Due in October 2012 - Part 5

[Kyyria]

Just starting us off on a new thread

Oh poor willowtree! I think everyone here - and offline! - has had ups and downs with this stuff. My reaction to finding out I was pregnant was to go white as a sheet and yell 'oh fuck oh fuck of fuck' - and the pregnancy was 100% planned!

There are so many stories about what is supposed to happen, isn't there? From the good (shiny hair) to the bad (well... I think we've all heard enough of THOSE recently!) (and I too stare in scorn at your stupid colleague, squid) I think if I've learned anything from pregnancy so far, it's that for a process that is basically the same for everyone, there is a LOT of variation out there! (and I didn't feel the squidgy until 20 weeks, for what it's worth!)

Pull up a chair willow, and have a . We're all friends here, no-one thinks you're being silly (or more specifically, if you're silly, then we're already MUCH worse.)

beeble - DH doesn't think kicks are weird, but he has shown 0 enthusiasm for feeling them, hasn't even asked. Seems to be happy with regular updates from me. If I was him I think I'd want a feel, but, he's got his own approach. (If he actually SAID it was weird, though, I'd smack him one.)

OMG Someone go kill me a cow!

I'm DYING for some roast beef covered in gravy right now

though it's probably not on the -go easy on the gallbladder, low-fat diet menu. GUR

Hello pregnant ladies!

I haven't really posted much on your thread, but I'm always lurking and felt the urge to post today, hope you don't mind

So I found out yesterday that I'm having a girl! (we said that we wouldn't find out, but couldn't resist when faced with the question ) I'm absolutely over the moon as I was secretly hoping for a girl and haven't stopped smiling since.

Baby was fine and healthy and weighs 322g, so approx 11/12 oz. She was beautiful and looked so big!

Today I ordered DP a Father's Day card from Moonpig with the scan picture on the front and cried while making it He'll love it!

I just can't wait for the 14th October to come around now so we can meet our beautiful girl.

Sorry for going on and on but I'm just bursting with excitement and happiness!! Good luck for all your up coming scans.

Lime x

Hello all. zoe congratulations on that fabulous cervix! That is a consultation you will never forget!
willow this is my first pregnancy too and gosh, how many myths and nonsense there are about blooming, fabulousness and being in cloud9! I have had no significant movement yet (is it wind??) and unless i am wearing something tight(not likely, aggravates the wind) no one can see my bump! Lost lots of weight with sickness and am sick of people asking me why i have been on a diet cos I look so thin!! Oh, they will all get a shock soon.......! This too has been a long awaited and planned baba but I have felt so many weird emotions that i think I must be a little nuts! So the myth has burst. Pregnancy is the same but different for everyone!

DH keeps tellimg me he cannot read me at all cos i keep drifting off and not giving straight answers, do not know if I am daydreaming, stressing or just plain p'd off!!!

We did however have 20 wk scan on Monday which was bliss beyond bliss. Stubborn little critter had head towards pelvis whole time. 40 mins of pushing and prodding got very little rotation!it was not asleep by any means, lots of punching and kicking, perhaps bugger off and leave me!!! 57 pics later, lovely lady got what she needed, but our pics for home are hilarious!!! Arms, knees, feet, hands and a vague head. No picture perfect here!! And we had the madness to be disappointed to not have great pics to show.....l I am ashamed. A healthy active baby which ticked all the boxes to exclude major anomalies. We are so lucky.

Oh God, I am rambling, no- one can possibly want to read this far!!!!!!!

So do not beat yourself up Willowtree , we are all different and will get excited and fall in love in our own way and time.

Oh and first day of over bump trousers today - I wish, kept falling down!!!!

Oh and one more thing Willowtree i spoke with midwife again after scan yesterday and she reassured me that with baby number 1 might even be 22-23 weeks before we really feel anything, this is very common.

