Due in May: the 2nd trimester, more glowing and less throwing

[Yorky]

Before the other thread bursts!
Thanks Miko for the title!

Morning all, feeling rather more alive after a much better night with less pain, just had my bowl of prunes and will be buying some pears to add to the mix today...thanks for the info cupcake did have some strange and v intense dreams though...all good fun and none too disturbing thankfully!! Hope you all have a lovely day, catch up later!

Hello ladies

Ballroompink I had the same experience at my 16-weekscan, midwife said that it can cause unneccessary anxiety when they can't find the heartbeat, at that point I wasn't too worried as I was getting lots of nice flutters. I haven't had any lately, but keep trying to convince myself that the baby has probably moved into a different position or something :(

cupcakefairy - what was your worry with the 'flu jab? I've got a rotten cold at the moment, I can't imagine how miserable it would be to have actual 'flu when pregnant - I was first in line for the jab!

Off to the docs tomorrow, I booked the appointment last week (!) as the soonest I could get. Want to ask her about the pelvic pain I've been having, but typically it seems to have calmed down in the last couple of days. Also want to ask her about the constipation situation and whether she can prescribe me Fybogel as I haven't got on well with Lactulose or Movicol, the last two things they've given me. I used to take Fybogel for my IBS and found it more...productive? (TMI?) Maybe I should ask her if she can listen in for the heartbeat, it's another whole week until my 20-week scan and the lack of flutters has me worried.

Hope you all have good days!

Hello all, I've been lurking but quiet for the last week.

We're currently having our boiler fixed- we've been a week without heating or hot water- gggrrrr! Thankfully we've got some good plug in heaters so we've been able to keep warm but have missed my shower! Managed to grab one at a friend's house and otherwise washing with a bowl of water filled fromthe kettle. At least pregnancy makes my hair less greasy so it can go at least 5 days without a wash.

Yorky- must say I love my iPhone! I looked into all those android phones but they didn't work out much cheaper and as a mac user at least it all syncs up nicely.

Re car seats- we have the maxi-cosi and base and I love it! Was so easy to use. I'm really glad I got that one as we're considering a new pushchair for this baby and the maxi-cosi is compatible with most makes.

Wrigglebuim - i feel your pain... we have been a month without shower...

cupcake - you have the city jogger double? do you comfirm it is easy to manoeuvre? do you need both hands? and it is quite narrow for a double as well? and light and compact?
I WANT need one!! need to start looking on ebay soon...

SirC - i went onto www.doula.org.uk and looked at all the doulas near me. I was looking when i was 7 months pregnant and did not have much choice as everyone was booked but two of them. i choose the one with most experience. i would def recommend having a doula, without her i would have gone to hosp much earlier and would have risked another c-section. Def £400 well spent

re-bras - i find the NCT shop stores some good bras and they have all sizes too.

hello ladies, (I've embraced my full name for the festive season, it is topical afterall, the b was a typo that I never corrected as only lurked during first pregnancy).

Sad to report that the purple tights didn't get an outing on Saturday night, they were the wrong colour to match the dress (I knew I should have taken it shopping with me). I wore my shiniest patent shoes instead, still eclipsed by bump though. I've found I've already started to stroke it quite a lot - felt a little like Baron Greenback/Blofeld half way through dinner

I haven't started to think about buggies yet, DD will be 2 and 9 months so not sure if we'll be needing the double buggy or might be able to get away with a buggy board? Any peeps on DC3 able to advise? Last time a friend told me to consider getting one that adapted to two IYSWIM but DH was so taken with the automatic opening of the Quinny that it wasn't ever taken seriously. I liked the look of the iCandy and British made too. City mini double looks great & a bit different. Most peeps I know seem to go for the Phil & Teds. Can't really imagine getting the Quinny out again, I've got so used to the Maclaren pushchair. Car seat wise we also have maxi-cosi and can highly recommend.

I'm starting to get excited at the prospect of Xmas, although tiredness is a factor, we got the tree on Sunday but I still haven't got round to putting it up - most unlike me.

