Due in October 2012 - Part 5

[Kyyria]

Just starting us off on a new thread

Evening all, thanks so much for your thoughts and reassurance. I rang the Fetal Medicine Centre today to see if a 3D scan would tell me anymore than I already know. They were really helpful and a consultant called me back within the hour. Basically she also said that I should try not to worry, that another scan at this stage won't help and all I can do is wait. She was fairly positive about potential outcome. Next scan at 24 weeks so not long to wait.

I think the things to watch for now are restricted growth and pre term labour So I really know how you feel Angelico - we go go crackers together. I have been having cramps already so now I think I will be convinced it is pre term labour every time I have them. Going to try and remain positive as for now the baby is healthy and happy and growth is on track. I may act like a crazy person every now and then though. ShellweDance I hope you didn't look at any Google images for Amniotic Bands - no pregnant woman should look at that kind of thing and expect to stay rational. Awful images. I wish I hadn't bloody seen them.

I finally told DD. It was the sweetest response ever. She is still on a high 3 days later and taking the scan picture to bed with her so she can look after her 'sister' not quite getting the hang of the fact that the sister could in fact be a boy. She eventually says 'or brother' but kind of under her breath and then insists she doesn't mind.

On the piles v fissures front I would have a guess that piles you can often feel on the outsides but fissures more internal. OK i have no idea

Anyway I best get my tired arse to bed. I am also in a food coma after way too much Thai food. Sleep well one and all.

Have felt very little from my bean...until today when the little one has gone absolutely nuts!! How can you go from feeling nothing (or very little) to being pummeled from the inside within the space of a few days??

Really enjoying it Still feeling tired and cranky though!

31, 19+5, #1

Hi all,

Seems like its not just me on the grumpy front then, I ve been in a FOUL mood this week and not always sure why...
Will start off with some good for a change.....we have FINALLY found a house and have had an offer accepted :). It needs some internal decoration, and the garden is just one big overgrown shrub (anyone know the quickest and nose effective way to get rid of ivy up the side of a house?) Byt seeing as there is no chain on either side we should be in fairly quickly. MIL has gone ape, saying we can't possibly complete everything before baby is here, the alleyway down the side of the house is full of rubbish so all the neighbours must be scum etc etc etc. She fails to see the lovely kitchen and bathroom, and the fact that we will be moving in with my parents until work is completed. Apparently she went home and cried after she saw the house as its bit good enough for her son, he always settles for second best (excuse me????) And deserves better. This coming from a woman who cheated on his dad, moved her new boyfriend in to her parents with her and my hubby (who was 8) within days, then always took her boyfriends side when him and my hubby had conflict. She then married this man and they had their own daughter who is the blue eyed angel. She gets everything she wants and more, has HUNDREDS of pounds spent on her at Christmas and birthdays (my hubby gets £10 in a card) and she still slept in the same bed as her mum when she was 16!!!!!!!! Their house is covered with photos of her, and NOT ONE of my hubby, even on our wedding day....aaaarrrgghh I actually hate them!
Oh and later this week she phoned up to say she's heard the man next door to the house we are buying has a conviction for sexual assault and his kids are junkies. Which if it is true then fair enough thanks for the warning but at this point I flipped and said I didn't need this stress all I want to do is concentrate in being pregnant but I can't do that coz all I'm getting is hassle about the bloody house!! Rant over.....Phew!
As if I wasn't stressed enough, I'm 19 wks tomorrow with baby no.2 and iv barely felt any movement at all, slight flutters that I even think I'm imagining, no definate kicks at all. Should I be worried?

Oh so very delighted for you cwest !! Brilliant news to get a house!!! As for MIL...........! What can we say?! Silly cow. Hardly deserves your wasted energy chicken! You concentrate on your own lovely growing family! Pinch of salt...... As for lack of moving bean. I can only say I am 22 weeks today and have had a few evenings over last 2 weeks of def kicks but mostly still just the odd oddness! MW said can be 23-24 wks sometimes.

What is it about us all torturing selves with new homes?? We renovating DH house, we only married 1.5 yrs and had own houses. He doing majority of work by self. Unemployed builder, great. Income, none, shitty! But so many delays and hiccups and disasters. Planned to be in 6 months ago, only starting to plaster this week! Hope upOn hope to move late August, baba due 13th October. Trying not to freak! Need this house rented as am self employed too and no wages while off!! Oh god oh GOD. Another setback will finish me!

Any wonder I'm awake since 6.30?!

Hopefully we all feel less grumpy and less tired this weekend. Def must be a timing thing. Funny how hitting so many at once. I most certainly need some energy to try and sort so much!

