May be Babies - The Third Trimester

[SirCharles]

A new thread as the other one was ready to burst!
Thanks *Mikocat" for the new name.

Oh lucky - I am in the same boat as you if that is of any consolation... Had a c-section then a vbac, then a few weeks ago my midwife said I could use the birth centre as I had a successful vbac - I just needed to another midwife and make sure my iron level was ok. Had my appointment and was told that what the first midwife said is wrong. No matter how many vbac you had, once u had a section you'd never been allowed on the mlu... So I have to stick to the labour ward too...

Had a curry (Thai) tonight, pineapple, sex this morning and a long walk this afternoon... Come on baby!!!!

Grrrrr. Am awake ridiculously early, again!!!! & heart burn :(
No real signs of imminent arrival here despite period like cramps the last 2 mornings.
Am with you on the hormonal emotioonal thing. The crying got so bad last weekend that I thought I was going to be classified depressed - DH was v worried. All culminated in a migraine kicking off & being v sick for most of the week. Of course made worse by the fact that paracetamol is no use against a migraine. Gawd, I have not been that poorly for years. However the GP said it is a sign body is gearing up for the Grand Finale. Fingers crossed i get there soon without another migraine!!

Good luck to all of you hoping for a weekend baby.

period cramps sign is a good sign sircharles!! your baby is on its way!!

im with you on the waking up early.... was so bored that i have now a chocolate cake baking in the oven!! :o

nosigns, nonothing for me... :( due date is wednesday so im hoping for a baby to keep me busy next weekend! :o

Morning SirCharles & tostaky, I've also been awake for a good while (grrr!). Decided to leave DH in bed and get the girls breakfast, though refused to actually get out of bed until 7am (was lying there awake feeling increasingly cross for a while before that!). Feeling a bit sick at the thought of the CS tomorrow, otherwise would be joining you in cake-making I think tostaky!

Sorry you've been feeling so rotten SirCharles, hope that's it on the migraine front now and the baby comes soon!

tostaky Re. not being allowed on the MLU even after a VBAC, that is ridiculous! Once you have had a VBAC, surely that proves you can give birth without complications arising from the previous CS. If they are going to be so cautious, then theoretically they should stop all first time mums using the MLU too, as there is theoretically no proof they will not have problems. (First timers, most people don't have problems. Don't worry. Just trying to make a point about overly risk averse doctors here!!! )

Blue I just used white ribbon on the cards, and it looked quite nice. I also left come of the cards blank inside, so they could be thank yous too.

cupcake sorry you've been feeling emotional too. Try not to worry about leaving DS if you have to. I had to leave DD1 for 3 nights when I had DD2, also had to leave them both overnight when I had a mc last year. It wasn't nice, and I was upset about it, but they were fine. They wanted to know where I was, but otherwise they were quite happy and viewed it as a bit of an adventure having daddy and their grandparents looking after them. I've made a little book of photos of the DDs to take into hospital with me, so I can still "see" them iyswim. Also, children can come and visit you if you do need to stay in. Of course, this is all theoretical as there is still time for the baby to pop out all on its own!

Poor DD1 had a temperature yesterday (39.5), and DH spent the night on the sofa, going up to check on her every couple of hours. She seems a better this morning (so far), so hoping that whatever it was has gone, and doesn't go to DD2. Have left DH for a lie in, as we'll both be up between 5 and 6am tomorrow to get to the hospital on time.

I hope you feel a bit better sircharles it must be rubbish feeling like that.
Cramps are a good sign though.

I'm intrigued by all this crafty-ness going on. Having no artistic skills whatsoever, I'm going with the fail safe ordering online when the baby has made an appearance :) Had so many gifts already we will need so many thank you cards. I've been really blown away by peoples kindness. Mainly knitted stuff that you know must have taken ages to do!

Started crying in a cafe yesterday when I got a glimpse of an advert in a newspaper asking for money for neglected/abused dogs in some foreign country (didn't read it just saw some photos which are now burned on my mind!) made DH write down the website and promise to set up a DD for them! Tears just came out of nowhere.

