Due in October 2012 - Part 5

[Kyyria]

Just starting us off on a new thread

Hi everyone- hope you are all ok. Catching up on phone because the internet doesn't seem to be working on the computer piece of shit so unfortunately very hard to name check and reply to individual posts...
I am finally getting used to the idea of being pregnant and slowing down a bit. I have had a wonderfully lazy week at work and have been able to sit and do paper work and sitting down jobs. I rearranged 21 metres worth of biscuits (mundane job i know) and ordered lots of new lines and it looks really good. Also put in complaint against manager RE unreliable comment- will see how it goes!

Am loving the balloon analogy- have also been panicking on days when i barely feel it move once, but then next day kicking me all day :-)

have sorted through lots of issues with DP in last few days- terrified of letting baby down and how strong my determination is that we dont fall apart, and how strong my determination is to not be like my father (hopefully someone remembers my parent issues a few threads back! And also the reason i never wanted children... Poor messed up me lol.)
So all in all quite a breakthrough for borh of us. And we went to a family party last night and my lovely DP had a cuddle with some of the kids and was talking to them and all sorts. I have never witnessed him do this as he was never the paternal type- i think impending fatherdom is having a good effect on him XD
on the downside he is really suffering with his sciatica, not a single painkiller is helping him and i feel utterly useless :-( i have come close to calling an ambulance/taking him to a&e several times today. If anyone has any tips please help!!

The baby is being a bugger and has been sitting on my sciatic nerve so i know how he feels- although i can safely say i am not sufdering nearly as much.

Congratulations to all the newly qualifed, get well wishes to those who are ill, and you are all beautiful :) also laughing my head off at whoever said they had bbought muslims... I think you meant muslins!!!!! And the slug stories- gross but disgustingly interesting... I think our dog just eats them.
Love and hugs xxxx

evenin all!

fjord so glad to hear from you! Your post was lovely and as usual, so full of warmth and good humour. Hope the 'assorted meats' dish went down well!

squid you should be chuffed to bits you made 9 miles! You are one fit and healthy preggo! I did 6 miles 2 weeks ago and felt fine at the time but had serious bump ache afterwards. Don't fret about your long term fitness-look at all those yummy mummies doing marathons etc. I used to attend an exercise class in my village on the village green ran by a mum for mums and my god those women were fit! It was quite scary, but they were very nice to me as i puffed and panted along behind them so I still enjoyed it.

yomping, yes, we need to try and speed up the bedtime routine a bit. The problem is that when we don't see him all day, we just want to enjoy as much time with him as we can, and it is hard to rush through it when he is being so cute and fun. Also, the three stories as a disciplline thing works well for us. The extra one was added as a ploy to get him into his own bed once he moved out of the cot and it has stuck. Part of me really does want to make it quicker but he knows exactly what comes after what and he always goes straight to sleep afterwards which means that that he will sleep anywhere because the routine is the same. I realise in a sense I am contradicting my earlier anti-gina comments about routines, but for us, this one has always worked well. It is a lovely time for the three of us when we are all in together, but on the nights I am home alone I do take your point and think I ought to try and trim it down a bit because I am often shattered by that point! Will give it some thought.

To cheer myself up last night I got a load of bags of baby clothes out of the shed to sort out- so exciting! Can't believe that I will have someone small enough to fit into them again! Quite a lot of the 0-3 stuff is unisex so I am going to wash it all and put it in the 'messy room'/soon to be Nursery! Woop!

Dreading work tomorrow. :-(

hope you guys are well x

Crap, I am so tired this morning! Feels like a Friday night, not a Monday morning :(.

Bump photos up if anyone wants a nose. Fjord, glad you're OK, sounds like an exhausting week! Bella, if it works, it works - well done on actually having something that does work, don't listen to me, I have a rude awakening coming I'm sure!

Mickey, if you're thinking about those things it means you are aware of them and that in itself makes them much less likely to be an issue, so well done!

Right, dragging tired self off to work!

Scan in 6.5 hrs.............nervous.........

Good luck cwest!