Whine over. Happy Saturday all!

Hi All

Congrats on the house Cwest - that's great news. I agree with huffle as regards your delightful sounding MIL - definitely not worth your energy, especially when trying to grow a bean.

Just checking in quickly to say that 20 week scan went well yesterday - all healthy and growing well as far as they can tell. We're having a girl-flavoured bean it seems :o Let the Great Name Debate begin!

Feeling a little bit tired after the excitement of yesterday (and having to be at work this morning ), but have a lovely afternoon with my closest friend lined up so am really looking forward to that and hoping I'll be able to keep my eyes open.

Hope you all have lovely weekends!

Hello! Hope all are doing well today. I've spent ages trying to catch up with you all and have fingers crossed for people buying houses, worrying about scan results, dealing with crappy in-laws, and feeling generally grumpy.

I don't feel grumpy as much as tired and anxious. Having a relaxing day today, managed to sleep till 7, cuddles and breakfast and wandered around the shops but it was rainy and I only ever end up buying things from charity shops it seems like. At what point are people going to or have people bought the "proper" stuff? I have about 5 bodysuits and 3 sleep suits now, I think I read somewhere you need 7 of each. I need another storage/chest of drawers type thing as ours are overflowing already, and there is a local sling library I'm going to go to so I can try out some slings. I am in two minds whether to buy a cot as I want to sleep baby in my bed, but not sure if I should get a cot anyway as a backup.... Boyfriend will sort out car seat in a few weeks time, and I'm going to buy some reusable nappies online, I've found the ones I want but I can't seem to commit to buying them! My boyfriend insisted on buying an orca soft toy from a charity shop even though I have re-located (and actually washed!) my 30 year old teddy which I hope little squid will love just as much as I did... he was so cute about it, kept saying "an orca! for squid!"

Also I just wanted a plain black cardi but as it is bloody June no one is selling any.

I tried to run yesterday and couldn't, that was a bit crap. Well I ran about half a mile and got breathless so I stopped. Is this where the heavy/awkward/slow stage starts?? I get some back ache but only first thing in the morning. I'm nearly 25 weeks now. I can still hike up steep hills ok.

I think my bump looks quite nice but I can't work out how to dress it. What do people find works for them? All my clothes have to be tightly fitted now... up until last week if I wore loose stuff I looked more or less the same as pre-pregnant, but all of a sudden now I look like a whale in anything loose and flowing, and not all of my tightly fitted stuff is stretchy so that's useless. ISn't the changing body weird... I feel lovely sometimes, and other times just huge, I stress about being too big quite regularly! 25 week appt very soon so I guess we shall see!

OMG they've done it again my in laws really are PATHETIC!!!
Hubbys step dad had offered to come and check out the house with us today and hubbys mum was going to look after our 4 yr old.
Hubby works nights, so had a bit of a lay in, then we had to go food shopping. So we were half hr late leaving to take our son to their house. By which point MIL is on the phone saying hubbys step dad is fed up waiting for us so he's not coming to look at the house now as he works nights and its his only day off so he doesn't want to waste it waiting around for us......hubby basically told them to go screw themselves haha.
It's not actually funny though coz our 4 yr old got upset he wasn't going to nannys and kept asking if he'd been naughty. Felt so bad for him and said to hubby they needn't start messing my son around or they can say goodbye to their grandkids. Not that I think they would care anyway, they always say they are gonna take him out and never do so I'm through with them now arrrgggghhh!!!

Hello everyone,
Can sympathise on the house thing - we are currently planning to sell ours which means trying to do massive amounts of decluttering... How on earth have we managed to accumulate so much stuff! Trying to be ruthless and assume that if we haven't used it / looked at it for a year or two then we probably don't need to keep it. Lots going to charity shops from our house!
My bump is looking enormous at the moment, think its because I'm small ( only about 4 ft 11) so there's nowhere for the bump to go but out! Leggings and long tops are my friend at the moment, like the long tops because it means I don't have to buy special maternity stuff that I won't use for more than a few weeks.
Also getting the tired and anxious thing. Back to work on Monday after having half term off and then a few days off sick before that so has actually been nearly 2 weeks away from work. Nervous about going back and feeling weirdly tearful half the time - even though theres nothing wrong whatsoever!

CWest Did you phone ahead and say your were running late? Not being funny but if someone turned up 30mins late on me without letting me know I'd be cross too!