Lime that sounds crap with the family problems. I'm about to snap at my grandmother. We fell out when I was 14 (I was staying with her, she called me a bitch, locked my in my bedroom, screamed in my face I wasn't welcome in her house again... my crime? defending my learning disabled younger sister from grandma saying "theres nothing wrong with you you're just lazy, do these maths problems now") Anyway said grandma suddenly is my best friend. After 11 years of VERY minimal contact, wasn't allowed to go back to her house since then, long history of screaming at everyone so we just ignore her now she is phoning me EVERY DAY "have you had the baby? tell him his great grandma is waiting for him" Already have a missed call from her today so I need to tell her to STOP PHONING ME. Realise this is a tiny problem compared to lime and lots of other peoples family problems but this women has caused HELL for my family over her denial about my sister's (numerous) problems. Sister couldn't even use mainstream education and still grandma actually told my mum that it was just because mum was bringing her up wrong! Am so angry that suddenly she thinks we're friends and i'm too weak to tell her to fuck off!

catsy best of luck for tomorrow. I hope you're not too worried. Looking forward to hearing all the details and hope baby is healthy and happy!

Thanks Heidi. Wow, your grandma sounds like a piece of work! No wonder you want to tell her where to go!

DH is now out with DD1 at the out of hours GP :( he has just phoned to say the GP said she has tonsilitis. She obviously won't be able to go to nursery tomorrow as planned, which means grovelling to my parents, and having them spend the whole day here with DD1. Don't know whether to leave DD2 at home as well, as don't want to upset her by taking her on her own for an extra nursery day when DD1 is spending the day with the grandparents. I don't trust them to look after both girls, and feel very nervous going into hospital knowing DD1 is ill, and that DD2 might come down with it too! Added to that, DD2 has just pushed the cat onto my face (really), and there is now a 1cm long cut right under my eye which is bleeding, from where his claw stuck into my face, and I can feel my eye swelling up a bit. My lip is also bleeding and swelling where his other foot landed. I still feel completely sick about tomorrow, am still full of snot and coughing intermittently. Not sure if I mentioned this already (probably did), but I actually have a full on phobia related to medical situations. Being on a ward, having tubes (catheters, drips etc) left in for any amount of time, being incapacitated and effectively unable to escape, and any sort of snotty attitude from staff triggers this. I have panic attacks, and get extremely anxious. I nearly had a panic attack booking the CS at my consultant appt a few weeks ago. This is probably over-dramatic, but I feel like this is turning into a nightmare already. The whole idea was that an ELCS would be planned and controllable, and I've worked my arse off to get everything ready and sorted in preparation, and now I just feel it's spiralling out of control, and really overwhelmed. Sorry for moaning (again!), just don;t know how I'm going to make it into the operating theatre at this rate.

Savannah Darcy Ailsa arrived by c section on 17th. Mother and baby very happy and loved up! She won't know what hit her when she realises she has three brothers! Off home this pm.

Congratations cewafwb, that's great news, and glad everything went well.
catsy, wishing you well for tomorrow, I'm sorry it's such a worry for you, going into hospital, especially with your dd being ill at the same time. I know it won't help me saying I'm sure everything will be fine. But I'll be thinking of you tomorrow. (And I sympathise with the tonsillitis too - dd2 has had it 6 times since last the summer and is on a waiting list for her tonsils out, so I know how poorly they can get. V. bad timing for her to come down with it this weekend).

Oh - and still no signs of labour coming on here at all - despite due date tomorrow!

Congrats cewafwb! Gorgeous name. Hope your dss adapt well to their new sister :) she'll always have plenty of men to protect her! My dh's family is 4 boys then a girl & she is a very independant young lady!

catsy so sorry you have so many worries now :( awful timing for dd1, is your dd2 old enough to understand it all, has she said what she would prefer to do? Hope your parents come through & prove they can be trustworthy. Really hope everything goes smoothly for you & quickly too.
Also thanks for reassurance re my ds. I know he'll be absolutely fine with sil & my other friends who would be looking after him, but it's me I'm more worried about! I'm a bit of a control freak, hate the thought of handing him over :( & being apart from him of course, already quite emotional about his life being about to change & he has no idea bless him. :( thanks for tip about photos though I def will put some aside to take in.

Few twinges today but still nothing proper..hmph :(

cewabf - congratulations!! 4 brothers... well at least you know she will build up a strong shell from early on!!!!

