Due in October 2012 Part 6 - Third Trimester Trials and Tribulations

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Just a quick read and catch up, heading out shortly but Livvy sending a hug and some . Have a and see how you feel but if you're having any concerns do go to the hospital! If it's stabby pains might be ligament pains? I rolled over in bed this morning too fast anmd actually squealed with the pain - felt like someone had run a filleting knife along one side of me. Had crampy pains a few weeks ago and consultant said that sometimes your body is just trying to say "slow down lady!"

But honestly if it's worrying you go and get checked out, put your mind at rest {{{{{hug}}}}}

Hello to all, will catch up properly later. Workman terrorising starts at 10 this morning, followed by visit from friends - we're heading out for a carvery so thankfully no cooking! :)

Fjord loving the idea of a camel sticking its head in the sand. Did you mean ostrich? Sorry, I appear to be the resident thread pedant

lisbeth really really pleased for you that you got your money back too. What does their letter matter - they were obviously worried enough about being in the wrong that they covered their backs, then thought they'd have a last ditch kick to make themselves feel better. All over, wonderful!

londonlivvy how are you feeling? God I hate it when neighbours pull stunts like that when you really need sleep. Do you have a number for your delivery suite? You can usually ring at any time and talk about anything that's worrying you. I had a severe stabbing pain a while ago that really frightened me - had to lie down and breathe through it for quite a while. Rang them, and the midwife there spoke to the consultant and said take it easy, stay lying down, and if it doesn't go in an hour or so then come in. Luckily it went away. They figured it was extreme ligament pain (or that I was a total pansy). (I'm not a total pansy, honest). If you're feeling over-tired and you're in pain, can you get your friend to come and meet you at home? You should rest if you feel the need. Hope you feel better.

CWest glad your husband redeemed himself somewhat! I like happy(ish) endings!

Wantan sorry this morning isn't looking promising sod's law, eh! Hope you have a fun day anyway!

My newest symptom is pins and needles in the tip of my tongue WTF is that all about? Dr Google (I know, I know) just came up with loads of stuff about MS that I've decided to ignore but it's not a nice feeling and it won't go away. Started yesterday. Weird.

We're off out to a picnic in the park later with lots of friends - planned for ages, how lucky are we with the weather?! Now I'm just stressing about DS burning and me getting too hot. Ah we must have something to moan about! Now I need to try to locate the picnic blanket!

Ha ha ha! I know some of you use the baby centre daily updates. Some 'interesting' statements and analogies, such as baby this week being size of a Chinese cabbage.........?! But this bit has made me laugh... Followed some links for having trouble sleeping, especially if partner snores......

Try to have a lie in in the mornings after he gets up to go to work

WTF?! Is it just pregnant women who don't work or women in general????! Oh if only it was that simple!!!!!

Ok so I'm not going to bore you with all the details but my cock nobber of a huband has bloody well gone and done it again. I hate him :-(

Cocking cock nobber

oh no, cwest and and (((hugs)))

CWest
Squidkid I think you used the expression 'grind to a halt' that is what I feel like.
Up to now, I was working 3 days a week but DS was in creche 5 days. I took him in late and collected early on my days off but I still had time to swim/walk have a long coffee with the paper or meet a friend for lunch. This is now gone. After 2 weeks of looong days, rushing home to relieve family babysitters and having DS mainly alone on days off. Anyway I feel like a wimp, a fast slowing wimp I don't think I will be working much longer than you.

Angelico and others - thank you for sharing your advice. You know when you hear some things, you just know they make sense. I've gotten some sharp pains and your instinct is to stop dead. I'm going to take the same approach with the fatigue - not stop dead in my tracks but try to listen to my body.

ha ha huffle, Baby Centre also told me I should sleep 8 hours a night and try to have a 2 hour afternoon nap. I don't think many of us in the 21st Century have time for that much sleep with our full time jobs / kids / responsibilities.
Sorry CWest, men are thoughtless sometimes. The annoying thing is you don't want him to not do it again because you've told him not to, or because he knows it'll piss you off... you want him to NOT WANT to do it again. I try to be fairly liberal about saying 'yes dear, go to the pub and have some fun without me,'- but then I'm not moving house, and if anyone should be taking on more of the work, it's your fella. Are you able to rationally explain to him why you're angry? I don't seem to be capable of that recently, I just get upset.
smiley That heartbeat thing does sound scary, but do try to be reassured- if there was really something to worry about, they would have whisked you straight in for tests.
londonlivvy, how are you doing? Where are your pains? I'm getting all kinds of weird pains in my belly- they're very similar to the ones I got at 6 weeks which made me think I was having an ectopic pregnancy, so I think they're just stretching pains.
crazy, the tip of your tongue??? Never heard that one!!!

