November 2012 - nearer the end than the beginning

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Re video monitors I really reccomend getting one. I got one before DD was born and as she was in with us for the first 6 months I didn't bother setting it up so bought an angel sounds one (without the sensor matt) just for the evenings. However as soon as DD moved into her own room we set up the video monitor and I'm sure this has saved me many hours of having to get up in the night. When she cried I used to lay in bed, look on the monitor and I could tell straight away whether it was a grizzle and that she'd soon self sooth or if she needed me to go in and give her cuddles. I got the lindam one but that was nearly 3 years a go so sure there are better ones on the market now. It's been great for me.

I've also heard a lot of good things about the video monitors - I think they're good for if the baby got in to an awkward position/got a blanket over their face etc and also like eliza said, just to see if they're grizzling or actually waking up.

It's tempting, but then it was tempting last time and I didn't get one! I went for a Tomy monitor and it was amazing, so clear and absolutely no delay on it - until DD got hold of it and put it in a glass of water! Now have a rubbish motorola one (I think) and trying to hunt down the same Tomy one for a reasonable price.

On the gender/cravings front - With DD I really did crave sweet things, chocolate especially! However with this little man i've been craving things like onions, and spicy food which I normally cannot stand!
I really need to get my eating back on track to be honest, I can see myself getting as big as a house if I don't.
Made a scrummy pizza from scratch yesterday which i'll continue to do - I love cooking but have been so lazy recently!

Chinese gender predictor was right for me, but it's not 100% accurate, just a bit of fun :)

And Tena Lady.. Hmmm.. Could be a possibility over here too!

Glad all is ok Candy and congrats on your little girl.

I'm another hayfever sufferer so lots of sneezing going on here - not too many leakages and only seems to happen when I need the toilet so I'm visiting the loo alot at the moment!

I wasn't going to consider getting a video monitor as I thought I'd spend hours looking at it and become a paranoid parent, however, after reading comments from ladies in the know I'm thinking not getting up to see baby unless necessary is sounding like a good idea ...

Pram ordered and furniture paid for - it really is going to happen

Good morning ladies :)

I haven't really had a lot in the way of cravings, some brief 5 minute madness ones, DP has been a diamond though, he will happily scoot out to Sainsbury at god knows what time at night to fetch biscuits, plums or whatever I fancy, nothing too good for our little lad. :o

On the note of DP, I'm going to have a little rant, probably hormone related, I know its ridiculous but my brain has been getting a bit tizzy about it... there is this woman, she flirts outrageously with DP via text and the very few times we see her in public, DP never responds in a flirty manner back, he is always polite and that's that. There is no history between them except a night out years ago with some light flirty banter.
So far we have had "Why don't you come along to this party tonight without your gf? Oh come on, you used to be so mean to women, you've gone soft..." then another one where she found out something about mutual friends friends of theirs "Oh I just had to tell someone and now it feels like we have a dirty secret between us..."
This wouldn't usually bother me, normally I'd just be a bit and ignore. I think with my new shape and the uncertainty of the future and everything changing I'm feeling very insecure.
It's nuts really DP couldn't tell me and show me more how much he loves me but still my mind is spinning and getting cross with her, how dare she flirt so much with a man who she knows is having a baby with his gf?!

Anyway rant over...

I am having a 4D scan at 30 weeks, we can't wait to see little one again! :)

Titsalina - I hate women who do that. There are plenty of men out there so why flirt with the ones who are attached?
You need to tell your DP how it's making you feel, and get it nipped in the bud before she gets any worse with it.
Just remember he's with you, he loves you and you're carrying his child :)
Hope she backs off.

titsalina ^^ what swissarmywife said. Grrrr, some women!

Titsalina Swissarmywife hit the nail on the head, tell your DP how it's making you feel. She needs slapping round the face with a wet fish

My friend gave birth to her twins last night, by EMCS, at 31 weeks. She's been in hospital for the last 3 weeks with pre-eclampsia and was hoping to make it at least another week before they had to deliver. But the babies had other ideas and her waters broke last night. 2lb 6 and 3lb 7, so tiny!

I have 9 pregnant friends (well 8 now!) and I'm the last on the due date list, so my DP and I were talking after our scan on Tuesday about how we should be prepared for some of the names on our shortlist to be taken before get to choose one, and it's already happened. Our top girls name has gone to one of the twins...just hoping we're left with at least one on our shortlist in November!

Thanks ladies, I think I am just having one of those days where I have not the physical or mental strength to be my normal sensible self about anything, I will talk to DP tonight.

Aww lovely to hear about your friends twins, I'm sure everyone in the world is more pregnant than me, everyone I see has lovely big bumps or is posting on fb to say they have 5 or 6 weeks left, I'm very November seems like forever away!