Sympathies to those whose scans have caused anxiety, have horrible in laws, are feeling grumpy or are having house renno/selling/buying dramas. We can't find a tiler, which means after over 2 weeks with no kitchen and living off microwave meals, we may have to delay the delivery for at least another week :( Thank god we're going out for a proper meal tonite! I just can't believe how unfit i feel. I walked to the end of my street this morning, caught the bus to the library, got dropped off out the front, came home again, went to a pregnancy yoga class at the end of my street, which was very relaxing, but not really a work out and then just walked to the park which is about 15 mins away, went for a quick wander around, had a rest at my insistence and walked home and i feel like i've run the london marathon!! I can't figure out if it's just the exta weight or the pregnancy in general....squid, my preggers uniform is long tops that gather under the boobs so i have some sort of shape, other than ball on legs shape, with leggings, or maxidresses that gather under the boobs. After bigging up h&m's mat jeans, can i just say that they are actually crap and dont stay up!

Beccus re: baggy jeans, is there any way you can use an elasticated belt to help keep them up?

Ah it's laaaaate here in Norway but I just finished my article and hads lots of people I wanted to comment on & not sure I'll get the chance tomorrow...

To all those with house excitement/woes, I'm in the flat selling/house hunting club too. Have had to face facts recently that we may have to bring baby back into the tiny flat but we're trying to make sure we're in a position to move by the time she's 2 months max - so before Xmas basically. I'm even trying to sell my flat from another country which is heaps of fun. Can't wait to upsize from 50m2 to over 200m2 :) The thought of that keeps me going!!

Beeblebear -the best way to tell the difference is um...the doctor's finger. Haemorrhoids can usually be felt but it's very hard to 'feel' a fissure.

Gucci - we all have these meltdowns sometimes - you must have needed it.

squid - still squeeing at how cute your nephew was :)

Angelico - Big sympathy back about the acid. I do feel for you with your cervix-related worries.

midget - your DD's response was soooo sweet! :) I'm not surprised you're so worried either but I do hope you can find some relaxation before your 24 week scan.

CWest & dosomethingmutley Congrats on your scans! :) CWest Your in-laws sound like a nightmare. Try not to give them more headspace than they deserve.

DameFlat - that was very sensible advice re the name! :) I think the next person I'll talk to about it will be DP & I'll try to resist any pressure from others to give them a preview and an opinion!

bella - I did have lots of feet up time in the end, got my article done (just) and actually, after my pre-emptive grumble, the DSDs have been fine and in fact, quite sweet so now I feel like the big bad stepmum! (although DSD2 was a bit mean about a fart the baby accidentally let out...). Sorry to hear about your gran. I lost my dad last year after multiple strokes and brain bleeds so I know from the misery of stroke. Sounds like your gran has had a fairly mild one hopefully. Her speech may well return somewhat with speech therapy. I hope she has some home therapies on board.

Right...better drag DP to bed as we're always very late risers when we're here at my father-in-laws and get chastised and metaphorically put on the naughty step when we finally come down (missing breakfast is a big crime in this house as FIL goes to a lot of trouble). But I exaggerate a bit - FIL is lovely but once a school master... ;) (have just found out I can't do square brackets on his Norwegian keyboard :()

Thanks for acid sympathy Fjord - I heated up the other half of Chinese from last night for tea and am now dying of heartburn. DYING I tell ya!!! Not prone to hyperbole at all :o

Also sympathy about the flat sale thing. Don't know why we are all collectively in process of moving but we are doing massive work to new house, still living in old house which will need sold. Cannot be arsed with it at all.

Right, going to go and glug some Gaviscon and head to bed here. Night peeps x

Thanks for the support about my Gran, fjord and so sorry to hear that about your Dad. Her speech keeps coming and going so we don't really know how severe it is. I am hoping she will be persuaded to go to hospital this week for a brain scan so that the damage can be assessed, but even that will be the most almighty ordeal for her. So worrying. I just don't want her to suffer.

Went to my friend's 30th last night which was brilliant. It was a 20's theme and she transformed our village hall into an art deco palace! 20's is also a great theme for accomodating a bump! I had a great loose fitting flapper dress and didn't feel at all self-conscious. Our friends are in a band which is doing really well so they played and everyone danced. And I tried... i really TRIED to do some totally sober bump dancing but didn't last that long. Plus I still get ligament pain most nights after lifting DS in and out of the car etc, so didn't think dancing around would help that much.

cwest I am so sorry your in-laws are being so un-supportive. It sounds like you have such a lot going on and could just do with a bit of encouragement and support instead of tantrums and arguments. Even if they were cross that you were late, you would think they would still want to see your DS. They must know how hard it is to break an arrangement with a little one. Are your own parents nearby? Hope you have some support elsewhere.

squid sounds like you are doing really well on gathering all your baby stuff. Don't forget that you will get loads of things as gifts when the baby is here. People are extremely generous for first babies, even people you hardly know! We got 74 cards when DS was born from all sorts of people! Was overwhelming but really kind. As for the cot- I would say get one. our DS is still in his as it is a cotbed and now in it's bed form (which is so cute!) but we plan to make it a cot again before the baby arrives as it is a safe place to put the baby when you need to shower or something like that. With a nice mobile on, it gives a lovely, safe place for baby to be occasionally. I have a bad back so found the changing mat that fitted over the top a lifesaver too as it saved me from crouching on the floor every 5 minutes.

