November 2012 - nearer the end than the beginning

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Valium & mrswee Thanks for making me feel like less of a freak for not liking the whole pregnancy thing, was thinking it was only me.

When I had my third my eldest was just 4 and my son was 2, it was fantastic watching the relationships build between them all. It was hard work but now the youngest 2 are thick as thieves and the eldest is like a protective little mother bird :) This one is going to be so spoilt!

Good though means I don't feel guilty buying stuff off there :)

Mrswee, vallium, shelly I'm with you!! Love feeling the baby move but will be very annoyed if (when) I can no longer ride and move as easily. Already getting a bit out if breath, feel I should increase my exercise but am tired so can't. Also not liking the filling out ness :( but 17 weeks to go ......

Dh has just agreed to a walking holiday in the Pyrenees I'll be around 30 weeks then?! So will have to see...

horsey I wish I was as mobile as you! I can barely walk down the street. I mean I can but then I get very tired and sore if I do too much in a day and have to rest on doctors orders. its PITA. I'm getting buses everywhere and it is mind numbing... I have at least 21 weeks to go.. 22.5 id the one is as over due as the last!

Scan on Monday though, glad it is finally near!

Mrswee I'd go mental!! I honestly feel for you I really do. Have you had Physio? Good luck for your scan! I'm at the mw wed for 24 week appointment!

shelly I don't think anyone would think you were mental. My comment wasn't well expressed - I do feel good but that is kind of despite myself if that makes any sense. Logically, what we are all going through is emotionally and physically exhausting so it makes perfect sense to feel overwhelmed and anxious about the whole thing. I have no concept of how people cope with children already. I keep getting told at work "you shouldn't be lifting that" and so on not that anyone leaps up to help mind you and it got me thinking about how you cope when you have kids already. Right now I have noone to think about but me. If I am tired, I can nap. If my back hurts, I can have a bath or whatever else eases it. If you are already thinking about someone else's needs managing pregnancy has to feel like a massive burden.

The one thing I know for certain about pregnancy is that everyone feels it differently and each experience is equally valid.

Now childbirth . . . I have simply not accepted that this will happen to me. When I was asked at my 10 week appointment what kind of birth I wanted I almost choked. To be honest I haven't really moved on from this. I have heard so many lovely stories about it though that I am not letting it play on my mind. I have one friend who says she would happily give birth over and over again and would of only she didn't have to be pregnant. Maybe we could divide the labour . . . So to speak!

Now the sickness is out of the way I'm enjoying being pregnant. I would find it a lot harder if I already had children I was running around after though. Luckily when I come home in the evenings and at weekends I can completely chill out and don't have to do anything if I don't have the energy.

Next have their new winter collection out and tomorrow is DP's payday so I need to restrain myself from spending the whole lot on clothes

mrswee, my scan's on Monday too! Can't wait. Next week v exciting as we are finally getting our new kitchen fitted after 6 weeks of renovations during which no sink or cooker...getting fed up with microwave meals and washing up in the bath!

I couldn't imagine coping with pregnancy (or having two children!) last time round, but I guess you just deal with whatever situation you're in. Although not sure how much longer I'll be able to give in to DS when he changes his mind about walking and demands to be carried home from childminders'. This evening I did, carried him only for a few minutes but was really shakey when we got in and just had to scoff two chocolate digestives to get my blood sugar back up :). The idea of a second one seems as unreal as the idea of a baby at all did first time round, but sure it will all fall into place once baba's here!

Now the sickness has gone I do like being pg, despite the pelvis pain, tiredness and general aches and pains - not sure what I'm enjoying but it is amazing knowing I'm growing our baby.

What a bargin Horsey, well done.

I have loads of uni books, didn't think anyone would want them though - where can I sell them / find out how much they are worth? (They are 10 years old so figured they would be out of date and worthless but if I can get something for them that would be great!)

Titsalina I would be livid if someone was sending my DH messages like that, I'll join your MN pg army!

eBay is quite good have a look to see what's selling or places like waterstones take them.

Yes I'm pleased with all of it!! Still can't believe the condition it was in or that anyone can live in a house that tidy......I blame the dogs and cats at my house :)

I don't mind being pregnant too much at the mo. The sickness has gone, the bump is obvious (ish, it seems to vary on my clothes how bump-like it is) and my pelvic pain seems to have eased just from the yoga I've been doing. The baby is moving about like mad & DH has been able to feel it a little :) I just think mentally I am only focusing on the pg & birth, not thinking about what will happen after. As I said before, maybe that's because there's not much I actually need to buy (except breastpads & nappies) as I have it all from first time, & so much to do in the house & with DD (like potty train her!), between now & November that my brain just hasn't got space to worry about anything beyond then iyswim.

I think it tends to be usual that, with your first, you don't think too much about the birth though, its just something that will happen at some point... Especially if you're lucky enough to have an easy/straight forward pg. And I think it often is just luck - I had a rough start to this one relatively, as far as ms etc goes, but I can't see any obvious reason why. With DD everything was easy!! I am having a devil child this time I'm certain

Morning ladies!

Need to have a catch up of the thread.
Last night DH and I went shopping and we bought the baby some Converse they're not the proper pram shoe ones. They've started doing some 0-6montj ones that are socks shaped liked converse boots. I love them!

Supposed to be going to the midwife today but it's torrential rain and DH has the car so I'd have to walk. WIBU to cancel it and rebook for next week? I'm 20 weeks today and mainly booked it so I can get my MAT B1 for and ask a few questions about their policies on IVF pregnancies. I've been reading up on different trusts an some don't let you go overdue and some give extra growth scans so I wanted to check on that. But it's like a monsoon outside!