We were quite sure on our name choice, it's not one often used these days, especially for babies although it's still a common name I don't think anyone else will use it, especially since we announced it with the scan photo on facebook. It's strange though, I have got so used to my bump being referred to as Bean that now when DP talks to it as Johnathan it seems strange!

I am gagging to buy something for him but I keep picking up things in shops and then putting them down again, I really am in a strange mood, I blame the hormones!

Titsalina i can totally relate to how you're feeling. I flipped out the other night when an old female workmate of dh's tried to add him on Facebook. I know i was being silly as i trust DH a million percent but it was common knowledge for a long time this stupid tart had a thing for MY man. I was furious! Like everyone has said though, the best thing to do is tell your dp how you feel - maybe not quite in the same teary emotional stroppy way i did!

Re the name thing. Im also one of the last due out of my friends, bar one due two weeks after me, but absolutely paranoid someone will 'steal' our chosen boy name if we have a boy! Again Im being ridiculous, a names a name. We didn't make it up - although there has been a huge amount of thought put into it - its not solely ours!

A friend of mine has just signed her 5 month old daughter up to be a 'baby model'. Opinions?

Whereas we all know that the grown-up and sensible thing to do would be to make like a souffle and rise well above...acksherly...Titsalina, you're prefectly within hormonal reason to have a hairy fit at the silly old flibbertigibert herself :) Granted, not the most constructive or helpful, but sure beats stewing when you've got more important things to be doing with your time!

And isn't it lovely to see the sun - I shall be baring my bump (in the privacy of my garden - no need to scare the kids after all) and pretending to be on a beach :)

Why didn't that bold your name?? I thought stars = bolding!!

Baby modelling - personally, I found it hard enough work with a baby without any extra hassle, but each to their own. I guess if she finds it is too much for her DD or indeed herself then she'll stop doing it. She won't know til she tries! I know that I love looking at all the cute clothes on cute babies in the catalogues so someone's baby has to do the modelling.

TitsalinaBumSquash This is not helpful at all, but even without the hormones surging I would have text the little bitch back. How dare she speak like that 'come to the party without TitsalinaBumSquash'! Stupid cow, then I would have told my hubby I'd done it.

Regarding the modelling, my sister has done 2 jobs with her son, first one he got paid £200 to be there for 6 hours! Don't really see a problem if it's not everyday and you'd end up with some fantastic photos. Different story if they don't want to do it though.

Haha a wet fish would do nicely wouldn't it? Failing that, you could always tell this woman you'll set your MN army of pregnant women on her if she doesn't bugger off

West is right on the baby modelling front - I suppose someone's baby has to do it, and it is very cute. As long as it isn't the type of modelling where the baby gets put in a ridiculous tutu and tiara and put next to a baby poodle in a tea cup or something. That kind of thing annoys me! But normal catalogue pics are cute :)

Just to go back to earlier discussion, DS was born with the cord wrapped round his neck twice. I don't think it necessarily matters during pregnancy, unless it's being compressed somehow, but that's only really going to happen when contractions start. That's what happened with DS, but midwife picked up a slowing heartbeat with each contraction, they weren't sure of the cause, but they monitored it throughout, but it was never bad enough to cause real worry, I ended up having him with help of ventouse, and he was absolutely fine.

Dixiebell thanks for telling us that. That's very reassuring.

I'm not protective over names - there's going to be someone else with the name so what does it matter?! Whether friend or not when they go to school there may well be another Harry or whatever. A friend did email me asking me not to use oliver but I wouldnt have picked that name anyway. More because the land owners dog is called ollie than I don't like it lol.

Mother was talking about names last night. She's like Joel. I don't really (sorry if one if your considerations!!) she also like guilliam (pronounce guiome) French for William. I want to move away from the whole French thing if I can (in laws not my family). Argh stress. I didn't realise it would be so hard and people would be so opinionated and that I would be !!!

Have just submitted a job application :( oh well will see!!

I'm also getting fatter by the day!!!

I had thought the same Dixie but wasn't sure enough to confirm or deny. I guess some babies do get tangled, but like when your keys magically tangle themselves through the key ring in your bag/pocket, its only a problem when you try to use it/untangle them.(Sorry if that's a bit of a lighthearted similie!! :) )

It's weird but maybe because its baby #2 or maybe its who I am, but I can't help but focus on the rest of the pg/birth, & haven't thought much about names/clothes etc. I want to have a nicer birthing experience with this 1 if I can (although I'd say DD's went 90% to plan but wasn't 'nice' as such, if that makes sense!!) and I know I have plenty of neutral clothes, & all the other equipment we'll need (except nappies), but mentally, my end game seems to be the birth. I suppose having 2 children is an unknown & I can't really get my head around it, so I'm thinking about the things I have experienced, if that makes sense. I think I'll even be turning down shopping with the girls at the weekend because I don't know what to go shopping for - I mean, WTF??!! Surely I should be going mad for shopping??!!