Hope everyone has a nice Sunday planned!

Age 29 bump-21 weeks+3 edd 18th Oct

Bella 2012 and everyone else who supported thank you.
Have decided I'm not going to waste another minuite on those people, its just not worth the hassle. My own parents are fantastic, my dad is out the door and in the car on his wat to help before the phone has even stopped ringing. Day or night, nothing is too much of a problem for them, and they are fantastic with our 4 yr old, will babysit whenever we need them etc. Wouldn't really expect anything else, they were foster caters for 25 years and adopted me when I was 4. They've given me the best life I could ever have asked for and they have always supported me in everything. I literally owe them my life :) they've also been away for the last 2 wks on hols so I think I'm missing them a bit.
Am v annoyed with DH today....last nite he said he was popping up to the new house to see how quiet it is on a sat nite, any trouble etc. An hour later I ring him up and he's in the pub....not impressed! He works nights so I'm always on my own which I LOATHE and he knows it! Fair enough if it was a one-off but he did exactly the same last Saturday! Then this morning I thought he might at least let me lay in as I'm up EVERY day with DS but no he's still snoring his frigging head off and later hell be back down the pub.....jeez had enough of this :-(

Hi I'm new here and due on Oct 25th, so i just thought i would say Hi. I have my 2o weeks scan in a couple of weeks (which will actually be at 22 weeks) when we will find out if it is a boy or a girl, so that is very exciting. I don't really know many people at work and don't really det out much as I have a toddler so i don't really know too many people to talk abotu pregnancy too, my DH is great but i think even he is getting tired of hearing my trapped wind woes, it's not doing much to keep the magic alive!!

Hello hzgreen ! Well you have come to the best place then! Talk about your pregnancy all you wish!! Welcome. X

Apologies if I continually do not reference or reply. I mostly do this on a phone and I cannot really scroll back v well to see who said what but I am reading, thinking and supporting you all. X

So delighted this morn to lie in but is after a v late night. Was at surprise anniversary party for a cousin. Lots of family, lots of bump touching.......! Bump really only just appearing and is quite freaky for so many people to rub me.......!

Was a cousin's wife there who is due in 2 weeks, looks beautiful and massive. But I was really grossed out by her belly button poking through top...... It was actually size of 2 v large marshmallows....... Will this happen to us all or is that extreme?! Did not want to ask her and be rude as hardly know!!!!

And I know we have got cross at before but if I heard it once...... Oh your life will never be the same...... Well, obviously!

Have a nice Sunday all. I plan v little!

34, 22+1

welcome hzgreen :) Just went to a lovely antenatal yoga class, much etter than yesterdays - the teacher and their approach makes such a difference! However, after everyone there told me how lovely the st mary's birthing centre is, i horrifed them all by telling them i was planning an epidural! There were actually gasps! I bumped into my bikram teacher at the other antenatal class yesterday, and didn't have the balls to say anything when she assumed i was planning a natural, active birth, but i have now decided to 'come out' :)
Thx loopyla, my jeans are much better with a belt - i dont think my pregnancy brain would have come up with such a good idea :)

Have just returned from a trip to the cinema to watch Prometheus. I can say that watching alien based chest/abdomen bursting scenes whilst my own little alien was pummeling me was quite disconcerting!

Mural Wall

Yay! Mom and I got the mural wall up in the soon to be nursery. Getting a little bit done each weekend.

But I DO NOT want to have to stand up or sit down one more time today! My hips are paying for it!

Hope you all are well.. I'll have a bit of a catch up later.

Welcome hzgreen

Beccus I had to use the same tactic on my linen trousers...back when we had a sunny day once!

Also love the judging over what your birth plan might be - I'm sorry but I was mistaken that it's our bodies that's going through all this crap, symptoms & pain??? Surely, therefore, it is our decision what WE decide to do?