Ugh, can't bear this hot weather, and am feeling grumpy about the increasing numbers of tourists ruining my commute...

I have one thing to say right now. FUCKING HEARTBURN. FOR FUCK'S SAKE, IT'S EVERY FUCKING DAY.

Ok, I'm calmer now.

Sending to all who need them - lots of tired and worried and stressed out peeps on here today, I hope your problems resolve themselves.

Yesterday, for first day of summer holidays, I spent 6 hours driving! Collected a cot that we won on eBay (this one, in case anyone is interested), then on to see my friend who has just has her emergency hysterectomy - please to report she is very chipper, was allowed home early from hospital, was good to see her and especially good to see her looking so well and positive. She has never been the sort of person to let things get her down and it's one of the many things I love about her. Then home, a 200 mile round trip in all.

Today we drove up to Northampton for DH's uncle and aunt's Ruby wedding anniversary which was lovely - god, were they lucky with the weather, we sat i a pub garden all afternoon and got sunburned - but more sad news, DH's cousin and wife are expecting their second DC, they are about 16 weeks pregnant but found out at the 12 week scan that it is twins and one twin is not doing well. They have had further tests and get the result on Wednesday but basically it looks like one twin won't make it and may have died already, and the problem is that if that is the case and they want to continue with the pregnancy, DH's cousin's wife will have to continue to carry the dead twin but this will cause increasing risk for the live one as the pregnancy develops. What a horribly difficult situation to be in, I really feel for them and it makes me so very grateful that my little wriggly bean is healthy and well.

Yomping That looks great - worth the drive.
Isn't it all becoming SO real?

Posting from phone so can only remember minuscule amount...

londonlivy agree with the others that it can be a sign to slow down but I would go to maternity triage if rest doesn't do anything. I had some really nasty cramps, triage sorted me out in no time but a day in bed also worked wonders.

Yomping good to hear your friend is bouncing back. Some people are pretty special - she Sounds like one of them. Sounds like your cousin is going through it. Makes our grumbles pale into insignificance.

Been to the gym, took DD swimming, lazed in the sun = one dehydrated, knackered midget.

london not had to deal with proper heartburn but it sounds like a bitch.

Huffle is this not how things are in your house?

Gah, trying to catch up here but we're like a bunch of housewives gabbling across the fence at breakneck speed :o

So hello to all of you and for whoever needs it. There are just too many posts to keep up with!

Special for anyone a) moving / renovating b) with cocknobber DH's / DP's c) with aches / pains / worries / heartburn. Hope you get sorted or kick DHs in the balls. Note to self: before next pregnancy buy shares in Gaviscon!

Watched the Irish version of OBEM tonight and sobbed helplessly while DH laughed at me There was a poor woman who had tried for 6 years and through 5 miscarriages before finally having a little boy. It was just so lovely for them when they finally got to hold their DS and very humbling.

Hi everyone,

Thanks for all the support and good wishes. Having spent the whole of yesterday resting I really had cabin fever and wanted to do something nice. And really wanted to see my friend who I haven't seen for months. DF was quite anti and thought I should spend the day in bed. Or at the hospital. I thought that a lot of my rubbish feeling was due to overtiredness and the rest probably ligaments pain.

Anyway, I got on the train with the Sunday papers, she picked me up, we had a lovely lunch and all good. We then went for a very gentle, flat, 3 mile potter of a walk (she is also up the duff) but not slow enough. I was crampy and sore with some stabby pains too by the time we got back. Humn. I sat on the train feeling very sorry for myself, got home and got told off by DF for overdoing it. Gah. So frustrating. I understand why he was cross but also thought that as my plans were pretty low key and I haven't seen her in months then maybe he could have just provided love and support and supper instead of cross words then buggering off cycling (somewhat rubbing salt into the wound for me, as I would love to feel well enough to do my favourite sport. And why couldnt he have done this at any point earlier in the day?) .