Sorry not to name check everyone but hope all well, and showers restored asap, ours is being fixed today too. Oh must remember to say to apologies for blunt nosiness to SirC, it would seem a lack of manners as well as vocabulary has hit this pregnancy. I'm not a stalker, although do hold my hand up to waffling. oltob x

ps. I can second cupcake on the Elle McPherson la mere nursing bra - if you're going to go with non-wired I wouldn't waste money on the 'pregnancy' ones but go striaght to ones that will do for nursing otherwise you have to buy a whole other load later on. They only go up to E cup but were on the generous side from memory. Did make me laugh though in the pre-baby days as was as close to a peephole bra as I ever got, ah simple things.

Miko it wasn't anything in particular that put me off the flu jab, just that feeling of not wanting to take anything during pregnancy...and I didn't have it (the jab) when pregnant with ds. But I am going to rebook it now...I think

tostaky I don't actually have the jogger yet, but pretty sure I will be getting it. A friend has one and she started with a P&T that she didn't get on well with at all- said it was really heavy, got lots of punctures, no storage space/room for changing bag etc. She loves the jogger double, says it's v easy to manoevre & yes you can def use just one hand. All the stuff I've read says it fits through standard doors. I like the big sunhoods too - my iCandy hood never went far enough down to shield ds' eyes in the summer. Hope you can convince your dh you need one

oltob lol at peephole bra!

oltob I'm going to have the same age gap as you and I'm not bothering with a double (unless I can pick one up at a bargain price for emergencies). DS already walks almost everywhere and can happily walk a couple of miles in a day. He rarely naps in the day either unless he's ill or had a bad night. He only really goes in the pushchair if we have a long way to walk or need to be fast. We're going to try just the buggy board, and we've got him a scooter for Xmas so we can get him trained on it before the baby comes! I guess it just depends on if DC is a good walker or not.

Mikocat, I'm hoping I will feel some 'flutters' soon! I know I'm less likely to know what they feel like with it being my first but am a bit impatient now :o

Although last night I did feel something odd, which COULD have been Baby rather than my digestive system. It sort of felt like something was poking me internally. Keeping alert for more odd feelings now!

Re nursing bras my two were hotmilk last time. Elle MacPherson usually don't come in my size usually about 32F when pregnant/nursing, which is a bugger as they are lovely. Just had a wee peek and here there is 20 per cent off Hotmilk stuff Bella Mammia and here even cheaper though not so much choice Bra Stop. I also go for the post pregnancy nursing ones.

Got my Christmas Radio Times today so very happy, also getting flutters for sure now so won't worry too much if midwife won't listen to heartbeat on Thursday.

olittletownof - I have a similar issue with the buggy thing, Ds will be nearly 3 so I think we will just go with the buggy board, although dd held on to her buggy far longer! . We have a bugaboo bee in the loft so we'll be dusting that down. Good idea on the looking out for a cheap double wriggle but I think ds will be okay, like yours he is quite a good walker, dd was, well, rubbish! Also will look into maxi cosi car seat as we do need a new one of those.

Yorky - Funny you should mention getting a new phone, Vodafone just called today saying I was due an upgrade and I jumped at it as I lost my old phone a while ago (well ds did), didn't sort the insurance in time and so had to get a cheap rubbish replacement. Got the HTC wildfire S, android apparently but no idea what that means, but looks nice. I'd love an iphone but I knew I wouldn't get that free for £20 a month!

Bluecrane - Glad you're feeling better.

Ballroom that's exactly what it feels like, a tiny poke from inside.. that's your baby, yay!

sarah of your wildfire, dh has 1, i'll def get a htc at my next upgrade they're fab :)

cupcake - Glad you like the HTC as I have no idea what they are like, looking forward to getting it tomorrow though!

ballroom - If you are recognising weird feelings I think you'll start to recognise them as baby soon. The last week or two I have been having some little flutters but wasn't sure they were baby - and this is my third! - as sometimes they are so brief and light. Now they are so regular and heavier and just more really that I know they are baby. Honestly I was obviously totally uncertain with number one as I couldn't be sure until 22 weeks!

Morning all! I would like to feel flutters too only 15+1 so a little behind some of you so I guess probably a little while to wait yet and i't DC1 for me so no experience of what to 'look out for' either...I have had a few stomach rumbling type feelings after I've eaten which have been a bit odd but nothing more than that!

