First timers due December - from bumps to babes!

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Well ladies, this will hopefully be our last new thread pre-baby ... here's hoping it will kickstart some baby action!

You've got me going. Tears. Love it.

It does sound lovely, and I just hope my OH is as good with our little boy.

Really hope to see some pics soon, am going daffy over all the ones on people's pages, even the one in the breast feeding advice the HV gave me today.

Hope you're home and comfy soon.

I'll try and put one on tomorrow... I can't move to get the laptop though :-(

Aww tear away girls i had the biggest cry the day before labour started... it may have helped with releasing hormones? You never know!!

I can't wait for who is next!

And its true what they say... it is all worth it and you do forget the pain ! (not that there is any :) )

Sorry, I'm just shamelessly desperate to see a pic of your LO- don't put yourself out in any way to get a pic on-line, you have 3 589 other more important things to do!

Are you home and happy now?

I am torn between counting down the days, and thinking 'oh God, in a few days my life will change completely, for ever, arrrahghghg'. I think you're right about the crying, good bit of catharsis.

Right, am going to go off and do something useful with my mat leave today!

39 weeks today been off work a week, ok on annual leave which I had to take before I went, but not a sniff of action (mucus plug loss the other day obviously wasnt that after all) come on baby I need you to save me from daytime tv. It's a nice day here today but very cold at the moment might go out walking in a bit DH thinking of taking day off so that would be nice.

Waiting for my midwife visit. Just wrote a birthplan. Is just a list of bullet points though. Don't want to get too fixated on anything in case it does't work out that way. But definitely don't want pethidine, hate feeling 'out of it'. My mum had it for one of us and she said she had black spirals in front of her eyes and little men dancing around, she was totally out of it and hated it! I think that's the kind of reaction I have too so definitely going to avoid :) Also said no student stitching me up, which is mean, as they have to learn, but two of my friends had bad experiences with that so I am wary now ...

Gosh, I have a short birth plan done. Main thing is that my hubby knows what is in it then hopefully he can be my spokesperson!

It is funny how it is just a waiting game now! If u look at the first posts we were all taking the pregnancy tests multiple times and now Kri5ty has a baby!

I feel quite nostalgic!,,,

Me too on the no pethidine sounds horrible I also have a very short birth plan

With you on the anti-pethidene. I hate feeling dizzy/out of control. And I hate the idea that the baby would be born also feeling dizzy/out of it and sleepy, therefore less likely to feed.
I want to get thru it with gas and air only, but I'm a bit worried that gas and air will spin me out!

Yeah but the thing with gas and air is even if it makes you out of it, as soon as you stop inhaling it the feeling stops. With pethidine there is no 'getting off' if you see what I mean, until it wear off a few hours later.

My birthplan is pretty short for obvious reasons, but am happy with students having a fiddle...if it were my fanjo they were going at then I would be less so so with you there mopsy.

I think the whole thing with pain relief is to see what you can manage with at the time, and if you get to a point you can't handle the pain, move up to the next level. There are some you want to keep away from- I'm going to try to avoid opiate based ones to try to lessen constipation (yum, tmi).

Have ended up having a nap, so not been too useful, but have done the paperwork filing (eurgh) so at least got one job done. Am going off to do a few gardening things, and so will be able to cross a few more things of the list and feel less like a slob.

Well have been out for a walk then a drive took my car as it's been on the drive a week so thought had best give him a run. Stopped at aldi while out and got DH a 4 bird roast he wants to try it anyone Else had it? I don't eat Goose or duck so I won't be indulging so you can be honest if it is the reconstituted shite I expect it to be

I also accepted that could be preggers for another 3 weeks so have bought more pregnacare plus as ran out on Tuesday had been tempted not to buy more but they've kept me going thru the whole pg so thought better to get some, hopefully that'll tempt fate and the little bugger will decide to come out sooner rather than later I won't mind have wasted the money on them.

Got back and express cleaned the bathroom as now being invaded by SIL, BIL and their little 1 fir the local xmas fayre and then takeaway. All of a sudden Feeling really tired and grumpy and the bathroom has kicked off some nice BH need to take it easier everyone tells me to but not quite managed it yet.

chinchilla do you have fb? if you do add me, there are pics on there lol, i just cant physically walk/ move properly :(

Girls... get some lactolse! I was bunged up from all the drugs, and with my stitches (and pile i developed), was really worried, so i had that and it didnt hurt... to be honest i OD'd on it so i would be on the runny side!! tmi lol

Reaaly feel guilty for not being able to have a "normal" birth, and feel a failure for it, but i guess that'll pass once i start bonding.

Posted a big post on other thread kri5ty - please please don't feel guilty or like a failure, you are amazing to have got through such a horrible experience in one piece! AMAZING!

plus, there is no 'normal'. The main thing is a healthy baby at the end, and you have got that! So you are a BIG SUCCESS!

I know, i just read it mopsy thank you :o

He is beautiful, i think i feel worse as when i look at him, i'm just not "feeling it", no tears etc

I know i'll get there in the end, i guess its just from all the trauma/ pain im in and prob the baby blues too

several of my friends have said it can take a while to bond with your baby and that the 'instant love' thing is just not true for many people. It will definitely come but you might need to get to know him a little first. Particularly after such a traumatic experience. So please don't worry, because from what I can tell that is a totally normal reaction. I was really glad my friends told me that actually, so that if it happens to me I will realise I am not alone!