Hi Ladies

Welcome first bubba

Loving ALL the bump pics and have to say, we are a very good-looking bunch of ladies And thanks to all those who?ve helped me realise I?m not alone having not bought anything yet!

Yomping thank you for that exercise, I shall definitely include it with my leg stretches and see how I get on

ShellWeDance Let us know how the 4D scan goes, me & DH have been thinking about getting one too?I understand they often call them ?bonding? scans and I?m feeling very a wee bit EEEEEEEEKKKK about the whole ?baby coming into our lives? thing so hoping it might help me to calm down & get excited

CWest good luck with the scan!!

Squid 9 miles????? You?re SO hardcore!

Lisbeth Thanks for asking about my old lady hips. It seems to be at the sides, more in the joints and only at night, never in the day. I walk 2 x 25 min walks every day at least so I?m not too much of a lazy cow & not overweight either. I can only lie on my side for a short time and then I have to swap. Sometimes I have to lie flat on my back to ease the pain as it just so achy and then try to lie on one of my sides again. I don?t think it?s SPD as it seems external, rather than internal if that makes sense? Any advice, gratefully received!

Mickey I had sciatica years ago and ended up hospitalised & then on crutches. It got to a point where all I could do was crawl around on my hands & knees!! Anyway, I had treatment by a guy who was setting up a clinic locally and was a guinea pig for ?Bowen Technique? (there is a website here that it explains it and it really helped. After one treatment, I had far less pain & more movement and was cured with a month or so.

On the up side, I?ve had loads of movement from the bubs last week and this morning, it?s properly nudging my fat belly, it feels great

Woah! Hope you haven?t fallen asleep with that lot?I?ve returned to work to a load of shite so this is my place of ?zen? today

35, 23+1 (not panicking?.honestly?.AAARRRGGGHH), dc#1

Oh no! There's no spaces left on the antenatal classes in my area! They're going to put on a 1 day class in September, but that's it.

What should I do? I'm really not keen on the idea of doing NCT, and it's ridiculously expensive anyway. Do you reckon the one day thing will be enough?

Londonmrss OH dear, that is unlucky (but thankyou for reminding me to ring up about mine!!!) To be honest I'm sure the one day thing will be enough, alot of people did that and felt the same as they would have done doing the normal ones. I very much doubt that the NCT classes will have a space now, my midwife told me if I wanted to do them to book them as soon as I found out I was pregnant :S
I'm debating wether to go to any at all but I think thats because I'm lazy.. and luckily I have a lovely doula who does all that sort of thing anyway.

Thanks Loopyla will definately have a gander! xx

Mickey FWIW there was a Bowen technique woman who was on my yoga course - Caroline Kremer. She treated me after I knackered my shoulder one morning doing something odd during our yoga class (no idea what) and, frankly, I don't quite understand why or how the Bowen technique works but it was very sore pre treatment and totally un-sore afterwards!

Hi all,

I've been lurking here for a loooong time, but have only just worked up the courage to post - it's my first time on any form of chat room (or whatever they're called)!
I'm pregnant with my first, due October 30th. I live in Japan with my Japanese husband, so some of my pregnancy experiences will probably be very different to UK-based ones, but as it's my first time I suppose I won't know much different!
So far, I've been very lucky and had a completely trouble-free pregnancy. No problems at all really, except crappy heartburn in the evenings now.
I'm getting a bit of a bump (especially after a big dinner), but unfortunately still in normal clothes - desperate to get into some of the maternity stuff I had delivered a couple of weeks ago...
Anyway, I don't know any other pregnant women in real life, and have been getting a bit lonely and homesick since I found out I was pregnant, so I hope to make some new friends on here to go through it all with.
Sorry this was so long for a first post!

Cherrychopsticks, 31, 22+6, 1st DC

Hi Cherrychopsticks

I'm new too (hello ladies and bumps) and due the day before you and also my first baby too :). Lucky you still being so small - I'm not huge yet but in leggings or maternity jeans. I haven't been too sick either but having a very emotional day today!

Ayeasha x

Hi cherry and ayeasha, welcome and congratulations! cherry I've always wanted to go to Japan, and never quite managed it...will do it one day!