So not much harmony round our house. I am tired, sore and a bit worried. If still sore tomorrow I think I will get myself over to the hospital. this pregnancy malarky definitely isn't what I thought it'd be! I've lost my sports mojo and what feels like half my personality too. Gah.

Sorry cwest that your hubby is being troublesome. Hope that sorts out soon.

yomping so glad your friend's op is done and she's in reasonable spirits.

Livvy do take it easy - it's not the time to push yourself when you're feeling so sore :( I know it's frustrating having to slow down - it's a pisser :(

Sympathies to everyone dealing with inadequate partners. Mine is off to New York tomorrow for SIX DAYS. It was to be four but then he decided he needed to see a good friend who lives in NY state. Grrr. When he returns he will be jetlagged and use that as an excuse to let me continue looking after DD 24/7 on Sunday (except when I'm at work, obviously.).

I know his job enables us to pay a London mortgage, but I wish the travel were less. He goes to Costa Rica when I'm 35 weeks.

OK, whinge over. I cooked lunch for the in-laws today, did a big pile of ironing, took DD to the lido (two buses, two trains) and entertained MIL for two hours. Not too bad for nearly seven months gone, no? I was very proud of DD. She's only 3.3 but will now walk around in the pool with me, even though it's unheated and 75cm deep at the shallow end, then hold onto the side and kick her legs. She wants very much to go down the slide but she's too scared. This is a relief as I'd need to catch her and simultaneously protect my bump from 18 kilos of flying object...

Never heard of pins and needles in the tongue being a symptom of MS, btw. Pins and needles in hands and feet, yes. But 1) it's doubtless one of those weird transitory pregnancy symptoms that really alarm you and then vanish (itchy palms, aching vagina, etc etc) and 2) if it is MS, it sounds like the most harmless symptom going and I'll swap you one of mine for it!

Plus londonlivvy - do go for a check-up if you feel you need to. Even if they just say that you're pregnant and need to slow down, it's reassuring to have the checks and know that nothing serious is wrong. I went along a few weeks ago and thought the midwife would tell me off for wasting NHS resources, but she was very kind.

I am married to a complete angel but I do think we might all be getting to that stage where everything is getting harder. I had a meltdown with DH in the car on Friday night, drove along sobbing wrathfully and really sulked with him for the rest of the evening. A workman had been a complete cocknobber let us down again and I was furious, DH was so casual about it and I thought, "I missed my fucking book party because I was so determined to keep work stuff going and you are defending this nobber who just can't be arsed turning up to do work?! When I am killing myself getting stuff arranged?!" Best moment had to be when he said, "Well if it's stressing you out don't organise stuff!" And I shrieked "Who the fuck else is going to do it if I don't?!"

Thing is two thoughts occurred to me afterwards. Firstly, I am getting tearful really easily - over sad things, happy things, annoying things - which is very unlike me, except when have PMT. So I'm guessing hormones are to blame. Secondly, I just don't think men have the slightest clue how tiring everything is becoming - the not sleeping well, the aches and pains, the frustration of slowing down, the fucking heartburn!!!

My point at the end of this slightly lunatic rant is that we are bloody heroes and deserve capes and pants over our spandex leggings, not grief from DH's! And some of you really do deserve medals so the best thing I can offer instead is a ! Hang in there, we are winning! Not long to go now! x

And another thing! (Mad rant face back on, I can see it in the window reflected and it ain't pretty :o)

This baby has stopped kicking and is now squirming all the time in a bony-kneed, painful sort of way! I can feel something sharp like a knee or elbow dragging across my innards level with belly button. Ran my knuckle across DH's tum earlier and he flinched away looking a bit . And I was like "Yeah, weird isn't it? Now imagine that same feeling from the inside!"

I did feel a bit :o at his face :o :o :o

Angelico - I agree, lots of tedious symptoms, tiredness and moods and heartburn - pain the bum.

Late for work...

Heartburn advice by email this morning... I ate some chocolate last night and boy did I pay for it through the night

I've started to feel those 'shiver' type movements that a couple of you reported! Very strange- I think they're what some people might call 'squirms' or 'wriggles', but they really feel like the baby is shivering for 5 seconds!

