Due in October 2012 - Part 5

[Kyyria]

Just starting us off on a new thread

LondonMrsS Hurray for team pink. I am going to not drink until I am on the way as terrified of having to hold it in. At 12 weeks I had to half empty it as they said it was too full (no pleasing some folk). Thank god for regular Pilates as that would have been a challenge just after having DD.

Kyria Bumps come at different times. I have had mine for ages but this isn't my first pregnancy so my uterus is 'slack' Charming description and pops out easily. I think with my first I didn't really have a proper bump until about 24 weeks and then it could be easily disguised. It means you have strong stomach muscles and uterus and this is a good thing. Of course it also means you don't get a seat on the tube but swings and roundabouts.

Welcome back Fjord we have missed you.

Well I have my long awaited 20 week scan today. NERVOUS. Will tell DD tonight if all goes well EXCITED. Pretty certain i am not going to find out the sex, I am a bit old fashioned that way but may crack when I am under the probe. DH really doesn't want to know. We found the excitement of not knowing really helped with the last stages of labour. maybe we are odd but the excitement of finding out spurred me on with those last few pushes. Yes I am weird

Anyway best go and limber up mentally and have a drink so I don't come out black and blue like poor MrsS

Hello ladies,

I haven't posted for a while but have been lurking and keeping up with all your news... it's so nice to feel there is this little online community... And I am so happy that everyone seems to be doing so well and the babies too

All fine with us, we had the scan last week and confirmed that we're having a girl. I am beginning to get very excited, MIL too as she has three boys.. also DH was able to feel her kick for the first time a few days ago which was really nice, he seems to be getting more into it. Up until now he's been more about practical stuff instead of emotional but he is a man after all so I shouldn't expect too much

I'm still having a crazy hormonal time though, some days I really feel great and others like today I feel distinctly depressed.. and nothing seems to relieve it. I am trying to work out if I was like this before or if it really is the hormones or if there is something deeper to worry about.. it's probably nothing.

anyway enough rambling perhaps I should just get on with my work.. might at least occupy my worrying mind.

Have a good day..

xxx

We are off to Paris today!!! And it's DH's birthday and I am in the good books as I got him a metal Predator sculpture from a local shop that he really likes - brownie points!! He got a birthday kick from wriggly bean this morning too.

I'm so looking forward to a break but worried about all the walking as the bump is starting to feel a bit "strained" when I walk - not around the pelvis area, more on top which makes it hard to take a full breath, and my feet hurt after too much time spent on them now. I bought a support band from Babies R Us yesterday, and some foot massage cream hoping that helps.

Hi to all, I hope everyone has a good few days.

Yomping, 22+5, DC1

Just wanted to introduce myself. Hello!

I?ve lurked up to now but now decided to bite the bullet and say something? just realized I don?t have much to say though. Never mind. Due in October with my first. Hope everybody is tiptop and happy? :o

Welcome violet Well done you for de-lurking, and congratulations on your first little one!

Doesn't really matter if you don't feel you have anything to say; it doesn't seem to have stopped many of us :o

Hi everyone and welcome to violet.

Hope everyone had fab jubilee weekends. My DF survived his first-ever visit to my parents (he'd met them lots before, but mostly in small doses at my sister's house, not A Long Weekend in their house) so that's great. My sister had also left us LOADS of baby stuff down there (buggy and car seat and cot etc) so we're feeling relieved and glad as with trying to buy a new house, money is going to be very tight for a while. Incidentally, does anyone know if the old Phil & Ted Buggy (bought in 2004) will fit the new peanut attachment so that I can have the baby facing me?

Bump seems to have expanded rapidly over the weekend (cake or baby? Humnnnn) so more in the Noticeably Pregnant vs I ate too much curry type of stomach. But Kyrria even in the gym changing room this morning a girl didn't clock it as a preg belly as opposed to just belly. The smaller belly is undoubtedly more practical but I find all the sideways "she HAS let herself go" glances a bit annoying!