For everybody waiting for labour signs..... i am predicting the new wave of May babies will come after Thursday!!!!! :o
According to some studies in Japan and the US negative changes in barometric pressure (ie, when wheather deteriorate) lead to increase number of rupture of membranes and deliveries of babies!!!! proof!!
Just checked the bbc website for the weather forecast and well... weather is getting better until Thursday (then we dont know but being in england it is bound to get worse and to rain after a little bit of sunshine!!!)
Thats for babies in London... now if you live in Scotland or Ireland, you might get your baby earlier :o

DP is like what do you want me to do? to blow very hard on the clouds??!! :o

well, hopefully they all decide to come before thursday and hopefully, the weather is going to start to improve for good!!!!! :)

catsy - im sure your DDs will be fine with your parents. my two DSs are at my parents (for two weeks) and they are too busy playing and having fun to miss me! It breaks my heart that every evening when i phone them on skype, they just come on screen, smile, is the baby out mummy? no? ok... bye bye mummy!!!! i am heartbroken and feel really bad of sending them away but they just dont seem to care At all!!!!

heidi - oh, such a shame about your grandmother... i think most of us have to deal with someone like that in our family... for us it DP's mum.... id be glad if we got from her a tube of used nappy cream.... :o she never ever phoned to congratulate us for the birth of DS2 and we havent heard from her since christmas. for xmas the DSs did not have any presents at all, there was no xmas tree, not xmas dinner and we stayed in a hotel rather than at her house... she is the ultimate drama queen and can be super nice sometimes but her mood swings a lot and she is not in a good "phase"... and it doesnt help that we dont play her game of doing whatever she wants (ie, she organised a engagement party without telling us and when we arrived at her house for a two weeks stay, DP had to tell her to cancel it as we did not want to get engaged) really weird and she used to be a psychoanalyst, sometimes i worry about all the people she had to counsel.....

catsy - having just gone into hospital to have a planned c section with a STINKING cold and hacking chesty cough, i would advise you to buy quickly and take with you but not use till you have cleared it with the anethetist, Otrivine. its a nasal decongestant and whilst does delay the end of the cold considerably, let me tell you - you CANT blow your nose or cough after you have had a c section! Drugs or no drugs - you can't blow your nose and coughing is excruiating! Good luck and i hope it goes well.. x

Congratulations Cewafwb! Lovely news! Hope you are home now.

Thanks for the sympathy lucky, cupcake and tostaky. Feeling a bit calmer now, as DD1 seems to have lost the temperature and is a bit more chirpy.

Going to go to bed early tonight I think, in preparation for getting up at stupid o' clock tomorrow morning.

Good luck everyone waiting for labour to start!

Cupcake I sympathise completely with you. I felt exactly the same about leaving DS1 as we have hardly left him at all. In the end labour was very short and he was most unexcited to see me when I got home, was quite interested in the baby though. I still feel bad about the turning his life upside down a bit with the new baby but I think it must be good for them in the longrun to learn to share and perhaps even learn they are not actually the centre of the entire universe. Its still tough though when you love them so much, I sometimes feel torn in two when they both need me.
We have not had anymore vomiting here thank goodness, I have been trying to give him less milk at each feed and to express a little before a feed if I am too engorged as I think I have too much milk coming out too fast.

Sorry so many have such bed relatives, we have it pretty easy I must say, only problem is an overabundance of children so any time our family gets together, its somewhat crazy. Thats a good problem though.
catsycat really hope is goes well tomorrow and your dds are okay.

catsy not sure you'll see this now before you go in tomorrow but really hope all goes well...I maybe losing the plot but have a small recollection of someone having problems with their parents looking after their DCs and thus trying to come up with another option, so hoping this wasn't you and that the stress with DDs illness and now not having a choice about childcare for tomorrow - ie having to use Grandparents goes much better than you currently think it will. Also that your cut and cold heal/clear v v quickly. Hang in there - the good thing about having the ELCS is that you know it's happening tomorrow and you get to meet your beautiful new DC which will hopefully eclipse all the current problems and issues! Thinking of you!

sircharles so sorry to hear you've been so ill...hope you are feeling better now.

cewafb congrats on the arrival of your DD!!

Well, I'm still feeling very emotional and hormonal, like having v bad PMT that just makes you want to cry plus the odd bit of back ache and period crampy type feeling, oh and LO moving a lot still! No idea what's going on but am a little fed up of feeling so irrationally weepy and unusually lethargic and desperate not to be on my own...all very odd! Trying desperately not to get my hopes up that this could be a sign of things starting...

catsy thinking of you for tomorrow, look forward to hearing your news!

goodname thanks for the reassurance. I'm really hoping if I do have to be induced that it'll be quick.. just so many unknowns I hate it :(

blue really sympathise with the emotions, late pregnancy is just sooo hard. Hang in there! Also forgot to comment the other day about your significant dates coming up..if Lo does make an appearance on those sad anniversaries try to see it as a positive thing, replacing a bad memory with a good one. I've miscarried too I know it's devastating & those dates will always be etched on my mind so understand how you feel x

Incidentally we need a new thread soon this one takes forever to load on my phone now!