Hello fjord, very glad to see you back and hear that all is (mostly) well. We're having to skimp on holidays this year too - feeling very sorry for myself about that!

mickey glad things are going so well with your DP. And can I borrow your dog for a few days, to munch through our slugs?! Also loving the muslims

CWest hope the scan went well!

All those with bump pics - they look so neat! A bit like me last time I can't bear to photograph myself at the mo!

Yomping hope work wasn't too grim considering how tired you felt. I've had a tired day today too.

Slept very badly last night - probably why I felt so tired today! Lots going on here. We've got builders ripping our back garden apart and putting it back together in a nicer form. The garden was a concrete box with some gravel in it (brilliant for toddler DS ), so we're getting rid of all that, laying lawn and patio. Very exciting but very stressful - deciding where exactly things will go, what colour things should be (ok, ok, grass = green, but there's other stuff too!!) etc. And the noise and mess! Had to take DS to someone else's house to nap today, but he didn't sleep well and as a result was a little horror this afternoon. Full on meltdowns in public. And he did FIVE POOS today and as a result has a super sore bum, and resists all nappy changes with lots of kicking, writhing and screaming. My back is killing me!

In more exciting news though, we've bought a new (2nd hand!) car to contain 2 littlies and all their stuff, AND we've bought a double buggy from eBay. We're feeling pretty strapped for cash at the moment!!! Need to sell my car ASAP to pay for the new one!

Yikes, long post. Will leave some room for someone else! I'm off to swallow down my acid reflux as I've run out of gaviscon

LondonMrs re breast feeding and inverted nipples - I'll quote from the LaLeche book.
You can try nursing after you've worked the N out by hand.
There are commercial devices but you can make your own - take a syringe that is slightly larger in diameter than your nipple. Remove plunger and cut off needle end with a serrated knife. Now replace plunger in the 'wrong' end.Now you have a little suction device with a smooth end that you can place over your nipple. Pull out the plunger far enough to draw out the nipple but not so far that it's uncomfortable. Keep the suction up for 1 min - two times through a leisurely rendition of 'Rock a Bye Baby'. If the syringe fills with milk, pull plunger further to keep up suction. Then depress plunger to break suction and quickly offer breast to baby.

Go to a LLL meeting, I found lovely mums there, and they have a library of books you can borrow. The first few days of BF are the hardest and I wish I'd gone before DS was born, I might have fallen into less problems.

Awful day for me today. Creche owner has asked me to remove DS from Creche as he is biting other children. I feel it is because I have complained to her about other issues and it's me she wants rid off, Feels like DS has been expelled, I hate removing him from a familiar place and people because of her animos toward me but I have no choice.

Very busy day at work, patients coming in faster than we could see them, ran around like a mentalist all day, no break no lunch no sitting down, left nearly 2 hours late with some appreciative comments from the nurses at least, massive accident on the way home so took ages to get back and now I'm home and it's nearly time for bed :( Am just making a pot of random veg as boy is out.

Thank god for midwife appointment tomorrow so I have an excuse to duck out early, I am not built for this pace any more and my back hurts like hell.

I used to do masssseeeeve hikes (20-30miles in a day) so very odd for me getting slower... also I can't run any more (I tried about a week ago and managed half a mile and it didn't feel right at all... so I stopped.) I miss stuff like that, it was more for my mental health than physical health really. Thanks for nice comments about my 'proper'! bump, it went through a growth spurt around 25 weeks after starting a bit slow. Reassuring really though has not really grown much last two weeks either. Still just about fitting in all my clothes that don't involve a fitted waist. I don't feel "neat" though, I feel very heavy. Third trimester tomorrow.

lisbeth big ((hug)) for you - you poor thing. Sounds like your DS has been targeted by her, and it sounds incredibly unfair I hope you can resolve the situation in some way that works out best for everyone.

cwest how did it go? Hope you are happy!

lisbeth that is such a shame! Surely she can't just ask him to leave without trying out some strategies to help him stop biting? There is a boy who bites in my ds's nursery and they have provided an extra member of staff to watch him specifically which works really well as far as I know. Is there any room for negotiation? I feel really sorry for you and your son, it doesn't seem fair at all.

londonmrs livvy's advice seems really good to me. I don't have any to add really other than to encourage you to get help if you need it. As I said a while back, I found bf really really hard and my local bf group helped me loads.