I also did my first preg swim over the weekend which I was a bit embarrassed about as I've not been able to find a preg tankini in the right bra size so was brazenly flashing my belly about! It was really rather lovely to be supported in the water so I think I'll be doing that again.

And today I had the FAB news of my best friend's 12 weeks scan going well (it's an IVF bean and therefore much much wanted and long awaited). I was more nervous for her than I was for mine! My 20 wk scan is not til the 18th June which feels like a very long way away but actually only about 10 days which is cool. I've still not felt any movements yet so the scan will be a good bit of reassurance. LondonMrsS I shall take note re full bladder!

36, 18+6, #1

Hello violet - I agree with mutley, his post just tends to be a stream of consciousness!

Am I allowed to be grumpy today?

Huge thunder storm last night. Loudest lightening I have EVER heard. But if that wasn't bad enough, our power went out. Which would be ok ssince we were in bed, but our smoke detectors are hard wired in, and chirp loudly every 15 seconds to let you know they have no power. Wtf is that!?!

Then I had really grumpy dreams.

Hey peeps. So tired today, woke up at just after 5 (didn't get to bed until midnight) and am now unusually grumpy Not helped by fact that after a relatively trouble free fortnight I am feeling that horrible 'pressure' feeling on cervix again like bean is lying low. In fairness I did go to the loo in work and had to 'push a bit' which probably didn't help. Is anyone else getting this feeling? Just like the bean is lying with blinking head on your cervix?

I really don't want to go back to doc or anything but if it is still there tomorrow I probably will. The awful thing is I keep thinking, "If I can get to 24 weeks... 27 weeks... 29 weeks... then there's a chance!" :( :( :(

22+5

And welcome Violet and hello again Liege :) We're not usually this grumpy, honest.

I'm joining in with the grumpiness...WHEN AM I GOING TO START FEELING LIKE I'M BLOOMING, RATHER THAN JUST BLOOMING GROTTY???

I am so fed up of feeling sick, headachy and generally crap. Have got a friend visiting tomorrow so had this afternoon off to clean before she arrives tomorrow lunchtime. Have been asleep on the settee since 3pm, have a stonking headache, just want to ho to bed and haven't made a dent on sorting out the guest room.

I know it will all be worth it but just want to feel half decent again!

Must be a timing thing as I too am grumpy and exhausted!! In bed last night at 9, wrecked in work all day, and so not impressed to be going out with some friends tonight for dinner at 8!! Oh and i usually love to catch up. I could cry. Well, i might actually. Told SIL was feeling wrecked today, perhaps baba having major growth spurt, and she said maybe that's the energetic bit over and i'll be tired now for next 10 years!!!!! Surely i get more than 2 weeks energy in 2nd trimester?! So, sorry for grumbles and rant.......:)

Welcome newbies, i too am quite new and infrequent!

Growing dramatically. Tunic on today that last worn about 3 weeks ago. Holy moly, tummy can see around corners..... And bellybutton going funny.... Do they always pop out?? That thought grossing me out a bit.....

Off to energise myself for dinner out. I can do it!!

34, 21+4

Hi violet! congrats on your little lady, londonmrs :) omg, my scan really hurt, too! Sorry to hear your r worried about your cervix, angelico, that must be really stressful. Sometimes i can feel movements really low down and they worry me a bit momentarily- i always think, how can i feel anything there unless baby is trying to come out, but luckily baby doesn't. Does anyone else get that? It must be horrible to be stressing about that constantly. Felt movements above my tummy and under my ribs for the 1st time today - baby is growing :)
good to hear from you, fjordmor and about your sociable bean - my bean is going to be a lazy couch potatoe like me - the 24 theme music seems to really get baby going, and it also wriggles about when i am in bed at night :)
yomping, u just need to explain that you can't walk around as much as you normally would, and need extra frequent rest/pee/food/beverage stops in cafes and restaurants :) v. jealous, have a lovely time!!

