November 2012 - nearer the end than the beginning

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Our first choice boys name is ranked 598, our second choice is 481 and I have never met anyone with either name.

General popularity wouldn?t bother me too much but I wouldn?t use a name if family or friends had already used it.

Gender scan booked for sunday afternoon. Very excited. I hate pregnancy too. I do not do it well. I am doing better than I did last time though as no PGP yet. I have not gained as much weight which has helped I am sure.

Worrying about how I will cope with three, especially as DD2 is only two, and not best behaved at the moment. I am hoping she will grow up a lot in the next 16 weeks.

We are so lucky that we have all had good news at our 20 week scans. Fingers crossed for the few still waiting nervously x

My cousin?s girlfriend had her 20 week scan a couple of weeks ago and was supposed to be due a couple of weeks before me. They told her that her dates are wrong and have changed her due date to the middle of December. I can?t get my head around it because she told everyone as soon as she found out she was pregnant at 4 or 5 weeks. So that would mean when she was first telling people she was pregnant she wasn?t Or she lost that one and got pregnant again straight after?? Weird.

I'm enjoying being pregnant. I'm pretty sure this is my last so I think that makes me appreciate it more. Ds is 13 and hubby is amazing so i'm able to rest when I need to. I'm not in much pain, just tired, but that could be because I'm 38 and haven't treated my body very well over the years. I think it's all amazing whats going on inside us and its only for such a short time compared with being a parent.

I'm in the I hate being pregnant club. I'm just a bit rubbish at it. I miss my social life, I miss being mobile and I miss being spontanius. I've been told to rest but I just want to do stuff! I have flat to do up from next week and I want to get stuck in, I was excited about it, it might be the last one we do and it's chance to work hard making a family home and now I can't do any of it!

I think I was like this the last time at this point too... another 20+ weeks seems like a lifetime. I really started enjoying being pregnant the last time at about 30 weeks when I could feel the baby all the time and I could see the end coming.. even though I was nearly crippled with SPD by that point. I guess I'm just weird!!

Applepie that is very strange. do they just do it by baby's measurements?

I've not seen her recently to ask but I would have thought it would be picked up at the 12 week scan? I don't understand it at all. She told everyone she was pregnant before I knew I was and now she's due a month after me.

mrswee not weird at all. I don't really have much of a social life, i love being at home and doing stuff with the family. Can't really be spontaneous with a ds, I can't drink (gives me migraines) stopped smoking a year ago, so I'm not really giving up anything. I got married last Aug and before i met dh i didn't think I wanted any more, but the thought of seeing dh as a dad and the way he is with this pregnancy I wouldn't change for anything. (Was that really soppy)

titsalina same here on the DS3 thing. A friend actually said yesterday (after looking very disappointed when I told her he is a boy) "congratulations, or is it?" (with a very patronising look. I did not know what to say!! A friend chipped in and said that she would rather have boys anyway but it upset me that a baby could be anything but a congratulations! I love the idea of three little boys all hugging me senseless (big softie here).

Had my physio appointment for PGP today and it was fantastic. Really helpful, super friendly and informative. If you are going to one they are really useful. They strongly advocated the use of a gym/birthing ball at home and in labour. They also said water births were a good idea.

Honestly I am so glad I went (and have a very sexy tubigrip belt to wear in the day).

The boys have suggested a name which I am starting to love. Very close to my husband's name but I think it is a goer. All in all a very happy bunny.

Hi all. Had second 20 week scan today - it wasnt great. They couldnt see a lot (placenta in way and baby uncooperative) and that without sight of the various bits and pieces it was impossible to confirm whether everything was in order, and then the sonographer said there are further tests to check for x, y and z, and had DH and I ever considered what we would do if the results of such tests were a or b, and oh, you're 22 weeks and sort of just waived us off with an "oh well, your blood tests were fine" and didnt book me anything else, just said ask them to look at things when I have growth scans later.

So was pretty upset afterwards, mainly because it wasnt clear why we were asked what we thought we were likely to decide in the event of something being abnormal in some way. I spoke to my midwife who seemed surprised that that question had been asked but no further appointments made. She is going to speak to the hospital to establish what they meant.

Objectively, I'm thinking that this was a bit of a "we didnt see everything so can offer no confirmation all is well, but there were/are no indications anything is wrong but I have to give you this health warning about what I can and cant confirm" situation. Hard to be objective though when we were asked whether we had considered what choices we would make in certain situations while we're literally looking up at a scan picture of our baby.

Obviously, despite the fact we did want to know the sex, we were not focussed on that at all, so still dont know.

Can someone please tell me that I am being hormonal and oversensitive, and reading far too much into this, and that as there is no indication anything is wrong, it will all be fine?

If no further appointments were made that would suggest to me that they aren't too concerned? Like you said, just unable to confirm all is well because they couldn't see properly. Good that your midwife is getting them to clarify though. I would have been upset as well though, they don't seem very sensitive and didn't explain anything to you clearly by the sounds of it which has led you to worry (hopefully) unnecessarily.

Hope your okay madam and not to worried, I agree with what apple has said, if they were really concerned then surely they would have made
A follow up appointment, hope your midwife is helpful and finds some reassuring answers for you

MadamGazelleIsMyMum my sonographer was really annoyed at the 20 week scan because she couldn't see the cord properly and she kept complaining about my placenta being in the way. So it must just muck them up when they can't check everything off on their list. If they didn't see anything wrong then I don't think you have anything to worry about. I never got tested for Downs and I was fretting about it but then DH said, well it wouldn't make any difference now anyway so don't worry.

