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herhonesty · 27/07/2012 13:56

so tested positive on thursday am for a due date of ... 1st april.... anyone else? early days yet but after 2 years of trying for no. 2 i am very excited!!

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threeleftfeet · 11/08/2012 16:35

Yay, congratulations spidermanspiderman! Thanks

threeleftfeet · 11/08/2012 16:48

Roxoroxy I'm not at work at the moment (full time mature student), and I actually don't remember when I told them last time!

But as long as you trust your work to be reasonable, there's no reason not to tell them soon if you want to. Although are you sure that you wouldn't be passed over for projects / opportunities if they knew you were pregnant?

People usually leave it till past the 12 week danger zone, just in case something goes wrong.

But that's only worth doing if you think dealing with people's reactions if something went wrong would make it more difficult.

I've started telling my friends already - but cautioning them that it's early days so not to get too excited (which is a bit silly as it's because I'm so excited I want to share it with them!) If something goes wrong I'd rather they knew why I was sad.

Lola06 · 11/08/2012 16:54

aufaniae - this is exactly the quandry I'm going through. I'm desperate to tell some people but I don't think I could tell my mum if something went wrong as it would upset her too much. I don't want others knowing before her so I'm stuck holding off until the scan. Everyone knows how best they feel telling people, their is no one rule for any of this pregnancy stuff.

Hope everyone is having a nice weekend x

threeleftfeet · 11/08/2012 17:15

Oh Lola that's a hard one! You must be bursting to tell people but I totally get not wanting to upset your mum.

Totally agree there's no right way to do these things!

The first time round DP's poor mum was told I was pregnant first time she met me - she'd not even heard of me until a few days before! She was delighted - but a little shocked to say the least!

When I told SIL this time, she said "it's a bit different this time, we actually know you!"

BrianCoxIsUpTheDuff · 11/08/2012 17:55

aufaniae that was how it was with my DP introducing me to his mum.

She had heard of me, but we hadn't managed to arrange a meeting beforehand due to her social life/our social life and my DD commitments.

So, DP told her and a few days later I met her. Was lovely, big hugs all round and she was concerned but not unhappy.

Feel like I've always been one of the family now, they're lovely and this baby is very lucky to have so many people ready to love it!

josie81 · 11/08/2012 20:03

The not telling is soooo hard! Met my best friend today and I usually tell her everything, so felt awful keeping it from her. But couldn't tell her before I tell my mum, and dh and I have agreed to wait a couple more weeks for that...will see how long I can hold out!

toobreathless · 11/08/2012 20:07

With regards to work, I told my work at 12 weeks last time & informed them of the date I intended to go on maternity leave at the same time. To all those struggling with work, this is one of the few times to be selfish, do whatever works best for you. I would be particularly wary to telling work early if it is likely to effect your job negatively. Legally they don't need to know until 25 weeks & obviously there is always the risk of something going wrong in these early days Sad

We haven't told anyone yet & won't until 12 weeks. I would probably tell my friends if something goes wrong & did after I had an ectopic pregnancy in May 2010. I'm mainly holding off as it seems like such a long pregnancy if you tell people early, that's just my irrational brain though.

I have nasty morning nausea but no actual sickness & very tired. Exactly how I felt with Dd, wondering if it might be another girl? I secretly hope so, mainly because we already have a girl born in April so wouldn 't need to buy much! But a boy would be nice too, something different. Not that it matters as long as its healthy & all that!

Can I give a mention to Hot Milk nursing & maternity bras. I don't work for them honest. They are amazing, so sexy, matching underwear, really comfy. I wore my last 3 sets through pregnancy, nursing & am wearing them again. They are pricey but I found them on the Internet half price.

spiderman big congratulations.

On my phone so can't name check but thinking of all those with spotting or other concerning symptoms. Fingers crossed for little beans with flickering heartbeats on those early scans!

timetomoveon · 11/08/2012 20:12

Hello all and welcome to the newbies :)

I have told one close friend but that's it. We haven't told parents and certainly won't until after 12 weeks, or maybe even later if we can get away with it. My mum is staying at the moment and I'm trying to be all bright and breezy, even though I feel increasingly horrid.

