March 2013 Mk II - anyone for a wotsit?

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mand what utterly fantastic news!!! Twins! I'm so jealous! I think DH would have a heart attack if we saw two beanies in there though... lol!

Also delighted to hear about random - hope you are ready to join the thread again soon.

I'm 7 weeks today (I think) and having a bit of a wobble as this is the day it all started going wrong in my last pregnancy although it wasn't officially confirmed for another 10 days or so. So, knicker checking constantly today I reckon...

backwardpossum a wobble us fine - just don't fall :) stay positive xxx

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backward hope everything goes well for you over the next few days. Thinking of you.

manda know what you mean about trying not to tell people. My problem is that despite being only 5 weeks (I think) I'm showing very obviously. I've got 3 humungo fibroids that swell even larger when pg, so I look at least 4 months gone! The only person apart from dh who knows is my Mum because she's staying with us this week and I wouldn't have been able to conceal it from her. I'm trying to hide from anyone I know in case they ask! (Relatively easy as I'm busy writing up my PhD at the mo).

To whoever asked (sorry, several pages ago!), yes I've seen the special deliveries programme, and that's what helped me decide the Ulster looked good. Plus, I couldn't face the Royal after what happened there recently.

Random what amazing news. So, so pleased for you.

Random what wonderful news! Tinker hope you are OK.
Bit worried as I have bleeding today - not heavy but the first I have had. Not sure what to do - midwife appt is tomorrow, should I wait till then?

possom hope you get through your wobbly day & spend done time out of the bathroom :)

Totally thrilled to hear randoms news - wow what a roller coaster, but I was pretty appauled that the mw/sonography muddled her dates! Anyway, welcome 'home' when you come down to earth random

I am sheltering at my neighbours (they are away for the day & have offered their home to us for DS - am so sad to be leaving them). Van is loading outside & a quick nip back shows a very peculiar, empty and very dusty shell of our home. I also had to pop out for a cat carrier, sugar, more biscuits & black bags. Removal men are like gannets :o

Hot here today - has it made it up to Scotland yet??

Re: pregnancy - my symptoms are few and far between now. Not sure if it's a good sign or not. Think I may prepare myself for the scan just in case - it feels like the stress of the past month can't have allowed the bean to survive - sorry to sound so dramatic! Who knows. Am happy to have my precious DS anyway, if things did go wrong.

Who had the car prang? Hope damage isn't a pain to sort out anyway & no physical damage done. Always a shock though, however serious.

Right - got to sort house insurance. Happy days all!

lexi what kind of bleeding? Don't panic, bleeding is often normal in early pregnancy x

Thanks guys, I'm not going too mental yet x

Thanks backward possum & hugs to you. Midwife has told me to go straight to A&E so heading home from work & DH will take me. Trying not to assume the worst but midwife did not sound too positive

Oh Lexi fingers crossed, really hope its nothing (((hugs)))

lexi you poor thing. Sorry I posted before I saw yours - I have everything crossed for you - really hoping you get a positive result. Glad DH is there with you. Hugs x

lexi my thoughts are with you. possum you too. And rose if you are still reading this I just wanted to say I am truly very sorry to hear your news.

It all makes me feel truly wimpy for lying on he bathroom floor crying because I have been sick every hour on the hour at least for the past three weeks , even wot sits and water do not stay in my Tum. In comparison to real issues I'm a bit of a fraudster but if anyone can advise anything that has worked for them I am willing to try. < looks desperate> I've done ginger, ice, sea bands, dry crackers, biscuits, curry(!), flat pop, constant grazing, little and often, having a break from eating... Is anyone else feeling so rough? I knows it's natural to have sickness but 24/7 for weeks seems more than most and it's totally obvious to everyone who knows me since I am often wearing my last snack!!!!

lexi everything crossed for you, fingers crossed for good news and it's just normal early pg symptoms xxx

dameflamingo I'm not sure how helpful this will be as I only really get morning sickness.
My midwife told me to basically eat whatever I fancied - if I want anything at all listen to my body and basically eat it (more likely to stay down if your body wants it). She also mentioned to keep ginger biscuits by the bed do that when I get up in the night to pee I have one everytime - that way my blood sugar stays up throughout the night and hopefully doesn't cause the immediate morning vomit pre breakfast. Last night I had a slice of toast just before bed. I wasnt sick this morning. I have noticed that if I go to bed hungry I feel worse in the morning do that really helped! Dry cereal etc could help such as Cheerios as they're light but still lining your tum. The bands didn't work for me but getting out for a short walk ( with a bottle of water and emergency biscuits) can settle me.
Any of this helpful?!

Thinking of you Lexi x

dame that sounds awful! Have you spoken to your midwife? If it's that sever, you could probably get some anti emetics to try and stop you being sick?

lexi hopefully the mw is just being cautious and everything's ok. Thinking of you.

dameflamingo I really think you should go to your gp, if nothing is staying down as they may be able to help. It sounds as though you have been hit much harder than most and perhaps should just get checked out. Good luck.