XX
34, 20+3

Oh sorry forgot to add

25, 20+2

willowtree, Aw bless you, you could be talking about me! The reality of pregnancy I've found is VERY different from what its "supposed to be like! All I can really say is try and remember that each pregnancy is different, and this too is true, even if you have been pregnant before. This is my second, and its waaaaaayy different to my first. And no, you dont worry less the second time about everything being ok, in fact I think I have worried even more. According to all the expert info, as this is my second, I should have felt babba move WEEKS ago. but apart from a few flutterings I havent felt a thing! My boobs havent grown either, and Im def not "blooming" as they call it!
According to everyone else, I have a bump, I just think I look fat. The last time I was at the drs they couldnt find the heartbeat, and Im not due a scan for at least another 3 weeks!
In fact the only "normal" thing I've found about being pregnant is that its normal to worry about what is normal! Hope that makes sense! But no, you are def not alone, if it wasnt for the fact that I havent had a period since Feb and I've seen the baby on the 12 wk scan (did I really, or did I dream it?!" I wouldnt say I "feel" pregnant at all :(
Take care xx

17+3 DC2

Aw thankyou everyone for your kind words, it really helps to 'talk' moan to people at the same stage, that's why places like this are so fab! CWest30 know what you mean about not "feeling it" I was the same at 12 week, and they don't listen for hb at 16wks round here so that seems a long time ago now. Really looking forward to next week's scan (plus me and DH have the week off)
hufflepuffle I love my next maternity trousers (narrow band not over bump), don't really need them yet but they were half price so bought them anyway but they are sooooo comfy I'm just wearing them anyway and probably will after bean has arrived, love stretchy fabric and no button or zip, plus they have pockets, my huge hips normally make pockets gape. In fact I might go as far as to say these trousers are one of my best perks of pregnancy so far (as well as not having to pay £40 for my filling at the dentist) Feeling more hopeful that there will be more exciting things to come. Ok so I'm actually rambling now so I best stop. Will have to drop by more often to "chat"

So tired, such a hectic time - we moved home today after our rennos and also had 20 week scan - yay, everything is fine, another one in team ?! I thought the tummy was it's face, tho - so jealous of those who saw lots of lovely details like yawns and thumb sucking - i just saw some general punching - was still lovely to see baby. Lovely to catch up on everyone's news - cwest and willow, sorry to hear u r having a tough time of it. Congrats to Zoe on your fab aussie cervix and lime on your scan. Pants - i love m&s bikini briefs - the brazillian ones go up your arse a bit, but they are a lovely bright pink and lacey. Anyone else considering a divorce over baby names - it's so annoying when you spend hours researching baby names and put together a perfect pair and then b/f is horrified by them!! nighty night all

Just popping on to say: Fuck, my bump has doubled in size over the last 2 days. What's going on there? Last week people were mostly saying "Oh, you're quite small for 21 weeks". Now? You know that thing where men when they are approaching you tend to be looking at your boobs? Well now, men AND women are staring distinctly lower down and I feel like waving and saying "hello? Up here!". Even my 1-size-up-phew-these-will-last-me-for-months skirts are barely fitting and I spent so much on clothes, thinking what I bought would get me through :(

The bump is starting to get in the way - putting socks on is a little uncomfortable, and twisting round to access anything further back than my hips in the shower causes an unpleasant twinge so cleaning my arse is not something I look forward to! Yesterday was the first time it (the bump, just to clarify, not my arse!) felt too big for me to go for a run, like it would not be comfortable :(

So altogether, I'm not liking pregnancy this week. The bump is suddenly too big, too soon, and I realised with horror this morning that there are another 4 whole months of it growing before I give birth... to a giant at this rate. I'm just getting a bit of an idea of how restricted and huge I will feel before too long and it's not great :(

And hello, people at work, I still exist as a human being as well as a bean incubator! You can talk to me about other stuff! I still have interests and passions that are not related to being pregnant, I haven't lost half my brain (although it does feel like it a lot at the moment).

Bah. Taking my ranty self off to work.

yomping - word. Just when you get used to one part...

We've actually crossed the halfway mark now (some of us! yomping I think you and I have) so do remember - it's less time from npw to birth than it was from finding out to now... and doesn't that seem like yesterday?

