PART 3!! Sept-2012 Baby Bus!! Christmas-and-New-Year-Shaggers-all-aboard!

[TinkerMaloo]

Cant see another one anywhere on the board and part 2 is full up (finally) so here is part 3! (unless I'm just being a moron and missed it?)

Chat more please ladies, we are too fat and useless to do anything else! ;)

mummyfirsttime i feel the same! Got 5 weeks left at work, 9 weeks in total and just feel knackered!
I dont know how those with kids already are coping! My poor DH is getting moaned at constantly at the moment, and i do feel bad, but he's the one there the most, so he's bearing the brunt!

Plus the lady that is covering my maternity leave is lovely but i get the feeling shes really not listening to me sometimes and even after i've explained certain things a couple of times, she's still getting it wrong. Maybe i'm being too harsh on her, i've been doing this job for 4 years and she has to learn in 7 weeks, but i really dont want to come back to all kinds of problems in the New Year!

cjbk1 I hope your day has picked up! :)

Also, is anyone else not feeling so many kicks during the day now, but more pressure/pushing instead?
I don't know if this is normal or am i right to be a bit worried?
Husband thinks im being overdramatic/overworrying/over-anything!

Not as many kicks but mine still quite active, but think its cause bump measuring small so I may feel it all a bit more, is all achy tho on my stomach and it hurts a lot!

I'm completely knackered all the time and I'm not even working anymore so I'm completely baffled how anyone works lol

Away for the weekend now, so I'll not be back until Monday :) have a good weekend xx

Yes to feeling a bit fed up and moany! Don't get me wrong I am so grateful to be where I am but just feeling a bit fat, tired, uncomfortable and so fed up of maternity clothes!!

Anyway 7+3 left so not long and not really wanting it to rush by as also freaking out about childbirth, breast feeding and newborn generally - wow I sound like a hoot right now, lucky DH

Hi all, i've not written for a while but been lurking and reading the posts. No real reason, just didn't have much to say!

i'm quite nervous about bf too but i'm just going to give it a go and try and aim for 6 weeks to begin with and hope that by then i'm all sorted and enjoying it and will just be able to continue till about 9 months (my real aim).

i think i was quite naive when i said to work that i was sure i'd be fine working till 37 weeks as i was feeling so good then. Still feeling good now, but i just can't wait to stop work and sit back for a while and wait for baby (hoping he's not too early!). the commute in and back is really starting to p**s me off now, although i don't mind it so much when i am actually there.

being taken out for posh dinner tonight (wedding anniversary) so fingers crossed i don't get too much heartburn after and can just enjoy the evening.

cakeladyc not so many kicks. Freaked me out on Friday I hadnt felt much movement all day so went for a lie down and poked my tummy till he started complaining & moving - felt much better. The nurse at my GP's said not to worry when I went in on Monday. But it freaks me out when I can't feel him. I know it's probably alright but my boss went full term and then had a still birth so think I'm over thinking it.... it was so dreadful I have dreams about it.

I'm not getting so many kicks either and I know what you mean about the pushing/pressure. I think there's just less room in there as they grow. My bump is really small; I met a new colleague today and she nearly choked on her cuppa when I said I was nearly 7 months - she hadn't noticed I was even pg (though I was sat down and in a drapy top).

I definitely want to bf - most of my friends have with few problems after the first few weeks and it's so convenient. I had one friend who moved to ff after a couple of weeks with both hers and I couldn't cope with the length of time the baby was crying between starting to whimper for milk and her having faffed about with heating the milk etc etc (though I gather some people make the bottles up in advance; she didn't do that as she wanted to know they were freshly made and sterile etc). Honestly with her second he made a noise like the world was ending for several minutes bless him while she was making bottles up...plus all the palaver of taking everything out of the house. I'm just too lazy and impatient for all of that. Plus my boobs have always been rather large - I haven't lugged them around for years only to have them not do the one thing they can be useful for (other than amusing DH).

NCT class was fun - nice people and hopefully we'll make some new friends who are off work when I am, and sharing similar experiences with their little ones. We covered straightforward births and are going on to more complex/medicalised situations next week. Hopefully it won't be TOO scary!

shellybop I know what u mean about the commute, I have said I'll work until 38 possibly 39 weeks ok once I'm in but the commute is a pain!!

