Due in October 2012 - Part 5

[Kyyria]

Just starting us off on a new thread

For my fellow fifty shades readers

i haven't stopped laughing all day... Had to stop reading when i couldnt see through crying!!

Hi Ladies - i've just had a good read but not sure who said what.

bella ?. You are dead right re advice. In RL I have a policy of not advising when I haven't seen. Here is Ireland you can wait several months to see a govt. funded/public physio so I got carried away. Many PTs specialise in women's health (I don't) so there could be a great service available to you. Well worth asking your GP.

Re creche - biting is not abnormal. DS bites when he is over tired/stimulated. It is common in that most creches have a biting policy. That said some children don't bite.
Anyway slept badly Mon night, awake early Tuesday. I thought I would be knackered but actually not. Assume it was the adrenalin. Worked Tuesday and Wednesday and I had 2 wonderful days at work. A little old lady walked for me today who had not walked in several months following a fractured hip, and is awaiting a Nursing Home placement. It was a great achievement for her and I was thrilled to be part of it.
Anyway I have decided to finish with the creche - the atmosphere is just too tainted there. I have drafted a letter looking for a full fee refund (we pay by DD on the first of every month). Monday was the second, so she received payment on the day she asked me to remove DS - wench .
I collected DS this evening, had a long chat with DH. We decided that DS was getting upset at it all. While I would not have changed - I am a bit of a creature of habit - there are other creches. I also have been looking at it more critically. In the year since DS attended there he has had 4 different key workers and only a handful of the staff are there since he started. Today of the 2 staff in the room, 1 was a total stranger to me.
I haven't keyed her car but I have written a 3 page letter that I am going to run by a solicitor tomorrow (free legal aid drop in service) with the hope of getting my full monthly fee back. Since I have all the issues on paper I might send in a complaint to the regulatory body - not sure if I'll bother. A refund might be the end of things for me, better things to do with my energy.
Strange thing is the energy of adrenalin - I don't have that awful lethargic tiredness!!
DH has been great - he is normally really cool and does not get excited about problems. He is angry because he feels her conduct has upset DS, and me and the bean through my tension. Any problem shared is not all that bad.
Look at the hour and I'm still not in bed. I will pay tomorrow....[fear emoticon]

Oh boy... I read in the morning, and by evening I forget everything when I have a bit of time to post. Sorry today but the thought of checking back makes my head hurt

Just a short update on my day...
First appointntment with the vlinic today that I will be with until delivery. 7women drs one of which who will deliver. Who knows if I will get to meet them all..

Appt was a bit anticlimactic. I always get myself worked up expecting to have high blood pressure or something, but bp was fine, pee was clear, measuring spot on at 25cm and on for weight. Asked a few questions and sent home with 3 forms for blood work, including the gtt. And one more pee test. That's it for the next 4 weeks. Then I go every 2 weeks after that.

Yawn, starting to get bored with all this.

That is all with me... And as always really enjoy rwading up on everyone!

Sorry for the spelling again. On my phone.

Fetal heart scan today at 4:30.....hope my lil lady is ok.......will let u know tonight fingers crossed x

Thinking of you today CWest and anyone else with appointments and worries about jobs or houses or creches or bumps or anything else. This pregnancy business is hard enough work without additional worries on top!

It's lovely reading all your news - anyone paranoid about long/rambling/ranty posts, please keep them coming, you all keep me sane! Sorry I haven't posted in a while but I'm just getting more and more tired. Finding maternity cover for my job is not going well at all so we're now actually having to approach people and try to persuade them to take it on :(. Maybe I do such a bad job at it no-one else wants to touch with a bargepole .

Seem to be having a day of feeling like first trim again today, fainty, sicky, and just want to lie on floor of the loos. Luckily one of my morning meetings has been cancelled though, so there's always a bright side somewhere :)

Oh, and my DH now thinks MN is a good think after all after I told him about 'nobbers'. This is now the main word in our house

Take care all you lovely bean ovens x

32, DC#1, 26+1

Yes, Happy Dump Day, for all of you with constipation!