Ah man I am knackered and can't be bothered to get on with any of the things I need to do! I just want to go to bed! It is sports day tomorrow so I need to find something blue (that covers the bump!) to support my house and also something waterproof I think!!

Bella age 29 dc 2 24+4 edd 18th oct

I am growing a pink bean!!!!!

Very, very happy, we will have one of each now. DS not do, His response to the news of a new baby sister was "mummy are u tricking me?" Oh dear. Sure he will come around in time.....

Couple of things, apparently my placenta is low so they need to do another scan at 32 weeks to see if that has changed.....apparently that can affect where they make the incision for the c section?

Secondly, was told a few wks ago that I will be sent to oxford to scan the babys heart. Apparently its just a precaution as I was born with a hole in my heart. There has been no mention of abnormalities in the scans I have had do far. Well the letter came through today, and the scan is this Thursday. What's worrying me is the fact that the letter states "we will discuss with you the reasons for this referral when we meet you, and tell you what we have found straight after the scan" does this sound like I should be worried?

On the bright side, my daughter (!) has been kicking me loads and been very active all afternoon :) x

LoopyLa re pain - it does not sound like SPD - that pain is very local at the symphesis pubis. Pain in the buttock is usually either related to the back or sacro-iliac joint. I'm less sure about pain on the outside. Is it worse days you walk a lot?
It could be ilio tibial band and if it is aggravated by walking - it would probably improve with strengthening your gluts muscles. If it is unrelated to walking and just your position in bed you need to position cushions to keep your pelvis in neutral - try a sausage pillow or rolled up bath towel under your waist and a flatish pillow between your knees.
Thanks for hugs ladies - I need them.
Now I am going to ruminate on possible revenges (key her car , break her window , bad mouth her )

Messin' with my baby brings out my homicidal tendencies. I assume I'll be calmer in the morning.

CWest I cannot 'not worry' these days.
BUT the 'reasons' could be anything from your own history to something they saw on a previous scan - not likely, I don't the general scans are that accurate. This sounds like a special scan so it is probably your own history that is leading to this scan.
Then worst case scenario would be that the bean has the same condition but now it is 20 odd years later and I would think there is more they can do to address it.

That said I would probably bloody worry as I am suffering from emotional diarrhea and can't cope with anything today

Is anyone awake???

CWest, congrats on pinkness, one of each is fab! The phrase in your letter sounds like a standard phrase, to be honest, I imagine they put that in all the letters they send out when people have been referred for scans, it doesn't sound like anything specific to you.

Lisbeths, sorry about your DS. Is biting a developmental stage or psychologically linked to anything in particular? My friend's DD had a biting stage, seemed to be linked to worry about them having moved house and she stopped when she felt calmer about that.

Squid, happy third trimester - are you counting it as 29 weeks? I have variously read 27, 28 or 29 - not sure whether to go for 27 because I'm excited about being nearly there or go for 29 because I want to put off being so nearly there . I haven't run for a while but going to gym tomorrow night if it kills me and will try a slow jog and see how I get on. Keep expecting bump to bounce up and down like a huge boob but it doesn't seem to work like that

My bump was bloody ginormous yesterday - we haven't been eating enough veg so dinner on Sunday night was fish with 4 veg - and I was SO bloated and uncomfortable yesterday it was awful. Pilates was really hard - not the exercises so much, just the moving around between them. I felt like a properly pregnant person whose bump is getting in the way of everything, and I hated it :(. Bump has gone down a bit this morning, thank fuck, so it must have been gas from all the veg . It was a sobering heads up for how life will be in a few weeks' time though

Bella, enjoy sports day!