Can't wait to start NCT is anyone else doing it without DH ? Am concerned I'll be the only one....

Our first nct class was interesting but looooonngggg! I am throughly exhausted at the moment, it's actually making me physically sick :( I actually cried in Boots today because I'd walked (very slowly admittedly) all the way to Dr. Surgery to collect iron prescription only to be told Dr. Hadn't signed it, despite being prescribed by midwife on Friday!!! Then get to Boots hand over prescription for ranitidine (Gaviscon no longer touching sides of heartburn) only to be told that prescription can only be filled at the hospital! Aaaaarghh!

cjbk1 reading about your morning I'm so glad that the schools have stopped for summer over here. I hate getting ds ready in the mornings as it always turns out with us running late because of him and me stressed out, repeating myself for the hundredth time to put on his socks/shoes etc.

I know pgreen I'm very conscious of movements as my cousin lost her dd a couple of days before her due date. They don't know why, she just realised she couldn't feel any movements one day. Has a little dd now but was a heartbreaking time.

Had a consultant appointment today and growth scan and lo is measuring perfect average at 3lb 4. That's me pretty much signed off consultant now until my 36wk appointment for a last growth scan and to discuss birth plan.

Had geared myself up for cs but now everything seems to be going ok (fingers crossed) I think I might attempt vbac. Personally I found the recovery from my cs hard going, although I know some find it easy enough. The thought of getting out of hospital quicker with a vbac and it being easier with a 5yo around is swaying me.

cjbk yikes... I hope your day continued to get better! I love rooibos too. I lived in south africa for years and I adore that tea.

mummyfirsttime andcake,ady andrachel i feel ghastly too.. In fact I am quite shocked at the physical changes that come with opless than eight weeks left. Pretty much on the dot i suddenly got the foot and hand swelling, arthiritic joint pain, numbness, etc, that are all typical acc to my midwife but suddenly really make me aware how much extra work my body is doing with all this extra fluid and blood to pump around. I am apprehensive about the next eight weeks ... Hopefully it doesn't all get worse. I have existing health issues that have so far stayed quiescent in pregnancy and am quite nervous about them being made worse. But i want to be hopeful.

We are finally working on the nursery! DH brilliantly assembled the cot, and we have some pictures and a lampshade... Rug and curtains are on their way, as is a handy chair bed. We still need the chest of drawers though. We have been washing and ironing clothes like mad, and accumulating hordes of muslins since those seem handy!

We havent get worked out how to use the steriliser or breast pump or sling and we dont have the car seat yet! The pram is on order but could take until 20 august to arrive. And i havent started the hospital bag! Argh. Anybody else feeling wildly behind with the lists of things to do? I tell people it is less lime a to do list and more like a series of giant medieval scrolls, it is so huge. In my case i also have to write two book chapters for two different edited collections before kick-off - eek.

Morning all :)

If you are feeling really crappy and not coping with work your doctor will sign you off on the sick! docs are quite good about it, they know the last stage is hard... and it might eat into your post baby maternity time but if its really that bad then its got to be worth it!? I had 8 weeks off pre baby with DC1 and I think it was 10 before DC2! There is no way I could have kept going til a few weeks before the end (though I know lots of people do and I take my virtual hat off to them!)and it gives you loads more time to wash tiny things etc etc. :)

shelly if you are aiming for initially 6 weeks with bf but, hopefully 9 months, then dont be put off by the six week growth spurt! Babies tend to feed lots and lots (more than they already have been) at around 2 weeks and then again at around 6 weeks, but if you make it past this then I'm sure you will make the 9 months you are really hoping for...