I'm the complete opposite Chunky. I haven't really thought about the birth. When I was younger the thought of childbirth terrified me but now I just see at as something I have to get through to hold my little boy and it doesn't concern me at all. Nearer the time I will read up on it some more but not yet.

I think I was the same Apple with DD. It wasn't until the antenatal classes were discussed that I even read that chapter in my pg book, so kinda knew the options before I was the hospital classes discussing pain relief & so on... However, I think I wasn't that bothered because I didn't have a frame of reference, didn't know how it would go, didn't have MN to reassure me or scare the willies out of me & wanted to keep an open mind, as I didn't know how I would cope. This time, its far more tangible iyswim.

DS2 was born with his cord round his neck, it wasn't a problem, the problem was with the cord itself being tied in a knot over and over again, this is probably what lead to him arriving 3 weeks early, but he was fine, healthy and alert within minutes of delivery.

I didn't think twice about labour or anything with DS1, DS2 however I remember waking in the middle of the night about 6 months pregnant thinking "Oh shit, I don't want to give birth again!" it was the most relaxed, easy birth ever, especially compared to DS1 who was induced and I had every pain killer under the sun.

This time, I'm not sure what happened really ... I don't know if it's where I was told I couldn't have any more children. I had just got my head round it, only to find out I was pregnant, I have done it twice before yet I feel like I'm in some strange dream I've been thrown head first into. Don't get me wrong, I'm thrilled to be having this little one but I just feel a bit dazed and lost.
I am so tired (something I didn't get with the first 2) even a short drive to town is leaving me exhausted and in pain in my hips and legs, and the emotional exhaustion is awful, come about 7pm I can barely talk to anyone let alone do anything or go out anywhere, it's madness.

I think I'll feel better when the house is sorted and everything is got, at the moment it feels like this big thing is looming and I am not ready.
I find it hard to convey to DP how hard I'm finding it but really what can he do that he isn't already?! I feel like a bit of an annoyance tbh.

I was a child model. Not sure what age I started but from when I was a baby up till the age of 10. I think most of the jobs I did (judging by my parents scrapbook) was probably between the age of 1 and 5 so I can't remember a huge lot about the early stuff. I did lots of catalogues, magazines and was on boxes for some games. I think the money was quite decent and I got enough from one job to go on holiday to Spain when I was 5. I have fond memory's of it and love looking back at all my pictures. However I did encounter lots of pushy parents with horrible spoilt kids. Hopefully I was nothing like that! I'd sign my DD up if I wasn't so lazy it's a lot of travelling and time and I just can't be doing with it really. We lived in central London and had a bit of a different lifestyle whilst I was growing up so was easier for my mum to take me to the photoshoots. I know one photoshoot I did for mothercare had to be completely redone. It was a swim shoot and after they chose the photo for the catalogue they realised my nipple was showing

I'm a bit funny about names in that I checked our shortlist against the records thing that was floating about a few months ago to check rarity. We're certain we've named our boy (but I want to check it works when I meet him) and while it wouldn't bother me if there was another in his class, I wouldn't like it in our group of friends.

But then my youngest stepson has my brother's name and my eldest stepson the same as my late stepdad and frankly it got annoying. Don't think I'd have been so bothered where it not for having "little name" and "big uncle name" which feels odd when on the phone to my mum.

I just hate the whole pregnancy thing from now on in, don't get me wrong, I love getting the kicks and later feeling the hicups, but it's the weeks and weeks of getting bigger, all the aches and pains etc. I'm only small and I get really big so know what I'm in for. Also my job is quite physical and I'm going to have to work until about 35 weeks at least and I'm finding some things a struggle already.

Strangely I'm really looking forward to the birth, I always have. I absolutely love going into labour and the whole birth experience, there is really no words to describe how utterly magical it is. It is bloody painful but once that little baby is out then that is it, pain over and the next day you just about remember it, a week down the line and you can't recall it at all. The best moments of my life have been my first glance at my beautiful babies.

-Hormonal whinge-
I'm 37 so my friends and acquaintances tend to be around that age or older, I'm sick to death of friends of friends coming up to me and saying 'you must be made to be having another at your age' etc. Fair enough if they are my friends but they're not. Think a nice curt reply is in order next time!

Shelly my so called family/friends have all done the "another boy! ... you're mad" not a congratulations or a how nice to have a third...

I can't wait for labour.