Thinking I need to start looking at bras again as my mothercare ones are doing ok, but am getting a bit bored or 1 white and 1 black! really want a nude coloured one but they all seem so uncomfortable, also one boob seems to have grown rather more than the other which is a bit of a pain and does look a bit odd really! A friend ws saying I should get used to it as when breastfeeding they're always odd, but at least I would feel as though I had an excuse then!!

Nice to start thinking about Christmas more, though was looking at DH's shifts last night and he's working late Christmas eve, until mid afternoon on Christmas Day, then does have a couple of days off but then is working again right through New Year I have 11 days off straight as my office shuts so am going to need to keep myself busy so I don't miss him too much wondering if clearing out and then painting the inside of our cloakroom might be too much for a 19w pregnant nesting mum-to-be?!?!?

Right...back to work, catch you later for a and a mince pie

Hello ladies, I had a productive visit to the doctor this morning. She is referring me to the obstetric physio as I might have SPD (boo!). I also have a job-lot (no pun intended) of Fybogel.

She very kindly got the Doppler out for me when I mentioned the absence of fluttering and there was the heartbeat hammering away, she said that the baby will still be moving around a lot at the moment and is most likely in a position where I can't feel it as much.

SPD sounds like a right palava though! I hope it comes in varying degrees as I have seen people on here complain of being on crutches with it , all I have at the moment is discomfort in my lower pelvis.

Hi ladies, may a join too please? Just found this forum after a recommendation from a friend. This is my first and I'm currently 17+4 putting my due date on the 13th of May. I can't tell you how much better I feel about things after reading through some of these posts. In the beginning I was stuck overseas and totally lost. Back in Scotland now and have my 20 week scan on 30th of December (the day before our 2nd wedding anniversary) not completely sure what to expect but looking forward to it all the same!

Think I'm starting to feel flutterings and flips too. I'm 18+1 so was expecting it this week. Was most noticeable after some orange lucozade. :)

Heard this morning that my guilty crush, Chris Evans () and his wife are expecting in May. I wonder which other celeb's bumps we'll be watching?!

Wrigglebum we were in a new house just before my first pregnancy and my clever, talented (but meticulous and therefore SO slow!) husband hadn't got round to fitting shower. I had a bath every day for nine months! And several a day that last long week, more for comfort than cleanliness! You poor thing.

Little tip for other ladies missing their wine... Sainsbury's do non-alcoholic white, red, rose and mulled wine. Yippeeee! HOWEVER, had a glass sip of the white last night and it was rotten. It was like really sweet fruit juice. Hoping the mulled is better, shall let you all know.

Good evening everybody:)

You lot were taking some talking pills or what???There's a fair bit to catch up.

BlueCrane prunes are good.I've got a pack in the cupboard but haven't opened them yet-was munching on dried apricots and loads of probiotic yoghurts with some seeds.As for movements-I felt something like delicate tickling in my belly and it definitely weren't my bowels,so...your turn next.I'm 16 weeks tomorrow,didn't expect to feel them until the end of the year.What a lovely surprise:)

Wriggle feel your pain,or boiler has been misbehaving for a while,thank goodness we've got alternative heating and hot water,otherwise it would be hard not to mention that DP is a pl*er ,anyway,can see nagging Sunday coming

olittle :o at the bra,must get one

Mikocat ouch for SPD,sounds painful.

bonbon hello,I'm in Scotland as well :)

Sorry for not naming everyone as by brain has shrunk somewhow.

I'm not going to buy anything until after my 20 week scan which I still haven't got the date for but will need some guidance as I'm complete ignorat when it comes to prams,pushchairs,buggies,wheels and baby feed related stuff.
Decorating is a must,think will tackle it in small pieces as I can't leave everything in DP's hands as nothing will get done
Decided to not to cancel my 16 week mw appointment,so going tomorrow,then again Friday for a flu jab.Hope will get the nice mw,not the horrible one.
16 weeks tomorrow whoop whoop :)

Hi everybody!
Please my I join this thread? I am 17 weeks on Thursday with our first. Due on 17th May.
Hope everyone is feeling good :)
I'm hoping my digestion speeds up a little bit in time for Xmas as I get full/bloated so quickly these days I can't seem to fit too much food in my belly.
In the mornings I am flat and by evening I have a bump which I guess is mostly due to slow digestion of my food throughout the day. Really want a bump soon. Am coming home (I live abroad) for xmas and the whole family are excited to see me 'with bump' so hopefully it'll pop out just in time.