DS1, 22+5

Morning beautiful blooming or wannabe ladies

huffle Totally hear you about the over-the-bump trews I'm wearing over the bump linen ones which are baggy so have put on stretchy elasticated belt and folded over-the-bump material over it = result? Trousers that stay put

Zoe Congrats on your beauitful cervix; I must ask...what does an ugly one look like??!! I've also put on 1.25 stone & I'm 4 weeks behind you so don't worry too much!!

Finally found some comfy non-wired bras, thank God for M&S is all I can say!! Anyone else already using breast pads? Not for leakage you understand but because I have nipples you can hang a rack of coats on!!!

35, 18+3 (where's my flipping movement baby??!!), dc#1

Morning all waves

Have got the day off work with DH so we're going to crack on with nursery DIY and house cleaning (!)

Going out for a meal with some of the girls from work tonight (60th birthday) and must admit I'm not looking forward to it. Struggling to enjoy food at the moment(first time in my life I've been able to say that!), struggling to make it past 7pm awake and just feeling tremendously frumpy

I think I felt movement last night I say think - I've had this sensation on and off for a couple of days but - as everyone says - thought it was wind. Last night DH was lying in bed listening to my tummy and was saying he could hear all sorts of whooshing and popping noises. There was a point where he said he could hear popping noises at the same time I could feel the "odd" sensation. Hasn't happened since though. Hope it was the little one Will now be paying mega attention to any rumblings!

31, 18+3, #1

Hi Ladies, just checking in (office slacker that I am). Like yomping I've just had rapid bump growth - now its feeling really tight, especially by the end of the day. Had a bit of a scare last week when a car drove into me (I was on my bicycle). Luckily it was slow moving traffic and I managed to jump off just in time so the car bashed the bike rather then me. I'm back in the saddle though and being extra careful!

I'm with those ladies who are not feeling much by way of movement - just the odd fluttering which I think is the little one.

Is anyone buying much stuff yet? I cleared out some drawer space but haven't quite managed to bring myself to make a purchase yet (apart from the bump pillow which I am loving and hugging at night!!).

Might have to buy a maternity swimsuit though as I need to get exercise and I just can't face having to spend my lunchtime in the gym.....

39, 22+1 #1

Is anyone planning on doing NCT classes? I keep getting conflicting advice. It's bloody expensive, and I'm not sure it's my sort of thing, but some people say I should do it anyway... and some others say not to bother...

Ah Londonmrs this is exactly the question I've been pondering. The impression I've been getting is that the content, whilst excellent, is not more than you'd get from NHS classes/reading a book, but what really makes it worth while is the making friends bit.

We decided against signing up for NCT, opting to get the 'content' from NHS class and the active childbirth class my pregnancy Yoga teacher runs (just a one day class though), and I'm hoping to go to baby yoga after the birth and/or the mum and baby swimming classes and hope that I make friends there.

However, I'm now really paranoid that I'll 'missing out' on friends and will be a complete billy no-mates after the birth as none of my other friends have sprogged yet :-( and I don't really know many people locally with children.

I know NCT run postnatal groups in our area too so maybe that would be more worthwhile?

I'd be really interested in anyone's opinions/experience of either doing the classes, or not doing them and still managing to make friends with other recent Mums!

LondonMrsS and Dosomethingmutley I decided to go for NCT as both my sisters had said it was great for making friends and we're moving to a new area where we know absolutely no-one. It is bloody expensive though! A friend persuaded me to book in for NCT when I was only 7 weeks' pregnant as apparently they get fully booked very early (she was 11 weeks and failed to get into her first choice area group).

I'm sure there are other ways of meeting folk but particularly cos we're moving, and I won't even have non-preg buddies, it's good to know that we've got a starting point.

Velo eek re car driving in the back of you. sounds scary! I've mostly been on towpaths where I feel a lot safer. I've recently bought a preg cossie and waiting for the postman to bring it. I am hoping there'll be enough space for my chest!

Londonmrss I know I won't be able to afford NCT classes, nor have I had much good feedback from friends about NHS classes (errr, role playing anyone??!) so I'm wondering not to bother all together!

All I'd like is info on breast-feeding and birthplan options & I have to be honest - not really fussed about the making friends bit Not because I'm a social butterfly you understand, it just doesn't seem worth going for that reason alone? I'd be interested in other people's thoughts though....