Had my first midwife appt yesterday, i was convinced it was going to be a scan which it wasn't. Brought OH along because I thought this and it was only a questionnaire thing, blood pressure test and protein urine test. OH felt and looked like he really didn't want to be there and sadly we had an argument afterwards which he started and that's not how I want to remember this time in my life :-( and told him so. Why he couldn't have just smiled and sucked it up I'll never know :-( I told him not to bother coming to any more appointments if he's going to act so stroppy afterwards and told him welcome to fatherhood. We made up a little while later but it's still bugging me this morning especially as he is constantly telling me not to let myself get stressed out (he has been saying this for weeks now yet he's the one stressing me out everytime).

Anyone else get that kind of immature reaction after a consultation?

shimmy It's a tough time for OHs as they feel they're not really contributing anything to the development of their Lo and anything that confirms that feeling (ie not needing to be at an appt) is likely to lead to a less than helpful response. The telling you not to stress is probably about all he feels he can do to be helpful. Make sure he can come to scans and give him things to do to feel useful and see if that helps. Even so, it's not fair on you.
Did they give you a scan date, or will they "be in touch"? (Oh how I hate that phrase)!
btw do they frequency of my posts give a clue as to how quickly my write-up is proceeding? Aaargh

shimmy my other half came along because he wanted to, however he still looked a little awkward and unsure about what he should be doing there!!
I think because the midwife was asking me questions and not really acknowledging the OH he felt a bit of a spare wheel - that and he'd had a rough morning at work. He found it helpful though and is constantly re quoting some of the things the midwife told me about managing the sickness etc. He's even booked time off to come with me on tues for my bloods. I think the first appt is generally dull for the daddy to be and he'll be far more perky at the scan :)

shimmy it can be difficult to involve the fathers in appointments etc but I think it is incredibly important to make the pregnancy a shared experience and to make the effort so that your OH feels that way. I never think of it as 'me' being pregnant but as 'us' being pregnant and I think that draws my DH into feeling completely involved in the process. He comes with me to absolutely every possible appointment even if he appears to be there just for support. We have been lucky that all the midwives we have come across always seem to include him as much as they can. We also had independent midwives last time who definitely see pregnancy as a family affair which was great. When we looked back at the pregnancy with my DD after she was stillborn, we were so glad that we had had this approach to pregnancy because it meant my DH felt equally a part of her short little life as I did.

The weird thing was though that he was asked questions too like any history of this in your family, stuff that I wouldn't have known so any info he knew was vital in yesterday's appt, yet I got told off by him as we were walking away because he felt like a spare part the rest of the time. I wasn't going to even say anything back but he kept going on and on and on like a broken record of how he felt he had wasted the hour and a half off work and I just snapped. I got it in my ear the whole way home.

Yeah I got a we will be in touch about the scan date but I got a load of phone numbers etc so it's not all bad lol.

I was offered a downs syndrome scan or whatever but I said no as she said there's a slight risk of MC. And that's another thing he was not pleased about, me refusing that even though when the midwife asked me if I wanted it I turned to him and said what do you think and he says it's entirely up to you so I said no. Arrrrgh I could have screamed lol

Shimmy as far as I was aware there is no risk of miscarriage when you do the down syndrome test as part of your 12 week scan - they just take some additional measurements as part of the scan process (called the NT test). Its only if you need additional testing after that (because the results from the scan are not favorable) which involves doing an amnio which does carry an increased risk of miscarriage - but that is optional testing if you find yourself in that position.

Shimmy you can find more information about the tests on the NHS website here: www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Downs-syndrome/Pages/Diagnosis.aspx

Hey shimmy - sounds like a frustrating conversation with DH, I sympathise! Only thing I can suggest is that you explain (when both happy & calm) how important this is to you - and that bickering is tainting that. It is hardly your fault that the appt didn't fulfil HIS expectations! TBH my DH comes to the scans and not the appts. I prefer it that way somehow - though I did play him the heartbeat down the phone at my 16wk appt last time :)

By the way shimmy, it is the amnio that carries a risk of mc - most NHS trusts offer a nuchal fold measurement (plus bloods) to screen for Downs, which is taken at the 12 wk scan. Absolutely no risk there - they simply measure the distance between back of neck fold on the screen. I have opted to do this regardless of any subsequent decision should the risk of Downs be higher - I am a fan of more information wherever possible!

flamingo you poor thing! Sounds horrendous - be as sorry for yourself as you need to! I agree - go and see your GP if only to ensure you don't get dehydrated.

DS asleep and am trying to get insurance quotes online but they all want me to call as the building is listed and they can't quote online. I can't call without DS waking so am frustrated. Ho hum - the heat doesn't help. Glad I'm not the one hulking our belongings into a van :)

Why would she have brought it up at this point cos by her reckoning I'm at least 4-5 weeks away from my first scan.

I have a blood test next Friday and OH won't be there but he has booked a week off previously coincidentally around the time of my first scan so I'm hoping it takes place in that week so no moaning about taking time off work :-)
I won't bother with the Downs syndrome scan I don't think it will be necessary. 5 weeks is so far away I want to see him or her now lol