I think once I get more time on my hands that I would like to become a breastfeeding counsellor and help ladies get past the hard parts they experience. If you find are struggling there are people out there to willingly help, but they wont come to you! Sharpen those elbows and demand what you need! :)

Thanks all after the meeting I went to my colleague's house to have a cuppa and pet her cats and she offered me a free spare travel system (shes sensibly stuck at one dd) so things did improve X

Can I have the badge for most tired this morning please? Dd woke at 10.30, before I'd even gone to sleep, she had taken off nappy and wet everywhere but she'd split water night before so other side of mattress wet too. So had no choice but to take her to bed with me; she coughed and coughed and wriggled and piggled and did not sleep, not one wink until 4.45!!!!!! I think she was kindly reminding me what a truly sleepless night is like. Yawn yawn and I've got a 3 hour drive to do in a minute while she slumbers in her car seat

Regarding babies turning, mine has been head down the entire time (hugely grateful!)
DSiL said that she was breech, and the midwife physically turned her in hospital, shortly after which her HB plummeted and MiL had to whisked off for a CS- the cord was wrapped really tightly twice around her neck and they think the midwife turning her is what caused it. Eep!
Hearing that, I'd go for the moxibustion if it's needed!

We have a breastfeeding workshop we can sign up for at the hospital here so we can find out strategies and methods for coping, think I will be doing that.

Talked to midwife at antenatal class, and she said they have a birthing pool on delivery suite, and a wireless CTG I could wear while in there, so it doesn't necessarily follow that I can't have a water birth. I have the name of the person in charge of the labour ward to talk to, so I am trying to be positive but not get my hopes up. Will talk to my usual midwife on Monday and see what she says.

Rusulka thats so scary about your sis in law!... I have heard lots of stories about breech babies being physically turned and none ever say its pleasant, but thats beyond anything else! So glad her baby made it out ok!

I am rubbish at telling which way up they are, I dont know how people can just feel whats what in there, but Im hoping and guessing (with very little education) that my little one is head down now, though I'm sure hes still back to back.

leelteloo bless you thats a rough night! Trying to sleep with a wriggly toddler is hard, I dont know how they actually get any rest at all they move so damn much! Fingers crossed she will sleep like a little log tonight for you.

cjbk1 glad your day perked up in the end!

Hello ladies

I can sympathise with all you ladies having sleepless nights, if its not baby having a party all night, its back n rib pain or my bloody restless legs or all three! End of rant, thank god I've finished work now. Praise to you ladies that plan on working g until a couple of weeks before your dd:-)

Been for my 32 week mw appt this morning and wondered what 3/5 in relation to brim means?

Had a check up with mw last week and measured 29 and today im still measuring 29 everything else is fine though! I see my consultant next thurs for another growth scan so we'll see then what's going on I suppose!

Starting to sort my hospital bag out. I've so far got tne followin in it:

Nice nightie / jammies for after labour
Pair of granny kickers
Maternity pads
Wash bag with flannel, toilet wipes, shampoo, shower gel
socks
Slippers
Water spray
1 nappy
1 baby grow
1 vest
1 cardi
1 hat
1 mittens
1 shawl

To buy:
A cheap nightie to give birth
Snacks
Books

Im also taking a suitcase with more baby clothes and clothes for me as well as breastpads! Anything else Ive not mentionedi may need?

Hi again ladies. Just to let everyone know, Sainsburys have a baby event on at the mo - 1/3 off Lansinoh breast pads and nipple cream, Johnsons baby bath buy one get one free, huggies wipes buy one get two free etc. I stocked up this morning fo me and my sister, I think the girl on the checkout thought I was a bit crazy...

I'm finding the natal hypnotherapy CD very relaxing - I always fall asleep when I listen to it. Hope it has the same effect in labour! I treated myself to a new bag to pack as a labour bag the other day. Jules I'm packing plenty of dried apricots to get the old bowels moving after the birth - it worked last time

feeling the tiredness today... just like well most of you.

funchum8am & Loup23 I went to my first NCT too. Had to go alone as DH is away on business. I was the only one on my own but it was fine, the facilitator made sure I was "included". Was funny though everyone was slightly nervous and a bit unsure/embarrassed about some things. I'm sure that'll all be gone by the next one.

Ju1es22 that's quite a list. Haven't even started to think about "the bag" really probably should

Rusulka I'm so glad you have a little hope again, good luck with that.