Also, anyone know of I can use Bonjela in pregnancy? My wisdom tooth is coming through so all the right side of my mouth is sore

Is anyone else struggling with acid? I'm on my knees most nights because I feel so bad with it, I'm yet to find a food that doesn't set it off or an antacid that soothes it. The dr helpfully told me to avoid trigger foods which so far means eating nothing

I'm having some acid issues at the mo, which is a first for me. I've found spearmint polos or chewing gum pretty much knock it on the head..

I'm with you chunkychicken with my DD I didn't really think too much about the birth and this time round I am concentrating on getting DD ready rather than this actual baby arriving. I've ticked potty training off the list, next step is to get her in a new bedroom with a big girls bed. Once she's settled I will get DH to get all the baby stuff from the loft and wash that and sort it into the nursery. It will just be a case of buying nappies and essential breastfeeding items like nipple cream. Oh the joys!

I absolutely loved being pregnant with DD. I was lucky and had a very easy pregnancy. I'm lucky to again be having an easy pregnancy so far again but haven't loved it as much as I did the first time. Not really sure why. Perhaps it's because I notice I'm getting restricted more as I go along. It sounds awful but am in no hurry for this little one to arrive. I know my life will be different again once it arrives, but equally I know how much I'll love it and everything will be fine.

This will be my last post for a while. I'm off to deepest darkest Derbyshire tomorrow for a week where I bearly get phone service let alone Internet! Good luck to those that still have scans and hope you all continue to have happy healthy pregnancies.

Oh and am with you on the acid/heartburn! I suffered really badly with DD and it's starting again. I don't really have any advice as whatever I did/didn't do didn't seem to make the blindest bit of difference. I just remember having a bottle of gaviscon by my bed at all times. I hate the stuff but it really was a life saver for me! An old wife's tale says it means you'll have a hairy baby! DD had masses of hair so we will see if it's the same this time round.

I had it with Ds2 I used to sleep with Gaviscon and milk by the bed, he was and still is hairy as a little monkey!

Fatima where did you get the socks from? They sound really cute.
I used bonjela several weeks ago. Don't know if I should have done but the ulcer I had was unbearable and I didn't think a tiny bit of bonjela would hurt.

I want to get some Converse pram shoes from John Lewis to match DP?s. They cost £20 and they personalise them with baby?s name. Only problem is we don?t have a name yet We are torn between two names and can?t make up our minds. Maybe we should wait until he?s born and see what he looks like before we decide? Is anyone else doing this? And would you go for a name that is culturally important even though you don?t like it quite as much or would you choose the name you love? Questions questions!

Mmmmm interesting apple.

It depends how important culture is to you? To me I'm not worried. To my sil it was important that her childrens first names were French to reflect her heritage. Different religions and cultures expect different things in terms of naming the first son soooo as much I would say ignore culture go with what you love, it is easy for me to say that! It's not quite so easy when you're living in that environment and have external expectations on you.

I'm not loving being pregnant. I love my bumb but the exhaustion and emotional rollercoaster aren't fun. But DH built the cotbed on Wednesday night and I just did some sorting out in there including unwrapping a cheap toy box I got a few weeks ago and putting DSS2s old building blocks in there. Was lovely to realise that this time next year my son will be starting to handle them :)

I'm just sorting out booking NCT classes and realised the last one is 30th October. With a due date of 15th November isn't that leaving it a bit late? Two weeks early doesn't sound beyond the realms of possibility for giving birth

fatima I had really bad ulcers at about 12 wks and used bongela a couple of times and the MW was not very helpful a different one to my normal and said she didn't no then when looked it up told me not to use it

eliza enjoy your hols hope you don't get all this rain!

I've not woke up in the best of moods today, I woke up and had a leaky nipple :( don't no why it's bothered me so much but made me abit emotional and don't think DP helped when he said I don't no what the problem is your pg it will happen, well yes but that's not the point! Men! :(

Apple we aren't going to name the baby until we meet it and we aren't even close to having a shortlist. Still got loads of time.

I'm not enjoying being pregnant as much as the first time, because I can't just sit down when I feel like it or have a bath etc so i'm burnt out most days after dealing with DD! Not to mention the first three months of severe MS
The pelvic pain doesn't help as I can't even walk to the shop and back without being in agony, can't carry DD for more than a couple of minutes, which is upsetting for both of us, and to be honest I just want it to hurry up so that I can actually move properly!
Of course it's lovely feeling all the kicks and seeing my bump get bigger,
but as someone else said, it's a physical and emotional roller coaster!
I'm also a lot more worried this time round, and i'm not entirely sure why. I just want my baby here safe and sound so I can get on with things IYSWIM. I'm a very impatient person..

As for the birth, I have thought about it quite a lot, and i'm hoping it goes as well as the first time. I had a lovely water birth with DD in a MW led unit and it was a fantastic experience - i'm disappointed though as I no longer live close enough to the unit to go there again! My hospital has a new birthing unit but only two pools so i'm a little panicked that i'm not going to get the birth that I want!
will have to beg the midwife to do everything in her power to make it happen

Another one here suffering with heartburn. It was awful with DD, who did in fact come out with lots of hair :) This time I can't see it being any better!

Suppose I'd better start looking at hiring/buying a birthing pool, I've made my mind up that I'm having it at home, it's not worth the risk of even trying getting to the hospital for me. Just got to break the news to hubby that that's it, it's a definite

Pass It wasn't anything you'd posted, I was having a crap day yesterday and just came on here to moan. It's something I will be doing more and more to save my poor hubby's ears :)