Loopyla loving your improvised trousers!! Whatever works!! I am delighted that i bought a pir of under bump skinny chino type things in H&M when I was only about 10 weeks. I am v tall and these are 'normal people' trousers but I ma now sporting the cropped skinny look rather well! Only pair I have other than leggings (so sick of leggings now) and the over bump ones, which still to big. Bloody long legs, so little out there!!

Very surprised and glad to be woken at 2.15 this am by a great kicking in by tummy!! YAY!! Lasted about a minute then settled again. So, guess 2am will be an awake time for the next while!!! Had a wee tear to myself, must say. Guess the 'pops' were real, here comes more now hopefully!!

I do not know what NCT classes are.........! The shame No one has mentioned.... perhaps don't have in NI??

But I am loving the pregnancy yoga class, good fun and learning all sorts. Can highly reccommend. Anyone bought an exercise ball??! DH convinced I will do myself harm, he might be right..........! Hmmm, clumsy mummy2be!

Just read a post about when starting maternity leave. As I am self employed, PLANNING 38 wks, but may be seriously deluded! No wages and leaving my business to others is all a bit frightening! We will see.

Going to order pram at weekend. Thank heavens for mumsnet advice, read up so much on here! V excited about that.

Ciao!
34, 20+4

Apologies for hideous spelling, my typing skills are nil and would not allow me to preview that last one for some reason!

Goid morning.

Re: rapidly expanding bump

Yesterday at work I went to close the supply cabinet door, and it stopped suddenly as it ran into my protruding belly!

So not ready for this!

Hii everyone. How are we all today? Hope you are all enjoying the sunshine!

To those with rapidly expanding bumps- i seem to have had a growth spurt in the last two days- looked in the mirror when i got out of the shower today and didn't even recognise myself. I can't see my lady garden (Poor DP!) anymore and my toes are slowly disappearing!!! Me thinks will have to put a small mirror in the bathroom and use that to do a spot of er.. gardening.

Hufflepuffle I was also planning on working til I was 38 weeks, but with the treatment I recieve from my bosses at work I may just really leave them in the shit and bugger off earlier when they have other supervisors on holiday and management will have to get off their pathetic lazy arses and work for a living so we shall see. I am experiencing total apathy at work now and kind of wishing maternity leave was here already.

Blimey, I hadn't even thought about Antenatal classes. Should think I am way too late to join the NCT classes, i was supposed to ring up about antenatal classes 4 weeks ago! Oops. I am wondering wether it is really worth it to be honest, I have heard the antenatal classes tend to concentrate on the birth side of things and pain relief options, which lets face it, can be researched in the time and privacy of your own home.. am also lucky to have a few cousins with young children so friends wise I think we'll be ok. But anyone that has been already please let us in on it and I'd definately appreciate the advice! My mum went to classes with all three of us... Hmm...

Mickey I think you're right about classes. They tend to cover labour and pain relief, and some tips for breast feeding. However, they also give you a tour of labour ward which is nice to know where your going.

I found Sure Start groups that support you after the birth much more helpful, though I would go to ante-natal classes for my first baby.

I've had a lovely day off with DH but got home to find a shitty letter from DS's school. I cannot stand the headteacher and I'm sick of his bullying. Written a complaint but feeling very anxious about it. Think DS is in the wrong school and don't know what to do.

DH booked us a surprise holiday without telling me.

Great, right? Romantic?

He didn't ask if I had enough leave left, through. Or check when I was heading off with my parents (pre-planned, to Iceland). Or wait until I've my new contract settled. Or just, y'know, ask.

As if I didn't have a job.

He says if we cancel it's ok, because it's his money and he's happy to spend it.

And there's is is, the crashing realization of my pending financial dependency. Is that it? Or just that he didn't realise how inconsiderate he was being? How uncaring about my own work, my own plans? Either way I've been crying for a while now.

I don't want to eat. I don't want to talk. I just want to cry.

Because my husband tried to book me a nice holiday.

There should be some kind of badge for a lack of perspective is gigantic.