35, 20+1 (wooohooo, halfway done!!!), dc#1

Hii everyone- its taken me about 3 days to catch up with you all- my my you have all been busy!
I have had the most relaxing holiday ever with my lovely Mum, who is getting so excited for this baby- I had no idea she would be such a budding nanny!!
We had a major scare the night &before I went though and ended up in A&E for 5/6 hours with DP. I thought I was going into labour :( and it was horrible. Awful awful pains and they made me sit there for 4 hours before I was even examined. I was then told that they wouldn't scan the baby to make sure it was Ok and did I want to wait another 5 hours for the gynae to tell me they can't explain the pains? Umm no thankyou!! Honestly- I thought being pregnant counted for something- apparently they just let you get on with it now.
Luckily everything was fine and the pain stopped when I got to Corfu- the baby started kicking me half way through the holiday so I gather it is OK. Seems to be very lazy though, a couple of kicks then thats it!! -... I think its still on its sun lounger in the hope that I will go and find the sunshine again

Hope you are all well, and coping with pains, PIL's (Thank the lord I am so lucky with mine), house moves (know your pain), and general fed-upness. I'm really not enoying being pregnant. I know it will all be worth it- and the kicks this week have been absolutely lovely but I'm so fed up of being tired and having to sit down every half hour and having to remember to slow down and not lift things (Which at work is quite difficult), and remembering what I'm supposed to be doing and remembering what I'm not supposed to be doing. I haven't taken folic acid since I was about 11 weeks. Oops. Am I supposed to be drinking 2 pints of milk a day? or is that just crap?!

Congrats to those who have had healthy scans and know what team they are in- mine is tuesday 19th so not long now- hooray!

20, 18+4, #1..

Happy (soggy) Monday ladies :)

Welcome HZ feel free to moan away we do it on a daily basis!!

CWest just bloody ignore your stupid outlaws!! They sound incredibly selfish & people in glass houses shouldnt throw stones n all that!! Take some solice in the knowledge that as your DS gets older he will realise what they are like & will more than likely distance himself & wont be bothered by them.Kids are quite whiley like that!!

Had busy wkend hence my silence,had hen do at the races Sat followed by dinner out after which killed me but had good time,so was like a dead thing most of yesterday especially as had a crappy nights sleep that night so bit the bullet & bought a body pillow yesterday & had an amazing nights sleep last night!!

Hope all you lovely ladies have a nice day & our grumpiness has subsided :)

Hi everyone, trying to keep up but it really is difficult, and I can never remember everything I've read to respond to!
So just a couple that stuck out!

squid I@m dressing bump in a mix of things at the moment, though definitely prefer how I look in tight fitting things (even though it makes me look way more pregnant). I have some loose fitting dresses, tops that I'm finding look better now that bump is getting bigger and you can see there is a bump underneath rather than them just hanging there making me look fat. For you loose things I would keep trying them every couple of weeks and you'll probably find they start to look better.

Huffle I was going to ask if anyone's belly button had popped out yet...mine has been threatening to for a few weeks but hasn't yet, although it is definitely stretched - the bottom hole from my old belly button piercing is now definitely visible from the front rather than underneath. I know a friend who had a tight fitting dress on at a wedding while pregnant and taped hers down with plasters so it didn't look to wierd. I hope that if it does pop out it isn't the size of two marshmallows though!

I'm doing ok, though definitely having to take things easier, and getting quite uncomfortable by the end of the day, and especially at night - despite my thermaline maternity pillow or "the slug" as DH calls it. Finding it really difficult just to stay on my left side all night and having to alternate, which is more difficult with a big pillow - resulting in me nearly knocking DH out in the middle of the night.

Baby is moving lots, and enjoying kicking my bladder, and I also think I've started to feel Baxton Hicks...very tight and uncomfortable feeling especially in the lower half of my bump that lasts 15 - 30 secs - anyone else getting them yet.

Less than three months left at work befoer I start Mat leave....that is going to fly by!

Hope everyone is well

22 & 6, 33, DC1

Two of my colleagues just went into great detail about their birth horror stories that apparently left them both traumatised. Freaked the tits off me. Don't know why they bother to tell me these things.
Is it wrong that I just assume that it will all be fine? I'm assuming I will be birthing a 7lb baby in a candlelit room with tinkly music and my hubby gazing lovingly at me for the whole 2 hours it takes. Then we'll take home our beautiful baby who will rarely cry and always sleep through the night.
Planning for it to go wrong seems counter-productive to me. Placebo effect is a powerful thing and if I believe it is going to be the most awful experience of my life, it probably will be. Obviously I am aware complications can arise- but how can you possibly plan for this? The baby will come out one way or another, and I figure I might as well be optimistic, be aware of the possibilities and keep an open-mind about whatever arises on the day.

Rant over.