Is anyone going for natural birth? I have been told to take a hypnobirthing class. Can anyone recommend it? Or tell me why not to bother?

Thanks so much and so glad to be part of this group :)

Just got some news that there was a baby girl born this morning in the family.Happy for them but jealous like hell,why the heck I'm always at the end of a queue???Another one is coming in February...

Welcome newbies :) sunshinela I was pregnant this time of year with my ds too and found at Christmas my bump suddenly appeared so hopefully you'll get one on the flight over have heard lots of good things about hypnobirthing class...we were talking about it not too far up the thread actually, most saying it gave them a really good frame of mind for the labour.

limeflower how was the appointment? Urgh, know how you feel about back of the queue - when we were expecting ds, about 6 of our friends, plus 7 other nct couples were due around same time and ALL delivered before me, even those who were due after I was sooooo fed up! But just think, yours will be all tiny and new in May when theirs are starting to chuck food around and stuff

myweeangel thanks for wine tip! Also had last night M&S non-alcoholic mulled fruit punch was v v tasty, can recommend!

miko that's pants you might have spd :( hope it's not the too severe kind :(

I can recommend Ikea non alcoholic mulled wine :)

And thanks for updating me on car seats can you tell how long its been since we bought one!

Just got totally drenched walking to pick DS1 up from school - so glad this one won't be a winter baby, done January and November - May is a much better time to have a baby (although DS2 wanted to be June)!
SO awkward trying to push buggy as fast as I could with mat jeans not staying up even before they filled with rain! And I had a long cardigan on so I felt like I was flashing my bum/back at everyone behind every time I stopped to pull my jeans back up!!

Scan next week - can't wait, DH cousin is expecting her 1st a fortnight before this one and now knows she's having a little boy

On a less happy note I seem to be starting heartburn already :(
but have also got loads done in the house today which may be nesting, but more likely because MIL is coming to stay for the weekend to watch the kids while DH and I have a child free weekend

Hello all! Finally have internet and a chance to sit down after moving house on Saturday! (my class performed their Christmas play Mon and tues eve so rather stressful week!)

York - booo for heartburn, get the gaviscon down you!

I'm glad there's lots of buggy talk - I haven't got a clue! DH seems to be swayed by iphone holders and extras like that...oh dear!

Miko - hope your sod isn't too bad. My hips have been so achey today, its felt a real effort to get up from sitting - really hope that goes!

Non alcoholic mulled wine sounds good - I've just been invited to a mulled wine party so might take a bottle of that with me!

Still not feeling many flutters - there are times when I think Oooh what is that, but I'm not sure whether its baby or wind! Looking toward to scan on tues - hopefully baby will move while I can see it on-screen so I'll know what it feels like!

Friday tomorrow, wooo!

Hi all

Glad Friday is here. Bit manic this afternoon, have to drive into town, drop dd at her dad's, then drop ds with bil and sil as dh and I are going to his work night out. They hire out this skittle alley and we have dinner (which sounds fab) but I am so awful at skittles it is humiliating. Last time I managed some good shots the first few goes and felt quite pleased, then it just got worse and worse, no matter what I did. Argh. On Saturday dh has another Christmas do in the afternoon so I am going to head home with ds, dh will prob stay in town due to drink and having the car so it will be a nice Christmas movie and present wrapping for me I think!

Miko - I also heard the heartbeat yesterday at my appointment, was lovely and she found it no bother! Sorry to hear about your possible spd, fingers crossed it isn't too bad!

Limeflower - I hope your appointment goes well today.

bonbonpixie - Welcome and congrats! I am also in Scotland, whereabouts are you?

sunshinela - Welcome! I have had natural births at home with my first two and am hoping for a third. I have never done proper hypnobirthing but I thinking listening to relaxation tracks has helped me, as well as antenatal yoga.