Oh, thanks blue. Yes, that was me with the parents.... hence the stress! Amusingly (well, not very!), my waters have possibly just gone too (either that or I am now incontinent, having not had any bladder probs before!), so I might be going in this evening - have to phone the hospital back in an hour for an update. My parents are nearly here anyway, so I could well be feeling grateful for that in a while rather than grumpy!!!!

Glad I'm not totally losing the plot catsy How typical would it be if it is your waters that have gone!! I guess if you do end up going in tonight then hopefully that'll just mean the sooner you can meet your new LO and get home!!

Thanks cupcake all just seems a little overwhelming at the moment TBH!

Have just had to stand over a bucket in the kitchen - they have def. gone!!!! Guess I'll update once I have the baby then!!!!

Ooooh!!!! Exciting stuff catsy afraid I can't remember the reason for your ELCS but hope that all goes v well for you tonight whether things progress naturally or whether you do have a CS! Looks like our next May bambino is on it's way!!!

We must be building up to another wave of babies - 1st time I've logged in this weekend and only 1 baby, and a flooded kitchen
Congratulations cewafwb and good luck Catsy, hope its quick and simple from here on in
Feel sorry for those of you getting more overdue by the day - good luck for everything kicking off soon, sorry not to name you all but can't be bothered to scroll all the way to the top of the page - we need a new thread soon - should we just use the post-natal one and smuggle the mums in waiting on a bit early?

My MW (the only 1 I saw all the way through pg, wish she'd been on call when DD2 arrived) came to visit us on Weds, felt far more a social visit than healthcare despite her scribbling on our notes. Have also registered her birth, signed her up at the GPs and applied for child benefit - her paper trail has started!
All DC doing well, have started using Pippa as a great distraction tool when DD1 kicks off/has meltdowns which she does reasonably often - but an offer to cuddle baby seems to produce an impressive pause in the drama! DD1 finally saw SALT on Thurs (had an appt about 6wks ago, but she had chickenpox so had to reschedule) and she was really nice but not sure I like the inference that its a learning delay, not simply a speech issue, but glad that the therapist is going to visit her at nursery to get a better picture of how DD1 reacts to/communicates with other people in a different setting.
And DH leaves in a taxi at 7am tomorrow, will be back late on Thurs :( dreading doing the overnights on my own, didn't do too badly this week - had to do bedtimes on my own but at least DH got up with the kids and gave me an extra hour in bed (our DC seem to consider 530 a reasonable time to start the day)

Oh catsy!!!! Hope you are cuddling your little baby by now!! and that everything went well whatever birth you had

Yorky, glad you are doing well. It is nice that your DD likes to cuddle the baby . I have to say I love it when my DSs look out for each other, it is so nice!

No news for me, I'm having a sweep tomorrow so let's wait and see...

Hello all! I'm finally managing to actually read AND post today - I have been checking in regularly during the many night feeds though to see how everyone is getting on. Isla is turning out to be quite a mellow baby (at the moment, I'm sure it will change!) and is feeding well and sleeping for longer chunks of time. I seem to be getting over the yowchy first minute of feeding now which is good. Just can't sit down comfortably at the moment because of my stitches...ow!

Looking forward to hearing some good newsfrom catsy soon! Hope all went well.

Hope the sweep gets things going for you tomorrow tostaky.

Hope the next few days pass by quickly for you yorky.

How are you feeling today BlueCrane? The last few days before I went into labour I found I was v emotional and restless, and the baby was sooo wriggly. Keeping fingers crossed that this could be the start of things for you.

Congrats cewafwb! Lovely name.

Hope all others who are overdue aren't too fed up...fingers crossed that the weather forecast thing is right! And all these stories of nutty relatives are making me feel v lucky family wise! (we did have 8 visitors at once yday though which I hated...hoping to have a few days of just me, DH and Isla so we don't have to worry about tidying the lounge or looking presentable!!)

Feeling a bit better this morning...and have just chopped up a large ripe pineapple to eat today

dreaming sorry to hear about the painfu stitches. It good to hear the feeding is going well, and sleep too! I'm hoping the hormonal emotionalness is a sign!!