become a blur). Anyway at 43 I thought he might be our family. Because we are older parents, we were anxious for him to have a sibling, to have some family if we are not around. DH and I are both from big families. We had been trying or 4 years, naturally and then assisted conception, before DS was born and I was determined to enjoy him for his own sake. So I BF him for 13-14 months. You cannot do IVF with BF - the drugs would go into the milk. So we tried a cycle again in December when I was 6 weeks post BF. That cycle failed.
Mentally I had looked at it that IVF is a numbers game. It was like throwing dice - I think our success rate (for our treatment regimen) was about 1/3. My logic was that if you need the dice to show a 3 or a 6 to be successful, you just need to keep going/throwing. I had been on IVF boards and seen how stressed people got, not just at their failures, but chance comments from nurses or receptionists or anyone. I decided to get my information from books and the Net and not let any of that in.

Anyway after the failed December cycle, DH and I decided we were too old to hang about and we decided to do another cycle immediately if that was medically feasible. It was and our cycle started on Dec 30th. Egg retrieval was Jan, Fri 13th - good job I am not superstitious.
We booked to go to Barcelona for embryo transfer the next week (embryos are transferred on day 3-5) but when it came down to it DS was a bit unwell and I went on my own. Two embryos were transferred on day 5. I was not to test for 2 weeks but of course I did and BFP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I had reached that point on more than 1 occasion before so could not tell a soul in RL - I could not cope with sympathy if the cycle were to fail. Sooo I came on mumsnet.
Then I had early scan because IVF carries a higher risk of ectopic pregnancy and also to see if I had 1/2 embryos still taking. Thankfully I had 1 - doubles are considered much higher risk pregnancies.

One drag about doing 2 cycles back to back is you are on medication for such a long time. You are on meds every 8 hours before and for the first 3 months of a cycle which for me aside from about 4 days break, became 4+ months of meds every 8 hours. And the 8 hours is very exact. It is not breakfast lunch and tea, it is 7AM, 3PM and 11PM. Alarm set on the 'phone, exact timing. Pesseries and oral drugs.
It's funny writing this stuff, I really had forgotten some of the details. I think it is wonderful for you girls that things happened easier - I am happy for you.
IVF did not drive DH and I apart, if anything it brought us closer. We have a wonderful DS and another on the way - we consider ourselves blessed.

I'm supposed to have three days left at work. Yesterday our nanny's sister had an emergency induction at 36 weeks with pre-eclampsia. The baby's in special care as he was only 1.4kg. So no childcare. Yesterday was also a very busy day at work, which I had to do largely at home looking after DD, and now I am behind with that as well as desperately anxious about the baby's inertia - he's been quieter than usual all this week, though did kick visibly around 4pm and again later. Tried drinking iced water and prodding but to no avail. So tired and tearful - DD woke me at 4am wanting to sleep with Mummy. Why won't they see me yet? All these super-calm women who arrived after me are being called in.