I had another really quiet day on the movement front on Saturday... then she didn't stop moving yesterday... so maybe 1 quiet day a week is just part of my routine? I really don't want to call the midwife once a week if quiet days are normal- and I'm sure they are (baby has to rest to do lots of growing, my midwife said)- it's just those forums that loudly shout 'IF YOU FEEL REDUCED MOVEMENT OVER A PERIOD OF 5 MINUTES, YOUR BABY IS IN SERIOUS TROUBLE AND PROBABLY DEAD, THIS IS WHAT HAPPENED TO ME' always freak me out...

Hugs to all

26+3, #1

angelico just to sympathise with the squirming and dragging...unfortunately iirc it only gets worse as the weeks go by. God it's the weirdest feeling in the world.

Elpis I figured tingly tongue was a bit random for an initial MS symptom! I found something else suggesting it may be a hayfever symptom, but then my fingers are a bit tingly so I think it might just be mad pregnancy circulation ishoos. My DH travels very, very rarely with work and I find it so hard when he does. Well done for coping so well - I wouldn't. And how nerve-wracking to have him so far away so late on, lots of sympathy.

yomping glad your one friend is doing so well in spite of it all; how awful for your other. I don't even want to contemplate the possible complications of having one dead baby and one live baby inside God it's just too awful I have a cousin who was a twin whose twin died, but very very early on so less complicated I think, somehow.

londonlivvy sounds like you had a lovely day but take it easy!!

I'm a bit terrified today - having bought a big tank of a car, we still haven't managed to sell my lovely little car (oops, wrong way round, I realise). But today I've got someone interested coming to look at it a. when DH is at work and b. when DS will be asleep. A bit panicky about how to manage negotiations, what to tell him when he has tricky questions, and how to deal with a test-drive. I can't leave DS alone in the house but I don't really want to let a stranger loose in the car. Also, I can't move DS's carseat because it's too heavy and complicated, so I couldn't even wake him up and take him with us. And I doubt he'll want to buy the car without a test-drive....arrgghhhhh!! I'll have to size up the car he arrives in and figure out if it's worth him coming back for, I suppose!

angelico, avoid chocolate? . Actually, it's overdosing on biscuits that seems to cause the worst heartburn for me. And like all my other symptoms, it seems to come and go quite a lot - I have it for a couple of days then nothing for a week. I think it's stuff growing and stretching, then my body adjusts pretty quickly until things grow and stretch again.

crazy, I think people sometimes ask for the person to leave something behind if they want to take a car for a testdrive - like their phone, or wallet, or something - for security. You could try that?

And yy to weird, squirmy movements - mine have never really been uncomfortable up till now but in the last few days some movements really make me wince - particularly in the mornings, it's like the baby thinks "right, she's got used to me moving and kicking, let's see how she reacts to this". Maybe the little bugger bean has changed position and the movements that cause me discomfort are higher up and hitting internal organs.

Off to London today for a mooch around Stanfords in Covent garden, dinner at Jamie Oliver's Covent Garden restaurant, Union Jacks (lots of pizzas with very unusual combinations of toppings - pizza does it for DH, unusual food combinations do it for me so we're both happy ), then beer with my lovely little brother (he's 8 years younger than me so even at 29, he's still my little brother - even though he's at least 6 foot 3 ), then a comedy gig, will be a late night but a good one I think. Loving the summer holiday, feel so much more relaxed already even though I've been busy.

Yomping, 37, 29+3

Hello lovelies

I survived and totally enjoyed 3 days of a music festival with six mates crashing at mine for the weekend so I'm really chuffed with myself! Ah, three days of music and sunshine after all the work and rain, just bliss! And I deliberately took today off so I could enjoy myself without worrying about tiring myself out or struggling at work the next day, so I feel wonderful today, been for a walk this morning and just chilling here with the cats now :)

It's funny, back in January when I first found out I was pregnant I never thought I'd be rocking a music festival at 31 weeks pregnant, so I'm feeling really happy today. And......... also I painted my belly for the festival because I am a nutter. LOOK!!

I didn't really feel like I had the confidence (or the figure!) to pull it off really but I have never had so much attention in my life... total strangers were coming up to me to say how ace it was all day

Looks gorgeous Squid! Where did you get your trousers?