Good luck with the scan Cwest, I'll be thinking of you.

Beeblebear, where are you that you have to go every month/2 weeks? I have also been going every month, and now have to go every 2 weeks. It's nice having so many scans, but it is rather repetitive and feels a bit over the top when everything is always "fine" and "normal".

Feeling a bit odd today, nothing in particular, just not right. Am treating myself to a pizza and an early night.

CWest good luck for today. My eldest niece was born with a hole in the heart & I requested at my 21 week scan that they have extra 'looks' at the heart to check for any major problems.

Fjord/Kyrria/London and other hot ladies - thank goodness, I'm not alone!! And it takes me a good 45 mins to cool down - of course being embarrassed by the sweating doesn't help and then you sweat more

As part of my London commute, I do 2 x 25 min walks a day which I want to keep doing but I'm so darn sweaty afterwards (although I walk at a snails pace !!) I wonder if it's worth it?

Beeble sorry, but your bump looks rather cute & not big at all

huffle also felt the same with my bubs last week. Not really felt much but when I was poorly in bed all last week I felt it loads & made me feel like I had been missing out!

Just sent my application for maternity leave to my Personnel dept - 58 weeks off? Yes please

Of course £££ will get a a lot bit tight but at this point, I'm just at the thought of having lots of time off (baby, what baby? oh yes, I'm sure I won't forget that I'll be looking after one of those at the same time!! )

35, 23+4, dc#1

Good morning all. Going to try a quick post this morning while the read is fresh.

Cwest. My husband had a hole in the heart when he was born. He was quite premature. Apparently it.s quite a normal thing and most close on thier own after birth once the baby takes over blood flow. Try not to worry too much. Thinking of you today.

Cherry- I live in canada. I have regular dr's appointments, but they don.t do ultrasounds each time, just a check up and then listen to the heart in the doppler. Do you get an ultrasound each time?

Oh and loopy that was from more than two months ago... Lemme see if I can load another new oicture!

Ok, running slightly late for work now... But bump ohotos updated!

Thanks Beeble sorry for making you late!!

You still look fabulous though, not big at all [mile]

Thanks for all the support.

She's absolutely fine thank god, her heart looks completely normal :)

Was lovely to see her again so soon as I only had my 22 wk scan on Monday. This time was feeling her kicks and seeing them at the same time! Amazing.

Happy mummy and baby bean here :) x

29, 22+4 DC2

Good news CWest makes creche worries seem a little less serious. Delighted for you.

I think I'm coming down from my adrenalin high - fading fast. Will post details another day

Brilliant CWest! Really happy to hear that, was thinking about you today.

Right ladies, I need to be blunt. It's official- I can no longer see my pubes. Wanted to give myself a bit of a groom earlier, but it now seems impossible so I may just be a hairy beast natural for the rest of pregnancy. What are you all doing about your netherlands? I just can't be arsed with going for a wax, and I figure if I have to go through childbirth, then my husband should be able to cope with having to search a little harder for my clitoris.

Evening all,

CWest that must be such a relief. for your healthy little lady and her lovely perfect little heart.

London I had a consultants app today and thought just in case dildocam reared its ugly head I would have a tidy up and I had that same sad realisation than within a couple of weeks my lady gardening would have to done by another gardener. Can barely see it properly. I miss it already... With DD1 I had a courtesy wax just before my induction - don't think I can be arsed will bother this time - I now realise nobody really cares about an overgrown lady garden.

Loopy 58 weeks? Yes please. God that sounds attractive. I am going to try and work until a week before due date. Seems a life time away already.

MrsC Hope you have perked up a bit and had no need to fall asleep on the floor of the ladies loos. I would never do that well maybe only a couple of times

Lisbeth Glad you have decided to walk away from the creche. They don't sound like the right kind of place for your little DS and once you make a decision it always feels so much better - you need your energy for more important matters.

Welcome to the new people - lovely to have more people joining us from exotic locations.