DameFlat, thanks for the good wishes. Work was hideous - wet play, beginning of puberty lessons and a week of being off curriculum last week = extremely hyper children. Add in one tired teacher = a thoroughly shit day . Ah well. I'm out of class today and hopefully tomorrow morning so there is some respite. Excited for you about new garden and new car!

DH is getting into triathlons and predictably has started to make noises about getting a new expensive road bike for the cycling stages. I told him that if he wanted his baby living in a box and occasionally being treated to a new liner for the box as that would be all we could afford, he could go right ahead and buy a new bike . He decided that perhaps his bike is OK for now . Anyone got any good suggestions for how to tame a gadget mad DH who is convinced that every new hobby he discovers needs him to spend a lot of money of equipment? Apart from to take over his finances and give him an allowance?

Have a good day, all :)

Yomping, 37 (and feeling every year of it today), 26 + 4, DC1

Oh, also, what's the forum stance on hypnosis during birth? Does anyone have any views, positive or negative, or any experiences with it? I am interested and have been reading up, and am this far away: ->

lisbethopposite I wish it was 20 yrs later but I will actually be 30 next month Eek!

Hopefully I'm worrying for nothing about this scan on thurs then, and at least I get to see her twice in a week! Wonder if they would mind checking the gender again whilst I'm there?! Was thinking last night I'm still a bit reluctant to go buy anything pink in case they are wrong!!

Morning all

Welcome to all the newbies - we're a lovely supportive bunch so hopefully you'll feel right at home pretty quickly.

Sympathy to all those feeling icky and with general worries.

My little bean has been quite quiet the last few days - keep remembering the balloon theory to stop myself worrying! Still getting movement, just not a lot of it. I do feel that my insides are about to explode - my tummy feels like its straining (only way to describe it is it feels like having an excruciatingly full bladder but it's my whole tummy) but I'm presuming this is just the effect of a growing bean.

On the plus side I now have most of my nursery/baby things. Think the only thing we haven't got yet is a high chair but there's no real rush on that just yet. Am awaiting delivery of a chest of drawers and a new cotbed mattress today - that should be nearly everything and I can start putting clothes out of the way then.

Think I'm starting to get a bit of a bump, but flab is still winning (marginally).

32, 23+2, #1

Morning ladies. I am offically now uncomfortable lying on my back - it does now feel like there is a little baby squishing a vessel which is reassuring, i think if i accidentally end up on my back when asleep, i will just wake up.

Weclome cherrychopsticks and firstbubba, and welcome back fjordmor.

Congrats on your pink bean, CWest, that line in the letter does sound standard and could be meant to reassure you that everything will be explained on the day of the appt. and u will not go home with unanswered questions. Sounds positive that the sonographer didn't have any concerns yesterday when they looked at the heart. Oh dear, it does sound like most of the poor big brothers and sisters are dissapointed with the sex of the bean, except that cute little one sleeping with the picture of the scan.

lisbe, that nursery teacher sounds like a beeyatch and from what other mums on here are saying, it sounds like a common stage for many kiddies, so there must be strategies to address it rather than just expelling him :(

We do have a v. good online physio consultant in lisbe, but everyone with aches and pains should think about getting a referral from your midwife to the physio as u will proably get some manual treatment as well (possibly a massage) :). Not all the discomforts of pregnancy are untreatable.....and preggo yoga is also great!!

So impresed with kyria's organisation....no baby furtniture for us until all walls are painted and floors are laid...which will happen god knows when....

yomping, i have heard lots of good stuff re hynobirthing - i did look into some courses, but they r pretty expensive, and with my low pain threshold, i think i will probably want an epidural at some point...someone did post an interesting link to an online course that was much cheaper and i need to look into more. My antenatal yoga teacher is also a doula and she is really inspiring and when i'm at yoga, i do almost think i could manage labour with some postures and breathing and the birthing pool....but then when i'm on my own, i think 'n'ah, epidural!!!'....but i think that whole approach does have a lot going for it, embarcing your contractions with every one bringing the baby's birth closer, the more 'intense' (not painful ) they are, the more efficiently your body's working and the quicker labor will be etc, etc.
I think it helps remove the fear around labour and gives u strategies to manage the discomfort.