Yorky - Lucky you with your scan, mine not til the 4th Jan but at least I feel calmer waiting than with the last one. One thing I would like to find out in the sex, mainly because my dh is so sure it will be another boy as his family 'only have boys'. Drives me mad! Which is of course why he always says it. (He has a brother, his dad has three brothers, his grandpa something similar). (I do have dd but from a previous relationship). Anyway, now I really want to know just so we can stop having the same argument which is something along the lines of 'it could be a girl', 'it's not', 'but it could be', it's a boy, I know it' etc, etc. Of course his dad's wife is pregnant (mentioned it earlier, she is due in March) so if she has a girl his argument will be destroyed, even if I don't. Mwah ha ha ha!

Dreamingofanallotment - You must be tired after your move but what a relief to be able to settle in before Christmas! Good luck with the scan on Tuesday, it will be great I'm sure, and you'll feel baby soon, it can be hard working out what is baby and what is just your body.

Phew! Summer in NZ is quite a bit hotter than I recall it being in London , I've just ordered a tankini and some maternity board shorts so hopefully will be able to do a bit of sea-swimming in the next few months!
Feel a bit out-of-steam tonight, though. Think it's just a bit of too much heat, too much rushing around, not enough water. And actually, after some pizza and fizzy drink bad (pre)gestational diabetes sufferer I feel a lot better

So, one doula down, one to go. So far fairly positive. I remember feeling before my first - no way is anyone else going to be there except DH and the midwife. Afterwards, I was recommending to my girlfriends - get your mother in there, failing that, any female friend you can count on, for goodness sake, don't rely on your DH! they need help and the midwife will just be taking your blood pressure, checking the baby's heartbeat and writing up her notes!

DISCLAIMER: this is probably not what everyone experiences. However, having watched a fair amount of One Born Every Minute, it does seem that DH's are generally NOT that much use. Mine certainly did not much more than hand me the gas & air

Having said all that, I still won't ask my mum to attend...it just opens up too much 'why your mum and not MIL' - especially now that it's actually possible they could be around. Hence the doula...no favouritism there, and some support for DH as well as me!

Ooh, ooh, ladies whose cups runneth over - Anita bras are absolutely the best. You can get fitted for them at rigby & peller stores, and then buy online at figleaves. They're underwired, but the wire is more flexible and they're so well made. And they have a maternity swimsuit that comes in proper sized bra support.

I can second the Babyjogger City Mini - it's great. We borrowed a friend's pram to start off with but will be buying a bassinet to go into the city mini this time. Being able to steer one-handed is v convenient when it comes to trying answer phone or hold an umbrella. When I lived in London, the one-handed collapse/unfold was absolutely invaluable - holding a baby in one hand, nappy bag on the shoulder and trying to collapse a stroller before a bus tried to take off it needs to be as quick and pain-free as possible!

Sorry about the PGP Miko but good that you're getting that referral early on, hopefully they can help you avoid it getting too bad.

Sunshinela - I think you should go for it, any techniques you can learn and be comfortable with to help you cope with the pain will be valuable, no matter how the labour & birth turns out. I'd always try to bear in mind that sometimes things happen that mean pain-relief/interventions are helpful and the right decision in the circumstances and in no way means a 'failure' on anyone's part. But certainly being prepared and having several methods to cope will help you achieve a normal vaginal birth with the amount of pain-relief you hope for.

Yorky IKEA does wine??? is there no end to that store??

dreaming I BET it's the baby. Hooray!!

hiya, aaww the more i hear about the city mini, the more i want it... just dont know how to convince DP...

good luck for those with SPD, i had it towards the end of my last pregnancy and it was awful.swimming helped, as did those special belts.

one good, one bad thing today
good the baby did somersaults for a good 5-10 mins this morning (must be bc DP woke it up...!)
bad, is milk making sick anyone? i swear im turning dairy intolerant. im in bed with terrible headChe, zero energy and belly ache. i was fine before breakfast though. and it is not the first time happening... i notice it is more and more often... should i tell the midwidfe?