Had my check up today. Consultant seems to think the band is nothing to worry about and the baby seems to not be bothered about it at all. No sign of the dreaded PE so all in all not looking bad. I am in the 'getting scanned all the time club' so back again for another one in a months time. Baby was kicking so much the Doctors probe thing went up in the air - a real bruiser.

Hope you are all having a peaceful evening, sorry no time to catch up more - need a wee as per bloody always

Well, had my 'gosh you're officially too big' scan today. Result? Well, baby is perfectly sized and very healthy and gynaecologist a bit cross that MW had obviously 'measured my uterus wrongly' so the rest of the bump is clearly fibroid. All good news so far though. Baby head down and no sign of fibroid anywhere near baby or the birth canal at this stage so it's just a case of my own discomfort really. Baby played ball a little, even though it was a funny angle today and did some 'air-boxing' just before the gynae zoomed in on her vagina lips and said 'look at those! Definitely a girl!'. :) Oh also, seems I've put on 8kg (about 17lbs?) since wk8. What is a normal weight gain by 25 weeks? No-one's been weighing me, or mentioning it. That sounds about ok to me?

Yomping - that was an absolutely lovely post. You are also strong and impressive. Teaching is one of the most demanding and important jobs there is .

Londonmrss - looking forward to hearing what you make of the hypno-birthing CDs. Had to laugh at the 'grammatical error' bit! Actually, that would kind of annoy me too. I tend to shout at the telly at stuff like that - not conducive to a relaxed hypnotic state I think... . Oh and (TMI alert) (LOL) have just been having the same thoughts re 'ladygarden'. Had a 'blind' trim with nail scissors this morning as so embarrassed in case I had another impromptu internal from my gynaecologist (thank god I couldn't see the results!). Keep thinking I should learn to shave down there as apparently they will at the hospital (although the 'not seeing' bit is super-scary). I usually wax (or sometimes depilatory cream between visits though I don't like the chemicals) but can't afford it at the mo & feeling very overgrown & doesn't feel 'right'. Does anyone out there shave down there and does the skin get used to it after a while? Would 'go natural' but it feels weird now and am unfortunate in having a DP who seems rather 'off his game' now I'm pregnant as it is and I'd like to feel a bit more 'normal'.

CWest - VERY glad to hear the heart scan went well! :) and yes, a slightly different situation housing wise. I'm in very much Londonlivvy's kind of situation; needing to sell one flat, living in another, tiny one and was hoping to have the money from the sold flat through to purchase a house here in Norway before baby came but I'm not fully confident that will happen now. The frustrating thing is all the potential buyers in London seem to be in chains, whereas I'm really looking for a cash buyer. In Norway you can't make an offer on a house until you have the funds etc. in your bank account. The seller organises the survery etc. before putting the property on the market and offers are binding so things go through very quickly this end (usually by the 'sealed bids' kind of method). I do feel for you with your son and a baby, at your parents place. I do hope it's a very temporary arrangement for you guys as we are hoping to get baby, 2 part-time stepsisters and ourselves out of our approx 50sqm flat before Xmas at least! Likewise Londonlivvy. Our changing table will be our dining table with a mat on, there's an Ikea baby bath for the coffee table and JUST room for Moses basket beside me next to the bed if I get in bed at the bottom corner! Sorry to hear about your maternity cover woes. Sounds rather sucky :(

lisbeth - glad to hear you're not taking the creche business sitting down and also very of your adrenaline surges!

cherrychopsticks - have been thinking about my experiences and how they differ today and I'll try to post later or tomorrow about those.

Midget - cross-posted but very glad to hear the good news re band and PE. I'm also getting another one in a month's time after my less-than-planned one today. Does feel good to be 'watched' so carefully I must say - especially being a high-risk 'elderly gravida' :) and I hope you're feeling a bit less anxious too. x

Cross posted with the FjordMamma ok so not your actual name but I like it. Must be a good news day today - that must be a relief - I know fibroid s can be a bitch so good they aren't in bad places. That weight gain sounds fine to me but then again I seem to be piling it on all of a sudden. Baby only weighing average so more likely pies rather than baby making....