Hi all,
Took me a while to read up.
Gigglewhizz My DH kinda forgot my birthday this year, but we are not a big birthday family so I did not mind. I mostly forgot my self. I am too tired to go anywhere anyway.
When he is really busy and working long hours though I always feel that he is doing it for us (him, me, DS and bean). It is our financial security. It is not like he is in the pub.

WantanOrange if DS is happy DO NOT TAKE HIM OUT OF SCHOOL. You have not posted re the school in a while so perhaps things have settled but he sounds like a completely unprofessional twat. You will get some wise advice on some Mumsnet boards - AIBU has some very sage responses. A tip from me, make a written note of anything he says over the 'phone or in a meeting. You can then e-mail him back something like 'I have reflected on our conversation of ....My understanding is that you feel...' Is he much more hostile in person than he is prepared to put in writing? - I doubt he would write some of the things he seems to be prepared to say.

Marie Poor you. Hope you are better.

Yomping on trip to romantic city.

Must go and get my Gaviscon - feeling very unromantic!!

Still feeling grotty :) but currently being kicked in the bladder so that makes up for it :)

31, 19+3, #1

My bellybutton seems to be stretching sideways. It's starting to look like a sideways bum crack.

Hello everyone!

I seem to swing from grumpy to ecstatically happy from minute to the next! Good for keeping DP on his toes

I had a delivery of baby clothes this morning so currently feeling very happy indeed.
Anyone else started buying much yet? Since I found out we're having a girl there's been no stopping us! 17 baby grows and counting... Also got the buggy and other bits at the weekend, never done so much shopping in my life!

Morning,

Sorry I've been a bit of a poster and runner. I have been lurking for all your news but find it such a pain to post on the phone.

Had my 20 week scan and everything's fine! So happy. Didn't find out the sex although am now wishing we had after seeing all the cute baby stuff in the shops. As a bonus I'm getting scanned again next week as they're training sonographers at my hospital. They're going to scan me for an hour!

Gigglewhizz, sorry about your birthday, I'd be really upset too. I always feel a bit disappointed by presents from DP as he always gets things which he thinks are 'cool' (last year I got a bike basket, which I did want but not necessarily for birthday). Add in the pg hormones and it's just a minefield!

Angelico, not getting that feeling but at the scan the lady told me that my baby was lying very low and it's quite usual at this stage because they haven't realised how much room they have above them .

Yomping SO jealous about Paris, hope you're having a lovely time. Am DYING for a holiday. Have 3 weeks left of teacher training and then I really hope we can go away but funds are going to be ridiculously tight so we'll see.

Midget, how was your scan? I remember us being the same day.

Have to stop procrastinating and do some planning so better be off but will be a bit more regular now!

Hello to all the newbies and hugs to everyone feeling grumpy or having tough time. and for everyone this week I think!

I've not been posting as I'm in the midst of megabusy period at work, and finding it tougher than I thought, which makes me feel like a total wimp. I'm trying really hard not to be as 'up and about' as usual but nonetheless am feeling really rough, especially in the mornings :(
Some questions/worries for you wise ladies:

• anyone else getting really sore hips and back in bed, sore enough to wake me by 4am ish? I've tried sleeping with pillow between knees but it seems to go astray overnight, and turning over with it hurts my back even more! Any suggestions please...?
• this week, whenever I cycle or even walk for more than a couple of mins, I get a really sharp pain on lower right side of bump. I stopped cycling as soon as it happened but it even happens when walking. Should I be worrying?

I'm also really grumpy as I told my boss about being pregant waaaaaaaay back in April, and she still hasn't advertised my maternity cover. So the chances of getting someone in to start before I go on mat leave are looking increasingly slim (most people in my sector have 3 month notice period). I know it's not my problem, but I can't help being increasingly annoyed by it, and frankly even less motivated at work.

Right, time to give self a kick, tell myself to get over it as I'm in a very lucky position compared with lots of people with much more serious worries. I'll try to get brain into gear and do something productive today.