I've had a difficult few days...been having very painful episodes that last about 5 mins where my whole bump goes hard and I have extreme pain in one position. First right hand side, then last night I was women at 3.30 am with pain across the top of my bump then today down the left hand side. I've been off work for 2 days and yesterday was monitored at the hospital. They said babies heart rate was good, I'm not in pre term labour as cervix was closed and don't have an infection. They think it might be some kind of spd but that was before the pain site moved to the top of my uterus...I don't know if you can get it there? I really don't know what to do as when it strikes it's SO painful and the rest of the time my bump just feels very bruised and I get a lot of braxton hicks. Help?! Has anyone else had this? What would you do? A hot bath and paracetamol don't help.

That sounds really horrid Bakeroo, I've not had a similar experience so nothing helpful to offer except hugs

So the midwife told me yesterday that she's breech. Not an issue until I you reach 36 weeks, but she said getting on all fours can encourage her to move head down.
I was certain it was her feet pushing up under my ribs but apparently it's her head I've been squashing!

The midwife kindly said as it's my second pregnancy my 'saggy stomach muscles' allow her to move round more.
Thanks, childless, slim midwife.

I've been getting all obsessed about my hospital bag and enjoying all the packing and list making.
I've done my little bottles of shampoo and body wash, got the nappies and wipes ready, cereal bars and sweets packed, just need to not eat them when I'm bored!

We get our car back, fixed after being off the road for weeks, today. Now we can go and get a few bits of clothes and stuff. Still need to get a cot though.

Other than that, just cruising along, putting up with SPD and constipation!

Only three weeks left of work! Yay!

oh lovely midwife Shoes!

I'm on countdown to maternity leave too - 5 weeks for me! Although the lady they've brought in to cover me doesnt seem to really be grasping what shes meant to be doing... But i'm sure she'll get it at some point It must be hard to come in a be expected to pick up a job in 7 weeks when i've been doing it for 4 years!

I've been referred to the physio at my local hospital after i complained to midwife about painful hips and groin, but it actually seems to be getting better, so i dont really know whether to go or not. I have an appointment for 2 weeks time so perhaps i'll see how it is then? what do you all think? I dont want to waste anyones time.

Next Tuesday the Olympic torch relay is coming past my house, so i have taken the day off to wave a flag at it in the morning and then go shopping with my sister in the afternoon - i cant wait!!

Out for dinner tonight with DH, sis and her partner and then a weekend of nursery furniture arranging and babygrow organising!

Have lovely weekends all! :-)

hello all

I seem to be a bit ahead of you in terms of NCT classes - I had my last one on Tuesday and then went for lunch with all the girls - they are a really nice bunch and we are going to start weekly lunch dates now until we all give birth.
I feel really lucky as one of them lives in my village about 3 streets away so at least I will have one pram pushing partner in crime.

Sorry to hear about all of you with sleepless nights - I seem to be having one every other night at the moment as the bump just won't stop wriggling. My constipation has been fairly awful too (well done tinker ) but I've just started taking lactulose which I think is really helping.

I'm off to DP's work summer party tonight - for someone who lived and worked in London for years I'm suddenly quite apprehensive about getting the train and tube - lets hope I man up a bit shortly - hats off to all you ladies still commuting.

I had my last NCT this week too ladygagoo and i've got a lovely group as well. We have planned a meet up in two weeks time and hopefully will sort out some further ones from there.

My car's in the garage having all manner of things fixed and my commute yesterday was horrendous - I usually drive for just over an hour, but had to do a train/bus combo which took 2 hours on the way there and nearly 2 and a half on the way back. Had my first hormonal meltdown yesterday and cried at the local train station when i got back to find there were no taxis available to take me home and for some reason there were no buses scheduled to arrive for over an hour. I just went into meltdown as i was so tired and cold and wet after the p***g rain had soaked me completely about 5 times that day. Hubby was stuck at work with an emergency and although he offered to come and get me and take me home and then go back in I decided to man up and walk as it would have been a 1.5 hour round trip home and back for him. Ended up taking 45 mins to walk, so not TOO bad and i would normally have not minded it, but i was just so tired it got to me completely. Felt a bit of a drama queen about the crying once i'd started walking, but i don't think anyone saw.

I expect the exercise did me good, but my pelvis really ached last night every time i turned over. horrible.

fingers crossed for a better sleep tonight.