Fjord I'm a shaver- I tend to find it's fine, but only if I use a blunt razer- I know it sounds a little counter-intuitive, but a new razor just leaves my skin a bit raw and itchy.
Also, on the hypnobirthing CDs, I've now had a listen to all of them, either while going to sleep, while doing some yoga stretches or just going about my day.
My favourite are definitely these:www.natalhypnotherapy.co.uk/NatalHypnotherapyprogramme.html The woman has a really nice soothing voice (a bit like the main lady newsreader on Radio 4, if anyone knows who I mean). The music is nice too, and I like how it's all put together. If nothing else, I think it will condition me to relax and concentrate on my breathing whenever I want. It also really highlights the 'your body is perfectly designed for childbirth' aspect.
The Tums2Mums is nice, but something about it makes me feel occasionally irritated- perhaps it's the voice, or the phrasing. It's still nice, but not as relaxing.
I've also listened to the ones that come with the Morgan book- they're ok, a bit difficult to form an opinion really.
I probably seem a bit mad for trying all these out, but they could make a huge difference. And at least when I get home after my horrible London Underground commute, I can sit down and force myself to relax for half an hour.
Bit jealous of all of you who have regular scans! I won't have anymore now, unless they suddenly find a reason too.
Is anyone planning to have one of those 4D scans? Personally i find the images a bit scary, so I probably wouldn't go for it...

londonmrss you make me laugh so much- i had the exact same shock of horror moment last week when i realised i couldn't see down there. DP laughed his head off. He won't be laughing when i tell him that he has to shave it for me!!
Although not entirely sure i could trust him not to cut me to ribbons (although he did an amazing job on his testeballs- dont tell him i told you a few months ago for a joke- not a scratch on them!!!)
Maybe i will just use some strategically placed mirrors...

We're not hving a 4D scan for much the same reason... DP gets a bit freaked out everytime its mentioned!! Although i am most likely having some sort of scan like that (for free, which i feel much better about ) because i was born with defects (deaf with fused eardrums and deformed ears) and so they want to have a look at the baby and see if its hereditary.
Not that it would affect anything if it is hereditary but its nice to have a little preparation!

Hehehe, I'm laughing so much at your Lady Garden dilemas, am I the only one who just lets it do what it pleases then? Tbh it's nothing compared to my belly, which is now covered in a layer of fur. Apparently a layer of white hair is normal, but mine is black (and my skin is very pale), so coupled with the size of my belly and the fact that my boobs now rest on my bump when I sit down, I look like a gorilla!

We are very happy here. After 4 (very long) years, DH passed his Degree yesturday!

LondonMrs I think this week (@23+5) will be the last time I can epilate. Luckily on the epilator, I have option on change it to shaver so will probably end up doing that when I can't see my fanjo anymore, I like things 'tidy'

When I regain control of my belly in what will probably be a year at least I shall return to epilating...that's the plan anyway

Hi everyone, great to hear all the good news - cwest's little lady's heart is fine, fjord's baby is normal size and midget's band is nothing to worry aboutl.

Had an amazing dinner out last nite - 3 courses, but i dont thinkg i ate THAT much...but OMG, felt awful afterwards, like i was going to explode! Bean is super busy this morning - probably tying to make room for his/her self amongst all the food.

Where is everyone posting pics of their bump? I could only find squid's and she had a link to it. I have a photo too, but am not sure how to post it.

The Ladygarden conversation is too funny :) I am a religious half leg and hot bikini waxer and i hate it so much i used to dose myself up on paracetamol and ibuprofen or even co-codamol. Since being preggo, i have only been able to have paracetamol, but my pain threshold is SO much higher, it hardly bothers me now. V. pleased all the natural pain relief hormones are floating about already. It's a good time to get a brazillian, ladies :)

Morning all!

Oh my goodness - all of you who have got your cots and kits together, you have me cringing with shame. I have managed 'accepting gifts from nice friends'. Nothing more.