Oh and belated happy birthday giggle. Any other Geminis on here? Mine's next week, not expecting anything from DH as he took me to a gig in February as early b'day present.

LondonMrsS and Hufflepuff, my tummy button is slowly getting more and more shallow - despite me determinedly poking it in each night as I can't bear the thought of an outie!

Can I join the tired corner? Woke up this morning - showered, dressed, ate breakfast, brushed teeth and then went back to bed to a nap!! Still feeling exhausted (and fed up with the weather). Off for a spot of lunch having eaten my lunch sandwiches as soon as I made it to the office .

Had a lovely time on Saturday evening going through baby stuff that a friend has saved from her pregnancy (kid is now 6 years old so she's been holding on for me for a long time!).

Fjordmor I saw you on the language thread, I'm in a similar position. At the moment it will be english at home, dutch at creche but need to fit in French there as well somehow. I know that there are a few others on this thread living in Belgium - what's your plan??

I'm in awe of those of you who have started purchasing. I find the whole travel buggy thing overwhelming and don't even get me started on reusable nappies (anyone else for Fuzzibuns? did I really just type Fuzzibuns??).

Ho hum - better get back to work-stuff......... a long time to go before maternity leave kicks in...!

Lisbeth I have a thread Here about DS. I didn't want to harp on about my problems on this thread and bring everyone down.

Can I join in the moaning too please?

Slept crap on Tues night & felt rubbish yesterday...then went to bed early last night as was feeling very ropey and only managed a few hours sleep! WHY? WHY? WHY does this happen???

Earlier on I had a really bad leg cramp from my bottom all the way down to my foot and I was literally paralysed for several minutes which was highly embrarrassing as I'm in the work office . I'm going to start doing leg stretches to help counteract these (9 or 10 years ago I got regular night leg cramps but hadn't had them since although I know pregnancy can trigger them) but does anyone have any other tips?

MrsConfusion I also get sore hips every night - have to keep turning over but it really disturbs my sleep. Plus turning over triggers leg cramp so would love to hear if anyone has any suggestions for you!

Kyyria massively of your bladder being kicked I felt a little 'nudge' the other night when I was pressing down quite firmly on my belly but felt nothing since.

35, 19+4, dc#1

Hello,

Also exhausted and terribly tearful.. not sure what has brought that on, I had to stop the car on the way to work as all became too much... I wonder how long these ups and downs will last (I am afraid it might be like this forever)

velo We're planning on a trilingual upbringing...(!) English from me German from DH and French in the creche.. I have also heard of other ways of throwing in an extra language by speaking in that language while doing a certain regular thing like bath time or in the car or so on.. might be a way of fitting french into the mix. I seriously wonder how it will be in practice, DH and I speak English together and my German is hopeless so he will have to make a lot of effort but he works long hours so I wonder how much actual German speaking time there will be for the baby.. though I am also trying to learn so perhaps we can both learn together also to keep the MIL happy - this is her top bone of contention at the moment that I can't speak German (as if I didn't have enough on my plate).

Did you find a creche? We are still on the hunt but it is going quite well (I think there is a lot of scaremongering out there about the lack of places) though Brussels might be quite different with the huge Ex-pat community... to me they seem quite good quality and not too expensive compared to UK anyway..

Take good care of yourselves..

28, 19+6 DC1

Liege07 I did a course on speech and language development and was told that parent's should always speak to their children in the language they are most confident in at home and in their 'common' language together. Apparently this is the best way to teach a child to be multi-lingual, so your plan sounds good!

hello ladies- how are you all? i havent been on here in a couple of months and it looks like the thread has been reallly busy. i have tried to read as many posts as i can but i am meant to do working! :) i was just wondering if i could ask you if anyone has had sharp pains in the tummys? like cramps but sharp and painfull and they last for short periods of time? mine come on when i go walking. and tend to stop once i sit down for a few minutes. i just had to go to hospital because i was worried but they couldnt see anything wrong with me. sorry if you have covered this before but any insight of advice or similar experiences would really help.

30, 23 weeks