My docs just rang and changed my Thursday appt to Monday so hopefully I'll find out an edd then. Am really nervous about it but trying to cling to the fact that I really don't feel well so hopefully that means everything is ok with the little bean.

Crazytictac · 11/08/2012 21:42

Hi ladies, can I tentatively join please. Got my unexpected BFP on Tues after a nearly year of trying (including a chemical pregnancy). Due date 17 April. Just want to fast forward to the 12 week stage so I can stop the constant trips to the loo to check for any blood and my boobs might get a rest from being prodded to check for tenderness.

Totally empathise with not divulging pregnancy news. Managing my mum's disappointment after my chemical pg was worse than mine although my hand has been forced this time. Got another loo trip, nice to be here!

Bodice · 11/08/2012 21:43

hey guys,
Bowing out. had a miscarriage this week. Knew it was too good to be true. gutted but trying to move on and up. hopefullly will be back soon. good luck with all your pregnancies xxx

wishfulthinking1 · 11/08/2012 21:46

So sorry bodice, it's happened to me before and I remember the sadness all to well. Best of luck for the future x

toobreathless · 11/08/2012 21:47

Crazytictac congratulations

Bodice so very sorry. I lost my first pregnancy to an ectopic & was pregnant again the next month. Wishing you a peaceful recovery.

Lola06 · 11/08/2012 21:49

Oh Bodice, I'm so sorry to hear that. Hope you have people around you to help at the moment. Nothing I can say to make you feel better. Hugs.

BrianCoxIsUpTheDuff · 11/08/2012 21:49

Sad xxx Bodice

Bodice · 11/08/2012 22:34

Thanks guys. Has been a truly awful week but coming through it and trying to think about the positives. I got pregnant the first time we tried, so that rules out a whole heap of problems. Plus I have an awesome husband who has been nothing but brilliant support and is now even more keen to start trying again ASAP. Hoping it won't be too long before I have some good news. Keeping my fingers and toes crossed.

LikeCandy · 11/08/2012 22:46

Hugs to you Bodice - xx take care of yourself

spidermanspiderman · 11/08/2012 22:53

Hi everyone, hugs to bodice!

Still not told anyone yet not even dh. Have decided to tell him on Monday as it's his birthday (he will be over the moon!). Have stocked up on vitamins and have looked up recipes for non alcoholic pimms (having birthday barbecue for dh tomorrow and don't want to feel left out or for anyone to notice that I'm not drinking.)

Can't really advise re telling employers as have not worked since ds(4) was born. I didn't tell my employers then till the last possible date I legally had to as I felt I did not need my work place assessing for me and I knew they would be vile to me when they found out (which they were!).

angeltattoo · 11/08/2012 23:45

I'm so very sorry Bodice. Thanks thinking of you x

edinfirst · 12/08/2012 00:57

So sorry bodice. So glad your DH has been so amazing. Hugs to you both.

timetomoveon · 12/08/2012 07:28

Sorry to hear that, bodice. It happened to me in my first pg too. Will be thinking of you xxx

ratbagcatbag · 12/08/2012 08:46

So sorry bodice. Sending big hugs to you. Xxx

jumpinghoops · 12/08/2012 08:57

Bodice- sorry to hear your news, take care xxx

josie81 · 12/08/2012 08:57

Bodice, so sorry that this has happened to you. You sound incredibly positive and brave, as does your lovely husband. Hugs xx

ratbagcatbag · 12/08/2012 09:37

For all the ladies who were with me through the tough couple of weeks I had, I thought Id update you.

Me and DH are making lots of effort to go out and do the things we enjoy, we are sharing chores in the house and are generally being a lot better. I had a big cry the other night about how terrified I was and we had lots of hugs. All seems far far better now and I'm feeling very positive :)

Ooooooh and I lurve christmas, best time of year ever. I frequent the Christmas boards on here from about July lol. :)

MrsTwinks · 12/08/2012 09:48

worried day here, still not believing my faint bfp's decided (as surely they'd be stronger now at 5+2 right?) to POAS again. Now got BFN :( less tired, still very very sick thou but worried now. Any of you second-timers had this?

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