Hey Kristy don't feel bad! It can't be helped and you did amazingly well to get through all that!! Saul is absolutely gorgeous and that's the main thing, it will all come naturally once you feel better yourself I'm sure xx

I am one of the three people in the western world not on fb, avoided it owing to work, so will just wait kri5ty. I will definitely get some lactulose- is it something you can get over the counter, or is it prescription?

And now...please, please don't feel guilty for not 'achieving' a normal birth, whatever one of those is. It sounds like you had a rough time of it, so the last thing you need is to add to your own troubles.

You're about 3-4 days post natal, which is classic baby blues time. Feeling like shite and sobbing is normal at this point, even if you've had the birth of your dreams. It will pass, but like with depression it just doesn't feel like it when you're in it.

Also, if you've had a tough birth, you'll be physically exhausted, bruised and sleep deprived, and the drugs that you're on will also be affecting how you feel. You wouldn't expect to be singing and dancing if you'd been in a car crash, and so don't feel like you should now- there's no normal to measure up to. Your body (and mind) will probably be in a degree of shock, and so it's concentrating on itself, if that makes sense- in a way it won't be able to 'manage' that lovey feeling, but it will come.

Finally, YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE. Far from it, you've achieved something wonderful, and you've made a little family for the three of you. You are due massive congratulations.

Keep posting if you can.

thanks girls :) you have started me crying again... but i have a smile on my face!!

mopsy thanks so much ... thats one of the reasons i posted on here... as i guessed if i'm feeling it, then other people will too, and they will know they aren't alone!

bec thank you :) and i hope you're soon!!

chinchilla OH has put a couple of pics on here for you!! (give it a few mins) And again thanks for your words! It is exactly what i would say to someone, and if i was thinking straight how i would feel!

I managed to wind him today by sitting him on the arm of the sofa, and managed to lean him against me, so its getting there :o hopefully tomorrow it'll be a little better also!

Lactolose you can buy over the counter, or if you are at gps, just get them to do a prescription as its free then lol... it works very well!

on another note... I cant feel my pelvic floors!! I am trying to do them but it hurts at the moment, so maybe next week i will start properly!!

I seem to have missed so much, so before I catch up properly I'd better announce:
BabyYBR was born friday 25/11 (prem at 36 weeks)
I've been stuck in hospital since then thus out of contact. First because BabyYBR had jaundice then because I'm not healing well down below . (breast feeds are on hold while I'm on antibiotics).

The little bundle has thrown out practically all my plans and good intentions, naturally, but at the moment I'm just glad to have made it home.

Oooooh, kri5ty, he's sooo cute! I want one just like that!!

Oh God, you know the fear when someone shows you their baby for the first time and they look like a boxer... but he's perfect. Thanks to your OH for putting that on, and I'm getting all teary now myself!

I'm glad that you can smile, and that you've winded him...baby steps to improvement. It's so hard, as everyone tells you it's going to be tough, but as we've never been through it before, and there's such a range of experiences, it's a leap into the unknown.

YBR- firstly, congratulations to you both!
So glad you're back, and so sorry you've had a tough time too. Is babyYBR on the mend, and putting on a bit of weight? The early arrival must've been rather scary to say the least.
Glad you're home after an unexpected hospital stay. I take it the birth was a bit rough as well as a bit early? Grim to have to take anti-bs, just what you need on top of everything else; hope they're working on the infection and that you're starting to heal, you poor thing.

But...deep sigh of relief, as you say, you're home now and can concentrate on bonding. Do not move from the sofa/bed unless you have to!

YBR you have both my sympathies and my congratulations!! Sorry you've had such a tough time, and are still recovering, and congratulations that you have a gorgeous little baby and are now home with BabyYBR!
It will get easier, and all your plans and intentions can wait. :)

take care and enjoy your new little bundle.

Yes, babyYBR is doing well now. She spent some time on a sunbed at the hospital and they are now happy with how she's feeding and all that.
The early arrival did have us all flummoxed, but I think I was too stunned to be scared then!

The birth was rough, forceps (I dread to think what might happened had she gone to full term), and healing down below is rather slow. Just don't ask, I wouldn't want to scare anyone who's still waiting.

I am very fortunate to have a wonderful supportive husband who is (mixed blessing) unemployed, thus able to be with me all the time. It makes all the world of difference that does. OTOH it must have been torture for him watching us both suffer this last week.

Glad she's enjoyed a little bit of sunshine already at this time of year YBR!

Now let's just hope you continue to heal, and that it speeds up a little. How long have you been on the anti-biotics for?

That is a mixed blessing indeed, but certainly sounds like you need your OH at the moment. I'm sure he's glad to be there and on hand. I really feel for you/him, as my OH has said that your sort of scenario (or worse) is his greatest fear in life.

Let's just hope it's on the up from now on .

Looking forward to further updates, and/or pics if you feel so inclined (apologies to all on this thread btw, I will never tire of seeing pics of others' babies!)