Seriously, I haven't even looked for cots on ebay. Or Ikea!

I've forgotten who said what now... congrats to all with good news, and welcome to newcomers!

Just back from a holiday in Iceland with the parents. Travel tip: DO NOT TRAVEL WITH RETIRED PEOPLE. They go a mile a minute - exhausted me terribly, while (ooooh, the irony) telling me how important it was that I not push myself too hard. Rargh. Culminated in a huge fight with my Dad (we had to share a room, he was refusing to go to bed, it was after 11 pm, I was probably more tired than I have ever been) which ended with me swearing at him - which I have never done before. DH gallantly stepped in from England to say that if they misbehaved again I wasn't to discuss it with them, I was to put them on the phone to him. Good DH. Anyhow, all settled down after that.

Iceland is very beautiful, but if you're thinking of going there, I recommend packing bulldog clips, blu-tack, and cooking foil. The curtains are all rubbish and it's never dark - the clips are to hold the curtains together, blu-tack to stick the curtains to the wall, and tinfoil - when applied directly to the glass - makes an excellent emergency blackout blind!

Now we have the builders in. New bathroom coming up! Yay!

Hi ladies,

So glad to hear the good news, Midget, CWest and Fjord, what a relief that must be.

I have already warned DP that he will have to tend my lady garden at some point. Actually just watched a Cherry Healy documentary which had a bit about just letting everything grow but I think if I do that, they'll have trouble finding the exit area for the baby!

We went to Iceland in November and loved it Zoe but I can see how it would be a bit stressful with parents. How nice of your DH to be ready to step in with the riot act!

Congrats to your DH WantanOrange, hope you celebrated last night.

Really interested in the hypnobirthing CD LondonMrs. I went to the library yesterday and borrowed Juju Sandin's book on childbirth, have heard lots of good thing about it. Obviously a bit early to start thinking about it but I want to be as prepared as I can be.

Lisbeth Hope you get the money back from the creche, they sound horrendous.

I am having a bit of a down day, think it's the fact that I'm now home and need to find something to do but have little motivation. I need to get a bit more organised and turn the TV off.

On the plus side, we have the 4D scan tomorrow. I am a bit worried because DP has seen photos and thinks they look like aliens but I'm hoping he'll change his mind once we get in there. Will report back tomorrow!

Adding my congratulations to CWest, Fjord & Midget - lots of relief all round!

Another one hoping the creche play ball and hand back your money, lisbeth. Hope they don't play slippery buggers. Good luck with the free solicitor's advice.

No beating around the bush (arf arf) re ladybits, eh ladies? I was able to keep mine in check until well after 30wks last time, but this time I gave up a couple of weeks ago. Out of sight, out of mind . Besides, it hides the horror of what it all looks like after birth a little bit Can't imagine seeing that all hairless....shudder.

Our garden's coming on nicely and starting to take shape, which is very exciting! I can't wait until summer (ha) when I can turf DS out and watch him from the kitchen window while he's busy outside in a finally safe environment for him. Our garden was such a horrendous, concrete slab that I could hardly bear to look at it. Hooray!

My stomach capacity is really shrinking too, Beccus. Ate a small-medium sandwich and pear for lunch yesterday and felt like I was going to explode. Managed to eat 3 choc chip cookies within an hour of it though, somehow there's always room for things like that somewhere! Am relying on gaviscon more & more though.

Speaking of gaviscon, I bought a big multipack of tablets for five quid !!! and then promptly lost them somewhere in town whilst wrestling with a narky DS in the rain. Someone (with acid indigestion) must've thought Christmas had come early Extremely pissed off. If I can be arsed I'll get down the doctor and try to wrangle it on prescription - I'm chomping through a fortune. Should take out shares in Gaviscon & Schweppes (tonic).

Right, operation Driving Up North For a Wedding is going to get underway soon. I need to start getting preparations going - 4hrs in car with 20mo followed by a night in a hotel requires military precision (if only I could drink and take prescription tranquillisers, preferably at the same time......)