I have loads of student text books that I used previously at college there no use to me anymore but I just don't want to get rid of them, don't no if they will be any use in the future because by the time I go back they'll be new updated ones that will be out then, some of them are still brand new :( I need someone to tell me I have to sell them then use the money for the nursery! Please

Nervous you can get quite a bit for some student texts, why not look on somewhere like www.bookfinder.com to see if it is worth the effort of selling.

Madam glad your midwife is being helpful.

I have actually been managing to do pelvic floor exercises quite regularly this time - every time I start to worry about something to do with the baby/being pregnant I make myself do 8 of them! Takes my mind off what I was worried about very well. Mind you, only works in the first place because I do worry a lot!

Nervous I still have textbooks from the first year of my first degree (I changed course about 3/4 times before finally doing teaching!). They cost anything from £50 - £100 and I only used them a handful of times. I'm a tad neurotic about being a perfectionist so they are IMMACULATE, but even now I can't bring myself to sell any of them! One of them still goes for about £60 second hand, and I doubt I will ever look at it again. I've lugged them all through about 4 house moves now up and down the country and they have their own special place on my bookcase. So nope, I won't tell you you have to get rid of them because there's no way in hell I'm getting rid of mine!

Talking of being sentimental and hormonal, I went to my childhood home for the last time today. After 17-odd years of living there, my mum has sold it and she hands back the keys over tomorrow morning. I think DH was a bit horrified that I actually cried big soppy tears - over a house! Like I said, I've moved at least 4/5 times since leaving for uni, but it has always been 'home' and this morning I felt like I had no home. Maybe it's hormones or the situation we're in at the moment about to move ourselves (still not actually seen the new house, grr) but I had a proper teary breakdown this morning - my eyes were still red and puffy when we went out for lunch, waitresses kept asking me if I was okay! (doesn't help that last time we went there I had a cry about my beloved first car that had just been sent to the scrapyard...)

Tell me I'm not the only soppy sentimental hormonal woman who cries at anything and everything - including TV adverts!?!?

Thanks daisy and missmummy some of them are still going for around £49 second hand even though there practically brand new but some reason I just don't want toget rid even though theres potentioally £200 worth there

missmummy ive been quite emotional too, it doesn't take alot to make me cry anymore and the easiest way seems to be DP coming home with samosas, bless him the first time he thought something was wrong just that I couldn't get the bag out of his hands any quicker

Awwww - really sad to hear your Mum won't be round the corner from my sister's anymore :( boooooo! Oh and sell your text books - you only hang onto them sentimentally for the first decade and then when you think sod it and try to flog them they're out of date and worth like a £5!!! Sell them! Think of the poor students ;) You can get the best prices at Blackwells, and particularly their Oxford branch - we're travelling south later this month and are diverting from Hereford especially to pop in (it's relatively close when you think on Orkney scales of distance) to flog some MSc books. Ten books look set to pull in £400 - £600.... really not to be sniffed at! (and means I can justify a video monitor, bwahahaha)

I know YW totally gutting. I'm sure they'll still see each other loads though.

£400 + eh? There are a fair few of them. Maybe I could just keep one....

I've just agreed to buy full nursery furniture!!! Beautiful condition all mammas and papas, cot, wardrobe and draw set/changer for £140. Think they'll throw in a stairgate too!!! Just need new matress etc but really pleased and saving a good 300 on it all.

I'm now in some maternity clothes too!!

Madame sorry your second scan was no more successful. Fingers crossed all is ok, at least your mw is being helpful.

Sell the text books :) I've just sold a fair amount of stuff on eBay!!

Evening all. It's not raining!

I had a lovely day today with an old pal wandering about Edinburgh. It was total chaos but we took a wander into John Lewis which was good fun. I showed off the pram I want and friend did her duty of oooing ad aaahing and exclaiming what a good choice it was. We checked out car seats and changing bags and generally immersed ourselves in baby stuff!

Thus far I am enjoying being pregnant. I just feel good inside - it's very difficult to explain. On the train home a very pregnant lady sat next to me. I had real bump envy.

As far as names go we have chosen one for a boy and one for a girl. My sister is due two weeks after me and the only potential issue is that of middle names. Mind you, I don't think it matters if they share a middle name. What do others think? We both had the idea of using parent's names. This means that only one name will be the same and we could change the order if need be.

I am watching Holby City at the moment - never usual watch it. Not sure if I should be as a pregnant lady fell and banged her head putting up curtains in the nursery. She ends up medically dead on a life-support machine and they are debating whether to keep her 'breathing' to allow the baby a few more weeks. Shouldn't watch the telly . . .

horsey! Now you've left me the slow coach! Sounds like an amazing deal though.

Thanks all. Midwife was lovely, she thinks here is probably nothin to worry about but is arranging me another scan in a couple of weeks. Feel a lot better.

missmummy I still well up thinking of my childhood home and how far away my parents move from it a few years ago - completely normal.

horseylady I have been doing some good ebay-ing too, have made about £100 selling clothes neither DH or I wear anymore although what I have made has been spent on various things I don't need

Pass - price agreed defo not collected!!! You should see the state of my upstairs!!! Plus girl at work selling it who offered it me first so am really happy :) had she not said anything I'd have done nothing!! Glad you're feeling so pregnant!!

Madame - yes clothes selling?! Fab isn't it, was going to charity shop it but designer stuff so sold it!! Just hoping one of my saddles sells but my very expensive show jacket doesn't!! Also counted that the horses have over 30 rugs......oh dear ......

It is getting quite addictive horsey, I find myself looking critically at any item and wondering how much I might get for it!